female sexual motivation

Chapter 8 Sex is amazing (2)
As early as the 20s, sexologist Kinsey and his scientific research team proposed that "the sudden cessation of convulsive movements, the extreme ecstasy during sexual intercourse, and the subsequent paralysis" are the obvious symptoms of female orgasm. sign.A decade later, William Masters and Virginia Jonsson defined the female orgasm as a "suspension," a state of forgetfulness.Until 50, there were no more than 2001 precise definitions of female orgasm in the medical field.In 26, the Female Orgasm Special Research Committee under the World Health Organization met in Paris, France, and the meeting decided to collect a large number of relevant information and give a final definition.In the end, the committee came up with the following definitions:

Female orgasm is a changing, short-lived peak of pleasure, during which there will be various sensory changes. At this moment, the vaginal striated muscles in the pelvic region will involuntarily contract intermittently, accompanied by contractions of the uterus and anus, and sexual arousal. The blood vessels in the body become congested (sometimes localized) and the muscles temporarily stiffen. This series of physiological changes will bring physical and mental satisfaction.

Sometimes I have to marvel at the researchers' superior exploration ability, and the final definition given is completely like a medical problem, obscure enough to make laymen turn their heads. (Disclosure: The chairman of the committee is the aforementioned Professor Maston) Let's see how women themselves describe orgasm:
At that moment, it was completely out of control.Moaning involuntarily, sweating profusely.You can feel every inch of each other's skin, a warm current sweeps over, your head becomes floating, like in a dreamlike world.

—Heterosexual female, 21 years old

Physiological experience at the pinnacle of sex

Both researchers and women themselves admit that orgasm is a dual experience of physiology and psychology.

Within a few seconds after orgasm, the sphincters in the vagina, uterus, anus, etc. begin to contract intermittently involuntarily.Vaginal contractions are generally considered to be a fundamental feature of female orgasm.Contract every 1-2 seconds.But there are huge differences in the frequency and intensity of contractions between different women, and the frequency and intensity of contractions mainly depend on the duration of orgasm and the strength of the pelvic muscles.Master and Jonsson believe that during orgasm, the more aroused a woman is, the more the pelvic area contracts and the longer the orgasm lasts.The two professors also divided orgasm into three levels: "shallow orgasm", three to five vaginal contractions, each lasting 2.4 to 4.0 seconds; "moderate orgasm", four to eight vaginal contractions, each lasting 4.0 seconds to 6.4 seconds; "deep orgasm", 8 to 12 vaginal contractions, each lasting 4.0 to 9.6 seconds, and the entire orgasm process can last up to 2 minutes.

The vaginal area was twitching and hot, and the thighs were shaking.I felt the muscles all over my body tense. After tensing for a while, it seemed as if a surge of electric current was suddenly released between my legs, and it went straight to the brain along the spine, and I began to be in a trance.For a moment I couldn't breathe, couldn't open my eyes, and the world became colorful.Immediately afterwards, I felt the dazzling light and a wonderful feeling of vertigo. After that, my whole body was extremely relaxed and full of energy.

—Heterosexual female, 24 years old

However, some researchers say they haven't found a link between orgasm intensity and vaginal contractions.Moreover, some of the women interviewed said that they did not experience vaginal contractions during orgasm, which may be because their vaginal contractions were too slight to be noticed.

Until now, the function of vaginal contractions was poorly understood.Some interviewed women mentioned that vaginal contraction can greatly increase the pleasure of orgasm.But the interesting thing is that deliberately contracting the muscles in the vaginal area does not produce much pleasure.If you are a woman, you might as well try it yourself.If it's not clear which muscle you're referring to, you can intentionally "switch" the flow the next time you urinate.The muscles you are using at this time are probably the same muscles that contract during orgasm.Some sexologists have pointed out that the function of women's vaginal contraction is to stimulate men to ejaculate during sexual intercourse, thereby keeping their semen in the body.But the facts may disappoint you women, because generally before women reach orgasm, men have already ejaculated, and castration is hasty.

As mentioned before, a small number of women will have ejaculation during orgasm, and vaginal contraction can help this liquid discharge from the urethra.In addition, we mentioned that when female sexual desire is fully aroused, the vagina, labia, and clitoris will be congested, and under the action of vaginal contraction, the congestion can quickly subside.If the female sexual desire is fully aroused and enters the plateau but cannot achieve orgasm, pelvic congestion will exist for a long time, and even subside after an hour.This can make women feel uncomfortable, which is similar to what men refer to as "purple balls".When a woman is sexually aroused, the nipples and areolas will be congested and swollen, and the congestion will subside quickly after an orgasm.In fact, the withdrawal of blood from the breasts after orgasm is so rapid that the areolas briefly pucker before returning to their original shape.In other words, the folds of the female areola are also a sign of judging orgasm.

After orgasm, prolactin doubles in both sexes and returns to normal about an hour later.Prolactin is generally thought to be the reason men go into a "soft period" after orgasm, the state in which a man's penis weakens after ejaculation and prevents him from getting an erection again.The length of the flaccid period has a lot to do with age. The older you are, the longer the flaccid period, which means it takes longer to get an erection again.But prolactin has no effect on women.Therefore, women can have orgasms one after another during sexual intercourse, and the waves behind push the waves ahead, and one wave is higher than the other.Unlike men, women can achieve what Professors Master and Jonsson call an "orgasmic state"—orgasms that last several minutes.There is another difference between male and female orgasms, that is, men will enter the "irreversible" stage when they are highly sexually aroused. At this moment, the orgasm is as irresistible as a scourge.But women are the exact opposite. Once the external stimulation brakes, both clitoral or vaginal orgasm will stop abruptly.Couples must take note.

