female sexual motivation

Chapter 5 How to touch a woman's heart (3)
The first reason is the symmetry of the left and right body, that is, the sign of healthy and high-quality genes, which shows that there are no serious diseases and disasters during the growth process, and there are not too many gene mutations.A well-proportioned male usually has a loud voice.Therefore, women are especially irresistible to magnetic male voices during the ovulation period, because they are instinctively attracted by high-quality genes that can be passed on to the next generation.A magnetic voice is also a sign of a perfect body.Psychologist Susan Hughes found that if a man has a sexy and magnetic voice, compared with a man with a high-pitched voice, he must have wider shoulders and narrower hips, that is, a sexy inverted triangle figure.In the eyes of women, men with deep voices are not only strong and tall, but also sophisticated, majestic and awe-inspiring.

So are men with thick and powerful voices more comfortable in love than men with soft voices?A survey found that among American men, those with lower voices had more sexual partners.Another survey of Hadza hunter-gatherers in Tanzania found that men with deep-voiced sex appeal had more children, possibly because they were more attracted to fertile men. female.

Therefore, it is not enough to just hum a few songs. You must also have a vigorous and vigorous voice, like the baritone singer James Jones. His voice is intoxicating, because the sonorous and powerful voice indicates health, High-quality genes, strong protective ability, high social status, etc.Sexy male singers that women can't stop have another advantage--walking, elegant and personable.

Personable
The strength of a person's bones, the firmness of his muscles, and even his balance ability can be expressed by gestures.If a person walks gracefully and dances gracefully, the following inferences can be made: First, it indicates that he is young and energetic.For example, young people's dance steps are vigorous and powerful, while old people always give people a sense of insufficient energy.Second, it shows that he is full of energy, healthy and prosperous.

Some interviewed women said that his passionate and dynamic dancing posture is also worthy of their body:

Someone once told me that a man who dances is just as good in bed.I don't believe it, I want to try it for myself to see if it is true.At the time, I knew a stripper guy who also did a few stripteases for me.We ended up having sex, and indeed, as good as he was on stage, he was as good in bed...he literally danced in bed, it was amazing.

—Heterosexual female, 29 years old

He is sexy and attractive, and I find him even more attractive after knowing that he is a good dancer.I love dancing myself, so whenever I see someone move their body to the music, I get horny.

—Heterosexual female, 26 years old

Research has found that there is one type of body movement that women are particularly drawn to.In one experiment, women were asked to watch several dance performances, but the faces of the dancers could not be seen clearly because of the technical processing.It turns out that dancers with larger movements are more sought after by women, and they are more able to arouse women's desires.Therefore, manliness is not only expressed in the face, but also in the way of walking.There is a huge difference in the walking postures of men and women: men will shake their upper body left and right while walking, while women will swing their buttocks, so they will be charming and sexy.

Psychologist Megan Provost and colleagues have done an interesting experiment.They videotaped the gaits of different men and women.During the video, participants wore reflective markers both on clothing and on exposed skin.The researchers created a computer program based on the videotape, that is, "walking" dots of light, which flashed in order from the most feminine to the most masculine.Finally, 55 women who were not using oral contraceptives were invited to watch "walking" dots on a computer screen and asked to choose their favorite gait.Women prefer men who are more masculine when they walk, and women who are ovulating are particularly strong.The findings provide further evidence of the value of masculinity, the masculine traits that develop during puberty under the influence of testosterone and are a reliable signal for women to choose the best mate.

In addition to walking posture, other actions of men also have profound meanings for women.It has been proven time and again that one-way same-sex touch, such as one man reaching out to touch another man's back, is a great way to express mutual status.Women think that "active touchers" are more powerful and appreciate such men.In addition, extended movements, such as stretching arms or legs, can also be a good way to express whether a person is strong or not.From the perspective of women, a man with a free and easy gesture, such as not being able to cross his arms and hug his chest, will also appear to be capable and more prestigious.

Evolutionary psychologist Carl Grammer and colleagues conducted a survey in three singles bars in Pennsylvania, USA.They first recorded the men's body movements, and then saw which men "successfully" struck up a conversation with women. The requirement was to talk to the women uninterruptedly for at least 1 minute.The survey found that men who do the following five types of actions are most likely to be "successful": love to look directly at girls for a short time; love to do extended movements; love to walk around; love one-way touch; love to do free and easy movements.

