Thick black school

Chapter 95
As the saying goes, "walls have ears", a word you say unintentionally is likely to be passed on to the ears of other people who pass by you.In the workplace, there are conflicts of interest between people. Mutual suspicion and intrigue are unavoidable. If what you say happens to be heard by someone with whom you disagree, it may be transmitted to others, and even after a period of Adding more oil and vinegar, so what was originally an insignificant sentence became a sarcasm and slander to ridicule and ridicule others.The reason why Sun Li left the company was mainly because she complained about her boss in front of her colleagues, and after the boss heard it, the boss pushed her out everywhere, forcing her to resign and leave.

Although there are different people in the workplace, accidents and troubles sometimes happen because of inadvertent speech, but it doesn't mean that you can't speak in the workplace, as long as you keep your mouth shut, everything will be fine.The key is to have a certain level of art in speaking, to speak in a seamless and flawless manner, and to speak to people's hearts and hearts.The thick black talkers are all proficient in the art of speaking. They "talk to people when they see people, and talk to ghosts." No matter how ugly the words are, they will become a beautiful word that makes people happy.Speaking in the workplace, there are still skills to be found.The following speaking skills and rules can help you avoid the minefield of talking in the workplace, maneuver among colleagues, superiors, and subordinates, and take a good career life.

1.Don't say unreasonable things.Everything should be "reasonable", and it is a taboo in communication to communicate with people without reason.Talking to people in the workplace is unreasonable, how would people want to associate with them?

2.Don't talk about other people's flaws face to face.Talking with people, acting on emotion, talking nonsense, is not acceptable to communicators.If you point out a person's shortcomings in person, for example, if you say to someone, "Your dress is a bit nondescript today!" The other person will definitely be upset when they hear it.

3.Don't say things that pry into privacy.Everyone has a small world that they don't want to be peeped by others. If you try to peep and inquire, it will arouse people's resentment.There was a man who liked to inquire about other people's private affairs, and asked a girl at a time: "I heard that you and your partner had a falling out, didn't you?" red face.

4.Do not speak self-righteously.No matter how capable you are, don't be self-righteous, otherwise you will reduce your status in everyone's hearts.There is an employee who often talks about his abilities in front of people, and when people open their mouths, he picks up the words.As a result, everyone called him "Chang Youli" behind his back. As soon as he appeared, everyone laughed and said, "He knows everything, Chang Youli is here."

5.Avoid vulgar words.Vulgar language is taboo on any occasion.There is a person in a certain company who thinks he is smart. As long as he is in the public, he wants to make everyone laugh and say some ugly words.He can talk about sex for a long time without repeating it.Although everyone laughed while listening, they all expressed their disdain with contemptuous eyes and disrespectful tone.

6.Don't say gossip.In life, the person people are most afraid of is someone who likes to play tricks.And there are some people who don't talk about right and wrong, as if their hearts are uncomfortable and their mouths itch.There is a narrow-minded person who tells A that B speaks ill of him, and then tells B that A thinks he is immoral.A and B were good friends, and deliberately confronted him together.He was tongue-tied, passive and awkward.

7.Don't say too much jokes.A few jokes in life, if decent, not only harmless, but also add a lot of unspeakable fun to life.However, if jokes are taken too far, it can be hurtful and unpleasant.Jokes must be measured, on the premise of not hurting the other party.

8.Don't talk nonsense.When speaking, you must have something to say, even if you are gossiping, you should read the content, so that everyone can be interested, if you keep talking nonsense, it will arouse the disgust of others.

9.Speak slowly.Speaking too fast will not only make it difficult for others to understand your words, but also easily cause semantic misunderstandings and cause misunderstandings between the two parties.Fighting fast with slowness and braking with stillness are a great "trick" to win when talking to people.

10.Talk softly.The essence of Taijiquan is to use softness to overcome rigidity, seemingly soft moves, but can receive miraculous effects that rival the mighty.Similarly, some hard words should not be said forcefully in language expression, but you can "soften" the other party through euphemistic words and a gentle tone. "Hard words and soft words" can smooth the "edges" of language, and it has a miraculous effect in persuasion.

