A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 8 6 The Six Deadly Sins: Violence—Why Did You Hit My Mom

I heard that usually peace comes after war, why see my dad keeps beating my mom.Just because he was drunk and he could take it out on my mother, I really can't stand it, thinking I'm a coward.From childhood to adulthood, there is only the warmth of my mother, why is my father so fierce.If it is true, I have one pair of wings, two pairs of wings, and I can set off at any time, secretly, and I will definitely take my mother away.

Previous education, other people's family, other people's father, all kinds of violent factors, there must be a reason.But, mom and I are not wrong, thanks to me calling you dad: "Dad, I'm back." Don't hit my mom like this again, why don't you listen to what I say? Don't hit my mom like this again, don't you won't it hurt
From childhood to adulthood, you asked me to learn, and I took you as a role model. My mother often said: "Be good, listen to your father." How can you tell me to be like you!
This is the lyrics of a song "Dad, I'm Back" by Jay Chou, the idol most admired by children today. A young child's resistance to his violent father is vividly seen.This song has resonated with many young people. The children's singing and messages have proved that domestic violence is an indisputable fact.

Husband and wife are in love for a day, but there is a woman who confronts her husband in court with a knife.How would their children feel if they saw this scene?Children with "revenge" in their lives are not news.

A man came to the city from the countryside to do business and got rich. He bought a store in the city and seldom returned home.His wife and two sons are farming at home, so he can only go home to visit during the holidays.

As his business got better and better, he brought his eldest son to study in the city, and the younger son still stayed at home with his mother.Gradually, the relationship between the two became estranged, and he also had a de facto family in the city.Later, he went home and agreed to a divorce, but his wife disagreed.The youngest son was growing up and wanted to study, but he also refused to pay the tuition fees, and the relationship between the two became extremely rigid.

At home, the wife scolded the younger son about his father's various wrongdoings every day. In this way, the younger son made up his ambition to avenge his mother in the future.He studied hard and was admitted to the best high school, but his relatives paid for his tuition, and his father didn't want to recognize him at all.The flame of vengeance was burning in the heart of the youngest son, and what was even more pitiful was that the eldest son didn't like his younger brother either. This little boy could hardly get the love of his closest relatives. "One day, I'm going to make them pay me back everything they owe me."

In fact, this kind of story does not need to be rendered by "confidantes" at all. It comes from life itself and is more convincing than any fictional story.If the father in the child's mind is a ruthless heartless man, he will definitely fight for the mother.Of course, the breakdown of a marriage is an extreme state of the relationship between husband and wife. In ordinary life, it is more often that the father shows disrespect for the mother.

For example, talking nonsense after drinking and venting your grievances, abusing and slandering your wife, such as saying bad words to your wife when you are in a bad mood, such as mocking your wife intentionally or unintentionally, such as "cold violence" against your family, Things like this can make the child feel that the father doesn't respect the mother, which will leave a shadow in the child's heart.Who can stand the person they love the most being bullied by others?
The novelist George Sand once wrote: "She thought that living with a man who disrespected and mistrusted his wife was like hoping to bring a dead man back to life." Happy, if the wife expresses disdain for her husband, many people may not be able to bear it; similarly, if the husband disrespects his wife, how can the wife feel better in her heart, and how can she respect her own marriage?If both parents do not respect each other, it is tantamount to mental torture for the child.Just like what Jay Chou said in his lyrics: "If it's true, I have a pair of wings, two pairs of wings, and I can set off at any time, secretly, and I will definitely take my mother away."

The famous translator Fu Lei was once so fierce to his son Fu Cong that he caused his wife to suffer mentally.Later, when Fu Lei wrote a letter to his son, he couldn't forgive himself for being irritable:

Going to bed last night warmed up your childhood again.Poor child, how could your childhood be so similar to mine?I also know that the setbacks you suffered as a child are not unhelpful to your achievements today; but as a father, I always made a lot of big mistakes.Ask yourself that you have not done anything sorry to your friends and society in your life, but at home, you and your mother have done a lot of unconscionable things. ——These are things that I have often thought of in the past year, but these days, they have been hovering in my mind like a nightmare.It's a pity that after the age of 45, the fatherhood is really awakened!

Growing up in an environment of love, children learn respect and gratitude; growing up in an environment of hate, children remember pain and hatred.Even in the name of loving children, dads need to respect their wives and family members.Otherwise, it would be difficult for many fathers to face the guilt towards their family members in their middle and old age.

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