In short, if a man is full of electric eyes, elegant, personable, and majestic, he will definitely fascinate many women.

Have a personality to be sexy
Sex is not simply physical mutual attraction.For some women, the other person's character and appearance are equally important in sex:

You can fall in love with a person purely because of his handsome looks or cute personality, but only when the two things are combined, the love is considered complete... Once, I fell in love with a handsome man, but then I found out that he was capricious and careless , not empathetic.Although I am still obsessed with his handsome appearance, the more I get to know him, the more I can't stand him.Another time, I fell in love with a man with an impeccable personality and didn't care about his looks at all at the time, but we broke up anyway.

—Heterosexual female, 21 years old

After research, it was found that two personality traits are the most attractive to women, one is a sense of humor, and the other is self-confidence.Two of them talked about their ideal sex partners:
I like him because he is very funny and humorous.I am very happy every time I am with him.No one has ever made me so happy before.Laughing heartily with him, my troubles drift away, and I naturally feel that he is good in everything.Intimacy is also an extension of this good feeling.

—Heterosexual female, 27 years old

My ex-boyfriend, despite his looks, was deeply romantic and amused me just by looking at him.I was obsessed with his humor, and I couldn't help myself... Later, he cheated on me, which broke my heart, and he himself was in pain, and finally I broke up... After a few years, we came together again, but the passion was no longer.But he's still funny, and I think he's still sexy!

—Heterosexual female, 40 years old

One woman expressed the importance of a sense of humor succinctly: "A relationship without laughter is like plain water, which is tasteless."

On dating sites, a sense of humor is also one of the few character traits that can be abbreviated (GS·H), which shows that a sense of humor cannot be lacking in a relationship.In addition, women who rated their partners as witty and witty reported higher levels of marital satisfaction.Whether it's a brief affair or a long-lasting relationship, women expect a good sense of humour.A study by the Bath Evolutionary Psychology Laboratory in the United States found that a sense of humor is also the only effective tactic that men can use to attract women.Of course, this can't convince men all over the world, as comedian Jimmy McFarlane said: "Women always say they value a man's sense of humor above all else. But as a veteran comedian, I've found that what they mean Men like Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise, Russell Crowe. There's no question that to be funny you have to look good."

The scientific community has been arguing about why a sense of humor cannot be lacking in love.There are two senses of humor, one is the ability to create humor, that is, to make people laugh.The other is the ability to appreciate humor, the ability to be made to laugh.But men and women have different understandings of humor. In the eyes of men, women who can understand his humor and laugh from time to time are considered to have a sense of humor!In a relationship, a man has a soft spot for a woman who appreciates his flair for humor.On the contrary, whether it is a one-night stand or a lifetime relationship, women love men who are witty and interesting.

Perhaps the most plausible explanation for the fact that both sexes like people with a sense of humor is that laughter relaxes the nerves.Many interviewed women have said that men with a funny voice are more attractive:
Of course a sexy and hot body is exciting, but as I grow older, I value a person's character more and more.A man with a playful sense of humor makes me feel comfortable and relaxed.And the wit, delivered through humor, is endearing in itself.

—Heterosexual female, 38 years old

All the people I've fallen in love with and have been intimate with have great humor.Humor makes us feel light-hearted when we are together and laughs out loud during intimacy.Humor makes sex more interesting, because you can boldly try different positions without worrying that the other party will be disgusted or say nothing. Once something embarrassing happens, you can use it as a joke and have a good belly laugh!
—Heterosexual female, 51 years old

The mood when you first meet can also determine whether you like the other party-it is easy to like the other party when you are in a happy mood, and it is easy to hate the other party when you are in a low mood.Indeed, things change according to your heart. When you are in a good mood, the sky is blue and the flowers are fragrant; when you are in a bad mood, the sky is dim and the flowers are haggard.That's why people say, "Don't cut it to make it happen", don't "blame your anger" on others just because you are in a bad mood.

People who are funny and lively are likable, probably because of conditioning.After several pleasant encounters with such a person, the thought of this person may make one laugh and brighten one's mood.In fact, studies have found that women are more accepting of strangers in photos when they are listening to soothing music.It can be inferred from this that women are likely to prefer their dance teachers or masseuses to their tax collectors or parking lot tollers.

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