Personal Charm Perfect Private Tutorial

Chapter 22 Relaxing and Blooming Charm (1)
Lesson 36

silence also shines
Every step we take in the process will become more and more interesting and important.If you feel that it does, then every part of this work is at its highest value.After entering this new section, we use the word "relax" to replace the original static exercises.It is necessary to explain that we here want to use the word relaxation to refer to a state of life where there is no waste of energy, there is no lack of vitality during relaxation.In fact, the more energetic the brain and body are, the calmer the process of thinking and the strength of the body, the more it can reflect the value of relaxation.We have to fight and defeat the arch enemy of attraction here - loss of vitality.

General restlessness is the most common cause of energy leakage.

Common manifestations of restlessness include restlessness, restlessness, tossing and turning, or indulging in other excesses.This leakage is a different cause than the well-known nervousness, depression, or loss of vitality.

Once you think someone you've met is attractive, a litany of truths quickly becomes apparent.Regardless of who the person is, these facts have something in common, and that's charisma or what's called personal magnetism.We recall several friendly interviews many years ago with the great orator, Hon. Henry W. Grady.Even in private, he displayed a palpable personal appeal.There was something charismatic about his words, his steps, his appearance, and his way of doing things.The heavier the tasks he takes on, the better he does them, and the more activities he takes part in in life, the more he draws his companions to him.In his youth, he did not show much superior ability, but he showed his extraordinary attractiveness.He can draw others to him, and they are receptive to his direction and advice, and they enjoy working on his great ideas.

There is no doubt that the honors and other advantages that Hong Henry W. Glady acquired later were entirely due to the attractiveness he had developed during his career.

Now, some think he's overly nervous.In fact, he is not the kind of anxious person, his nervousness is actually a manifestation of strength.If Mr. Glady is in a room, the first thing that catches you the moment you enter is that he doesn't look a little restless.If there are 20 people standing in front of him, they will be attracted by his extraordinarily peaceful demeanor.If he sat down with dozens of men and women, he would surely be the first to catch the attention of critics looking for reasons for attraction.

Still, not one of the 1 people was able to analyze or explain the difference.

Getting rid of restlessness does not mean making a person clumsy and rigid, or asking him to assume a fixed position and then remain in that position without moving.Relaxation is the basis of leisure, elegance and charm, but this relaxation must be a relaxation of strength, not let people become lazy; it must be flexible under high tension, not dead.As you implement the subsequent steps of this study, you will come up with ideas for completing the process.

An engine may be in a relaxed state due to lack of fuel, or it may be in a state of great power, but still in a calm relaxed state or a smooth running state.

Whenever we consider the characteristics of those attractive people, we cannot help being attracted by our own early youth and courage, and we begin to probe carefully into the private lives of outstanding people, always wanting to make sure that there is some coordination. Consistent habits come with what is called personal attraction.At the age of 16, the author published two works, which attracted people's attention, which helped him to make contacts.Before long, he founded and launched a journal, which proved helpful as well.Later, he joined forces with some newspaper editors and leveraged the power of donors and reporters to expand his career, and these people allowed him to meet more strangers.He was also personally known by many heavyweights, and there were many people of this kind of fame all over the country.He later worked in oratory, employing eminent orators such as Phillips, Gough, Beecher, all of whom were naturally attractive.He also met Brooks, Newman, Sumner, Conkling, Grady, Edwin Booth, Wilson Ba Dozens of celebrities including Wilson Barrett and Lawrence Barrett.They are successful because they are attractive.

None of these great men possessed hypnotic powers, but all were extremely successful.Likewise, none of them were under the slightest influence of the hypnotist.These facts agree that personal attraction and hypnotism are two very different things.

We would also like to point out that no attractive person can get caught up in pervasive restlessness, at least not in the stages of life in which each of them is successful.We think back to Lawrence Barrett, who in the final years of his career was strained by an illness that made him feel depressed, with restlessness eroding his strength.But such an exception just proves the truth of the rule.

