Personal Charm Perfect Private Tutorial

Chapter 11 The Key to Charm (1)
Lesson 17

Incorporate attraction into your every move

Modern people are so busy that it is difficult to be interested in such training courses that are not only practice but also practice.Occupations such as singing or playing musical instruments, which by their very nature require long and tedious practice, would not be pursued where there were other paths to realize one's ideals.Few young people are willing to devote many hours each week to practicing the piano, violin, or any other instrument, and some of them strongly resist it.

However, if a woman hears that she has a beautiful voice that can be cultivated to earn a living or win various opportunities by singing in public, she is likely to put aside her livelihood and make the pursuit of fame and fortune her goal.Through books, newspapers or hearsay, she knows that the road to art is long, but life is very short, so she needs to receive training and do a lot of exercises to lay a good foundation for a good voice.Sometimes it takes five to seven years or more of hard training.All she had to do during this period was practice, practice, and practice.Likewise, male singers must go through long and tedious training before they are given the opportunity to show their talents.

In fact, very few vocal artists in the world are directly promoted to the ranks of successful performers without training.A painter needs to go through 5 to 10 years of practice first, and then a few years of practical experience before he can achieve something.Even contestants who participate in a certain award have to go through a training process before they are considered suitable for participating in the competition.Every time an important game is over, he must take weeks or months to retrain.Today, all sports, whether amateur or professional, require some development and training.

When a student who wants to develop personal magnetism enrolls in this course, it is natural to want to know what he needs to do and how much time he needs to invest in order to see results.Before we give him an answer, we must first let him understand that personal attraction itself is life.Whether it is day or night, as long as you are awake, it will be integrated into your every minute.It will accompany everyone to the end of their lives, and it is itself part of those people.It is in their blood, in their nerves, in their brains, in their minds, in all the activities they engage in, in their partnerships at all stages of life.

Habit is a way of life, personal attractiveness is a habit.

So, personal attractiveness should also be a way of life.

Life includes the expression of thoughts and emotions of all kinds, including activities when alone and in cooperation with others, including the operation of various parts and functions of the body.

Personal attractiveness is an important part of life at all stages of life.Therefore, it is not the result of practice but of habit.

It is true that some qualities can be acquired in a short time with practice, because such practice helps one to put them into action.However, the entire learning process can only rely on the formation of habits and cannot count on the auxiliary effect of practice.

Our new approach is all about illustrating the guidelines contained in these lessons that you can use to develop some important habits that lead to corresponding results.But for students who are ambitious and want to get as fast as possible, unfortunately we can only provide them with all the necessary exercises.

A simple insight can inspire many people, and a sentence or two may change a habit.

When we see that a person is heading in the wrong direction, it may take only one or two sentences to make him (her) achieve a 180-degree change and enter the right track from then on.There was a singer with good conditions who couldn't afford vocal music training courses because of his poor life, so he had to sing soprano in a city choir.A friend told her that the way she used her voice was wrong, and then told her the correct way to do so. She listened to her friend's advice humbly, and her voice was greatly improved.

Anything that stimulates another person's brain also stimulates his entire nervous system.High-pitched or false vocalizations are harsh, unpleasant, unbearable and neither stimulating nor attractive.You'll see more of this as we progress.

The goal of this lesson is to prepare you for the development of instant personal magnetism.By this we mean, in time to acquire the habits of attraction of all kinds, without the trouble and delays which their practice entails.After you have read this book carefully, it is likely that you will acquire this ability to a certain extent in a day, and it is easy.Taking it a step further, you may find yourself reaching the first stage with ease.You need to be aware of the fact that you are already partially attractive, less repulsive and neutral.However, you must carefully read every word in this book before you can start a new life.All this will be confirmed later.

Read on slowly, don't rush to catch up, but make it your goal to understand every word, every suggestion and opinion in the book, and it will definitely pay off.Be a good reader before you can be a good thinker.This book can be read alone or in a group, and if it is an evening, gather a few close family members and read it aloud to them if circumstances permit, or to yourself .When you read this book carefully and attentively, your value will increase by 25% compared with before reading this book. This is the benefit.What we often do is to read an important book twice.If you do, the rewards will be even greater.Then, you're ready to make big strides with what's known as instant personal attraction.We will cover this part in detail in the next lesson.