11.Straight talk.There are some things that cannot be said directly in language expression. Not only will the straightforward speaking fail to achieve the expected purpose of speech, but it will affect the relationship between colleagues.Therefore, you might as well make a turn around a certain problem, and express your intention by "speaking directly".

12.Do not export to hurt colleagues.Working with colleagues all day, it is inevitable that some unpleasant things will happen.If you quarrel with your colleagues because of this, you must not arbitrarily hurt your colleagues.Because if you are passionate and say a lot of chilling things, your colleagues will react bitterly, which will create a feeling of hatred towards you.

In short, when interacting with people in the workplace, you must pay attention not to say the above-listed types of words.If you know what not to say, then you can imagine what to say.

Thick Black New Mysteries

As the saying goes, "Sickness enters through the mouth, misfortune comes out from the mouth", "Right and wrong are just for talking more", a careless word can affect the relationship between people as little as it affects the fate of a person.In the workplace, talking is not as simple as you think.Everyone has different personalities and interests, and also has different views on the world and life. The other party may not support your ideas, and the other party may not agree with your opinions. It is possible that colleagues will turn against each other and the boss will be furious.Workplace Thick Heiology tells you that not being able to speak is absolutely impossible in the workplace. If you want to succeed in the workplace, raise your salary and be promoted, you must not only control your mouth, but also have a set of eloquent speech Ability to say good things with a "thick" skin, "black" conscience to lie, observe words and feelings, and follow the wind to make the rudder, so that you can win the initiative in the highly competitive workplace, have both ways, and control your career life.

Thick black and invisible, playing with the workplace circle cover.
[Zongwu Mantra] The third step is "thick but invisible, black and colorless." Someone asked: "How can this kind of knowledge be so profound?" I said: "The Confucian doctrine of the mean should talk about 'no sound and no smell' Only then can it be terminated; those who study Buddhism must learn that 'the Bodhi has no tree, and the mirror is not a stand', and then it will be regarded as the true fruit. What's more, the thick and dark science is a great secret that has not been passed down through the ages. "

As the saying goes, "Things of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups." When there are more people, there are gangs.The employees of a company come from all corners of the country, each with their own thoughts and goals, after a period of communication, people with the same hobbies and similar personalities will naturally come together and form a small circle. That's how gangs were born.Conflicts are unavoidable at work, and entanglements are unavoidable in getting along with people. For their own benefit, some people find ways to win others to help them and attack their enemies. Finally, personal grievances turn into gang fights , Everyone fights openly and secretly with each other and undermines each other.Sometimes, a small office becomes a big arena.The emergence of gangs in the workplace is inevitable. If you can't see this puzzle clearly and gain insight into its mysteries, you will be deeply tired and tortured to the point of exhaustion. When you fall down, you still can't figure out who shot those random arrows of.

Zhao Tianming used to work for a well-known company in China. The reason why he was dismissed by the unit was because he waded through muddy water in a daze.

At that time, he was the deputy manager of the administrative management department. In order to strengthen the administrative management of the unit, he suggested that the head office should have a vice president of administration.The boss recruited back a vice president who had worked in the company, but made it very funny in terms of the organizational structure setting, letting him take charge of the administrative management department, in fact, it was equivalent to finding a stepmother for the administrative management department.The vice president used to have a relatively glorious history in the company, but he was dismissed due to a joint mutiny with the other three vice presidents. Now he comes back to do administration, and there is a lot of resistance.His method of handling is extreme, expanding the functions of the administrative management department infinitely, requiring the administrative management department to formulate plans and arrange work for each department, and treat other departments as purely executive departments.In fact, he just wanted to use the Administration Department as a tool to establish his prestige and status.The administration department was under such tremendous pressure. Zhao Tianming, a manager with a master’s degree, lost his hair in handfuls. Even the driver teased him: “If you are a manager for another half a year, you probably won’t need to shave your head if you become a monk.”

