Thick black school

Chapter 76
Carnegie politely agreed as he said.

However, Reis didn't seem to like wearing a mask, and Carnegie didn't like to see him wearing a mask, so he decided to try his luck.Things went well at first, but it didn't take long for trouble to set in.One afternoon, while they were racing up a hill, they encountered another policeman.

This time, Carnegie did not wait for the police to speak before striking.He said: "Mr. Police Officer, you caught me on the spot. I am guilty. I have no excuses. I have no excuses. Last week, a policeman warned me that if I take the puppy out again and don't wear it The mask is going to punish me."

The policeman replied: "It's easy to say, easy to say, I know that when no one is around, no one can't help but bring such a puppy out to play."

Carnegie replied: "Yes, I can't help it, but it's against the law."

Instead, the police excused him: "A puppy like this probably wouldn't bite anyone."

"No, it might kill a squirrel," Carnegie said.

He told Carnegie: "You probably take things too seriously. Let's do this. You just let it run over the hill to a place where I can't see it, and let it go."

After this incident, Carnegie sighed and thought that the policeman was also an ordinary person, and what he wanted was to feel like an important person, so when he blamed himself, the only way to boost his self-esteem was to Show compassion in an attitude of tolerance.When dealing with this matter, Carnegie adopted the method: not to confront him head-on, to admit that the other party is absolutely right and that he is absolutely wrong, and admit this readily, frankly, and sincerely.This matter was resolved in a harmonious atmosphere.

When a person is likely to be blamed, he might as well scold himself first in a pre-emptive way.However, people's psychology is very special. When the other party finds that you have admitted your mistakes, it is difficult to make more accusations.You start off by saying, "I may be a little reckless in saying this," "I may be making an unreasonable request," or "I'm going too far."At this time, even if what you say really annoys the other party, the other party will not accuse you face to face because of it.If you use it repeatedly, the effect can be strengthened, so that the other party can easily listen to your request and accept your opinion.

In fact, it is exactly like this. When we make a mistake and we need to try to persuade the other party, the best way is to admit it first, so that others will not continue to blame you. Isn't it a better way to find someone to do things than someone arguing that you didn't make a mistake?

Thick Black New Mysteries

It is inevitable for people to make mistakes, and how to deal with mistakes varies from person to person.Some people are competitive, have strong self-esteem, and value their own face very much. Even if they make mistakes, they are unwilling to admit it publicly.But Houheixue believes that this kind of thinking is self-deception, which is counterproductive.On the surface, this kind of people seem to be very thin-skinned, but in fact they are very thick, because they want to whitewash the peace, cover up their mistakes, and evade responsibility.Instead of trying to save face and refuse to admit your mistakes, it is better to admit it with a "thick" skin, which can really show your thin skin.

People have the psychology of sympathizing with the weak. When they see others admitting mistakes, they will always soften their hearts. No matter how cruel and ruthless people are, they will be influenced sometimes.Admitting your mistakes and belittling yourself will elevate others invisibly. When people are elevated by others, they will be more kind and less hostile. At this time, people will often show humility and self-esteem to you. If you are extraordinarily generous, the stalemate in interpersonal communication situations will change accordingly, and seemingly difficult things will be easily resolved.

Well-connected people, easy to do things with the relationship
[Zongwu Mantra] A person with great ability has great strength, and can attract several people around him to form a group. After forming a group, the force will be greater through the combined force, and it will attract outwards. The more attracted, the greater it will be. Its power is all over the world.

When we encounter difficulties in doing things or run into walls everywhere, we often have the idea: "If I can have enough friends, they will definitely do their best to help me handle this matter smoothly." " If I could have something to do with that key person, I wouldn’t have had so many difficulties in doing this.” As the saying goes: A fence has three stakes, and a hero has three gangs.Walking in the society, asking for help to do things, relying on one's own strength, will appear to be alone and difficult to support.

