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Chapter 23 Relaxing and Blooming Charm (2)
The habit of walking up and down while speaking is the result of nervousness, and this habit will seriously drain a speaker's energy.Some people like to walk up and down, from one place to another, as if motivated by some special interest in doing so.But if you look at the lawyers or speakers who are successful, shrewd, and attractive, they don't stray from a given zone.

There is nothing more interesting than observing the people around you, studying human nature, and applying certain laws of life to analyze their habits and the way they treat themselves.

A new phase of learning attractiveness is called the Comparative System.This system has been used by those who want to achieve maximum success in the shortest amount of time, with the least amount of effort.Many quick-thinking people have had great success with this system, which seems to have been invented by a charismatic individual to facilitate personal progress.

The value of the comparison system is that it is simple in itself, requires no extra time on your part, requires no practice, the only thing you need to do is observe other people, study their quirks and deficiencies in self-control, and compare their various Behaviors and flaws are compared with their own.Content may relate to how a person acts, stands, walks, speaks, behaves, shows restlessness or lack of self-control, etc.Observe what shortcomings or advantages they have, and then check whether you have them. If so, study them carefully one by one.

Lesson 38

Gain momentum in calm
Our next consideration is the body and mind in a state of absolute calm but with tremendous energy.We should use the energy contained in us to come up with good ideas, not allow ourselves to use that energy to breed all kinds of emotions; we should use that energy to maintain firm determination instead of wasting it on inaction.Likewise, we must remember:

A strong life must have energy in its body.

If it is not necessary for the expression of the inner life, there cannot be any action.

The exercises presented in this chapter have a comprehensive character.When possible, we prefer to use everyday events rather than dry exercises to advance our learning.A child becomes attractive as an adult without deliberate practice, but he or she has always been practicing.The young are endowed with extra vigor by nature, as evidenced by their nervousness, vivacity of movement, and youthfulness.The reason why nature gave them this extra strength is to help children through the early dangers of life.No matter from the statistics, or from the real environment, people have to go through many difficulties and obstacles when they are young.After a period of restlessness in early life, some people enter into a fixed phase of relaxation, where they become sluggish and have little internal vitality.Very few people gain personal attraction through this natural process.

What is the reality?

Who told the young men that an active mind, a throbbing life, is very attractive when suppressed by other forces; can enhance that attraction; who told them that meaningless actions and actions can deplete attraction in great quantities and destroy its source?

Perhaps no one has ever told them these things, perhaps because they have seen some genius in action, but have not seen it clearly, mistakenly thinking that this is where the secret lies.They have become experts at self-calming before they actually realize the real truth.They may also use their keen judgment to conclude that those who are fidgety are less impressive to those around them than those who are able to maintain and manage their vitality.In any case, the characteristics of naturally attractive people are the same as those exhibited by those who acquire this ability.As long as it is attraction, its appearance is the same.

You can do it with practice or you can do it with habit, and they are the two avenues to the temple of attraction.The reason is the same, they are all to maintain life energy and then enhance it, and finally achieve the goal of developing attractiveness.It's one thing for you to do these things by habit, it's another thing to do them by practice, but the effect is the same.The work carried out in this chapter can be called an exercise, and we are trying to illustrate it in two categories:
1. Habits of people who are born with personal magnetism.

2. Pure practice.

It will suffice if you use the former rather than the latter, provided that the easier and more natural methods you use have the same effect as pure practice.The advantage of the latter is that the speed of advancement is faster and more guaranteed.

Newly acquired habits can quickly become second nature.

Part of the beauty of second nature is that a new habit doesn't mess with your mind if you're doing it right; it can, if you're doing it wrong.There was a person who always made a grammatical error when speaking, but he didn't know it for several years.Later he learned the correct grammatical rules and used them quickly.After a few weeks of using it like this, he found that using this grammatical rule correctly had become second nature to him.Since then, he has not realized that he has been following those rules.Once a habit is integrated into your life, you don't need your brain to pay attention to it.However, a miracle occurs here: when he does not make a grammatical mistake, he is not aware of the existence of these rules; but once he makes a mistake in this, his brain can immediately think of these rules.

The same law is even more powerful when it comes to personal habits.With deficient posture, you can overcome it with practice.If you become paralyzed by the flaw you noticed at the time, and continue to do it in the usual way, you will never be aware of the flaw.This needs to be brought to our attention, when you want to make deep silence second nature to yourself, and you have been working on it for a few weeks, then your whole nervous system accepts this state as a Habit.Then, when you act out of the habit, the brain becomes aware of the behavior.

