female sexual motivation

Chapter 26 Love Trading (2)
The conditions in these brothels (some of which are open to the public) are extremely harsh.The victim is forced to receive dozens of clients every day, and all the income earned goes to the madam.Some clients are Westerners, but the vast majority are Asians from nearby countries or regions.There are several books that describe the phenomenon of sex trafficking in great detail, so I won't repeat them here.Governments around the world have taken action to combat human trafficking, but due to the huge market and lucrative profits of the sex industry, so far no significant progress has been made in cracking down on pornography.There is no doubt that women are forced to have sex in this situation.

Some women are forced by life to choose a life of flesh and blood.Due to local cultural customs, some women cannot find a husband's family, and it is difficult for single mothers to remarry.In Uganda, for example, the law prohibits single mothers from remarrying.Malays and Somalis also traditionally prohibit divorced women from remarrying.Even if no one forbids it, it is very difficult for divorced women to remarry, and it is even more difficult if the divorce was the result of adultery.In Myanmar and Somalia, it is believed that unmarried women have been "spoiled" by others, and no one wants to marry such a girl.In most areas, women with children are considered a burden and a burden to men, so there is basically no market for single mothers.Women with illnesses or disabilities also have difficulty finding husbands.In the situation of isolation and exclusion, in order to survive and raise children, women have to live with their flesh and blood.

In addition, there are also women who are willing to be prostitutes. It is not difficult for them to find a husband, but they are either too high-sighted, or they think that prostitution is better than marriage.In fact, some women chose to work as prostitutes to avoid the burdens of the family.For example, in Singapore, Malaysian women who do not want to do housework will choose to be prostitutes. Housework for wives includes collecting firewood, carrying firewood, washing clothes by hand, etc.Prostitutes among the Amharic and Bemba peoples of Africa have enough money to hire men to do housework.

From whore to call girl
Prostitutes ranged from low-level street whores to high-end call girls.Of course, the fees charged by each prostitute vary greatly, depending on the location, competitiveness, beauty level, and the degree of hardship in life.A charming street hooker can charge as much as $200 a session, while a hermit covered in needles and missing teeth can be as cheap as $20 a session.Street prostitutes are more likely to be arrested by the police than escorts and call girls because they are more exposed and vulnerable.

Homeless teenage girls sell their bodies for food, shelter or drugs.Every teenage girl who has lost her footing has a tear-jerking and tragic experience. These runaway girls are often mentally, physically or sexually abused at home.In the end, they end up living on the streets and can only survive as prostitutes.Some even use the earnings they earn to support boyfriends.A teenage girl who lost her footing said: "Me and (boyfriend) will rely on him (client) for a while. From him (boyfriend) I can get money to buy drugs, or directly get drugs or alcohol from him. "

A woman interviewed had a similar story:
We were both addicted to drugs at the time, and we were so excited we could talk all night after taking drugs.I never demanded anything from him, but I knew that if I clinged to him and made him fall in love with me, then I could enjoy the drugs, which I did.

- gay woman, 20

The opposite is the high-end call girl, Ashley Alexandra Dupre is a typical example. In February 2008, New York Governor Eliot Spitzer reportedly paid Dupree $2 for sexual favors.When the media broke the sex scandal, a thriving underground high-end sex club surfaced.One of them was the Royal Club in New York City, where Dupre worked.According to news reports, call girls at the Royal Club charge between $4300 and $1000 an hour, depending on the conditions of the call girls.While half of the fee goes to clubs, it's not hard to imagine the industry still being quite attractive, especially when compared to jobs like waiters, which average $3000 to $7 an hour.

Although prostitutes are paid well, they suffer psychological stress and health risks.On the one hand, prostitutes are vulnerable to sexually transmitted diseases and abuse by clients.Prostitutes, on the other hand, have the stress of a double life.One prostitute put it this way: "I'm juggling two lives, I'm exhausted, I'm constantly lying - people ask how do you have the money to buy such expensive shoes, how do you have the money to buy a $2000 bag, how do you have the money Living in such a fancy apartment, etc. Of course, I have to put up with it all because I love money ... but inside I am alone."

sugar babes and sugar daddies

Not all women think that earning money with the body is equivalent to prostitution:
I only reach out to the father of my child for money.It doesn't mean I'm a whore because I love him, but there's no such thing as a free lunch.

—Heterosexual female, 32 years old

"Sugar baby" refers to a woman who gives her time and body to a rich man (sugar daddy) in return for the sugar daddy to take care of the sugar baby's eating, drinking and having fun.In this kind of relationship between men and women, the woman is generally much younger than the man.No one knows how common this kind of nurturing relationship between men and women is, because it involves personal privacy.A survey of 1000 Kenyans living in the city of Kisumu found that 7.4 percent of women admitted to having a "sugar daddy".But systematic surveys have yet to be carried out in other countries.The sugar daddy phenomenon in America may be all too common, as evidenced by the explosion of online dating agencies that specialize in introducing beautiful young girls to men of wealth and status.These sites are often under the banner of making friends, such as Sugardaddie.c m, SugarDaddyF rMe.c m, WealthyMen.c m, Milli naireMen.c m, MarryMeSugarDaddy.c m.There are even sites that rank sugar daddy and sugar baby sites.

