Thick black school

Chapter 73
——There is darkness in the thickness, nothing is difficult in the world

Tears are soft knives, use tears to clear the way.
[Zongwu Mantra] (Liu Bei) is thick-skinned, according to Cao Cao, according to Lu Bu, according to Liu Biao, according to Sun Quan, according to Yuan Shao, running from east to west, living under the fence, shameless, and good at crying all his life, the person who wrote "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms", even more He was written so vividly that when encountering unsolvable things, he cried bitterly to others and immediately turned defeat into victory.

Non-vegetation, ruthless Practice makes perfect?Kindness and sympathy are the most basic components of the human emotional world. Almost everyone in the world has compassion for the weak and the victims.Use this glow of goodness in your humanity to illuminate your world.Using your sad face and desolate and sad tears in your ups and downs can make the other party's emotional waters rippling, even if you are hard-hearted, you will be lenient, extend your enthusiastic hand, promise and help you get things done.

When asking for help, the key is to impress the compassion and sympathy of the other party, so that you can win the help of others, and the purpose you are asking for can be achieved.And tears are the best weapon to move the compassion of others.

It is said that ferocious crocodiles always shed strings of "sad" tears before eating the food that reaches their mouths, pretending to be merciful. Houheixue pointed out that this is exactly the cunning of crocodiles.The crocodile wants to eat other animals, but shed a few tears. It is clear that it wants to tell people that it is kind by nature, and it does not want to harm its own kind, but it is a last resort.

In history, all kinds of thick and black people knew the function of tears. In order to achieve the goal of getting promoted and making money, repelling dissidents, and eradicating opponents, they disregarded their own face and cheekily "squeezed out" tears to win the sympathy and assistance of the other party. .The tricks of crying are all kinds of strange, the degree of crying varies in thousands ways, but the effect of crying is the same for everyone, and finally "success is complete", and without exception, they get what they want.Those who cry well will win the world, those who cry less will have a prosperous official career, and those who cry less will get a few coins in exchange for a good life.

There is a saying among the folks: Liu Bei's country was born out of crying. It is no exaggeration to say that Liu Bei's ability to become emperor and divide the world has a lot to do with his love of crying and his good crying.As the "Master of a Generation", Liu Bei's method of crying was almost fully utilized by him.

As we all know, after the Chibi War, Liu Bei, according to Zhuge Liang's arrangement, used tricks to capture Jingzhou, an important military town.Zhou Yu was so angry that his sores burst open, and he was determined to raise troops to fight Liu Bei. After Lu Su persuaded him, he stopped the army and made peace.However, Zhou Yu believed that Liu Bei's occupation of Jingzhou was a serious problem for Soochow's hegemony, so he ordered Lu Su to ask Liu Bei to recover Jingzhou.At first, Liu Bei refused to return it on the grounds of helping his nephew Liu Qi.After Liu Qi's death, Lu Su went to beg for Jingzhou again. Zhuge Liang defended it by saying that "the world is the world of the world, not the world of one person", and wrote a document to return Jingzhou after taking Xichuan.Lu Su had no choice but to return empty-handed.Later, Liu Bei married Sun Quan's younger sister and became the son-in-law of Soochow. Sun Quan asked Lu Su to ask for Jingzhou back. Sir persuaded him to retreat, and now he is coming to fetch it, what good strategy does the military advisor have?"

Zhuge Liang said: "If Lu Zijing brought up the matter of Jingzhou, my lord can just cry loudly. When I cry to the point of grief, I will come out to persuade me. Jingzhou will be fine."

Lu Su came to the hall, and both sides gave way to each other.After sitting down, Lu Su said: "Uncle Liu Huang is now the son-in-law of Soochow, and also my master of Lu Su. Since I am one of my own, I will speak directly."

Liu Bei said: "Zijing doesn't need to be humble, just speak up."

Lu Su said: "The villain was ordered by the Marquis of Wu to come here just for the matter of Jingzhou. The emperor borrowed a lot of time and has not returned it. Since the two families are married today, they are considered a family. I hope the emperor will return Jingzhou today." For good."