Lesson 18

correct yourself from now on

Students who read this carefully and patiently will appreciate what it means to have instant personal attraction.It means starting this development process right away, immediately realizing that you have this ability, and applying it to all areas of your life.We have learned that many young people who once had a broad appeal lose their attractiveness entirely as a result of the abuse of youthful vigor or involvement in various out-of-control activities that deplete the early active energy.This is called leakage.

We can't keep our youth, and we don't want to.Going with the flow is the right thing to do.

However, this leakage may continue into adulthood, and waste continues unimpeded, albeit at a reduced rate.It turns out that if the abnormal leakage in the human body is contained, the attraction can accumulate immediately.If a little boy's energy is 100%, he must find a place to vent his energy.If adults accumulate attractiveness, this is also equivalent to the vitality of that age group, and must wait for the opportunity to find the corresponding path.These paths include: using your head to think more, thirsting for real knowledge instead of sensational news and worthless books; thinking about doing practical things instead of sitting around aimlessly; Life brings light and sunshine.Let unselfishness replace a narrow sense of responsibility, not just remembering those who are grateful to you for your benefits.

In layman's terms, having attractiveness is the difference between success and failure.One confident and attractive lawyer complained about why he wasn't getting the success he deserved. "You're too restless." That's our reply to him.His hands, feet and even his whole body are always doing some useless movements, so that his attractiveness is wasted.Restless people are unattractive, while all people are either attractive, neutral, or repulsive.No restless person is attractive, then or now.Because restlessness will bring losses in two aspects: on the one hand, such actions will arouse the resentment of others, and on the other hand, it will lead to the loss of one's own attractiveness.Therefore, it is difficult for such a person to succeed in the world.A short word of caution is that it is necessary to cure this shortcoming.The lawyer in this example is significantly different from others in that when he understood the meaning of the reminder, he quickly corrected his mistakes and went on to success from then on.

One woman complained that she couldn't win friends and that she seemed to repel them.The reason is that she talks too much too fast, and no one who talks too much too fast is attractive.She tried to speak slowly, but couldn't hold on for long.When she was chatting with others, her husband would often sit within sight of her and remind her to slow down.However, if a person does not fundamentally overcome his shortcomings, it is impossible to achieve any results by rectifying them with this method alone.

A pastor said he was unattractive and unable to hold the attention of his audience.We came to his church on a Sunday and found his voice too monotonous and lacking variety.He still doesn't know what's going on, he only knows that his pitch should not be too high.But the reality is that when he keeps his pitch lower, his voice is too monotonous and lacks variety.The listener's brain nerves are subjected to a single stimulus too often, causing all the stimuli to be concentrated in one point.

If you were forced to listen to a single note all the time, the resulting shock to the brain might drive you crazy.A small noise at night, if there is no sign of weakening for a long time, not only stimulates the brain but may also cause certain damage.If a person plays a melody with no ups and downs, even if it is pleasant to the ear for a short time, it will drive those who have to listen to it for a long time. The human brain cannot bear a single melody for a long time.Women living on farms are more likely to suffer from insanity than women living in cities because their lives are too monotonous and boring.

This is why the pastor we mentioned earlier was unattractive.When he preached he always kept to one key, even if it was a note that was quite pleasant in the vocal range.If you want to change this stereotype, you have to cultivate the ability of self-adjustment, constantly change the tone of speech, and express your thoughts in various tones.Beyond that, truly engaging speakers and eloquent people know how to adjust their tone of voice at the right moment to harmonize with changes in thought.

The key point we're trying to make here is that any kind of monotony is repulsive to the listener, and if you're repulsive, how can you possibly draw them to you?This is common sense.After the pastor learned to adjust his voice properly, he quickly became successful in his field.

