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Chapter 13 The Key to Charm (3)
The less you walk, the less you want to walk, unless in some abnormal situation such as muscle necrosis, walking for a few minutes is good for lifting your spirits.But the feeling of exhaustion afterwards makes you tell yourself that you will never be so flippant again.At this time, you must know that your muscles and bones are lazy. It is impossible to make up for years of weakness through a few days or a few weeks of exercise. to permanent damage.If there are any habits that affect the body or certain functions, slowly break those habits.Bad habits need to be changed through good actions. This is a long process, and haste makes waste.

Chest hunched - another bad posture in which the chest sinks down on the abdomen.All children starting school should be trained out of this position.It may seem rash to say at first sight that this disease is common in early tuberculosis patients, but we will say that you can hardly find tuberculosis or the symptoms of this disease in a person who has not had this bad habit.A sinking chest is itself a sign of weakness, squeezing the heart and impeding its ability to function.Lifting the chest can promote the heart to work better, and the energetic blood is injected into the lungs through the capillaries to strengthen its resistance, so that the tuberculosis bacteria have no place to live there.If you want to do something good for the world, take this advice to all people, to all homes and schools.Remember, one small principle can revolutionize all of humanity.

Lesson 21

softness is vitality

We explored leakage during physical activity in the previous lesson, and now turn our attention to neural waste.Some men and most women will scream at the sight of a mouse, spider or snake.Calmly analyzed after the fact, this kind of stupid behavior can be attributed to a nervous breakdown.Because a highly intelligent person has no reason to be afraid of these critters, one such experience drains more life energy than we can store in three days.

Now, let's take a look at what these experiences are.

Start suddenly—these are trivial things to begin with, but they seriously interfere with the nervous system, making it less efficient and less attractive.

Sudden Stopping—These actions can be directed at the whole body or any part of the body, and occur frequently, as we will see later in this book.

Trembling--This does not mean trembling from fear, but erratic hand movements, an old and feeble habit that many people pick up at a young age.

Sighing - This is caused by insufficient breathing intensity, which means that there is a disorder in the nervous system.Like yawning, this problem can be resolved by putting into practice what is taught in this intensive course.

Shortness of breath - This habit is peculiar in itself and can get worse if left unchecked.It causes people to have to open their mouths to breathe, which is extremely bad for health.All normal breathing air flows through the nostrils. Attractive people breathe deeply and are never out of breath.

Speech pause—this statement may seem a bit strange, but it is an out-and-out fact.There was not one man in two hundred who did not pause in his conversation or speech.According to observation, the common pause is to use a perfunctory "uh".This habit is very common in formal speeches at meetings and even in business negotiations.The way to correct it is to speak calmly under the control of consciousness.

Talking too fast - It's one thing to speak or talk with enthusiasm and genuine emotion, but quite another to have the habit of speaking too fast.When the body is tense and away from the factors we mentioned earlier, exuberance often helps to enhance attractiveness.But if you want to consume your vitality, chatting at a very fast speed is the most effective way.A nervous breakdown is a punishment for talking too much, too quickly.

We find that many people are exhausted after an afternoon of rambling.A woman of great wealth who speaks incessantly and rapidly.We didn't mean to offend her, but we designed a coaching session for her and asked her to keep silent for four weeks.And tell her that if you want to communicate, you must use paper and pen.To satisfy her curiosity, we showed her a letter from Patti.This is a British opera heroine. In her letter, she talked about a habit she had developed, that is, she did not speak a few days before performing on stage, and only used paper and pen to communicate with people.Patty started the program just to protect her voice, only to discover unexpectedly that she also preserved her vitality.After four weeks of silence, the woman was completely cured of her nervousness and low energy.We do not recommend silence therapy for the average person, but we firmly believe that those who talk too much cannot become attractive.

Great orators of great charisma are usually reticent when speaking informally, and the same holds true for actors.

There are many reasons why a man is so keen on expressing himself in a few words, but most of them are strategic.Complete silence looks more like shyness, and moderate silence can be beneficial to anyone.There's a law that the less you say--if you say something and say it wisely--the more respect you'll receive.A person who can earn the respect of others can easily dominate others by virtue of his own attractiveness.

When a man was walking down the street, a friend came up from behind and patted him on the back.He jumped up in fright, held his breath and turned pale. Although he quickly regained his composure, he was still a little tired.When a woman feels in a trance that she sees a mouse in the room and involuntarily shrinks back, the lost attraction cannot be regained in a week.

If something suddenly happens that grabs our attention and makes us jump out of our chairs, much of the vitality of life is lost.When a finger accidentally touches something hot, suddenly the arms and upper body are thrown back, just such a movement is enough to affect the vitality of the body.

We could give a thousand examples of this, in which something happened out of the blue and a person was frightened.Can this tendency be overcome?Yes, as long as a person's IQ is at a normal level, and there is a training system to guide him to success, he can completely control himself, if he is willing to do so.

One night Mrs. Brown was going into her room to put on her pajamas and get ready for bed.Her cousin came forward without a sound, and put her hand on Mrs. Brown's shoulder.Mrs. Brown was so frightened that she jumped a yard or two before she stopped, and then fell weakly to the ground.A year later the same thing happened again, but this time it was her husband who frightened her.He also put his hand on her shoulder from behind, thinking she knew who it was.This frightened her more than ever before, and made her weaker ever since.