After Lu Su finished speaking, Marquis Liu Bei replied.Unexpectedly, Liu Bei had nothing to say, but covered his face with his hands and cried loudly.Cry until the sky is dark and the earth is shaking.Seeing Liu Bei weeping and crying like rain, Lu Su couldn't help panicking, and hurriedly asked, "Why is the emperor like this? Is there something wrong with the villain?"

That Liu Bei was crying endlessly, weeping like a tearful man, his breasts were wet with tears, while Lu Su was terrified by Liu Bei's crying.At this time, Zhuge Liang came out from behind the screen waving a goose feather fan and said, "I've been listening to it for a long time. Does Zijing know why my lord is crying?"

Lu Su said: "I see the emperor's uncle is very sad. I don't know the reason. I hope Mr. Zhuge can see him!"

Zhuge Liang said: "It's not difficult to understand! When my lord borrowed Jingzhou, he made a document that he would return to Soochow when Xichuan was acquired. But think about it carefully, Liu Zhang, who is in charge of Xichuan's military and political affairs, is my lord's brother. The flesh and blood of the Han Dynasty. If you send troops to attack Xichuan, you are afraid of being reviled by thousands of people. If you don’t take Xichuan, you will have nowhere to live in Jingzhou; Zijing came to beg again and again three or two times, so he burst into tears, and couldn't help crying loudly."

After Zhuge Liang finished speaking, he hinted at Liu Bei with his eyes. Liu Bei shrugged his shoulders, beat his chest and stomped his feet, and let out a cry of grief.Lu Su was originally a kind person. When he saw Liu Bei weeping and weeping bitterly, he felt compassion in his heart. He thought that Liu Bei was crying because he had no place to stand, so he got up and persuaded: "Don't worry about it, uncle, wait for me and you." Mr. Zhuge has a long-term plan."

Zhuge Liang said: "If you have troubles, please come back to see Marquis Wu and tell my lord's troubles. How about waiting for a while, and when my lord has a safe place, how about returning it to Jingzhou?"

Seeing Liu Bei's grief, Lu Su had no choice but to agree.

Liu Bei is very good at crying, especially the scene where he wants to be the emperor cried just right.When the news that Cao Pi abolished Emperor Xian of the Han Dynasty and established himself as Emperor of the Great Wei spread to Chengdu, Liu Bei, who established himself as king, was shocked. How could he not be surprised that the Liu family changed hands?Liu Bei's feathers were full at this time, and he wanted to abandon the king and become emperor, but it was hard to say it.Although Cao Cao dominated the government in the past, the puppet emperor is still there, and the world still belongs to the Liu family in name. Now Cao Pi abolishes the master and stands on his own. This is going against the sky. What should we do?Although Liu Bei is far away in Sichuan, he always does not want to aspire to the Central Plains.Seeing that the time is right now, the conditions for self-establishment as an emperor have been established, but how can I export it?I had to cry to express my heart.So, without water or rice, he used his trump card again, crying bitterly every day, ordering all officials to pay tribute to Xuchang, and this time because he wanted to be the emperor, he not only cried bitterly, but also became sick from crying.Simply ignore government affairs and hand over all major matters to Zhuge Liang.

Zhuge Liang naturally knew Liu Bei's "cause of crying".At this time, someone happened to be fishing at night and caught a jade seal that was shining golden and swirling with auspicious air.Zhuge Liang finally found a prescription to treat Liu Bei's bitter cry, so he led his ministers to invite Liu Bei to be emperor.

After Liu Bei saw it, he stopped crying bitterly, but pretended to be angry, blaming Zhuge Liang and others for trapping him in disloyalty and disfilial piety.However, after persuasion by Zhuge Liang and others, Liu Bei finally happily declared himself emperor and changed the name of the country to "Dashu".

Liu Bei's crying just proved what the common people said: "Liu Bei's country was born of crying." This so-called "hero" method of crying to conquer the world and keep the country is truly unprecedented. comer.

Tears are a solid soft knife. Most people tend to take this kind of "soft knife" lightly, thinking that it is not as terrible as a "hard knife".But in fact the opposite is true, "soft knives" are often more lethal.

Non-vegetation, ruthless Practice makes perfect.People's hearts are fleshy, and no one will be indifferent to the tears of others.Therefore, using tears as a "weapon" to impress people's hearts is a wonderful method, but this method needs to put down one's face, and must grasp the timing and proportion, so that it can be tried repeatedly.

