Thick black school

Chapter 97
The active pursuit attitude of the husband after marriage can be reflected in many ways, such as often taking the initiative to care for his wife, listening to and understanding her feelings, often sending flowers or some small gifts to show his concern, etc.One of them is very important, that is, don't forget to often say sweet words to your wife.

Sweet talk is very important to maintaining a happy relationship, not only during the relationship stage, but even more so after marriage.The reason why many marriages lose their passion quickly has a lot to do with the lack of sweet talk.

Thick Black New Mysteries

Love is coffee with sugar.Whether it is a couple in love or a married man and woman, if you face me and I face you all day long with two faces, and there are few words between each other, and the speech is monotonous and lacks humor, it is very frustrating. People who are depressed and distressed not only have no interest in life and lack of romance, but also make the relationship between the two weaken, cracks appear in the relationship, and there is a danger of breaking down.The thick black school of love field believes that sweet talk is an important means to deepen the relationship between the two parties and strengthen the marriage. "Even your shortcomings are beautiful in my eyes." This seems to be the most artistic sweet talk in the world. At the feast of love, women always prefer to drink the wine of "sweet talk" and get drunk Get drunk before leaving.

People who are drunk by the wine of "sweet talk" are often difficult to wake up.

If you love someone, tell him or her boldly.
【Zongwu Mantra】God was born with a face, and thickness is in it; a heart, and blackness is in it... There is no fame and wealth, palace wives, clothes, horses and horses in the world of mortals. From this mere place, the wonder of creation and human beings is really inconceivable.

In love life, we can often see that some young people have a good impression of a partner of the opposite sex beside them, every word and deed of the other party can arouse their own pleasure, and their hearts are full of sincere love for the other party.But due to face or other reasons, I never confessed.As time went by, this kind of feeling increased day by day, but it was suppressed in my heart, causing me a lot of distress.This is what people usually refer to as "unrequited love" or "unrequited love".

Unrequited love refers to a deformed love characterized by one party's wishful admiration and love for the other party.Unrequited love people often experience emotional pain, because they cannot normally confide tenderness to the opposite sex they love, let alone feel the warmth of love from the other party.Generally speaking, among the people with unrequited love psychology, most of them are women. Due to their physical and psychological characteristics, as well as the influence of traditional moral concepts, most girls do not like to reveal their feelings, and their self-esteem is generally low. Relatively strong, fear of rejection is also a major reason.

Lili is a sophomore girl. Recently, she is very troubled because she finds that she has secretly fallen in love with the monitor of her class.The squad leader is very handsome and has good academic performance, so he is very popular with everyone.Once the class organized a trip to climb a mountain. The class leader was very diligent and kept helping the weak girls.On a hillside, he grabbed a small tree and pulled the girls up one by one.When Lili's hand touched the monitor's hand, she immediately had a strange feeling in her heart, and she developed a good impression of him from then on.Although he didn't only help Lili that time.

Since then, Lili has been looking forward to seeing the monitor, hearing his voice, and seeing his smile. Sometimes she gets distracted because of this, and her mind is always distracted in class, and she often thinks of the feeling of him holding her hand.But the squad leader didn't notice it at all, he was still so hearty.Sometimes seeing him get along so well with the female students in the class, Lili felt very inferior, but it was too painful to be unrequitedly in love with someone alone, and she dared not tell others.

Secret love is an unspeakable bitterness, and what it makes people lose is probably the happiness of a lifetime.Generally speaking, people who are in a crush will behave as follows:
The heart moves with him (her): infatuation, fascination with the object of love.He poured most of his emotions and attention, willing to do everything for the person he likes, and his every move directly affects all your joys and pains.

Hiding but not revealing: unwilling to tell anyone, keeping this concern of mine as a major secret in my heart, but what I experience is unprecedented pain and happiness.

Be at a loss: You obviously have a strong crush, but you don't dare to touch it boldly, let alone confess it, and you don't know what to do.

If you have something to look forward to: longing to see each other, longing for you strongly, and eagerly looking forward to the other person's "expression" to you, even if it is a look or a smile; although this look and smile are no different from those to other people, they are enough Make your heart go wild.

We all know that falling in love is a two-way process, so when it appears in the one-way form of unrequited love, it has actually declared the failure of love.However, people have feelings, and sometimes they know that there is no hope but they can't extricate themselves.In real life, we often see many young women committing "unrequited love" problems due to improper handling of emotions. At the least, they are in bad mood and lack of energy, and in severe cases, they are mentally disturbed and headed to a dead end.

There are many reasons for "unrequited love".First, expectations about your love life are an important factor.Secondly, the fluke psychology of hoping that the other party will fall in love with oneself also encourages the reproduction of unrequited love.Again, narrow-mindedness and fixed mindset have also become the natural soil of unrequited love.

There is an important and indispensable premise for the emergence and development of love: it is mutual.It is often said that love is the spark of two hearts colliding with each other, rather than one heart beating another heart. If you are only wishful thinking, then this is not love, but just your infatuation for the opposite sex That's all.

