female sexual motivation

Chapter 4 How to touch a woman's heart (2)
Again, sexual attraction is key.Winifred Kutler, director of the "Athena Institute" in Pennsylvania, USA, found that pheromones emitted by men can also arouse women's sexual desire.She conducted a study of 38 heterosexual men, between the ages of 26 and 42.First, participants recorded their sexual and dating behaviors for two weeks.Then, for a month, they insisted on applying an aftershave, either regular or with a blend of pheromones that men naturally secrete, but the participants didn't know what they were using. What kind.During the month of the experiment, the participants continued to keep notes.It was found that the participants who used aftershave with pheromone additives experienced more intimacy and intercourse, more romantic encounters and more romantic encounters.During this period, there were no changes in the participants' masturbation behavior.This proves that it is not their own hypersexuality that makes them sexually active, but the pheromones in the aftershave water play a role in attracting bees and butterflies.

Women have a keen sense of smell, and not paying attention to personal hygiene may offend them, and the faint smell of perfume may arouse their strong emotional shock.But not only that, women can also keenly capture other information, such as the strength of the immune system, the symmetry and asymmetry of body shape, and so on.Consciously or unintentionally, women's lust is also quietly ignited by the pheromones emitted by men.

Heroes of Height

Women admire well-proportioned men, because a well-proportioned body represents health.In addition, well-proportioned males are generally strong, tall and powerful.Surveys in the U.S. and the Caribbean island of Dominica have shown that the taller a man is, the more sexual partners he has.In the survey, when women were asked to list the masculine traits they considered sexy, they frequently cited "sexy and hot body" as the 16th most important criterion for their selective partners.So in the eyes of women, what kind of body is considered sexy and hot?
Needless to say, height is the most obvious sign.Numerous survey results consistently show that in the eyes of women, tall and stalwart men are considered sexy, but they cannot be too tall, just a little higher than the average height.After analysis, it was found that 80% of women clearly pointed out that they expected the other person to be 1.82 meters tall or higher in the advertisement for friends.Men who state in their friend advertisements that they are tall are significantly more popular with women.When choosing a Ruyi man, a woman certainly expects him to be tall and sturdy, but even if a man loves a woman and plays on the scene, she also expects the other party to be tall and strong.Even when choosing a sperm donor, women have to take their height into consideration.

A British survey found that tall and strong people have more cohabiting girlfriends than their short and thin peers.Two surveys showed that men taller than average tended to have more children, demonstrating greater fertility.Whether it is marriage or love, women prefer those with broad shoulders and broad body.

So can this preference of women be explained scientifically?In traditional society, tall and mighty people tend to enjoy higher social status.For example, in early hunter-gatherer societies, respected "big men" were usually large.For another example, in Western culture, if a man is tall, it means that his economic and social status is also relatively high.According to another survey, if there are two candidates who are tall and one short for the same sales position, 72% of interviewers will choose the former.Every inch a man gains in height increases his annual income by thousands of dollars.One survey estimates that over a 1-year career, men who are 30 meters tall earn an average of $1.82 more than those who are 1.65 meters tall.Criminals are more willing to attack weak cops than tall and burly cops, suggesting that being tall can deter criminals and make them think twice.Tall and mighty can make people awe-inspiring, so they dare not act rashly.According to evolutionary biology, height is a "reliable signal" of a man's protective ability.In short, tall and stalwart men can bring women a sense of security.

Another explanation is that there is a certain link between male height and health.Generally speaking, tall people are healthier than short people, of course, both extremes of being too tall or too short are unhealthy.Therefore, tall and handsome men have many advantages: a successful career, a good income, pampering, a strong physique, a sense of security, and so on.

(The importance of height in other ways is discussed further in Chapters 2 and 7.)
proud of love
Of course, body shape is only one aspect of attracting women.

The study found that whether looking for a lover to spend a lifetime with or a dewy lover to spend a good night with, women expect each other to be graceful and heroic.There is a body shape that is especially popular among women, that is, the "inverted triangle figure", that is, the shoulders are wide and the hips are narrow, and the arms are thick and the legs are thin.Men with narrow waists and well-developed (but not massive) pecs attract women the most.

In fact, not only women, but also men admit that men with broad shoulders and narrow hips are often radiant, imposing, and able to overwhelm everyone in momentum, which shows that women usually adore those outstanding men.Men with broad shoulders and narrow hips also had sex for the first time earlier, usually around the age of 16.The survey found that men with narrow shoulders had more sexual partners and had more affairs than men with narrow shoulders.Also, they are often seduced by married women.A sexy figure is also easy to attract others' hatred, that is to say, a man with broad shoulders and narrow hips is easily regarded by other men as a potential rival in love.

