Self-control: How to take control of your time and life?

Chapter 29: Discover Your Life Mission (1)
see my future self

This is a "mission of life" lesson to meet your future self.In this class, you will discover the meaning of your own existence, and you will never feel lost because of losing your direction.Finding your "sense of mission" in life is to build beliefs, establish values, and use willpower to release your potential. This is the last step in our self-control course and the ultimate tool for solving self-control problems taught in this book .

Now, please take out a pen and paper and draw an image according to the description below.If you find yourself drawn at the end of this image - you can't help being excited and excited when you first see it, then please don't have any hesitation about it, you were born for it Yes, it represents what you can achieve in the future, and what you are showing to people now.

According to my prompts, Elam from Atlanta carefully completed the form in 50 minutes, drawing a "mind and mind picture" for himself.These 10 parts represent the future of different fields. The 10 existing characteristics are combined to form a complete human body (life dynamic trend chart), which shows a person's dynamic characteristics and personality, and they determine the future. how are you.

"What? This turned out to be me?" He said in surprise, "When I saw the conclusion, I didn't know what to say. It was like staying at the bottom of a dark well for decades, and suddenly came to the light and saw a mirror. This person is actually me? I used to forget my dreams, give up my struggle, and lost myself in the dark night. Now I see my own dawn. I suddenly realized that my home still has a bright light for me .”

Elam is an ordinary employee of the Federal Express Company (FDX). He believes that no one in this world has a more miserable life than him.Six years ago, he joined this company and drove to pick up and deliver goods every day; six years later, his world still lives in the car. "What is my ideal?" He said, "I don't know when, I have forgotten it. When I was in college, my goal was to create a listed company. Like Gates, if he can succeed, why can't I But in the past few years, the boring work has made me feel more and more that life is extremely boring. I am just running around for some money to support my family, and I will never regain the passion of the past.” “Now, you Do you still believe in yourself?"

Elam said excitedly: "Yes, I have rediscovered my true self! Maybe I should reconsider my life plan."

There are many people like Elam. I don't know when, they no longer believe in themselves, and they can't see the future.After attending my classes, they rediscovered the strength to believe.Our tests and courses made them suddenly realize that their future is not as dark as the reality reflects - as long as they awaken the positive force, there is still a chance in the future!
The question is, are you willing to face your future head-on?We've all seen the future at one point or another, but we didn't realize it at the time.What I want to say is - all of us will suddenly travel to a certain day in the future at a certain moment.

In the hypnosis course, someone told me that after he entered the dream, he began to travel to the future several years later, and then found that the person lying next to him was not the person he was loving now, but another strange woman.After waking up, his mood was quite hit.

He said: "This overturned my design for the future. Before I came to the training center yesterday, I was still thinking about my married life with my girlfriend, planning a honeymoon trip to Manhattan, showing her the business center there, because I dreamed of being there Opening a financial services organization. But now I have to wonder, was it worth all the effort?"

Someone finds out that instead of being the bar owner he planned to be, he's quietly washing dishes in a restaurant.His good expectations for the future stagnated immediately, but he did not appear pessimistic like the person above, but happily believed that he had the opportunity to reflect before the cruel facts came, correct the shortcomings in his current life, and reverse his life. future trends.

He said: "It seems that there is still hope for my future, because I finally know that people can't just live by fantasy, they must take practical actions. For example, I was too lazy in the past, and I didn't take the time to conduct research at all. The bar doesn't know a thing, but daydreams all day long! If it goes on like this, the consequences will be terrible!"

Someone also confided that he saw in a dream that he was killed one day in the future and the body was thrown in the woods. That moment represented the end of his life.What shocked him even more was that at his funeral, people who he thought were very important in his life did not attend his funeral at all, and some people who had a good relationship with him talked about their shortcomings after his death, Show a look of gloating.

"I was blinded by reality and without this journey, I would have lost my future," he said.

What is even more unsettling is that when you recover from that moment and return to reality, the phone suddenly rings, and what you hear is a shocking message: "Hi, you are Mr. Is it?" She is the woman lying next to you in the future, you met at a coffee shop; "Hey, Mr. So-and-so, I read about you in the media, and I want to invite you to my farm. "When you met him, you found out that he was the one who killed you in the future.

What we want to discuss is, how do you face this time?These scenes of the future pose a serious question to us: If you see your own future, do you still have the courage to continue living?Will you still marry her?Will you continue to write popular stories in the media?
They help us to formulate at least two propositions of practical significance:

Can the future be seen?The answer is: yes.As long as you have a clear understanding of your current situation and are willing to accept the truth, just like our test works.

Can the future be changed?The answer is: yes.As long as you look at what you are doing today from the correct angle——examination and reflection, find problems from it, and correct wrong habits and understandings, you can go back to the track of good self-control.

