Thick black school

Chapter 71
When Wilson made an impromptu speech, he told everyone a story: "There was a group of fishing tourists in Canada, and one of them named Johnson boldly tried to drink some dangerous wine. Johnson drank a lot of that kind of wine. After drinking badly, he wanted to take the train back with other companions. But instead of taking the train going north, he took the train going south. Everyone was eager to get him back, so they called the captain of the train going south : "Please send a short man named Johnson to the train going north. He is drunk." Soon, they received a call back from the conductor, and the other party said: "Please describe its characteristics in detail. There are 13 drunk passengers. They don't know their names, let alone their purpose." Wilson said with a smile, "And I, Wilson, know my name, but I can't know my future like your chairman. Where is the destination?" The people in the four seats burst out laughing when they heard this.

The human heart is the most complicated thing. If you talk too much, you will give others a handle and put yourself in a passive situation.Wilson made up for the chairman's slip of the tongue with a clever story-"I don't know where the destination is", which means that whether he can be elected president is still unknown!In this way, he left room for himself, avoided possible problems in the future, and left a humble and polite impression on everyone present.

Don't talk too much, and leave yourself some leeway. Frankness will certainly appear sincere, but you don't need to be candid in everything.Today's society is a society full of competition. In order to survive, people can use all means without any self-discipline in conscience or religious fetters.In this case, it can be said that the human heart is sinister, and "telling everything you know, saying everything you can" is not a good way to behave in the world.

"Fully suffers losses, modest benefits", this is the most obvious truth.However, many people who think they have some qualifications always make mistakes on this principle.As long as there are crowds, they will have an inexplicable sense of standing out from the crowd, with a strong sense of superiority; they always open their "big mouths" to show off their so-called abilities at the right time; Instead, they are ashamed and proud of being able to win the shallow applause of some people who are as introverted as they are.What's more, they don't care about the importance of what they say, and they often ignore the reason that they should leave some room for themselves when they speak. As long as they open their mouths, they will fly wild words, and they even don't hesitate to belittle others to improve their eloquent "speaking skills" .And it is precisely this so-called "speaking skill" that is most likely to expose the incompetence and incompetence at critical moments, so that things and others are wronged.

Not long after the start of the 2002 NBA season, Barkley, the former NBA star who sneered at the new Chinese player Yao Ming who joined the Rockets, talked endlessly on TNT TV's "NBA Inside Show" program, and said wildly that if Yao Ming can play this year If he scored 19 points in any regular season game, he would "kiss" the ass of his colleague Kenny Smith, the hero of the Rockets' championship.

As a result, when the Rockets challenged the Lakers in an away game, Yao Ming scored 20 points. While earning respect for himself, he also pushed Barkley into a "desperate situation."And Kenny Smith was ecstatic after learning that Yao Ming scored 20 points, and said that he must let Barkley fulfill his promise.They got a donkey to replace Kenny Smith, and made Buckley fulfill his promise, and Buckley had to deal with his "gambling debts" in a very embarrassing way.In a few days, the camera focused and the bright lights were shining. Amidst the wild laughter from around, Buckley bent down in embarrassment, and kissed the ass of the donkey helplessly...

The above-mentioned scene is not fictional, but a "ass-kissing story" known to everyone from NBA stars to fans all over the world.However, when people comment and pass on the story of "kissing ass", what they feel more is not "kissing ass" itself, but the disaster of arrogant self-esteem and uttering wild words!

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Houheixue reminds us that in dealing with others, we must not easily hand over our old background to the other party. No matter under any circumstances, we must leave seven points and do not have to tell others.Confucius once said, "If you don't talk about it, it's called a slip of the tongue." You may think that you are an upright man, and you can say everything to others, so why just talk about it?If the other party is not someone you trust deeply, you can speak freely in order to make it quicker, how will the other party's reaction be?What you say is your own business, but is the other party willing to listen to you?The relationship between each other is superficial, and you have a deep talk with him, which shows that you are not cultivated; what you say is related to his relatives, friends, or bosses and colleagues. It is easy to say good things, but what will happen if you say bad things?What a friend says belongs to the other party, you are not his friend, and you are not worthy of having a deep talk with him; loyal words are harsh, showing your presumptuousness.Therefore, only talking about three points when meeting people is not that you can't say it, but that you don't have to say it, you shouldn't say it, and it doesn't conflict with what you say to others.

People who deeply understand the beauty of Houhei's speech are all sophisticated people who are flexible and adaptable. They only talk about three parts at any time.From their point of view, even a third of the truth is too much for you.

High and low upside down: elevate others, belittle yourself.
[Zongwu Mantra] Praise is the word for praise. When Wei Zhongxian came out on the stage, Hua Xin's behavior was an excellent example.

There are many ways to flatter people and praise others. To say nice things, you don’t necessarily have to focus on the other person, and sometimes you can also find topics from yourself.The way of speaking that elevates others by belittling oneself and finally achieves the goal is such a means of communication compliment.

In the view of Houheixue, in social situations, a person only values ​​himself, shows off his talents too much, and shows off his abilities, which will cause opposition from everyone and lose the trust of others. lead to a very unfavorable situation.Sometimes if you change the angle, demean yourself appropriately and elevate others, it will produce the effect of winding paths and obtaining unexpected gains.

