A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 11 2 Dad's Small Success and Big Effect
There are many kinds of stars in life, entertainment stars, political stars, sports stars, culinary stars, of course, there are also stars in the father industry, and Cai Xiaowan is one of them.

Cai Xiaowan is the father of 6 children, including 5 doctors and 1 master. He is the author of the book "My Career Is My Father" and is known as the "Father of Doctors".This title brought him a sense of accomplishment no less than that of "Father of Microsoft" and "Father of Tram", but it was something he never thought of when he was young.Cai Xiaowan said he wanted to be a scientist when he was young, but because of "birth problems", he was forced to return to the countryside from university.After having children, he changed his name to "Xiaowan": If he couldn't laugh freely when he was young, he had to let himself laugh at the latest. The expectation of his children was his only comfort at that time.

They were the poorest family at the time, but Cai Xiaowan attached great importance to early education. His children could do four-digit arithmetic within 4 years old, and all of them liked learning and wanted to become scientists.

"To be a good father, I think it is not enough to have ambition and enthusiasm. Teaching by example is more important than teaching by words, so my father is still a role model for children. They study, and I also study, learning relativity, advanced mathematics, Chinese and Western medicine. Later, I Became a well-known doctor in Ruian... In addition, I never beat or scold my children, and the atmosphere at home is very happy. There is only a 32-square-meter home and a revolving light for a ballroom is installed to hold family dances. My wife and I even designed it ourselves Tourist route, took the children to travel all over the customs, the north and the south of the river."

If he had realized his ideal at the beginning, Cai Xiaowan might not have the time and energy to raise his children.This is called "It's a blessing in disguise."Now, some of his college classmates from back then are officials and some are big bosses, but they all say that they envy Cai Xiaowan the most.This is human nature: the greatest comfort for parents is that their children are promising.

No matter how successful a person is in his career, if he does not have a perfect family, he will always feel regretful.The child does not teach, the father too.A child who is not well educated is not only a pain for the father, but also a shortcoming of the society.Cultivating a person who is useful to society is also the responsibility of the father.In a small sense, this responsibility means the continuation and dignity of the family; in a big sense, it determines the future of the Chinese nation.

To interpret many problems in today's society from the perspective of cause and effect, such as lack of integrity, lack of welfare protection, polarization, corruption, etc., we can think that this is inevitable in the context of social development and transition, and we also need to think about the dominant society. The background of this generation's upbringing.

In today's major fields such as economy, politics, and culture, almost all those who have the right to make decisions and speak are past their thirties.Going back 40 years in history, back to the 20s, the central words at that time were "turmoil" and "subversion".In the childhood and youth of this generation, there were almost no opportunities to study and study. Many families were torn apart for various reasons, or "drawing a line" or "educated youth going to the countryside", and they were able to grow up healthily under the care of their parents. , There are not many children who receive a good education.Many people were sent back to their hometowns, boarded with relatives, or "raised" to grow up. Knowledgeable parents who were able to educate their children often had no security at that time, and single-parent families and problem families became a common phenomenon at that time.

The lack of love and kindness in this generation has formed a feeling of inner loneliness and avoidance of communication, which is transmitted to their children and their children.

The reason why there is a lack of education in the youth of a generation is the result of the continuous emergence of social problems in a period.Similarly, if one generation receives a good education, the healthy development of a country and a nation can be harvested in a certain period, and a good cycle can be formed when one generation nurtures the next.

In Japan, the word "parent and child" is often heard. "Parent-child" is Japanese, translated into Chinese means parents and children.Whether it is in kindergartens or in the community, various activities centered on "parent-child" are very common.Especially the sports meeting, the general school or kindergarten, will allow parents and children to participate in the project.Parents will also actively cooperate to participate. They generally believe that this can not only increase children's interest in participating in sports, but also enhance the emotional communication between parents and children.

I have to admit that many countries are more attentive than us in family education.China also has a traditional family concept of strict fathers and loving mothers. The father’s strict education helps children grasp the general direction of life and avoid going astray. However, busy life and work have taken fathers away from the world in which children grow up. “Left-behind children” and Nursery school has become a hot word in society.

People born around the 80s are now in the period of starting a family. This generation can more or less find some shadows of the 60s from their parents: poor communication, impatient to listen, ignoring inner feelings, Severe control etc.Today, when a father comes to raise a child again, it is impossible to completely avoid the influence left by his parents' generation, but if he takes a long-term view and learns the methods of education from those experienced fathers, the child will benefit endlessly throughout his life. The nation will also benefit from it.

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