A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 57 6 "Good Boys" May Have a Pleasant Psychology

The child who just went to school has no concept of right and wrong. When he saw children fighting, he thought it was fun, so he started fighting. When he came home, his body was dirty and his face was torn, but he felt that he very brave. "What's the matter with you? Did you fight with someone?" Dad asked the child when he saw the child enter the door.

"Well, Dad, five of us fought together, and two of us cried, but I didn't cry." The child innocently waited for praise, but Dad's face sank.

"Then how good you are! You go out clean in the morning, and now you come back like a trash collector. Who would like a child like you? Everyone likes a clean and civilized child."

"Children who don't swear are attractive."

"Everyone loves an obedient child."

"If you are willing to call people, others will like you, give you a good gift, candy..."

Have you ever educated your children with the reason of "what kind of child everyone loves"?The child may really be obedient and stop swearing from now on, but is such a change really something to be proud of?
In fact, if you think about it carefully, you will find that such education has loopholes.Educating children on how to be pleasing is the easiest way to cultivate a "little slave" who caters to others and has no self.When a child is very young, he doesn’t have any opinions, and his outlook on life and so on are easily influenced by adults’ words. If parents always emphasize “lovable”, the child will pulsate, brag, or act like Little big and so on.

Perhaps, the parent sometimes doesn't directly say "everyone loves", but his behavior undoubtedly encourages the child to please others.

Children use familiar content forms, add a lot of ridicule factors, and pursue fun, funny, popular and fashionable.This actually conveys such a message to us... They are no longer innocent and carefree, but full of adult worldliness and cynicism.

"What's so great about your teacher, he can afford a bicycle!" Such rhetoric inadvertently conveys a message to children. It is useless to study and study again. Money is the last word!

"Son, if you can do it...then our family will be famous!" "Son, study hard! Be a high-ranking official in the future!" Such words are the most common in our lives, dare I ask, there is real encouragement in these words Something for the mind of a child?How much nourishment can such a reason bring to life in order to make parents happy and make oneself famous?
"Director Wang, you drink tea!...you walk slowly" To the leader, you are respectful, and in the blink of an eye to the child's uncle, you only hate him for not being Li Ka-shing, for not bringing honor to the family. "If you don't study well, you will go to work as a sanitation worker, and you will have nothing to do in your life." "You see that classmate of yours is dark and thin, not good-looking, dressed in shabby clothes, and his family is probably not very good! That classmate You can tell it's a famous brand at first glance, tsk tsk, it's just different!" The child has learned to be picky and to compare.

For a fruit to be sweet and delicious, it must ripen naturally. We have the responsibility to protect our children from being ripened. How should we do it?It's simple, realize its importance, and then avoid indoctrination to your children as much as possible.For these secular things, guide the children with a healthy attitude, such as giving gifts to the teacher, telling the children that this is to express their gratitude to the teacher and to respect the teacher, not to get special care.For example, give an objective and positive evaluation to the child's classmates, and give correct guidance in terms of money, fame, career, etc.... The responsibility of the father lies in these aspects!

Why do many parents now feel that their children have gradually become villains and adults.What they know is asymmetrical with their age. In fact, these are the parents' dereliction of duty in guiding them.Dad is the opinion leader of the family. When children don’t pay attention to hygiene, don’t say such reasons as “others don’t like it”. You can say, “Mom washes clothes very hard, and we should cherish the fruits of her labor; only hygiene can keep you healthy Healthy, dirty things are easy to carry germs", these are the things that children need to learn most to be human beings.

If you want your child to grow up to be a pleasing minion, think hard about whether your claims hold up to scrutiny.

(End of this chapter)