If you love him (her), you have to say it.On the road of love, there is no dignity and face. If you love him (her), you must speak up bravely, otherwise, what you miss will be a lifetime of happiness.

There is such a girl, she is very ordinary, like a tiny pebble dropped in the lake, causing no ripples in the crowd.But she also has her self-confidence, her style.

When she was a freshman, she began to like the president of the student union in the courtyard, but she felt that she was too inferior, not as good as him, but she was not willing to give up a boy she liked just like this.So, she tried to find a way to get close to him.

The opportunity came. Once she saw a poster in the school newspaper. The Chinese department where the boy was studying wanted to organize a seminar on life, and she hoped that students from all departments would actively participate and express their opinions.The girl inquired about the boy's point of view through a classmate, then collected various materials, and prepared an article that was diametrically opposed to his point of view, intending to make an acquaintance.

The facts were exactly as she expected. At the discussion meeting, the girl's views were logical, well-quoted, and freely swayed, which won the applause of the hall and the boy's favor.So the two met.In the days to come, the beautiful campus left two people with endless ideological confrontation, they talked about ideals and ambitions.Later, at a seemingly casual moment, the girl told the boy how she felt about him, and the boy returned her a warm hug after listening.In this way, they started their love journey, and finally walked into the palace of marriage. Now the two of them live happily.

Recalling, the girl was very glad that she had spoken out about her secret love, otherwise it would be a lifetime of regret.

There are many women who always keep the good things at the bottom of their hearts. They are afraid that the impetuousness of the world will break the silence in their hearts, that the floating emotions will make their hearts fall to the bottom, and that they will become "nowhere to rely on when they are close". ", so I fell in love with the feeling of being secretly in love, and fell in love with the flower in my heart that bloomed for myself.However, what is left can only be regrets. In a short life, too many regrets will make you feel very heavy.Therefore, the thick black "Love Sutra" pointed out that when the time is right, let's say love!Don't be ashamed to say love, because you can't sit and wait for happiness.

How to get out of the siege of secret love, get rid of the troubles of secret love, and express your heart to the opposite sex you like?Here are a few tips to help you out:
1.If you don't know each other, get in touch with his (her) circle of friends and create opportunities for chance encounters.

2.If you are friends who know each other, you can talk more ambiguously, such as "What should I do if I am old and can't get married?" You can also go on a trip together...Give him hints, let him understand your intentions, and you And don't say it directly.

3.Use your friends to help you.It is best to be a boy, because boys are generally more reliable in doing things, and they will not betray you.

4.If you like him (her), don't hurt him (her) all the time, deliberately embarrass him (her), don't think that this can attract his (her) attention.This set is no longer popular.Move him (her) to be closer to him.

If you love him (her), just say it boldly, even if you get rejected, at least it is a result, otherwise you will only live in a virtual emotional world constructed by yourself, and you will never see the sunshine of true love.

If you have made a lot of efforts, but the other party is still indifferent and ignores you, it means that he (she) really does not like you and will not promise you love.Then, you should give up your pursuit in time, find another goal if you have no hope, and believe that "there is no grass anywhere in the world".

Thick Black New Mysteries

Love is not a evasive and hidden secret love, but a frank and open emotional exchange and communication.If you don’t tell him or her what you think in your heart, the other party will never know that you are in love with him or her. Then, you may miss the love of your life, leave a lifetime of regrets, and bring the secrets in your heart into the world. .

If you love someone, but you are not sure whether the other person has a good impression of you, you feel that if you confess to the other person easily, you may be rejected, so you feel embarrassed and humiliated.In the view of the thick black "Love Scripture", this kind of thinking is wrong and naive.On the road of love, there is no humiliation and dignity, no face or no face, no self-respect.If you don't express your feelings to the person you love, how can the other person know that you are in love with him (her)?If the other party is not as hard-hearted as you think, then wouldn't you miss the marriage?If the other party may also have a crush on you, then wouldn't you miss the love of your life?Whether it is a boy or a girl, they don't like the opposite sex who keeps their thoughts in their hearts.If you have the courage to express your heart to the other party, the other party may not have a good impression of you, but may be moved by you.Love Field Houheixue pointed out that for the sake of love, boldly confess to the other party!
Master psychological manipulation and conquer the opponent psychologically
[Zongwu Mantra] During the Three Kingdoms period, Ma Di said: "The way to use soldiers is to attack the mind first, and attack the city as the bottom; the heart battle is the top, and the military battle is the bottom." This is psychological warfare.

Isakovsky said: Love is not one heart beating another heart, but the sparks of two hearts colliding together.

People's emotions are usually hidden deep in their hearts and are not easily revealed, especially when facing the topic of the gender world, it is more obvious.In marriage and love, both men and women mainly complete emotional communication and running-in through psychological perception and collision, and finally decide whether to accept and fall in love with each other.Therefore, the thick black theory of love field advocates to use this feature to observe the other party's psychology, and launch a psychological offensive according to the other party's psychology, so as to adopt a more accurate way to please the other party, win the other party's favor, and win the love war more quickly.