In the love competition, the winner is often a handsome man with a strong physique and an "inverted triangle figure".Therefore, each region or society has its own sports events, such as wrestling, running, throwing, etc., so that women have the opportunity to see the men's bodybuilding body and compare their speed, endurance, strength, etc.

However, according to a research report, men exaggerate how much women love muscles, and mistakenly believe that they need repeated exercises to capture women's hearts.In the report, staff compared the muscularity of male models in two prominent fashion magazines, Cosmopolitan (89% female readership) and Men's Health (85% male readership), and gave a specific score. The degree of muscle development of the male model in "Metropolis" is 4.26, almost reaching the standard (4.49) for women's ideal sex partners.But men mistakenly think women are 5.04, which is close to the level of muscularity of Men's Health male models (5.77).

Muscular men are clearly misleading men into thinking that women are attracted to big men.By the same token, women have also been misled by skinny female models into thinking that men love skinny women.Therefore, the more men look at models, the more dissatisfied they are with their bodies, while women are also very annoyed with their bodies after seeing models with size zero.According to the survey, 90% of American men are dissatisfied with their body shape, only 49% of Ghanaian men because of the low media coverage there, and 69% of Ukrainian men are in between.Most of the men were "like Clark Kent aspiring to be Superman," one crew member concluded.

He's handsome, like a model.When I first found out that he followed me, I was a little flattered and couldn't believe it.We had sex, but only once.Incomprehensibly he kept calling me afterward.But for various reasons, I don't want to accept him, no matter how crazy he is with me.First of all, he's just good looking.Secondly, never find a boyfriend who is too handsome, because you will become extremely inferior, suspicious, and eventually lose your mind.

—Heterosexual female, 26 years old

When boys reach puberty, the facial bones begin to mature gradually, and the facial contours begin to become angular, which is mainly affected by the secretion of testosterone.From an evolutionary point of view, adolescence kicks off the prelude to the fight for dolls.Boys and girls began to take pains to dress up and rack their brains to attract the opposite sex.As mentioned before, for boys, the magic weapon to overwhelm their rivals and capture their hearts is to have a tall and straight figure.And it is the hormone with magical powers, that is, testosterone, that makes boys finally tall and handsome.

So why not all tall people are handsome and fit?This is because testosterone also has a negative side. Excessive secretion of testosterone can destroy the body's immune function, allowing diseases and viruses to take advantage of it.So this is a combination of spear and shield: in adolescence, only those who have extraordinary physical fitness are "qualified" to secrete a large amount of testosterone, so as to achieve the transformation of facial contours.For teenagers with poor physical fitness, the immune system that is already riddled with holes is unable to withstand the damage, so the secretion of testosterone is relatively small, but the good opportunity for transformation is also missed.A man's sculpted and handsome face represents his good physical fitness, ability to control others, and strong protection ability.This also effectively explains why women love three-dimensional (but not too exaggerated) facial features.

But women's "taste" will also change with the rhythm of the menstrual cycle, and the "taste" of choosing a lover and lover is also different.In one scientific study, women were asked to rate a group of men at different stages of their menstrual cycle—the most fertile (five days before ovulation) and the least fertile, the luteal phase after ovulation—by rating their Whether he is handsome, whether he can be a lover, or whether he can be a lover.It turned out that women rated men with sharper faces as sexiest and were willing to have a romantic encounter with them.On the contrary, women are willing to choose men who are not very clear-cut as lovers.In addition, when a woman is in the fertile period, she is the most irresistible to have a masculine and handsome face.

The most plausible explanation for the above results may be that when women are looking for rich husbands, they are more likely to choose men who look like "good dads", and if they are just looking for a moment of fun, they will be more inclined to choose attractive men.This is indeed elusive: Whether he is a lifelong lover or a temporary lover, shouldn't the attractive and handsome man be the first choice?
The answer is that the more suave and suave a man looks, the more capricious he is.They tend to fall into dangerous relationships and become "villains" who play with women.Therefore, women should make good calculations and weigh carefully: if a man looks honest and honest, the advantage is that he can be a good father and husband, but the disadvantage is that he lacks high-quality genes.If a man is fit and sexy, the advantage is that he can pass on high-quality genes to the next generation, but the disadvantage is that he may be looking for flowers and willows everywhere.Therefore, if a woman wants to have both the fish and the bear's paw, she can only adopt a dual strategy.