The sugar baby's primary motivation is money.The Associated Press reports that some sugar babes believe it's the quickest way to live the "high life" because they don't have to work their nine-to-five hours to make a good living.Sugar babies can enjoy expensive spa treatments, get manicures, dine in fancy restaurants, wear gold and silver, travel abroad, drive luxury cars, and live in fancy apartments.One interviewed woman thought it was reasonable to exchange her body for books:

Generally speaking, I am a very honorable "sugar baby".I once had a sexual relationship with a professor.He paid close attention to my studies and gave me books worth tens of thousands of dollars.I'm not ashamed of it.In my opinion, these books are bonuses, no matter what, he will give me something, because I am his assistant researcher and his friend.I've always wondered why anyone would consider such behavior immoral or lowly like whores.He's a pretty good lover, so he doesn't have to give me anything.

- gay woman, 25

But some women want more than money.There was a news report that there were also cases where the fake show was real, and the man and woman who were supposed to be in a transactional relationship ended up as eachother lovers.

Not all sugar babes and sugar daddies have happy endings, hear from one woman interviewed:

I was staying at the hotel, pregnant and with my oldest son.There was an ex-professional football player who wanted to be my "sugar daddy" and he found us a place to stay and paid our bills on top of that.He promised to buy me a car, and we had sex.Later he said that he wanted me one more time before the car was sent out. I felt "cheated". I was very angry and ignored him again.

—Heterosexual female, 21 years old

sex barter

Some forms of sex transactions are not as obvious as whoring or nurturing, and there is no bargaining, but tacit understanding.Several of the women interviewed spoke of this veiled sex-trafficking relationship:
I love sex, so if someone wants to have sex with me and share a good meal with me, why not?

— Bisexual female, 45 years old

He is a high-level executive in the company and very rich.At first it was just mutual liking, then he started sending me gifts and at that point I felt like I slept with him for his gifts.

—Heterosexual female, 29 years old

I once had a boyfriend who was 69 years old and 22 years older than me.He took me to fancy restaurants for steak and seafood.I had just moved to the city, had no friends, and was bored every day, so I dated him.We were all living with relatives at the time, so we usually just dated in his Cadillac.Usually he just wants me to give him a blowjob.I thought, why not?He gets sex from me and I get food from him, each takes what he wants.

—Heterosexual female, 47 years old

In general, transactional relationships between men and women are less explicit than the examples given above.However, most women know that wealth is one of the great attractions of a man.A comprehensive study found that the most effective courtship technique for men is "asking her to a nice restaurant".Bass Lab research found effective strategies for winning hearts include:
He spent a lot of money on me in the beginning.

In the beginning he always gave me presents.

He gave me the impression that he lived a very luxurious life.

In addition, what women look down on the most is a stingy man.

In one study, researchers showed women photographs of different men and found that women preferred men who were dressed in class, such as three-piece suits, sweatshirts, and designer labels, to men wearing tank tops or T-shirts. Jeans etc.In another study, the same men were asked to wear two different styles of clothing: a Burger King smock, a blue baseball cap, and a P.l. shirt.One is a white shirt, designer tie, navy blue blazer, and a Rolex watch.Based on the photos alone, the participating women believed that they would not consider dating or having sex with a modestly dressed man, but would consider dating, having sex or even marrying a well-dressed man.

Diana, played by Demi Moore, slept with someone else for $1993 million in 100's "Sex Deal."The movie sparked a heated debate across the country, with women discussing whether they would sell their bodies for $100 million.For this reason, people also made a joke. It is said that someone asked a woman, would you like to spend $100 million with Robert Redford Spend the night together.After a long silence, the woman replies: "Yes, but you have to give me time to get the $100 million together!" The joke tells us that women also think that men are sexually valuable—status, handsome, like Robert Same as Redford.

Money is not the only factor that induces women to have sex with others, women also have sex with their bosses for the purpose of work, salary increase, and promotion.This phenomenon is called "hidden rules", especially referring to the physical transactions that actresses make in order to win roles.Marilyn Monroe admitted that she had sex with others in order to enter the Hollywood showbiz and win leading roles. Of course, these unbearable experiences caused her great psychological trauma.After having sex with the audition director, she is said to have showered and washed for hours, hoping to wash away the filth of the "wrinkled old man."Hollywood's "hidden rules" phenomenon is still alive and well, as documented in Oscar-winner Julia Phillips' book "The City You'll Never Eat Lunch Again." The phenomenon of "hidden rules" is not only found in the United States, but also in other countries.Several Bollywood filmmakers have been accused of soliciting sex from young actresses after a scandal broke out on Indian TV's "All India Wanted". In 2006, Chinese actress Zhang Yu released 20 candid sex videos, exposing the shady scene of sex trafficking in the film and television industry.

Although most women suffer rather than enjoy the sex trade, some women enjoy the process.Some women willingly trade sex with their colleagues for the sake of status and interests.For example, one woman said she didn't think having sex with a foreman was sexual harassment because she got "easy work" for it.

The hallowed academic corridors cannot escape this basic rule of sexual economics. In the 20s and 70s, it was not uncommon for students to sleep with professors in order to get high grades.Since then, the state has introduced and implemented laws against sexual harassment on college campuses.This kind of sex transaction between teachers and students can be proposed by any party, maybe it is consensual, or it may be coercion or temptation, both situations are possible.Perhaps most egregious is the case of the Italian professor Emanuele Giordano, who used grades as bait to have sex with thousands of schoolgirls.

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