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Chapter 20 Tension Creates Charm (2)
Lesson 32

mild near tension

The process of energy development should maintain static growth, but the limit of strength should not be touched.The strength should be gentle but not slack, firm but not rigid.We need to take advantage of the opportunities between the two extremes to maintain long-term strength growth, but we need to avoid being too rigid.If you can understand this, we start the next phase right now, which means a lot to you.

We have also encountered students who failed to achieve success. Let's talk about the reasons for their failure first.A few years ago, a gentleman approached the author himself and said, "I'm not as far as I should be in developing attractiveness, but some of my friends are doing really well." We replied, "Before you explain any details , we may be able to write down the reasons for your failure." We simply wrote a few sentences, sealed them and handed them to him.Then we asked him to do the self-tightening process six times, which he did.We said, "The reason for your failure is in this envelope." He opened the envelope and read: "Your self-tightening process was too sudden, and you stretched your strength to the limit. You made one of these two mistakes or one of them." of a kind, and so all progress is for naught.”

Any function can generate energy under tension, but it must be supported by an attractive energy source, just like a battery or generator must supply energy at both ends of a wire to generate electricity.Otherwise, there may be some vitality, but very weak.You can mobilize the attractiveness stored in your body through self-tightening, and then further strengthen it. At the same time, you can enhance the breadth and intensity of attractiveness with steady movements and demeanor.

Main principle
Contact under tension can reveal attraction.

To see whether a person is attractive or not, first look at his hands.If his hands are cold, one possibility is that he has a temporary lack of energy, or the other possibility is that the person is unattractive.Warm hands are not enough, it is just a necessary condition.When you grab someone's hand and find that it has these qualities it doesn't do anything special, but if it had a little strength it would be different.If you grasp it too tightly, it will appear stiff and undesirable; if you touch it casually, it will appear weak.No one wants to hold a cold and weak hand.

Some men and even women like to welcome someone they know but don't know very well by holding the other's hand tightly until the other person feels pain. This kind of physical contact is not a gesture of generosity.Stressing others with tensed muscles, or weak arms due to frailty, have no bearing on attraction.As we all know, love and marriage can make people attractive in a short period of time, and it can be called the fastest attractive generator.As early as 4000 years ago in ancient times, people have known that warm lips or hands are a symbol of love. "That's what nature intended, so it drives the sexes to attract each other, to give them the ability to win each other, to attract each other, to charm each other so that the race can continue." But in many cases, this attraction is blind.A heart that does not love or feel love from others is not attractive.

The joy of friendship is often shattered by the rash and careless.How do you feel when the hands you hold are as cold as ice, or like a pair of vices?Neither situation will make you happy.One means that the other party is hypocritical or weak, and the other indicates that the other party is physically strong but emotionally indifferent.A true lover does not break the hand of a sweetheart, nor does the latter weakly shake the hand of the former.Shyness may make the hands tremble, even tremble, in both hands, but there is a subtle, inner pulsation in the hands—certainly not the case with the former.Human emotions are constantly expressed in various ways, but the attraction of love always makes the body tense, and always proves its existence through touch, voice and sight.

If you want to make sense of this, in your own life or in the experience of others, to separate truth from pretense, apply this law and see what happens.If the hands are held weakly, it means that the two parties do not approve of what is being said or written; if the hands are held tightly and stiffly, it fully confirms the disguise, they are trying to appear sincere .If it is a greeting out of true love, the first contact between the two parties should be the eyes, and then the handshake, and the strength will gradually change from weak to strong, but not too tight.The fusion of attraction between people is the most pleasurable feeling in the world, which is the great law of human life written in the book "Sex Magnetism".This law was valid in the past and is still valid today, so it should be learned by all free of charge, but only under the right conditions.

An old couple comes to mind as we write this.The men are less than 60 years old, and the women are in their 40s.They sat in the house across the street and watched the sunset fade away in the western sky.They hold each other's hands, the sweetness and intimacy is like 19-year-old lovers.No matter how old a person is, what is needed is strong interest, not rash boasting.Look at the girl and her fiancé, they greet each other with a handshake, it seems so perfunctory, that's because they are not alone.When they are in their own time and space, they will behave completely differently from each other.It might be a goodbye in the evening, or a longer separation after visiting each other.They looked at each other with affection in their eyes.At this moment, they intuitively realize that the lips represent a thousand words, and the vows expressed in words are superfluous.Words from the heart rely on behavioral communication, and this kind of communication is undoubtedly acceptable to both parties.Slowly they approached each other and embraced, her beautiful cheeks flushed like a rose among a garden of lilies.Cold-lipped readers will read this page and shudder at these descriptions with incredulity.An unattractive person will have no emotion and poetry in life, nor will there be sweetness and charm, and there will be nothing but a mechanical existence.