The dual strategy can be called the best of both worlds. It is to find a lover who is ordinary in appearance but dedicated to himself and caring for his children, and then he might as well occasionally have an affair with an attractive man when he is most likely to conceive. DNA fingerprinting studies have found that about 12 percent of women become pregnant while having an affair, suggesting that this dual strategy is already common among women.

But women's fascination with masculinity varies across cultures.For example, psychologist Ian Penton-Waka and his colleagues found that women in Jamaica were more attracted to handsome and strong men than women in Britain.They explain that this cultural difference is due to differences in the two countries' infectious diseases.Unlike England, in Jamaica infectious diseases were rampant.Therefore, in an environment where infectious diseases are raging, women have also become more faithful to their instinctive choices, that is, they appreciate men with high-quality genes—men with strong and handsome faces sculpted by testosterone.

mass lover
Women love to pursue popular lovers, and many interviewees even confessed that they have sex with each other only because of his attractive appearance, and have no intention of falling in love at all:

I have a male friend who is extremely handsome, but I have no intention of falling in love with him.Once he asked me to stay at his house, and despite my doubts, I finally agreed... He has the face of a public lover, but he is hot-tempered, extremely rebellious, and too obsessive.

—Heterosexual female, 36 years old

What kind of man is considered a "public lover"?American psychologist Judith Langros conducted an experiment to study the "beauty" of human faces.He asked participants to evaluate a set of photographs of faces, some plain or composites of 16 or more.It turns out that composite photos are the most popular.Langros said: "If you use 32 photos to synthesize a female face (the public face), and then take a photo of a very beautiful female model, put the two on top of each other, and compare them, you will find that the two The photos are nearly overlapping, indicating that the female model's facial features are composite-like." The same holds true for the composite male faces.

Langros also found that even one-year-old infants can distinguish between "beautiful" and "ugly" adult faces.The staff put on different masks, some are beautiful, some are ugly, but they are all delicately made and lifelike.Then try teasing a one-year-old baby.It turned out that the babies played more happily and for longer with the staff who wore the nice masks.Even if dolls are used to amuse children, people will find that children like beautiful dolls.

There is also a wealth of research showing that people automatically associate beautiful people with many qualities, including being funny and friendly, independent, strong, sexy, gregarious, flexible, successful, and so on.There are indeed such impeccable and talented people in real life.A person with outstanding looks may have good popularity, a wide social circle, a successful career, and may also be healthy physically and mentally, and have a fulfilling love.This may be due to people's usual "pity for fragrance and jade".

soul-stirring voice

From Elvis Presley in the 50s, The Beatles in the 60s, Jim Morrison in the 70s to the contemporary Kanye West, Jay-Z, 50 Cent and other rappers are all fascinated Thousands of women.There is no doubt that part of their charm for women comes from superstar aura, social fame, etc., but part of it is due to their magnetic voice.A man's deep and magnetic voice always makes women tremble.

Pitch is arguably the most distinctive feature of human speech, with boys and girls sounding little different until puberty.But as soon as puberty comes, things change dramatically.Boys' vocal cords begin to lengthen, 60% longer than girls' vocal cords, and also become wider and thicker, so the voice sounds rough and loud.This is all because boys secrete testosterone during puberty. The more testosterone secreted, the thicker and more powerful the voice.

There is a basis for the deep and deep voice to shock women.For example, a survey found that women prefer the powerful voice of the famous tenor Pavarotti to the shrill voice of Truman Capote.This is a matter of course.But three recent studies by scientists suggest that women are particularly picky about a man's voice when they're in love.Anthropologist David Putes found 32 recordings of men ambiguously inviting women, and then asked 142 heterosexual women to listen to the recordings in two groups. One group imagined the other party as an accidental affair, and the other group imagined the other party as Become a long-lasting love object.It was found that both groups of women thought that the deep and thick male voice was more attractive, but if it was just a simple affair, the women would undoubtedly prefer the deep and thick male voice.In addition, men with magnetic voices are especially attractive to women who are in the period of ovulation, that is, the period of conception.

Why do women like deep male voices?An illuminating study of female frogs, which choose mates based on the sonorousness of their calls.Because the song is a very reliable signal, it can accurately determine the physical condition of the male frog, and the loud song indicates that the male frog has a strong physique and a large body.Similarly, human studies have identified two reasons that may explain women's preference for deep, deep voices.

(End of this chapter)