A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 3 1 Sin: Absence——Dad, the Most Familiar Stranger
The first article With money, what else does Dad need to do?
Chapter 1 Problems other than money, the "seven deadly sins" of modern dads

Why do mothers always nag?Because there are always people who turn a deaf ear to what they say, and in the constant repetition, the habit of nagging is formed.In the era when everyone blogs, countless mothers write their nagging in the blog every day, it is time for fathers to listen to their wives:

Today is the first day of school, Baobao School has a flag-raising ceremony.Last night the president of the parent council called me and asked if my family could attend.After answering the phone, I discussed with my father and asked him if he could go to the unit a little later tomorrow. The flag-raising ceremony started at [-]:[-], and it should have ended at [-]:[-]. Dad went to work at [-]:[-], but he refused without hesitation.

From parent-child activities in kindergartens to parent-teacher meetings in elementary school, and even every extra-curricular course, fathers only take part in very few.I don't know why, but Chinese fathers are not as keen as foreign fathers to keep their own shadows in every stage of their children's life.Is it disdain, or is it because I am a child who has no sense of responsibility?
It's never okay to discuss these things with him.He is always absent from all the more important stages of the child.This seems to be a common characteristic of all Chinese fathers.For them, a worthless job is always more important than children.Children are just their happy by-products. After they are born, everything should belong to the mother.

The sister on the opposite side said that when she was in Canada, almost all the couples she saw were fathers holding their children, and the whole family appeared together.After returning to China, we found that our mothers often took the children, pushed the car, and carried the bags by themselves.Can our boys be blamed for being weaker, should teach them strong daddy, where?
Discussing this with Dad will only affect the harmony of the family.In the face of a child who is always disappointed, all I can say is "I'm sorry, your dad has a regular meeting tomorrow morning."

Our family, since our father's father, lacks that kind of love and responsibility for the family.The father is like this, and the son is also like this, so they may not feel it when they become fathers.

This article resonated strongly in the parenting circle. There are too many mothers who are in the same situation and think the same way. Everyone left messages to express their support.As the mother said at the end, China's father has always been absent.In ancient times, when scholars got married, they bid farewell to their wives, children, and parents, and went to the capital to test their achievements. It is not an exaggeration to see the story of the husband not recognizing his wife in "Autumn Hu Xi Wife".

In today's society, "visible and invisible hands" also separate the fathers and sons of the family: objectively, the father dies, abandons the family, or the parents divorce, and the family lacks a father; subjectively, the father and the child are emotionally alienated, which means there is no father; theoretically The father thinks that raising children is a woman's business, so he does not care about the children and stays away from the children's life; in fact, although the father is at home, he does not raise the children in an appropriate way.

These situations can be summed up in two ways: materially without a father and spiritually without a father. That is to say, although a large number of children have a father, they are equal to having no father; although they have a complete family, they are equal to being single parents.There are some small details in our life, which are quite worthy of parents' aftertaste:

One day it started to rain lightly, and the people waiting on the bus platform all huddled together. A little girl reached out to catch the raindrops and had a great time.At this time, her mother said: "Stop playing, the water outside is very dirty." The child smiled and continued to play in the water.The mother said it several times, and reached out to hold the child's hand, but the little girl broke free.

At this time, the father-like man next to him straightened his throat, looked at the girl and coughed twice, as if to remind her to pay attention.When the little girl heard the cough, she immediately withdrew her hand in horror and hid behind her mother. She didn't move until the bus came.

Obviously, the majesty of this father has reached the point where he can "smooth" the children with just two coughs. Most children are afraid of their father, and even afraid that they will walk out of their study. run away.This is not because the role of the good old man has been played by the mother, nor is it that the child hates the father, but because he does not know and is not close to his father.The child's heart is calling for Dad, but Dad is always busy with his own affairs and will never hear him.

Some fathers not only can't educate their children, but also use scolding and violence to hurt their children, leaving pain points for their children's growth.If the influence of the father in a single-parent family is zero, then the influence of the father in this kind of family is negative, which will even reduce the educational effect of the mother and make the child rebellious against the father.

There is a very famous song called "The Most Familiar Stranger". This song title is also suitable for children to sing to busy dads.Maybe you haven't noticed it yet, but in fact you and your child have become "the most familiar strangers".

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