Mr. Watanabe from Tokyo took part in two tests in Los Angeles and came to diametrically opposite conclusions.He used to be an employee of an insurance company, and the test results at that time were very good. Later, he became a reporter for "Chaoyang News", and the test results were not so optimistic.What caused this uncanny contrast?
When Watanabe-kun was a street insurance salesman, he was under tremendous pressure.He hated the job to the point of having nightmares every night.Therefore, when taking the test, he has a strong motivation to change, which makes him try his best to discover and tap his own advantages, which makes his test form look so good-almost every item is full of positive factors .

He used this power to be aggressive later in life, and managed to get a new job that satisfied him—in a way, he found and realized his future.But at this time, Mr. Watanabe said: "I lost motivation like the dust settled. I became lazy and lost the desire to change and improve my work. I was often late and missed reports on major domestic events. I suffered from Procrastination, emotional numbness, and lack of sensitivity to the news.” In the second test, all he saw were these shortcomings—these represent his future, if he continues his current state, in the future he will Definitely will lose the job.

Just like what he saw in the hypnotic dream: he became a low-income community worker, in order to pay off the bank loan, the house was sold, his wife filed for divorce, and even relatives and friends treated him coldly. A happy future is lost.

While you expect to establish a sense of mission for your life, you must learn from Watanabe-kun's lessons.The future is dynamic, although it has not yet become a reality.But it has endless possibilities. You can turn it into a picture scroll full of spring by actively fighting for it, or you can lose it again with a lazy and indifferent attitude, making it a messy and inferior book. do.Everything is up to you.

"This is what I'm going to do!"

For you, the biggest subject is to find yourself, discover what you like and what you want to do.Despite establishing such principles, many people still cannot find a good way to establish a mission.Even if they find something important, they don't know how to do it.

Everyone knows the importance of finding what you really like to do, but people's ideas can change at any time, and "what you really like to do" will inevitably change.For example, today you aspire to become the founder of a fine-dining restaurant in the future, and tomorrow your thoughts may become: "I want to join Microsoft because I really like developing programs."

Even if some people know that it is difficult to achieve ideal results in the current situation-he has made too many mistakes and exposed enough shortcomings to kill him, but he still refuses to change, the reason depends on the cost.It includes opportunity cost, as well as the cost of time, energy, and wisdom that you have already invested in a thing.Out of cost considerations, he will refuse to take risks, and even if he finds the job he most wants to do, it is difficult for him to take practical action.

This is a game of two choices: a brand new path full of uncertainty (risk); and a path that is currently unsatisfactory but has invested a lot.He finally endured in silence and kept going.

Why do you have to find something you like to do in order to discover your life mission?If you always choose what you do out of practicality, you will see yourself in a "mood is so bad" cycle: no matter whether you work hard or slack, your mood will turn bad instead of positive. direction change.

For example, if you work for a company, to put it bluntly, you are being exploited.What's worse, this job is something you hate and doesn't fit your dreams at all.At work, the boss considers the company's profit as the starting point, and the wages can be kept as low as possible, but there are more and more jobs.In this case, your choice is a dilemma: if you work hard, your boss's plan will be fulfilled; if you don't work hard, your income will drop.You can't find joy, and the result of trying to fit in is to become numb, a soulless working machine.

Warren told me that he has been fed up lately because he has discovered that the essence of his life is just being a boss to make money. "This kind of life is boring. There is no future and no sense of accomplishment. I really want to break through the window and jump out of the company's 50th-floor office. When I die, I want my boss to make scandal headlines."

People like Warren are pretty much everywhere.Not only are they very troubled, but they also have to deal with endless and trivial utilitarian interpersonal relationships every day, and all kinds of pain will inevitably follow.Struggling to get up every day, squeezing the bus, enduring the pressure of work, enduring other people's eyes, cynicism, and being scolded by the boss. Finally, I have some work results, but I can't get a corresponding and reasonable return. I have been engaged in one kind of work for a long time. Got an occupational disease.

At this time, if what you are doing is not something you like and can show interest and enthusiasm, do you think: "What am I doing for this?" There is no sense of accomplishment and the existence of a mission , just to survive, and then to live better.As a result, life gets bogged down and self-control problems intensify.First, you lose control of your emotions. You often lose your temper and look for scapegoats (wife or children) everywhere. Finally, you become numb and depressed, your ideals are wiped out, and you completely accept reality.

What you do must have seven characteristics (they should be unmistakable and pleasurable) in order to be called "like things" and bring you happiness and satisfaction.

What are the things we like and do?
Heart

Our hearts feel happy for this, it is a spiritual enjoyment.

brain

There is no need to be particularly urged, and there is endless motivation to think about it.

nose

A keen sense of smell can judge opportunities at the first time.

eye

Timely discovery ability shows that you are talented in this area.

Hand

Willing to make full preparations for it, never tired of it.

foot

Strong in action, and very good at it.

mouth

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