A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 16 1 Role Models of Wealthy Fathers: Li Ka-shing and Bill Gates

Chapter 3 Every Kind of Dad Can Succeed: Those Who Are Worthy of

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If the mother represents the natural world, the father is the other pole of human existence—the world of ideas, of law and order, of experience and adventure.Fathers point out the way for children to go to the world. Father's love is the cultivation and transmission of values.Therefore, before letting the child live independently, the father must grasp the degree of "assistant": if it is not enough, the child will lack the feeling of being loved; if it is too much, the child will lack the ability to be independent.

Many dads focus on material things in sharing.In addition to guaranteeing the child's daily life, it is also necessary to ensure that the child can develop without financial constraints under any circumstances.The fact that money can buy fake academic qualifications directly stimulated Dad's ambition to make money. It seemed that as long as he had money, the child's life would be able to embark on a brilliant path.

This is not the case.The "rich second generation" problem caused by the new word "rich second generation" produced by the program "A Date in Luyu" is enough to make people think. The "rich second generation" are the children of the earliest generation of private entrepreneurs since my country's reform and opening up, and they are born with the things that many people have struggled for all their lives.

Wealth is bound to be accompanied by a lot of social attention. Out of curiosity, people want to know how these born lucky people are doing.The general manager of a construction cost consulting company in Kunming summed up the situation of China's "rich second generation" through his own experience. The categories are as follows:
knowledge success.They cherish the family business accumulated by their parents very much, study hard and achieve outstanding results. Such people account for about 20% of the "rich second generation".Some of them are not limited to the traditional industries of their parents, and use existing funds to devote themselves to emerging industries, such as the IT industry, software development, advertising media, etc., and become "upgraded versions" of Chinese entrepreneurs.

Playboy prodigal type.This phenomenon accounts for at least 50% of the "rich second generation".The vast majority of private entrepreneurs gradually accumulated their family business after suffering a lot. They did not receive orthodox education and did not have a more scientific educational concept. Out of the original intention of not wanting their children to suffer, they must provide a superior life. Conditions, so the "rich second generation" who account for half of them often don't think about making progress, sit and eat, drive sports cars, wear famous brands, and do nothing.

Let nature take its course.After the parents have some achievements, they don’t have very high demands on their children. In this kind of family atmosphere, 60% of the children are successful in their studies and can both start and keep their jobs. However, they only account for 18% of the total number of "rich second generation". %about.

The remaining 12% belong to the type of father decline and son decline.The father's development is not "sustainable", and the child will soon "dwell among the people".

Generally speaking, the "rich second generation" are much more likely to cause controversy than children from ordinary families. Once they make mistakes and are magnified by the media, they will bear much more pressure than ordinary people. It is difficult to play the role of "rich second generation".

Of course, not all "rich second generations" are playboys. There are also news reports that "rich second generations" work hard, leaving Audis behind and going to work in car dealerships.There are 10,000+ netizens’ comments at the back of this news, the view that is at the top and supported by more than 8000 netizens is: I have money and backing, and I have confidence in everything I do; I will never work because of low wages for working outside , expensive rent, and poor living expenses; because we are so simple and calm together under the premise of not considering money or not being short of money.It was never the same thing.It seems that people still have a grudge against the "rich second generation".

From the general law in the world, the success rate from the first generation to the second generation is only 30%. In other words, nearly 70% of the enterprises will collapse in the next 5-10 years!This is not only the pain of a family, but also the shackles of the sustainable development of national industry.

Whether it is the cultivation of the family environment, their own development, or the attention and pressure given by the society, they all show that the "rich second generation" is not a very good identity. What about this awkward character?

In contrast, those children from ordinary families, who have their own life goals, entrepreneurial acumen, and money-making wisdom, such as Yu Minhong and Shi Yuzhu, live more freely and flexibly.