Therefore, Zhao Tianming argued with the deputy general manager of administration, saying that this would not work and did not conform to the principles of management.After coming down several times, the vice president was very annoyed.The work assigned to the administration department had no results, so he blamed Zhao Tianming for these problems, and the relationship between the superior and the subordinate became very tense.At this moment, the vice president in charge of business approached Zhao Tianming, hoping that he would be in charge of a furniture business unit.Running a business has always been a job that Zhao Tianming wanted to try, so he agreed, but Zhao Tianming made a big taboo.Since the vice president of administration wants to intervene in the scope of power of the vice president of management through the administration, they have become enemies, so the vice president of administration thinks that this is a means for the vice president of operation to draw salary from the bottom of the pot. Annoyed, he insisted on his dismissal.

In order to ease the conflict between them, the boss successively sent unit consultants and the director of the general manager's office to clear up the work, but the vice president of administration was determined not to compromise and forced Zhao Tianming to leave.However, Zhao Tianming insisted on waiting for the boss to come back to defend himself.He talked a lot, but the boss kept silent. Finally, he asked Zhao Tianming, who do you think is better than the vice president?Zhao Tianming replied honestly that in terms of administrative management knowledge, the vice president is not as good as himself, but he has rich experience and has a certain level of comprehensive management.As a student who just walked out of the university campus, I am indeed not as good as him.As a result, the boss pushed the boat along the way and said, then there is nothing to say.In this way, Zhao Tianming was forced to resign.

Why was Zhao Tianming run away because he violated the order of the executive vice president?Not only for this reason.More importantly, he joined the camp of the vice president of operations who was the enemy of the vice president of administration, and became a victim of the internal power struggle.Who is to blame?Newcomers who have just entered the company must recognize the situation and never get involved in the whirlpool of right and wrong.

After graduating from university, Xu Jia joined a foreign company as a personnel assistant. Because this company has good salary and benefits and good room for development, Xu Jia made everyone envious.Three years after entering the unit, Xu Jia has become the company's recruiter, and has become good friends with Wu Lili, the human resource manager who has returned from studying abroad, which makes the colleagues very puzzled.Although the two of them are not often together in the work unit, Wu Lili sometimes informs Xu Jia when she is off work: Wait for me to leave, I still have something to deal with, it takes about 10 minutes.In fact, only the two of them know the secret behind it.

It turns out that Xu Jia's best friend in college is Wu Lili's high school classmate and best friend.It turned out that the two people who were nodding acquaintances in the company discovered that they were subordinates of the same company after a best friend's birthday party.Because there is a good friend that everyone has in common, through the intermediary, I learned that both parties are relatively easy to get along with, so Xu Jia and Wu Lili have also become good friends, and with best friends, they often go out in threes.Although on the surface it is just a simple exchange between female friends, Xu Jia believes that this friendship will bring her good luck.And it is.

There is a vacancy for the position of personnel supervisor in other city branches. The Chinese head office decided to transfer the existing personnel specialist to take up the post, and then transfer back to the head office after three years.The appointment of this curve promotion made the personnel specialists of each module of the company eager to move, hoping that they could get this opportunity.In the end, this opportunity fell into Xu Jia's pocket.Everyone knows that Wu Lili helped in the back, but Xu Jia's personal ability is obvious to all in the unit, so there is no way.Wu Lili said to Xu Jia in private: "There are two other people who are as capable as you, but under the same conditions, I will definitely recommend you."

But there were joys and sorrows. In the next year, Wu Lili switched to another company because of the complicated personnel struggle in the unit.Xu Jia was isolated because the new leader tabooed that she was a confidant of the old leader.

Gang fighting is an eternal topic of office politics.What is frustrating is that sometimes it is not your subjective desire to decide whether to participate in office gangs.Suppose you did not take the initiative to participate in gang fights as you said, but you were drawn into this new company by him as the love of your boss. This alone is enough for everyone to think that your existence itself is Evidence of involvement in gang fighting.Some may even firmly believe that you are one of the core members of your gang.