Houheixue believes that it is easy to do things with a relationship, because with a relationship, one can rely on one's life and life, and one has the capital to survive and compete.In today's complex interpersonal society, in order to accomplish one thing, one has to use the intricate network of relationships that are intertwined openly and secretly. People who are not good at building relationships, and are not good at building relationships, can't get things done smoothly. , not to mention difficult things.Only when there is a relationship, can there be human affection, and only when there is human affection can it be easy to talk and difficult things can be done smoothly.If you use the relationship well, you can win the chance. Cultivating one's personal connections is an extremely important "hidden rule" of thick black life.

Su Ping is a wanderer who left his hometown in the early years, now he has a family and a career in a foreign land, and his family life is happy.But the fly in the ointment is that Su Ping has always regretted not returning to his hometown, even if he can meet a few fellow villagers here, the homesickness is evident.

Just at this time, several fellow villagers in the same city felt the need to set up a fellow villager's association. With a fellow villagers' association, they could meet regularly and deepen their relationship. Everyone can take care of them in the future.

As soon as Su Ping received the invitation, he joined without hesitation.He actively planned and contacted fellow villagers, regarded this fellowship as his "home" and became one of the leaders in the "home".

After two years, the hometown association has finally grown to a scale of nearly 500 people, and Su Ping also got to know nearly 500 more people.These villagers come from all walks of life, rich and poor, and they are all inclusive. In Su Ping’s own words: “It’s very convenient for me to do anything now. I just need a phone call or say hello, and my fellow villagers will help me...”

Because Su Ping fully realized the importance of making friends with fellow villagers, he had such a large network of relationships, and it was so convenient to do things.Therefore, it is very important to have a good relationship with fellow villagers. Not only can you make more friends, but more importantly, you will get a lot of help, and maybe you will benefit endlessly throughout your life.

It can be said that Li Lianying, the great eunuch in the last Qing Dynasty, also benefited from interpersonal relationships.

Li Lianying came from a poor background and was small and thin. If he was judged by the standards of eunuchs in the Qing court at that time, he was not qualified at all.But by chance, Li Lianying heard that there was an eunuch in the court who was from his hometown and from the same village.So Li Lianying boldly went to find this fellow.

Li Lianying was very poor at the time and had no money to buy things and give gifts.Although he knew that this villager attached great importance to nostalgia, how to attract the attention of the fellow villager was a problem.

Finally, he came up with a way.One day, he saw that the fellow came out to be on duty before signing up, and then spoke his name and hometown in an authentic dialect of his hometown.Li Lianying's fellow villager couldn't help shaking when he heard this voice, then he raised his head to look at the little fellow villager in front of him, and secretly remembered it.

Later, with the help of this fellow, Li Lianying became the eunuch in the Empress Dowager Cixi's hair-combing room. She won Cixi's favor with her good hairstyle, and finally became a big celebrity in front of the Empress Dowager Cixi.

Li Lianying only said a few words to win the attention and favor of the other party, but it should be noted that these few words were from his hometown dialect and dialect, and the other party happened to be from the same country and lived in a foreign land. Under such circumstances, it is not surprising that Li Lianying won a spot easily.

It can be said that using the native dialect as a greeting ceremony is unique, and it does not require material things.Here, one point is very important: the best occasion to use this method is in a foreign land, because in a foreign land you will feel nostalgic for your hometown, and you will "love your hometown and people". There is no reason to be happy.The longer and farther the other party is away from home, the deeper and deeper the feeling in his heart will be.Therefore, the more this is the case, the more you need to use the technique of accent.If we use the skills proficiently, we will get all the benefits that the fellow villagers bring to us.

Relationship is a life resource, and sometimes relationship determines our whole life.In handling affairs, we make full use of relationships to achieve twice the result with half the effort.

Thick Black New Mysteries

Modern society is a competitive society, like a battlefield without gunpowder.In this invisible battlefield, if you don't have enough interpersonal resources, it will be very difficult for you to succeed.All thick black people are masters of making good use of interpersonal relationships. They think that if they want to realize their dreams and goals in a short life, they must not fight alone. Doing things by yourself, for this reason, you must make friends from all over the world and make sincere friends from all directions. As long as the interpersonal relationships that are beneficial to you, you should use them as much as possible. Make contributions and become famous in the world.

