Self-control: How to take control of your time and life?

Chapter 31 How long has it been without a sense of accomplishment (1)
Effective change always starts small

No matter which industry or position you will be in in the future, you can do what you want. It is up to you to make important life decisions, but I welcome you to attend my courses.The last lesson is of great help to your growth. It will help you find the meaning of life, just like installing the most intelligent program for your beloved car and enjoying the highest driving pleasure.Because usually no one tells you how you should think.

When you learn how to think, you know how to make change, especially effective change.Ritter, who walked out of my training center, has helped millions of people in dozens of countries to succeed like an angel.He graduated from our first class, and now he has seriously discovered his sense of accomplishment in life, and he often trains tens of thousands of people.He set up his own "Ritter Agency" in a small town in California to provide helpful advice to people who have lost their meaning in life and don't know how to change.The President of the United States invited him to the White House twice for training, and "Time" magazine used an entire page to introduce him.

Rhett is a happy angel. He brought his love to countless people and promoted our courses to many cities around the world. "Helping many people succeed is because I know that negativity can never change the problem, it can only destroy yourself." Reiter said when sharing with our students, "Don't think that I am so happy by nature, don't think that, I was born without pain. I am so happy now because I managed to find a way to change, and that started with learning to take off my shoes."

People were surprised by this: "Oh? Take off your shoes?" No one thought that the method would be like this, but, Ritter said: "I used to throw my leather shoes all over the floor, just take them off casually. Went to bed, so I ushered in the same very casual second day, third day... always so casual. Yes, until one day, I carefully arranged my leather shoes before going to bed, and the next day I got out of bed with a completely different mood, I was in great shape that day, the weather was the same as yesterday, but I found the sun was shining and I felt so energized!"

This is the first method taught to you in Lesson 18. Observe how people take off their shoes when they go to bed, and you can judge his state the next day, and you can also predict how self-control this person is—no matter No matter how many times you try, or how many accidents you have, I will tell you with confidence: the accuracy rate of this method exceeds 90%!

The success of a person's life is the process of chasing one's dreams, and it is also a process of making dreams come true. However, in the process of pursuing dreams, people often enter a dark tunnel, just like those who are out of control. No one can avoid it. .At this time, we will see a piece of darkness, but please look carefully, you will see a bright light at the end of the tunnel, and you must persist in walking towards it.Reiter said: "We must go hard, go hard, and then we will see a bright light. In this process, the most important thing is to control negative and pessimistic emotions and increase self-control. We must have the courage to change. Only then can you experience the sense of accomplishment of going through the tunnel and be proud of your efforts."

Change is painful, but change is necessary.

Only change your shortcomings - they are the fundamentals of your life; only change your bad habits - they are the direction of your life; only your old ways of thinking - they determine your inner strength and affect you behavior.

When these three changes happen at the same time, your living conditions will change from poverty to wealth, from pessimism to optimism, from negativity to positivity, and from out of control to order.Only in this way will your living situation improve and you have a chance to succeed in life.

Student Mike said: "I understand this truth, but I want to get good results as soon as possible, and there is not enough time for me."

I told him: "Give up your current quick success mentality, this is the first change you need to make."

A little progress every day is the beginning of effective change.You have to learn to take a small step forward every day. If you can control an anger today, you can correct the problem of procrastination tomorrow, and you can improve your behavior on more important things the day after tomorrow.

It's that simple!The change of people's destiny and the change of people's wealth cannot be completed overnight.It is a gradual process and cannot be accomplished overnight.You don't compare yourself to anyone, but to your own yesterday.

In this course, I always tell the students a belief: if you can’t change the big environment, you should change the small environment first, and do what you can.In the lobby of the training center, there is a striking banner that reads: You can't decide when the sun rises, but you can decide when you get up.Whenever a student complains to me about another huge mistake they have made, I will point to this line and say to them:
"Every morning, you should be proud of yourself for just being able to achieve this goal."

this is a long war

Remember, you must be mentally prepared to "fight a long-term war". It is not difficult to change yourself, but whether you can persist for a long time is an extremely difficult test.Many felt fine for the first two weeks after they returned home, visibly finding their self-control restored and improved, but from the third week onwards their complaints came.First, you need to clarify your goals, avoid changing goals frequently, blindly changing the direction of effort, and wasting time and energy.What's more, it will make you lose confidence and interest, and the emotional blow is quite heavy.

Second, everyone is lazy, and Buffett also has moments of slack and lazy moments, so you have to remind yourself to make progress, remind your "inner self" every day, every hour and every minute: "Hey, man , Don’t try to avoid homework! I see you, you are about to doze off!”

People have a very fatal weakness—laziness. When no one is controlling or forcing you, laziness is likely to control your actions.Therefore, if you still want to make a difference, you have to force yourself.We may not be able to do this war for 30 years, but we must persist for at least 20 years.

I said to the students: "We assume that a person starts to develop his self-control from the age of 18, then the next 20 years will determine his life." That is to say, the golden age between the ages of 18 and 38, you Whether you have a good self-control is crucial to your success in life, and this happens to be the stage when we start working and accumulating wealth.

On the contrary, once you miss this period, there is no chance to recover it.In real life, sometimes, we cannot act immediately or persist in things that are obviously beneficial to us, even urgent.When the inertia suddenly emerges, we hear the call of relaxing American dramas, and see the warm quilt beckoning. At this time, you are facing important tasks that need to be dealt with urgently, so how do you start and persist?

Through my analysis of tens of thousands of cases, many people have struggled with inertia for many years.They said that they couldn't take action or insist on many things that were obviously beneficial to them, even urgent ones.

In the process of overcoming procrastination, they discovered that any attempt to overcome it with perseverance is doomed to be short-lived.To be effective, you must take pragmatic steps to reduce the resistance to action so that you can get started and keep going.

1. Dividing a complex job into several parts, such as writing a log, requires us to have a clear logic, organize the language clearly, and record new ideas that emerge during the writing process, and put them in They fit into existing logic.It is too difficult to complete these tasks at one time. You must divide them into several easy steps or sections to achieve them separately.

Just like a professional writer writing a novel, if he sets a one-week cycle for a novel with hundreds of thousands of words, it will be too difficult for him to achieve it. Even if he barely achieves it, he will not be able to persist in this job for a long time Go on, because the intensity is too high; if he plans a half-year cycle for himself, he can easily complete a high-quality work, and he can also persist in writing for a long time.

2. Take the initiative and think of various ways to find positive motivation for yourself. You can set yourself a small goal that can be achieved quickly, so that you can experience the sense of accomplishment of achieving the goal.You can also make your work public for everyone to see and give you appreciation and encouragement.There are many ways to do it, and you need to tailor it to what you want to accomplish.

3. Train your brain to find the pleasure center in your brain This is an important decision.This is the ultimate state of changing behavior so that you can start and keep doing something.When you follow the route indicated by the "pleasure center" in your behavior, you are not only encouraging yourself to complete the task in front of you, you are also satisfying your own brain and spiritual experience-for the brain, this is A welcome job, so that the next time you need to complete the same or a similar task, you will encounter less resistance.They will no longer have any pressure on you, because you are doing something completely out of interest to satisfy your hobbies, not just forcing yourself to engage in a certain behavior.

correct past habits

It is indeed not easy to change past habits, especially for people with poor self-control.However, if you can follow my plan step by step, "make effective small progress every time", you will slowly get rid of those bad habits and develop new good ones.

It is often said that character determines destiny.But what is character?Character is not an empty proposition, but is revealed in the details of our lives.For example, most of them are behaviors that we have automated and habituated in our daily life.Behavior is the external manifestation of a person's character.

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