Feel free to apply this factual principle to any stage of your career or life practice and notice the results.

You have to remember that an attractive person must be able to attract people, and therefore must be able to interest others.A restless person is not only uninteresting, but also distasteful.In addition to this disadvantage, it will also cause a leak of vitality in the body, which in turn will take away the attractiveness.Attractiveness is essential if a person is to succeed again after the distasteful factor has worn off.We can best explain the power of relaxation with a personal example.Suffering from energy stress, this man is world famous but persists in learning the system with the sole goal of overcoming his uncontrollable temper.He said: "I've learned from your book that perfect relaxation is of irreplaceable value when the whole body, brain and nerves are fired with terrifying energy. When someone I hate so much drives me mad At that time, it was like this. At that time, I saw the dagger, thought of the dagger, felt the dagger. I was about to explode, but suddenly I calmed down like a genial summer wind.

"I discovered the secret of life."

Lesson 37

quiet atmosphere

Suppose a raging mob threatens to destroy a large city and succeeds in arousing panic among the crowd. A tense-looking man is placed in front of the mob, who may shout and gesticulate in a panic , but all in vain.His outlandish antics just bored the crowd, and they didn't listen to what he had to say.And the other person, with a firm gaze, walked up to a high platform in a few steps and stood there looking directly into people's eyes with no expression on his face.He just waved to the crowd, like a statue standing on the stage, but attracted everyone's attention.He didn't move, made no appeals by voice or look.He didn't show concern, nor asked everyone to be quiet, standing there restraining the volcanic energy in his body.There was something attractive about him in his complete stillness, the way he stood there said it all, a man of heroism and daring was the leader of the crowd.

this is life.This example is a real event, which tells us the truth of life.What good is shouting?What is the use of frenzied appeals, prayers, entreaties, stormy zeal, or posturing coaxing?How should the person on stage behave in order to silence the crowd, a strong command or a humble plea?There is only one kind of person who can do this task successfully, and that is the person who is deeply silent.He can hold his own great power and calmly look at those angry faces.Everyone in the audience looked at him one by one, watching his godlike behavior.People just stared at him without saying a word, the crowd gradually quieted down, and the atmosphere became more dignified.The man stood there like a stone statue, but he was alive.The shouting went away, and the surroundings were solemn and quiet.In such an atmosphere, every word he said was heard and understood by everyone, and he seemed to have successfully controlled the crowd in front of him.

There was a famous businessman who was extremely calm and attractive.One evening he brought the accounts home to be checked, with a sum of money on him, when a desperado found out.It was midnight, and there was silence outside the room.The businessman was sitting at the desk writing calculations and thinking, when suddenly he heard footsteps in the dark room next door, and the door was open.

Calmness is essential.We've had letters from nervous people who say they can't keep their cool.However, when they first develop attractiveness, they are able to overcome this deficiency.From such facts, it is not difficult to see that tense movements consume a lot of energy in the body, resulting in a rapid loss of vitality.At the same time, the moment a person fails to maintain his composure, he immediately loses control over others.The businessman mentioned above has this combination of qualities and is therefore able to deal with thieves.So the following conversations took place:

"Come in."

The thief made up his mind to kill the man if he resisted.Although he was taken aback by the man's words, he went into the room.The burglar pointed a revolver at the man's head, and as he approached said:

"I finally caught you."

"Uh?"

"I finally caught you."

"Please sit down."

"No, no more. I have work to do. I finally got you."

"Uh?"

"You have to listen to me. Don't move."

"Your words sound a little strange, like professional burglars?"

"Well, I'm more careful. Give me your money, or you will die."

"Money is no problem. I have given a lot of money without waiting for others to ask for it. I don't care much about money. As long as I have enough, I will give others the rest of the money. But I don't like your tone of voice."

"Okay. Come on. I'm here waiting for the count."

"what are you going to do?"

"One more move and I'll kill you."

