A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 10 1 A child is like wealth—you ignore him, he ignores you
Chapter 2 Fatherhood Is a Cause, Responsibility Outweighs Ability
"Nine to six" is now the standard schedule for office workers, which for a breadwinner means going out in the morning before the kids are up and coming home in the evening when he's tired from a day's play.The pace of modern life has caused fathers to miss a lot of time with their children, not to mention overtime, traffic jams and other paid time.What about the rest of the weekend?
The child finally looked forward to the weekend, and she hoped that this time she could spend it with her parents. Whether to go to the zoo or the botanical garden, she would listen to her father's arrangement.The child's father is a sales manager of a company. After several years of working at the grassroots level of the company, he finally won the affirmation of the leader.Now is the time for the company to boldly employ people. If the performance is outstanding, he is likely to be continued to be valued.

This weekend, Dad also plans to accompany the child. He usually works overtime and it is rare to see him every day.But it happened that on Friday a client called and asked him to go fishing in the suburbs together. Such an excellent communication opportunity made Dad in a dilemma.

Later, my father thought that the most he could do for his child was to give her a good living environment, no worries about food and clothing, and preferably a considerable amount of education savings to ensure that she could go to the best schools in the future and study abroad. best education.As for going out to play with the children, mothers and grandma can also take them with them, and the father's balance is tilted towards the client.

The psychological struggle of my father not only convinced me, but also convinced many readers.Indeed, in today's society where money is easy to do, working hard and saving money is the most conservative rule.But is such a choice optimal? In the words of economics, is this choice the most beneficial?
According to the principle of benefit maximization, we must first understand the main motivation of Dad's choice.Since our book is written for people who love their parents, we don't think about parents who only love themselves.According to the reasoning process of the child's father, we know that he is ultimately for the good of the child, so that she can live securely and feel happy.What does that child need most?

If a child only needs the opportunity to learn about plants and animals, then anyone can take her there, even a biologist is the most suitable.But for a child, what she needs most in her heart is actually a feeling of love—being with her parents, communicating with each other, and feeling love and warmth in intimate contact.This feeling of being loved is the motivation for children to be optimistic, confident, and positive in the future, and it can also make children feel a sense of security and belonging.Among adults, there are often people who hope to hear the confession of "I love you" over and over again to confirm a stable relationship, and children's hearts are even more eager for the love relationship they have just realized to be proved by actions.And father's company is the best way to prove it.This kind of proof is not only impossible for Dad, but also impossible for him at this time.

There is a rule for children's emotional needs for their parents. From inseparable to annoying, they have their own changes.Once the father misses this rule and hopes to make up for it in the future, it will not be as natural and effective as it is now.On the contrary, the material living conditions given to children can be accumulated slowly, unlike the irreversible growth of children.

It is said that being busy is for the family, and when the fathers are old and need company, they will understand the feeling of being left out.

There is a story that says:

The child calls his father: Dad, when will you come back to watch TV with me?

Dad said: Good boy, I'm working outside now and I don't have time.Let's watch TV with your mother.

Thirty years later, the father called his son and said: Son, when will you come back and have a meal with us.

The son said: Dad, I am working outside now, and I don’t have time, so you and Mom can eat together.

In fact, the family does not spend much time together. After the children go to school, they will spend less and less time at home.If you don't accompany him now, he won't have time to accompany you in the future.The mutual disappointment is similar, as is the lack of responsibility among family members.Good children should be raised slowly, no matter what, they must start with mutual care and companionship.

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