When it comes to developing attractiveness, there's no better way to develop it than with the usual touch of arm in a greeting.You have to be careful not to go to two extremes.Remember, there's no point in having a loose arm; too tight a grip is disingenuous, unless you're doing it inadvertently.Don't think firmness is all that people need.Self-tightening brings you closer and closer to rigidity, and if you keep increasing the tension, you will eventually become rigid.Tightening the limit is losing attraction.Attraction manifests itself when the person's body, arms and hands gradually become firmer and firmer.Such trials may need to be done all day long to have a noticeable effect.All of these methods can be turned into habits.As long as you pay attention at the beginning, they can quickly be integrated into the daily chores of life.Once these habits are established, you don't have to spend any more time on them.Nothing speaks to your progress more than this strength, and as long as progress is made it is impossible to stand still.

Lesson 33

A powerful voice is beautiful
Our study continues to move forward and now explores the main channel through which people communicate - speech.When a person shows attractiveness, about 90% of the communication has to be expressed through voice.True, a sentence may also be attractive, but only in so-called spiritual appeal.The section on "Creating Magnetic Sound" takes up a lot of space in this book.We talked about nervousness and will discuss tense voices in this part, which will make the lessons on voice more accessible.

Main principle
An attractive voice is always tense.

Being able to express attractiveness through your voice when speaking or singing is such an important achievement that it deserves a section dedicated to it.We now briefly describe the stages in which it is applied.

Speech is basically divided into three categories: monotonous, tense and emotional.The first voice is so common that it can be heard everywhere, from the simplest conversation to the yelling of a high-flying salesman or a tired speaker.A monotonous voice will not be tense, lifeless and emotionless.Therefore, street vendors will never succeed in the pulpit.It is for this reason that most ordinary speakers, priests, advocates, and various other figures fail.If they set their minds to improving their speech, they may become great men.

Such monotonous voices are commonplace in everyday conversation.When someone's voice makes you languish, the cause is usually easy to find.No tense voice is tiring, neither are energetic and emotional voices.There seem to be too many acoustic vibration courses to explore this subject.Sound itself is just a wave, and if it is limited to a specific frequency range, it is just a sound.But we can artificially add vibrating elements to it, and even a church organ can add vibrato like singing or speaking voice.However, this neither proves that the voice is tense at this time, nor does it mean that it has emotion.

Many people wonder why the sound of a piano or organ is more impressive when played by a musical genius than by an amateur, and why experts are more skilled than ordinary people.Technique and details are important factors, but there is something difficult to express in words, which cannot be explained according to the normal rules of music, and this is attraction.How does attraction affect musical instruments?Could it be the latter rather than technical factors that lead to such an outcome, and is it just a means?Yes, the same is true for the vocal cords in people's larynx.Everything, bones, muscles, nerves, and every part of the body follows the same principle.Behind the matter is the soul, the spark of life, the attraction.So, when the gifted musician touches the keys of his instrument, the force is transmitted in waves from the vibration of that tense hand, into the air, and resonates in all.

However, everyone can hear them.

If your voice is flat, it's impossible to be attractive.The first step you need to take is to break up this monotony by adding vibrato at every level of coarse articulation and tonal detail.There is also an old method of replacing superficial timbre with real sound.Laryngeal vibrato is often used in music training, but it is not natural enough.The emotive voice comes from the diaphragm, the large muscle at the bottom of the lung cavity, just above the stomach.To find this muscle, place your fingers on your stomach, where the tops of your ribs are.In short, this muscle is located in the uppermost part of the abdomen, and can be said to be the lowermost part of the chest, where the cartilage is located.

When you cough, the diaphragm jumps up and its edge jumps forward, which you can feel with your fingers.Now take a deep breath and place the palm of your left hand on the edge of the diaphragm and the palm of your right hand on the back of your left hand.Pronounce the "ou-ou" sound for as long as possible while rapidly vibrating the lower chest area with your hands.At this point, your voice will vibrate, which is the only natural vibrato.Diaphragm muscle can make people laugh, be happy, and be happy through its own vibration, and it can also make people sad, sad, sobbing, crying, hysterical, and produce various emotions known to people.

There are more than 100 types of vibrations.Only 10 are included in the common learning expressions, and you should practice incorporating them into your own pronunciation.After we have trilled with the help of our fingers, the next step is to trill without the aid of our fingers.Pronounce the "ou" sound with a firm trill and stop the "ou-ou" sound, and keep practicing until you can easily say many sentences like the following: "Sympathy for the poor old man's misfortune." "Oh, long And dreary winter." "My dear master, I can't walk any longer!" etc.When you have completed this step, the next step is to expand or contract the area of ​​vibration.That said, making the range as wide or narrow as you like is important, but not an easy task.

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