A hotel once took a year to fire a tall and burly head waiter.Wanting to fire someone who worked hard isn't as simple as saying, "You're fired."Usually the hotel will arrange a meeting with the staff through the manager of the personnel department, and then explain the hotel's position and introduce some other job options for them.After receiving the hint, employees usually find other developments on their own, and even save a severance package for the hotel.Here's what happened: In the past 12 months, the HR manager met with the foreman four times.And every time before entering the topic, the foreman was already crying.Maybe he has a talent for acting, but it has achieved excellent results for this personnel manager.Every time, the management department said to the hotel leader: "If you have to fire him, you can say it yourself, I can't do it."

In this way, the foreman has been working in that hotel.

The foreman cleverly used the soft weapon of tears to make everyone who talked to him hit a soft nail.A big man speaks out his difficulties tearfully and emotionally. Can such a scene not move people?It can be said that tears are the best weapon to impress the compassion of others.

Auto giant Henry Ford's trading business was busy.Their desks are always piled with reminders of bills.Each time Ford took a rough look, threw the bill on the table, and said to the manager:
"You can figure it out, I don't know who to pay first!"

But once, he took out a bill from a pile of reminders and said to the financial manager:
"Pay him immediately!"

This is a faxed bill. In addition to listing the item, price, and price of the goods, there is also a portrait drawn on a large blank space, and the portrait is dripping tears.

"Look at the tears," said Ford. "Pay him as fast as you can!"

We don’t know whether this account collector is really crying. The reason why he is in a hurry to remind the account may be that he has other difficulties or urgent need for funds. His few tears can quickly attract the attention of the other party and get it back as quickly as possible. Large payment.From this point of view, the power of these tears is really incomparable!
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People have the psychology of sympathizing with the weak in their hearts. When a person is crying and tears are streaming down his face, people will feel compassion and show sympathy and care for the person who is crying. People, people don't say no.Therefore, at the critical moment of asking for help, learn to shed a few tears pitifully without losing the opportunity, which will easily arouse the sympathy of the other party. First of all, it will make each other get closer emotionally and resonate, which will lay the foundation for the solution of the problem. .This kind of "tears all over the place" technique of asking for help and doing things has achieved great things in ancient and modern China and abroad, especially the best and tried-and-tested technique used by politicians.Mr. Li Zongwu said frankly that if a person can use the skills of crying and laughing at home, there will be nothing impossible.When asking for help, you might as well "cry your nose" and let the soft knife of tears open the way for you to do things.

Before asking him to do something, give him a few high hats.
[Zongwu Mantra] Respect means groveling, sneering, etc. It can be divided into two types: direct and indirect. Direct refers to the boss, and indirect refers to the relatives, friends, servants and concubine of the boss. of.

People often refer to the behavior of flattery as "top hating", while liking others' flattery is called "like top hating".Mr. Li Zongwu believes that no one in this world can be indifferent to other people's compliments and giving high hats. If you wear more high hats, you will often get unexpected results in the process of asking for help and achieve the purpose of doing things.

Houheixue believes that in dealing with the world, no matter how strong your ability and wisdom are, if you don’t know how to get along with others, you will not be respected and loved by others. Use compliments to hit the other side's vital points, and your way of doing things will go much smoother.

There is a friend named Wan Lin, who was given the nickname "Guan Shi Tong", which means that no matter what he does, he can be unimpeded, which is enviable.He has a friend named Li Kai. Recently, he has been having a lot of headaches about his child's work transfer. He ran here and there, but couldn't get things done. Thinking of his friend Wan Lin who is proficient in handling things, he came here to ask him for advice.Wan Lin pointed out to his friends: "You need to be able to ask for help when you want to do something, and you have to make people like you and be willing to help you if you want to do things well. If you want to do this, at least you have sweets in your mouth, you have to be able to hold people and talk, You should praise him more, say what he likes to hear, and if you do this, won’t things be easier?” Li Kai woke up like a dream, and left excitedly.Not long after, I heard that his son's job transfer was completed.

This "jack-of-all-trades" man has fully mastered the trick of building relationships and gaining the favor of others, that is, to praise first and then talk about things.In our daily life, it is inevitable that there will be times when we ask for help from others. Whether things can be done depends on whether you can build a good relationship with the other party and please the other party.We all know that complimenting others can increase their goodwill towards you. If you can properly praise the other party when asking for help, then the other party will definitely be happy to meet your request after obtaining psychological satisfaction.

