A good dad is better than a rich dad

Chapter 6 4 The Four Deadly Sins: Worshiping Money—Money Cannot Satisfy the Needs of Growth

In the summer vacation, many children will go back to their grandparents to live for a few days.This is no less than a "pick-up" for the elderly, and many problems that are usually hidden in the child finally revealed their tails.

Qiqi has always been very well behaved at home, his parents are very satisfied with him, and always let him live a carefree life.The summer vacation is here, Qiqi stayed at grandma's house for a week, and it will be hard to take care of her soon.

Grandma cooked fish for him, but he refused to eat it, saying he wanted to eat sea fish; when he brought back bream, he still refused to eat it, saying that it was not sea fish; He didn't eat the sauce; he made tomato and egg soup, but he thought there was no meat in it.Grandma said angrily that she wanted to send him back to his parents, but he couldn't go back, and he wanted to go back after the summer vacation.

After a summer vacation, grandma lost a lot of weight.When the father came to pick up the child and saw the old mother suffering, he realized that there was a problem in his usual education of the child.

Normally, whenever Qi Qi wants to eat something, as soon as she mentions it to her mother, she immediately goes to buy it and cook it.If you want to see the latest movie premiere, you will see it no matter how expensive it is.His toys are always in line with the trend, and his books and comics are constantly updated.Compared with other children, Qiqi does know more things than other children, but he is obviously not as "sensible" as other children. As long as it is what he wants, he will find a way to get it, otherwise he will not insist on it. Forgive me, there is nothing anyone can do about him.

This kind of child is so satisfied materially that he has no concept of taking care of others.This kind of self-centeredness will suffer multiple blows in future interactions: first, you will find that you are no longer the protagonist, and you will feel lost; second, because of your own self-centeredness, you will attract the disgust of others.Fathers use money to pamper their children, but they end up pampering such unruly princesses and princes, who are "knocked out of the world" and have internal and external troubles. This is the worst situation.

We often say to our children, "Only by suffering through hardships can one become a superior person." But many people will inevitably give their children discounts when they put it into action. There are still very few parents who are truly "non-favorite". Song Xiaobo's father It is one of the rare ones.

Song Xiaobo, the famous women's basketball captain, was admitted to an elementary school far away from home when he was 6 years old. From home to school, he had to take two buses and cross hundreds of meters of small alleys and main roads.Song Xiaobo's grandmother was very worried and complained that the parents were too cruel.But my father said that he wanted to choose a school so far away to train his children. "A person who is useless from a young age can hardly be successful when he grows up." Song Xiaobo hung a monthly pass around his neck, coming and going in the wind and rain.It wasn't until Song Xiaobo was very old that she heard that her father had been secretly following the car on a bicycle during her first week of school, and she didn't leave at ease until she walked into the school gate.

The best gift a father can give a child is not limited edition Nikes or Barbie dolls, but an environment that allows him to move forward and try under protection.Rewarding with money actually kills children's opportunities to try, making everything they want simple and within easy reach.They lose the ability and consciousness to control their own lives, educate themselves, and exercise themselves.

"I'll go to school by myself", "No, I'll take it to you if it's not safe on the road." "I'll choose the clothes myself," "No, Dad will help you choose the best and most expensive one."...Actually, many times it was a child He was actively asking for exercise, but was blocked by his father.Few fathers can protect the child like Song Xiaobo's father, while letting her try on her own.

Education is not such a simple matter of paying tuition fees. If fathers regard providing material conditions for their children as the role they need to play in the process of educating children, it will not only be difficult for children to be grateful to their fathers, but on the contrary, they will ignore others. Do things for yourself, and go into a "vortex" where you are the only one.To love children with money, how much money is needed to reflect the love of a father?There is no answer to this question, because money cannot replace fatherly love.

(End of this chapter)