She started developing self-control on the advice of her doctor, who had been a student in our attractiveness training program, and it took her three months to overcome her major flaws.One night after 12 o'clock, she got out of bed in the dark and went to the next room to pour water.Her husband woke up too, got out of bed, and followed her silently.The two met in the dark.This time, Mrs. Brown's reaction was different. She didn't scream or jump up.Mrs. Brown later wrote: "I didn't know he was awake, let alone that he was in that room. He stretched out his hand in the dark, and his cold hand touched my face. I was so terrified that I was touched by a zombie who had just crawled out of a coffin. If this was a year ago, I would have jumped up screaming and passed out without a doubt. Ever since I Since I started developing my own attractiveness, I have learned to control my nervous system like a rock, and I have trained myself to deal with any unexpected situation." In fact, there are many people who have obtained the self-control they dream of from our courses. Li, she is just one of them.

The same movement can also impair attractiveness if it is performed involuntarily.Conversely, if these actions are controlled by consciousness or accompanied by inner energy, it is beneficial to enhance attraction.

The loss of energy caused by a sudden start or stop is most evident when water is flowing over an object.If you suddenly use this object to cut off the water flow, there will be a scene of splashing water; if you suddenly remove the object, you will see the same scene.It is as if the train stops running suddenly and the passengers will be thrown out of the seats; conversely, if the train starts suddenly, the passengers will be thrown behind.

Also attraction can be started or stopped suddenly, in order to overcome this, you must first be aware of this flaw and then develop good habits in your daily routine, all movements are done softly and slowly when starting or stopping .If you do this, your usual carelessness and clumsiness will disappear without a trace, and your attractiveness will also increase.

Lesson 22

overcome worry
Having dealt with physical and neurological leaks in the first two lessons, we now explore the third dimension of human life.The spiritual level of a person, like any other level, suffers from a great deal of leakage of attraction.These leaks greatly impair one's impact on one's surroundings, and they are not easy to fix.Physicians say that the human body suffers more energy losses from leaks in the spiritual plane than in any other area.

Leakage on the spiritual level has two effects, one is to debilitate the person who suffers it, and the other is to make them repulsive to others.

This depletion is caused by some form of mental deprivation, or because some outside force has corrupted and damaged the mind, making it difficult to control itself and the rest of the body.

The most dangerous and most impoverishing state of mind is worry.Concerns also fall into two categories:

1. Worry caused by various activities in life.

2. Worry caused by mental illness.

The subject is almost endless, and all we can do is present to you the various methods that have been successfully overcome in the past.Books on this subject might fill a small library.

Worry is a mental illness, it's like a virus in the blood.While it's there, it only takes a single swipe to uproot it and win the day, provided you use the right approach and "weapon".

Melancholy is a mental drain which not only destroys a man's vitality, but robs him of his good opinions and the confidence of others.Without the trust of others, there will be no successful partners around.For this reason and the next one, we have given a perfect remedy in the previous lesson of this book, "How to Develop Mental Strength".The next problem is well known:
Pessimism - This is the opposite of optimism.We know that many people have successfully built their attraction systems intuitively, using their own optimism and the related methods provided in How to Develop Mental Strength.Optimism, if not guided by good judgment and common sense, is but a whim.There are people who show great enthusiasm in the presence of acquaintances, which is of no use unless they themselves are mentally weak.In a series of reactions after jubilation, pessimism often dominates.

However, after all, optimism is a good thing, and even if it is misused, it will not embarrass the user.If one wants to see progress in one's (we mentioned) demeanor the day after reading the book, the quickest way to accumulate personal magnetism at this point is to act like an optimist Think about it that way.There is certainly nothing wrong with doing what is called for in How to Develop Mental Strength, but don't go to the other extreme and overdo it.As Scrooge said to Marley's soul: "Don't put on airs, don't be pompous." Remember that optimism is a veneer if it is not endowed with attractiveness. You can see it right away, unless you have a smarter mind than life's cunningest competitor.

Frustration is another way to waste attraction energy.Depression ensues when one fails to see opportunities and advantages in life.In other words, seeing these opportunities and advantages, but not being ready to take full advantage of them.Such people are deeply affected by such extreme emotional reactions.

Precious time must not be wasted while young people are preparing for success.The same holds true for middle-aged and professionals at any stage of their careers.A person who can't read and write in middle age, but then seizes every spare moment to learn by himself, and finally achieves a successful life.If he hadn't cherished his time so much, he might have had nothing to do but pass the time with frivolous fun and frivolity until his death.In order to overcome depression, you must make progress in your life.This means that you can't spend as much as you earn, but let yourself store up some truly valuable knowledge every day, and keep in touch with those worthy people.Take 5 minutes a day to stop silly mistakes in speaking and keep them to a minimum.These are a few examples we picked at random to indicate where you should work towards.

Superficial thinking - superficial thinking is a natural state, in which people often think about it, think a lot but lack deep thinking.Attractive people think deeply about problems, and the deeper they think, the stronger their attractiveness will be.

Superficial thinking often occurs in the following activities: mindless reading, reading novels, reading newspapers, games, games, puzzles, card games, social interactions, and many activities other than work and school.

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