Psychological experience at the pinnacle of sex

There are as many descriptions of orgasms as there are women.It can be said that the experience of female orgasm is varied and varied, and the names are too numerous to enumerate.Some call it unbelievable, immensely satisfying, maddening, some say exhilarating, insane, disorienting, some say gluey, relaxed, gentle and comfortable, some say dizzying, wild, and so on.One interviewed woman was very expressive:
I love the release at the top and the great feeling after a storm.The emphasis is on the process rather than the result, and sex makes me feel excited, aroused and extremely satisfied.Sometimes I want to have sex just so that I can think about it later.I like blowjob most of the time, sometimes to the other person, sometimes to have the other person do it to me, or both, depending on the mood.My favorite way to get to the top is to indulge in sexual fantasies while my husband gives me blowjobs... (sometimes I think about a woman, sometimes a man, and sometimes I just focus on what's in front of me and nothing else .)I like this feeling.

—Heterosexual female, 28 years old

So do men and women feel the same psychologically during orgasm?To answer this question, scientists conducted an interesting quiz.First, a group of men and women were asked to write a paragraph about their psychological feelings during orgasm, and then others were asked to guess whether the author was a man or a woman.It turned out that the probability of guessing correctly was very small.This suggests that men and women experience very similar psychological experiences during orgasm.

Several hormones are secreted in the body during orgasm, such as prolactin just mentioned, but the most secreted is oxytocin.Oxytocin can make each other more attached to each other, so women will become more tender and affectionate after orgasm.Orgasm can make a woman's heart flutter, but even if she doesn't have a deep relationship with the other person, a woman can also get sexual pleasure or orgasm:
On a few occasions, I've had intimacy with non-boyfriends because I craved the pleasure of sex and the feeling of orgasm...once with a friend I've known for a few years.At that point, I hadn't been with a man in a while.I invited him to dinner at home, and then rolled into bed together at night.It's comfortable being with him because he's a friend.That time was really intriguing.

—Heterosexual female, 28 years old

climbing the pinnacle of sex
Since orgasms are so magical, what exactly triggers a woman's ultimate pleasure? In the 20s, there was a view that the swelling and congestion of the genitals first conducts an electric current to the muscle nerves in the pelvic area, and the highly sensitive nerves send impulses to the spinal cord, and the final eruption of the spinal reflex is the orgasm.By the 60s, the clitoris was considered the source of all arousal, but people still believed that orgasm was a spinal reflex.By the 70s, scientists proposed that when sexual stimulation reaches a certain threshold, the brain's putative "orgasm command" kicks in.Scientists still haven't been able to determine where female orgasms come from, or whether there really are "orgasm inducers" in the brain. (Researchers are now using brain-imaging techniques to examine how the brain responds to a woman's orgasm, comparing it to that of a man's orgasm, to see what the similarities and differences are.)
We know that women have more than one way to orgasm, the most common are vaginal and clitoral orgasms.Generally speaking, it is easier to make a woman reach the pinnacle of sex by stimulating the clitoris.In fact, only 60% of women can achieve orgasm through pure sexual intercourse, which means that the stimulation of the clitoris during penis pumping is far from enough.For some women, not experiencing a vaginal orgasm is simply a pity in life.If you have similar concerns, please rest assured that in every respect (meaning, pleasure, intensity) a vaginal orgasm is the same as a clitoral orgasm.If you can get both vaginal and clitoral orgasms, that's of course the best.

This cult of the vaginal orgasm dates back to Freud.Back in the 20s, the Austrian psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud said that clitoral orgasms were "childish" and that the vagina was the birthplace of orgasms in mature women.How is it possible for a woman to have an orgasm without relying on a man?Freud couldn't understand anything.As a result, countless healthy and normal women began to doubt their sexual ability, and they were in constant panic. In the 20s, Master and Jonsson published a report in which they turned Freud's theory on its head, showing that all orgasms are physiologically the same regardless of the point of stimulation.However, existing laboratory studies have shown that vaginal orgasm triggers uterine muscle contractions, while clitoral orgasm triggers pelvic muscle contractions.But this is just a nuance and cannot be generalized.

There are various ways for women to reach orgasm. For example, some women can achieve clitoris, G-spot, cervical orgasm, or exert pressure on the mons pubis to achieve orgasm.The mons pubis is the part of the vulva with pubic hair just above the pubic bone. It is mound-shaped and consists of skin and a thick layer of fat.Other women have reported orgasms from stimulating their breasts or nipples alone.What's even more amazing is that women can reach the pinnacle of sex without any physical stimulation, such as through meditation or masturbation, or even in dreams.Therefore, physical stimulation is not a necessary condition for women to achieve orgasm, and perhaps consciousness is not a necessary condition, because women also have orgasms in sleep.There are also a small number of women who can have the so-called "spontaneous orgasm" without explicit sexual stimulation, that is, non-contact pleasure.

Taste leisurely alone, fly together and drink carnival
(End of this chapter)