It is said that following the right person is an important prerequisite for benefiting from gang struggles.What makes you feel embarrassed is that as long as you continue to work in this company, you actually have no right to choose a gang from the beginning to the end.The cruel truth of this matter is: on the one hand, no matter whether your boss is in power or not, even if you take the initiative to seek refuge with the other party, it is impossible to gain complete trust and a stable position there.From the perspective of the logic of struggle, the other party may temporarily take advantage of you, and it is impossible for them to truly regard you as their own; It will make you a mercenary and treacherous villain.

Of course, there are exceptions to this.If you are a core technical talent, and your professional skills and personal advantages are difficult to be replaced by others, and you are just immersed in your own work and not keen on political struggles, such a person is really divided will strive for the object.No matter whose dynasty it is, such talents will have a foothold.

In any case, even if he is a lofty person, the environment of office politics itself is doomed that his loftiness can only be limited.A person who completely disdains belonging to any gang is very likely to be the first to be thrown out as a scapegoat by the leaders of the two factions in a workplace struggle.

So how do you navigate the gang wars and protect yourself from being a victim of this office politics?Here are some effective strategies and methods for you.

1. Observe calmly first.When you arrive at a new company, first of all, you have to observe more patiently, ask others for advice and questions, to understand whether the company culture supports the existence of small circles, and try to sort out the context of political factions in the office.In the early days, it is wise to be friendly to all circles, but not to take sides right away.At the beginning, you should communicate more with people from all sides, and take the initiative to interact with people from different departments.

2. Consider the nature of the circle.Whether to join the circle, you have to consider the nature of these circles around you.Generally speaking, small office circles can be divided into two categories: one is friendship circles.Small circles formed among colleagues out of similar interests, such as food circles, sports circles, movie circles, etc. The formation of these friendship circles will allow you to build deep interpersonal relationships in the workplace and make you happier at work.The other category is interest circles, which are formed mainly for their own interests.In such a circle, there is less interpersonal and emotional communication, and more is the maintenance and operation of power.If you join such a circle, you will easily get involved in the political struggle in the office, of course you must not be careless!
3. Keep an appropriate distance from others.When interacting with people in your circle, you must be cautious. Too hot or too distant is not an appropriate distance. Neither far nor close, neither close nor close, is the safest distance, so that if something goes wrong, you can also avoid being hurt. If you are tired, if you have difficulties, you can also use the hands of insiders to help solve them.

4. Don't get involved in the whirlpool of right and wrong.Try not to get involved in gang fights, once you do, you can easily get out and end up a victim of office politics.But not being involved doesn't mean always avoiding conflicts, always hiding like a turtle, maybe for a while, but not for a lifetime.Learn to use a mature, rational approach so you can help yourself be invincible in the company's "power struggle."

Thick Black New Mysteries

Office politics is a monster that everyone hates, but everyone can't avoid. It is a kind of tragic struggle without bloody violence.The formation of gangs in a company does not happen overnight, and the infighting between them is even more confusing.The more incompetent people are, the more they need to stir up small circles in the office, so that their incompetence can be protected by "friends". When they do something wrong, there are always "friends" who will help relatives and help them, so that they can cover up their flaws.Escaping is not an option. You are in the workplace and cannot control all of this. You can only think about how to deal with it.If you want to avoid being a victim of office politics, it's a good idea to choose who you are at the company and invest in the right people so you can find someone to help you if something happens.If you only focus on the things in front of you, don't listen to the things around you, bury your head in your work, and be alone, you may be surrounded by all sides when you encounter problems. By then, it may be too late to find someone to help you.

However, it should be noted that what you are doing is only on the premise of self-protection. You should grasp the degree of "forming cliques" with others. Don't go too far. Forming cliques will only cause others to have antagonism towards you. , There is a hundred harms but no benefit.

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