Love is a psychological war. A person is only half of a whole, and he spends his whole life looking for his other half.How to find the other half of your life?This is about mastering the psychology of the other party.In the process of pursuing love and looking for a couple, some thick-skinned and courageous men can always take advantage, but this alone is not enough. You must also understand women's minds and use some tricks to win the other party's heart .Whoever can read the other person's psychology can control love.

It is often said that "a woman's heart is a needle under the sea", a woman's mind is delicate and rich, and it is volatile, and the mind of a young woman is the most difficult to guess.Compared with women, men are more open-minded and approachable.However, a common saying that "a man does not cry when he has tears" shows that men also know how to be deep, and a man also has "unspeakable" thoughts, and his heart is also complicated and changeable.

Due to social, historical, physiological and other reasons, in the communication between men and women, men always play the role of active pursuit, while women are in a passive position and become the target of hunting.The psychology of men and women shows their differences in many aspects, and they have their own unique internal characteristics and laws. Mastering these characteristics and laws can help you better understand each other's personality, temperament, knowledge and cultivation, Interests, hobbies, attitudes, and ways of dealing with the world, etc., are different from person to person in the process of communicating with the opposite sex, falling in love, and proposing marriage. Treat them differently, and you can find your ideal partner in your mind.

So, what are the different psychological performances of men and women in communication and love?Love is a special stage in the relationship between a woman and a man. This kind of communication has a special stage significance for a woman's life. Therefore, when a woman is in love, her psychology becomes unpredictable and difficult to guess.

1. True and false negation.The way women express their desires in love is generally more subtle and euphemistic, and sometimes it is reversed.When she said "no", her heart was often "good and willing".For example, when you ask your girlfriend to go to the movies, but the boyfriend wants to buy tickets, but the girlfriend says no, the boyfriend will not go, and waits for the girlfriend to buy, then the movie will definitely not be successful.

This kind of strange psychology of women is actually a kind of self-protection strategy, of course, sometimes it is also the expression of women's true heart.Therefore, men should master this strange psychology of women in love, and in the actual process, carefully consider and truly comprehend, so that love can be successful.

2. Inexplicable jealousy.Women are very sensitive to people or things around them, especially in love, she will constantly compare herself with others, always worrying in her mind that her value will not be recognized by the other party, so she will be jealous, and sometimes make herself Can't be freed.

Jealousy will be harmful. It will not only harm others, but also affect your own physical and mental health, so I advise all women to be less jealous.

3. The confusing "sadism".Women in love have a sadistic subconscious.For example, when dating a lover, they will deliberately be late or miss the appointment, making the long-awaited lover anxious, irritable, doubtful, worried, and even suffering, in order to get the happiness of her boyfriend's suffering for her.In love, this kind of slight occasional "sadism" is also an indispensable "condiment", but frequent excessive sadism is a kind of perverted psychology, which is absolutely undesirable.

4. The puzzling "consumption".When in love, in order to satisfy their vanity, they will change their past frugal living habits and spend a lot of money. The psychology is to show how much their boyfriend loves them.In addition, when you are broken up, you will also wantonly "consume", such as buying things that you don't need to buy, high-end fashion or high-end food, etc. The purpose is to vent your inner pain and troubles, and increase consumption as a way to vent your inner depression. method, so as to obtain psychological compensation.

5. False "empathy".When women are in love, they often hope that their boyfriends will have intimate words and gentle manners.They like to hear their boyfriends say sweet words like "honey" and "I love you".However, it is difficult for men to understand this.Because, generally speaking, such words are not easy for them to blurt out.Because of this, women will consciously try to make friends with other men in front of their boyfriends, try to arouse their jealousy, or test the sincerity of their boyfriends, with the purpose of making them love themselves more sincerely.

When men are in love, they often have strong emotional characteristics.Psychologist Hall once vividly compared a man's emotions to "storms and raging waves".A closer analysis shows that a man's love psychology has the following characteristics:
1. Intensity.This is the difference between men and women.Men's emotions are often exposed, it is like a leather tube with two ends open, how much goes in and how much comes out, there is no accumulation of emotions.When men have grievances and pain, they tend to vent at any time, unlike women who develop into grief.When a man sees a woman he admires, he will quickly reach the level of violence at first sight.

2. Richness.Men's emotions are very rich in the stage of love, sympathy, pity, melancholy, guilt, all are very clear, and will be smoldering in the heart, but the emotional expression is often intermittent and performative, so there is introversion and introversion. Features of extroverted coexistence.This has something to do with the intensity of the man's emotions.If you are not good at controlling your emotions, you will look extroverted, but if your emotions are delicate, you will look introverted if your emotions are smoldering in your heart.It can be seen that men are not only rich in emotion, but also rich in emotional expression.

3. Volatility.Another difference in mood between men and women is volatility.This instability is manifested in the fact that men tend to develop from one extreme to the other. When things develop according to their wishes, they will be elated or even ecstatic, and when setbacks appear unexpectedly, they will panic or be discouraged.This feature sometimes leads to great mistakes. If the concept of the legal system is not strong and the negative emotions expand to a certain extent, it will often lead to big mistakes.

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