"What good will it do you to kill me? Then you'll be hanged."

"impossible."

The merchant's eyes were fixed on the thief, and he was later found to be a little timid.From that moment on, he was sure of the outcome of the matter.

"You're sure to be hanged. Do you see that button?"

"I saw it."

"Did you hear the voice down there?"

"police?"

"Give me the pistol."

……

The thief is serving time in prison now.

Calm and attractiveness are the magic weapon against all enemies, but both must work together.The stronger you are in one of these, the stronger you will be in the other as well, but only if the calmness is not simply apathy, and the person is not a cold-blooded idiot.Remember to keep your engine full of power.

A speaker is giving a speech on stage.He was a little tired, and he looked flat, indifferent, and without tension.This is because his engine is off, so his body is so calm.

Another speaker was also on stage, energetic but casual.He nodded slightly whenever he emphasized something, as many readers or speakers do.His eyes were unsteady, and he kept scanning all directions of the audience, but showed no strength.He paced back and forth, changing his center of gravity every minute or two.He moved forward, backward, left, and right, and he couldn't maintain any position for long.He leans the upper part of his body forward and bends down to emphasize what he calls an important point, several times a minute.He made various gestures, but his finger movements did not match the movement of his whole arm, and the thoughts he expressed were not important enough to require him to use body language.It didn't take long for him to use up all the energy he should have used to project his attractiveness.Now, finding himself having to cover up his lack of attractiveness with physical presence, he started yelling and banging tables.

There is also a speaker standing on the stage to give a speech.He is one of those rare honest people because he knows what kind of professionalism he needs.He was calm, not because he was weak, but because he knew an important truth, all the strength in the body must be concentrated to make a powerful speech.He stood there quietly, and only when it was absolutely necessary, he made a forward movement, like a mighty warship sailing from anchor, instead of standing at the podium like some speakers. Go around in circles.His head didn't bob up and down or side to side with the rhythm of the speech, which most speakers can't do.His head is always in a proud posture, and he looks energetic and in a good state of relaxation.This characteristic of him made the audience admire and naturally attracted the audience.

Few people can keep their head in an attractive position all the time.When he or she feels tired, the head is lowered, or tilted to the left or right, or thrown back.If the person is attractive, he appears relaxed, not rigid.Attraction has no set pattern, but it is by no means a stiff neck.Only when people behave calmly can they show strength. We need to be still instead of rigid, let alone frozen like a dead person.When an ordinary man is told to cheer up and beat the burnout, he can do nothing but stand there stiffly.In fact, the latter case is worse than the former, and attraction leads us to weed out these extreme cases altogether.

The third speaker is attractive.His mannerisms are just right, and he knows the value of relaxation and silence before he takes the stage to face his audience.The second speaker distributed his vitality according to his choice, expending long-reserved vitality on useless movements.He wanted to make his point with gestures and gestures, and he assumed various bodily positions in the hope of expressing his thoughts, as did many other speakers.Although, he preferred the stretched and expressive arm pose to the swinging pose that other people used to do, it didn't work out as well.Why do almost all speakers believe that movement is more expressive than posture?One way of expressing it is to touch someone with your hand, and the other way is to raise your arm and clenched your fist, is the latter less expressive than the former?The speaker tries to interpret his thought, but it is impossible for him to generate new vitality through the relevant performance.Like when he talks about killing, it's impossible to actually fire a shot.The relaxation inherent in depicting poses is always more effective and aesthetically pleasing than action poses without any meaning.

A lawyer who can control himself can quickly win the respect of others.Such a lawyer does not leap from his chair to protest loudly to the judge, but is always able to get his advice heard if the interests of his client require him to do so.The more dignified he appears, the more fully his advice will be heeded.Judges appreciate lawyers who are calm and self-possessed, and dislike overactive, tense-looking guys who want to throw everything in front of the judge.Calm lawyers are the most effective in dealing with witnesses because they think faster and have more ideas than excitable lawyers.

(End of this chapter)