Seek every stitch and pinpoint the key person to do the work
【Zongwu Mantra】 It is well known that you need to drill for an official, but the definition is not easy. Someone said: "The definition of the word tribute is that every hole must be drilled." I said: "This is wrong! I am only half right, Drill only if there are holes, what will you do if there are no holes?" My definition is: "If there are holes, they must be drilled, and if there are no holes, they must be drilled. If there are holes, they must be enlarged. If there are no holes, take out the drill and open a new one. One hole."

There are tens of thousands of roads in the world. Asking people to do things should not be limited to the current conditions, but actively seek opportunities and create conditions.Thick and black people are all-pervasive people, good at taking advantage of loopholes, seeing the needles, in the process of asking for help, it is not necessary to find the person concerned, but to be good at finding other methods, making side-effects, and letting the person be approached without personally showing up. The seeker agrees to your request and achieves the purpose of doing things.

In history, in order to realize their ambitions of becoming famous and getting promoted and making a fortune, some people tried their best to find all kinds of opportunities and recruit people to do things for them.

In China's political arena, the harem is a political force that cannot be underestimated, and the influence of empress Lu, Wu Zetian, Cixi, etc. on court politics cannot be underestimated.It can be said that when the wheel of Chinese history turns forward or backward, whether hidden or obvious, there will always be those women's slender hands, and sometimes they will intervene in court affairs.Therefore, thick and black people with "scheming" will take the "lady route" and target these key figures-"ladies", approaching the target in a detour, getting closer to the target, and getting closer to the relationship between each other; In this way, he was promoted and made a fortune.Therefore, only by doing things with a little "scheming" can things be done satisfactorily.

Yang Guozhong, a famous treacherous prime minister during the Xuanzong period of the Tang Dynasty, was originally a rogue in the market. He gambled wildly every day, fought and fought, and when he had no money, he would steal everywhere or borrow money. At that time, the status of the Yang family was also very low. Yang Guozhong, who was over 30 years old, had nothing to do in his hometown and had a lot of grudges, so he had to travel thousands of miles to join the army. Wandering around, life is very embarrassing.

Yang Guozhong's real name is Yang Zhao, "Guozhong" is the name given to him by Emperor Xuanzong of Tang Dynasty. Yang Guozhong himself thinks that the word "Zhao" is too fierce and has the evil of "golden knife", so he is easy to be suspected, so the emperor who is addicted to womanizing , that is, his cousin-in-law gave him a beautiful name.Yang Guozhong's relationship with this cousin ("Zai Congmei") who had been separated since childhood began with Xianyu Zhongtong, a businessman.The relationship between Yang Guozhong and Yang Taizhen (Yuhuan), who became famous because of her color, was very estranged at first, but when her father died of illness, Yang Guozhong went to help with the funeral. Mrs. Guo had an affair. From this incident, it can be seen that the Yang family sisters are not very virtuous.

Xianyu Zhongtong is a person who is both an official and a businessman. He has a good eye for people. Seeing that Yang Guozhong is very downcast, but he is very shrewd, has a lot of experience, and is full of tricks. Maybe it is to save an extra way for the future. Xianyu Zhongtong took him in. He, and promoted him to Fufeng Wei (county regiment-level officer).At this time, Jiannan Jiedu, Xianyu Zhongtong's boss, had conflicts with Zhang Qiu Jianqiong and Li Linfu, the prime minister of the dynasty. At this time, Yang's younger sister had changed from Xuanzong's daughter-in-law to a noble concubine. Taking the wife's route must be a shortcut, so Yang Guozhong became an important envoy, bringing valuable treasures and special products to the capital to open up relationships.

When he arrived in Chang'an, Yang Guozhong found the Yang sisters very smoothly and presented gifts, especially his former lover and now Mrs. Guo Guo, who had just been widowed. Yang Guozhong immediately filled in the vacancy, and the two soon became like glue.With the help of these two beauties, they quickly gained Xuanzong's favor. Not only did they successfully complete the task, but Zhangchou Jianqiong was promoted to the capital official, became the Minister of the Ministry of Households and the imperial envoy, and he himself became the Jinwu soldier Cao Jun. , became the emperor's close servant, and Yang Guozhong has been on the rise ever since.

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