A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 58 7 Children's words are taboo, it is instinct to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages
There was an American movie that believed that children are born very smart, they know everything, but in order to match the young parents, they pretended not to understand anything, their language is very rich, there are rich crying or laughing The content is in it, but adults can't understand it. Instead, they think it's pitiful that children can't speak.

Although this movie is a bit ridiculous, it also illustrates an objective phenomenon: in many cases, children's words and deeds contain rich information, and they can only be understood if they pay attention to them.

Kindergarten started, a father led his daughter to the new kindergarten, and was going to meet the principal, who was an amiable old man.

"These paintings are terrible!" the girl blurted out when she saw the children's drawings posted in the hallway.This sentence was just heard by the principal, and the father was very embarrassed and gave his daughter a stern look. "Yes, we don't need to draw all the pictures well in our kindergarten, as long as we put our heart into it." The principal continued the children's words and invited them into his office with a smile.

Dad started talking to the principal, while the daughter was observing the surroundings, when suddenly, she saw a teddy bear that had been dismantled in half.

"Ah, someone tore the bear!" the girl exclaimed.She looked at the principal, who smiled, and immediately said to the child, "Yes, the little bear was broken when the children were playing, but it's okay, we can fix it." The girl smiled after listening.

Before leaving, the girl said to her father: "I like this place, I want to go to school here!" The father was overjoyed, because they had already gone to several kindergartens, but the daughter always found excuses not to stay.

"Principal, this is great, I hope you accept my child!"

"Of course, as long as she likes it." The principal made a promise to accept the new student, and the child returned home happily.

Perhaps, this father does not yet understand what the child is attracted to.But the headmaster must know it well.The child said at the beginning that the paintings on the wall were bad, which actually expressed her inner doubts: "What will happen if the paintings are not good?" The principal's answer reassured her that it doesn't matter if the paintings are not good.

Later, she saw the broken bear again, and tested again how the child would be punished, but the principal said it was okay and could be repaired.In this way, the child is completely at ease.The principal has many years of teaching experience, so he can understand the motivation behind every sentence of the children, prescribe the right medicine, and completely dispel their worries. If you encounter a layman, it is likely to be the opposite.

After reading these, do the fathers suddenly realize: It turns out that children have a lot of voices that we don't understand!
In fact, it is not difficult to understand children's words, and it does not require rich teaching experience and psychological theoretical basis.As long as we use another way of thinking, we can understand the child's mind - put oneself in another's place and think in another way.

Dad usually puts himself in the perspective of an educator and thinks about problems. He wants to educate his children everywhere, so his words are always wrong. But if dads can put themselves in the child's place, if they are children, they will How to think, you can understand what the child wants to say.Although the age gap cannot allow fathers to fully understand the logic of children, there are many things that people have in common, such as seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages, fear of criticism, eager for praise, etc. These adults are the same as children, so there is no such thing as Questions that cannot be reconsidered.

Adolescent children often say "don't take care of you". In fact, this sentence can also be understood as: I don't want you to take care of me now, but I may need your help in the future; It's messy now, please let me be quiet... These rich information may have been diluted by your sullenness, and you have also missed the best opportunity for caring and education.

Many of the children's words have meaning in their words, and only a loving father can understand their voices.

(End of this chapter)