A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 9 7 The Seven Deadly Sins: Hypocrisy - "Daddy Said He Wasn't Here"

I was idle at home on the weekend, and suddenly there was a phone call.So he told his son: "Go and answer the phone. If uncle calls for Dad, just say I'm not there." So the son said to the phone: "Daddy said he's not at home." You can't laugh or cry.

I believe that many fathers have similar experiences. The child speaks freely, so you have to come forward to "cover up your ugliness".These small things are forgotten after the past, and sometimes they are used as jokes for everyone to talk about, but the impact on children is actually very bad.Dad is clearly at home, why do you want me to say that he is not at home?I said he was not at home, why did he come out to answer the phone again and explain that he didn't hear it just now?These doubts will confuse the child's sense of right and wrong, and also give the child the impression that the father is lying.Many children would rather communicate with netizens than say a word with their father. In fact, they may have been deceived by their father before, just like the child below.

My parents have been divorced for a long time and I never blamed them.Dad rarely comes to see me, and once in a while, I feel very happy and happy.The pocket money given by my mother will be saved, and then I will take my father to the supermarket to buy things.I can tell my father what is in my heart, and I will tell him some secrets.Because I feel that even if there are no friends in this world, there is no one who can be trusted.But parents are the only ones who will never betray themselves.

But today I found out that he told others about many things about me, and then that person called to ask my mother.I don't understand why he would tell an outsider, and that outsider is still the kind of person who will spread it everywhere.When I told him, he also promised me that he would not tell others, it was a father-daughter secret.

Everyone has a secret that cannot be told. Maybe others cannot understand such a thing, but it is important to oneself.I chose to tell my loved ones to give myself a sense of trust.As a result, it was like this.What should I do if one day more people laugh at me with my important secrets.Why is there no one in this world you can trust.I just want to purely believe in my relatives who are connected by blood. Is this wrong?If family affection cannot be believed, what else is real?

The father's dishonesty made the child very painful, and he didn't even want to trust anyone anymore, and his life was covered in a layer of gray.What is even more heartbreaking is that many of the children who comforted her also shared their stories of being deceived by their father in the messages. The children all thought that instead of telling their father what was in their hearts, they should tell the truth to netizens, because netizens are the safest.This can also explain why children stay in Internet cafes every day and don't go home, because there is no Internet cafe at home that is warm and trustworthy.

The parents of close relatives are not even as good as strangers online. Children would rather play games outside than go home and stay with their parents. This is no longer news. Many people blame the school and society for the bad atmosphere. Are you aware of your own responsibilities?Keeping your word is not a standard we ask others to use, it should also be used to measure ourselves.

During the Warring States period, Qin Xiaogong used Shang Yang to reform and strengthen himself.In order to convince people that his reform was true, Shang Yang thought of a way: He erected a three-foot-high log at the south gate of the capital, and rewarded anyone who could carry it to the north gate with a reward of ten taels.But no one believed it was true, so naturally no one would carry it.Shang Yang increased the reward up to 50 taels, and finally one day, a strong man carried the wood to the north gate, and Shang Yang rewarded him 50 taels of gold on the spot.The common people commented one after another: Shang Yang kept his word, and his orders must be carried out.As a result, Shang Yang's reform was successful, which laid the foundation for the prosperity and strength of Qin.

Shang Yang migrated trees to govern the people, so the father must keep his word in order to win the respect and trust of his children.The family is the child's first world. A trustworthy family makes the child willing to listen to his father's advice, trust others, and love life.Dad is the first teacher who makes children understand how to earn and cherish trust.

Trust is mutual. Only when the father fully trusts the child, the child will trust the father, and the real equal and effective communication will begin.If the father does not trust the child and always refuses to let the child live according to his own wishes, it will not only be detrimental to the healthy growth of the child, but will also exacerbate the incomprehension between the two generations and dissolve the power of love.

In order to avoid breaking promises to children, fathers must be consistent in their words and deeds in life, especially when it comes to matters related to children. "Lies, deceive friends in front of children, and children will wonder whether their parents will deceive themselves in the same way.

(End of this chapter)