In 597 BC, the state of Chu attacked the state of Zheng, and the state of Jin sent troops to rescue the state of Zheng. Jin and Chu fought in the Bi area.During the scuffle between the two armies, Zhiyu, a doctor of the state of Jin, was captured alive by the army of Chu. His father, Xunshou, led his men back to rescue him, but failed. And bring the body of Xiang Lao and the injured Chu Gongzi back to the Jin army barracks.

Nine years later, the state of Jin proposed to the state of Chu to exchange the remains of Mr. Chu and Lao Xiang for Zhiying, and the state of Chu agreed.

When sending Zhiying back to China, King Zhuang of Chu asked him: "You have been imprisoned in Chu State for many years, do you hate me?"

Zhifu replied: "The two countries are at war. I am incompetent and I am not up to the task, so I am a prisoner. Your Majesty did not kill me, but let me go back to my country to be punished. Woolen cloth?"

King Zhuang of Chu asked again: "So you should be grateful for the widow's kindness?"

Zhifu said: "Both Jin and Chu think about their own countries, so as to avoid the suffering of the common people. They realize that the previous war was a temporary anger. Now the two countries have understood each other and expressed the sincerity of the two countries' reconciliation by exchanging prisoners. It has nothing to do with me personally, and I don't have to be grateful to anyone."

King Zhuang of Chu originally wanted Zhifu to thank him so that he could make further demands, but Zhifu responded like this.But he still asked further: "After you return to China, what will you use to repay me?"

Zhifu said: "I have never complained to the king, and the king has never been virtuous to me. I have no complaints and no virtue. I don't know what to repay."

King Zhuang of Chu still refused to let it go, and continued to ask: "Although you say that, you must tell me something, right?"

Zhifu said calmly: "Thanks to the blessing of the king, let me go back to the state of Jin. If my king kills me, I will never forget the benefits you have done to me until I die. If I am blessed by the king, the king will spare me When I die, I will be handed over to my father. If my father executes me according to the family law, I will never forget the kindness of the king until my death. If my father spares me from death and still allows me to continue to serve as the leader of the Jin army, then in the defense of the frontier At that time, when I met the generals of the Chu State, I did not dare to evade, I will definitely fulfill my duties as a courtier for the Jin State, and I am going to use this method to repay the King."

King Zhuang of Chu was quite emotional when he heard this, and sighed: "From now on, we can no longer fight with the state of Jin." So he held a grand ceremony for Zhifu and sent him back to the state of Jin.

Zhifu adopts a strategy of retreating and advancing, first blaming himself for being incompetent, and if he can be released, he can only be grateful.When asked how to be grateful, he avoided saying that exchanging prisoners of war was a state matter and had nothing to do with individuals, and he didn't know who to be grateful for.On specific language occasions, it is advisable to take sensible countermeasures for sensitive issues. This diplomatic language is worth learning.

Cao Cao decided to go north to attack Wuhuan shortly after he flattered the emperor of the Han Dynasty.However, many advisers in front of his account objected to his doing so. They agreed that Wuhuan was just a barbarian force outside the Great Wall, and it was not worth sending troops to attack from a long distance. At the same time, Wuhuan was too far away from Cao Cao's territory, so it did not pose a threat to Xu. .Cao Cao believed that Wuhuan was close to Yuan Shao's territory, and once he colluded with forces in Hebei, it would pose a serious threat to him.If Wuhuan is not eliminated, then Xudu will always be surrounded by Yuan Shao.

So, regardless of the opposition of his officials, he led the army to conquer Wuhuan.However, things did not go as smoothly as he had imagined. When he defeated Wuhuan and returned triumphantly from Wuhuan, his army did not have any rations or supplies.The first thing Cao Cao did after returning to Xudu was to ask his subordinates to find out who prevented him from conquering Wuhuan, and everyone had to find out their names.

As soon as this remark came out, everyone in Cao Cao's camp was in danger, and everyone was thinking that Cao Cao must call the teacher to punish him now.As a result, after the responsible officials handed in the investigation report, Cao Cao announced that he would reward everyone, which surprised the officials.

Cao Cao readily explained: "You people who advised me not to attack Wuhuan are correct. You advised me not to use troops for a while is a long-term solution. I led the troops to attack because I took chances. This was my mistake. I hope you will continue to give me advice in the future.”

From then on, these counselors became more loyal to Cao Cao and devoted themselves to advising him.

Liu Mu was the nephew of Liu Zhuang, Emperor Ming of the Eastern Han Dynasty. He was eager to learn and make progress since he was a child, and he made friends with many sages and celebrities, and he was not obsessed with sensuality or greed. love and support.

At the end of each year, officials and relatives of the emperor from all over the place have to congratulate the imperial court.It is said that at the end of one year, Liu Mu sent one of his officials to Luoyang to congratulate the emperor.Before the official left, Liu Mu asked the official, "You are at the emperor's side. If the emperor asks about my situation, how should you answer?" I am deeply loved by the people. Although I don't have any special talents, I will truthfully report your situation here to the emperor for your achievements, no matter how inarticulate I am, in order to reward you."

After hearing this, Liu Mu sighed, then shook his head again and again, and sighed: "Oh, if you really tell the emperor like this, you will kill me! I want you to stop talking about me after meeting the emperor. The real situation here, otherwise, I will be destroyed. You say that since I inherited the title, my will has declined all day long, and my actions are lazy. Apart from drinking and having fun with my concubines in the palace, I go out hunting and playing. , don’t care about Zhengye, only in this way can we protect ourselves.”

(End of this chapter)