Deep silence requires absolute calm of the mind and emotions.We believe that, in this or any other type of study, nothing is more important than keeping a cool head.Although the muscles often fall into the tendency of movement, or the nerves often fall into the tendency of twitching, the brain as the engineer of the body cannot have the performance of excitement, we cannot let the emotions control our mind and body.

Calmness is a success if it is a sign of strength and not exhaustion.Many small laws apply here, but they are not broad enough to be called principles.We state it as follows:
If the muscles of the body are always making various actions unconsciously without the consciousness of the brain, it will cause a waste of energy.

If the nerves in the body always twitch unconsciously without the consciousness of the brain, it will also cause a waste of energy.

The deep silence practiced in this book can not only overcome various defects, but also lead people to the enhancement of attractiveness.

Agitated emotion may or may not involve the brain, muscles, and nerves, but it certainly has an effect on the brain.Unless the person is the attractive self-control type.

It's the best test of your ability to separate your emotions from your mind, and your facial expressions from your entire body.

The exercises in this book of deep silence can achieve those results.

Napoleon was able to keep his face as impassive as marble when necessary, and he did not let even his closest friends or closest advisors know what he was thinking, or learn what any news, good or bad, was doing to him. actual impact.He kept a calm facial expression throughout, without any hints.Except for the occasional moment when he got angry, he kept a deep silence the rest of the time.He is simply an engine of immense power and well-controlled, with the greatest pull.In this way he can make rebellious people act according to his will, can inspire himself to show a strong sense of fearlessness, and can deter his opponents diplomatically.

Bismarck, Gladstone, and all great men were able to separate their emotions from their reason, their muscles from their nerves, and thus prevent passions from invading reason without conscious control.

Mental and emotional excitement can be masked by controlling muscles and nerves, and sometimes this doesn't make much difference to attraction.However, preventing the speaking voice from deviating from the excitement requires a huge expenditure of this power, which is the meaning of the existence of meticulous deep silence.

Practice deep silence throughout the day.Mobilize all the parts of the body used to perform duties on weekdays, but be careful not to make redundant movements.It doesn't take long, and you'll get stronger for it.If necessary, have a friend supervise you and prompt you to remove redundant behaviors, all movements included.

Parents can always control their children, and not in an aloof way.They rely on the perfect strength of every part of the body in a state of absolute relaxation, requiring no movement but a peaceful glance, a serene face, and calm control of mind and body.No child can resist such an influence, for it is supported by the attractiveness generated by coolness, not even the naughtiest of children.

The teachers of the school can restrain the most lawless students by the method just mentioned.There are many examples of teachers using this irresistible force to subdue students, and we can't finish it in hundreds of pages.This power comes from a deep silence filled with attractive energy.

Similar results can be seen everywhere.So, there is no reason why you should not master those with whom you come in contact.

Mastering others, however, requires a resourceful mind, which is the key to success in life.It can help you open the hearts and pockets of friends or colleagues, can help you win true friendship, and can also help you earn wealth from formal channels.

There is little difference between natural attractiveness and cultivated attractiveness.If we have no tact, we cannot use it well.Today, in real life, there are many people who should have achieved something but are humble. All they need to do is to develop their abilities.They long and dream of having a proud career, a bright future, but they don't have a quick-witted mind.We go into them and bring them out by teaching them how to deal with the real world, by telling them about Shakespeare and Milton, Whitefield and Spurgeon, Webster and Kress, Garrick and Goff.At this time, all we see is a look of longing.

Lesson 39

Attractive couples never fight

Now, our training sessions take us into a new field of practice.The content of this chapter depends on the previous lesson, but there are significant differences in the format and results of the quiz.We want to say that the previous work is all to accomplish the following two special missions:
1. Let the muscles enter a state of deep silence when the life energy is the most vigorous.

2. Let the nerves enter an absolutely stable state when the life energy is the most vigorous.

When we practice deep muscular silence, we can use any muscle to express life force in any form if necessary.The experiments of the previous chapter may be called mechanical exercises, directed only at the nerves.The difference between the two must be made clear.Now, we have to combine these two to achieve a "sculptural" effect.

(End of this chapter)