There is a difference between praising others when asking for help and praising others during general communication. The former praise should be more targeted.

Psychological proof: When a person proudly talks about his expertise, or his achievements, you make timely requests related to it. At such a moment, the possibility of him rejecting you is the least, and your request is met maximum success rate.Therefore, when you need something from others, you need to use praise to create a suitable atmosphere so that your needs can be met to the greatest possible extent.

Liang, a senior engineer of a certain research institute, and his wife have been separated for more than ten years. They spent a lot of money and gave a lot of gifts. For some reason, his wife just couldn’t get transferred. helpless.No, the director of a certain bureau who played a key role in the transfer of his wife has changed again. The new director is Director Liu from another place. Facts and facts, he first learned about a few cases that were helped by Director Liu, and then visited them.

After Liang met Director Liu, he didn't talk about the purpose of his trip at first. He first complimented Director Liu, saying that he has made outstanding political achievements and is a public servant who really does practical things for the people.Director Liu is also very modest, "Where, where, they do have difficulties. Some have been separated for several years, but they can't be transferred together. I just did what I should do." My own problem: "Director Liu, I also have a little matter, I need to trouble you, my wife and I have been separated for more than ten years, and we haven't resolved it, so I didn't plan to look for it. I heard everyone talking about your political achievements, and I admire you in my heart. Please help me." Then Liang introduced his situation, and Director Liu asked him to go back and wait for the letter.

Sure enough, within a few days, a transfer order was obtained, and Liang's family was reunited.

In this case, Liang was asking for something from others, and what he was asking for was the job of Director Liu, who was also famous for doing practical things for the people. Complimenting the chief makes the chief take care of things easily for him.If, like some people, you only know how to complain about yourself, ask others to help you, and arouse their sympathy, this is not enough.Before the topic is developed and the question is raised, the first praise is a good foreshadowing.

In fact, "high hat" is a beautiful lie, which not only pleases others, but also helps oneself.To make people believe and accept it, it is impossible to describe a silly child as a genius; secondly, the "top hat" must also be beautiful and elegant, not vulgar, and spoiling yourself will make others unappetizing; thirdly, it must not be too white Excessive, featureless, and useless.

When asking for help, if you are not familiar with the person you are asking for, don't jump to conclusions.Observe his words, watch his actions, grasp the real situation and then decide what kind of hat to wear.

The famous British writer Conan Doyle generally does not give autographs to others.

Once, he received a letter from Brazil, which said: "I really hope to get a photo signed by you, and then I will put it in my room. In this way, I can not only I saw you, and I firmly believe that if a thief came in, as soon as he saw your photo, he would definitely freak out and run away!"

The second time, on the day Conan Doyle received the letter, he readily sent a photo signed by himself to that person.

It can be seen that the magical effect of "high hat"!When asking for help, you must "wear" the top hat properly. There is a saying: "What kind of fish do you see, what kind of bait to put; of.The best way is not to start with his career, talent and morality, but with his appearance.Because no matter what a person looks like, you can put a high hat on him: when you see a thin person, you can tell him that he is healthy and can eat, drink, run and jump; ; For a person with a big nose, you can say that he has a bile-hanging nose, which means wealth and honor; for a person with a flat nose, you can say that he has a good temper and a gentle temperament; You can say that his pockmarks are three cents expensive; bald, you can say that he is a symbol of a wise man.

When asking someone to do something, you must focus on the small things, do your best in the empty space, pick only good words, choose what you like to do, and try your best to cater to the person you are asking for.As long as you scratch into the heart of the other party, the other party will be able to feel at ease, feel comfortable all over the body, and what you want will become much easier.

"Wearing a high hat" is a strategy that can achieve the goal very well, and it is also a means and skill for survival.If the person doing the work does not have certain financial strength, then he has to work harder on the "high hat" that does not cost money.Wear it well to ensure immediate results.But giving the "high hat" must be given just right. The key is to match what you like, showing a sincere heart and a serious attitude.Otherwise, it will be self-defeating and end up with a counterproductive result.

(End of this chapter)