Arrange children in newspapers, magazines, company executives and other places where it is difficult for others to enter. From the beginning, they are much higher than others.But a high starting point does not equal high ability. Many people suffer from starting too high and aiming too high.

Zhao Kuo, who was "talking about war on paper" in ancient times, was the son of the great general Zhao She. Zhao She knew that his child was not experienced enough, so he repeatedly told his son not to lead the army to fight, fearing that he would do bad things.But after Zhao She's death, Zhao Kuo was still full of confidence to face Qin's general Bai Qi, but the result was a disastrous defeat.

In fact, many far-sighted fathers are very concerned about their children's independent ability. They demand that their careers be successful and brilliant, but they do not allow their children to directly inherit this achievement, but start from the lowest stage.

Li Ka-shing is a well-known figure in Hong Kong. He has a high position in the economic kingdom, but he is a low-key father who sticks to principles at home.

Li Ka-shing has two sons. Many people think that these two sons must inherit their father's business in the future, so they must be "princes" who can call the wind and rain, but Li Ka-shing has always asked them to live frugally and pay attention to reputation.When the two sons graduated from Stanford University with honors, they wanted to try their hand at their father's company.Unexpectedly, the father's answer was "our company does not need you".Li Ka-shing said: "Even if I have 20 sons, I won't arrange a job for one of them. You have to fight for the country by yourself, and you have to prove your own strength with facts."

The son who suddenly realized that he left Hong Kong and came to Canada, an investment bank, and a real estate company.Li Ka-shing never offered to support them, and the children were very self-conscious. Both of their brothers later became elite figures in the Canadian business community today.

Li Ka-shing's choice is just the opposite of many fathers we often see in our lives: Some people want to use their brains to open up contacts and arrange jobs for their children, but Li Ka-shing is unwilling to give his two sons "a place" in his many companies.He has only one purpose in doing this, and that is to let the child know that everything needs to be done by himself. Only when he lives independently can he be regarded as a capable person and be able to cope with future life freely.

Living frugally and paying attention to reputation are Li Ka-shing's requirements for his son's daily life. This is not surprising to ordinary people, but to a family of business giants, it is different and commendable. They are not unconditional to live extravagantly life, but more cherish the values ​​of diligence and thrift. "Prove your own strength with facts" is to tell children to be independent, strong, and learn to solve problems by themselves, which is a necessary awareness in the unpredictable business world.Li Ka-shing started from scratch and created his own business miracle, but he was not eager to let his children share the fruits of his success, but let the children share their own successful experience, which is the most precious wealth in life.

Li Ka-shing did two things when cultivating children's values: consciously cultivate children's values, and he himself uses actions to influence children, and the latter is even more important than theoretical education.

Bill Gates, the former richest man in the world and the founder of Microsoft, decided in June 2009 to donate all of his US$6 billion property to his charitable fund "Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation". will not leave it to their children.He said: "My wife and I want to give back to the society in the way that can have the most positive impact", and his children also understand his father's approach very well.

For ordinary families, it is difficult to be a rich father like Li Ka-shing and Bill Gates, but it can be learned to be a wise father like them.

We know that children’s new knowledge starts from imitation, and fathers are the most important window for children to know the outside world. How fathers deal with failures and difficulties will have a subtle influence on children.If the father himself is a man of integrity, integrity and courage, the child will easily accept a set of positive values.Seeing the father working hard for his family, being able to handle work with ease, and taking good care of his family, the child's heart will be aroused with gratitude for the good life, which will also help the father to tide over the difficulties during the child's rebellious youth, In the future, he will not go to the extreme of rebelling against the family; but if the father always contradicts his promise and only talks and does not act, it will be difficult to maintain the emotional balance between himself and the child. When the child grows up, he is likely to disobey the parents and hurt the relationship between father and son.Therefore, a father must always pay attention to the impact he will have on his children, and use positive actions to explain all good qualities, so that the child will grow into an upright and credible person under the influence of his ears and eyes.

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