Another businessman complained that he was constantly scaring customers away and that every attempt to increase footfall failed.We stood in his shop and observed what he was doing, and found that he had four problems with his speech: his voice was too high-pitched, his intonation lacked variety and dullness, his speech was too fast, and he always closed the upper part of his throat when he spoke. Make a sharp guttural sound.

This brings us to one of the most unattractive ways of pronouncing something that is not only unattractive but also offensive.If one's own voice is allowed to develop naturally and loosely, it will enter into some kind of misunderstanding, just like a beautiful garden, which is pruned and cultivated by nature, and various plant seeds will make it completely unrecognizable.Many mindless people say that they prefer to be natural rather than to cultivate good habits.Their claim seems irrefutable, as the saying goes: "Nature knows what it should be like, and the only correct way of life is to let nature take its course." When this claim is used to cultivate flowers, fruit trees or food crops, you Only then will we find that nature fills all kinds of creatures and living bodies with uncontrollable impulses.Once this unruly impulse takes hold of the voice, it makes it as erroneous as the trees and flowers in a garden.

With the upper part of the throat closed when speaking or singing, no mispronunciation is so common, or even universal.Skilled teachers have to deal with this problem first when teaching future opera talents.One of the common methods is to press the end of the handle of a teaspoon on the base of the tongue, forcing the base of the tongue not to lift up. The result of this is to open the upper part of the throat.Another method used by teachers is to guide students to swallow while paying attention to the position of the Adam's apple in the throat. When making syllables, this organ should be pressed to the position of swallowing.This last sequence can be misleading because the Adam's apple will try to rise before the swallow is complete, and it is the latter part of this movement that helps to open the throat.Another solution had to be used, and it proved to be more effective-that is, to imitate stupefied.Try to open the back of the mouth and the upper part of the larynx, like a person gaping open, for success.If you want to make this action flexible and free, it takes a few minutes of practice, and then you can do it as you like.

The closure of the upper part of the throat is an obstacle for people to express their moving voice, and it is also a common mistake in speaking and pronunciation.It makes a person's voice unpleasant or even offensive, which occurs in all aspects of life, and over time such a person loses their attractiveness.

The closure of this articulation part means dislike in the natural state, and more pressure means hatred.Clearly, such sentiments are unwelcome.Although non-professionals cannot deduce the mystery, but intuition tells people that such a tone is offensive.Across the animal kingdom, cats or cat-like animals hiss with this articulation, as a warning to other animals it dislikes, and dogs use the same articulation parts when they growl.So, when we hear someone make that sound, it's more like they're snarling and threatening, not attractive at all.The health of the throat is also closely related to this closed position.Because it irritates the mucous membrane, and the mucous membrane in this area is very complicated.

But that's not to say that all objectionable sounds are harsh.Any tone produced when the upper part of the throat is closed is unpleasant, even if it is only a closed syllable.The natural urge to close the throat stems from displeasure, so this manner of articulation is always offensive.

To solve this problem, the pronunciation position of the throat must be corrected in the way we describe.The process can be completed in no time as long as you follow our guidelines.As long as you can open the upper part of the throat once early, you can open it flexibly any time you speak, this also applies to public speech, and it is completely useful when singing.If you don't correct this position and develop the habit that comes naturally, then you won't have a real singing voice.

Once you've mastered this simple trick, you'll immediately notice a revolutionary change in your vocal character, with any sharp and offensive notes gone.Better volume -- something completely impossible before -- followed.A pure, engaging, and convincing voice compensates for your efforts to correct the mistakes that have prevented you from successfully influencing others.Partially closing the throat is a mistake that almost everyone makes, so we try to correct it immediately.

The problems we have listed in this lesson are far from exhaustive.As the course progresses, many other issues will enter our consideration.Like the garden that is left to itself, human nature itself has accumulated a great deal of weeds of all kinds, and needs a little cultivation and pruning.

There are various forms of interpersonal communication, and the communication between people is usually limited to the communication of eyes and voice, which provides a corresponding channel for the conduction of attraction.

(End of this chapter)