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Chapter 34 The Ultimate Application of Attraction (4)
Three years ago, we saw a large number of male employees working in tall and spacious office buildings.We went there again recently, but we had this question: "Where are the smoking employees?" The biggest mistakes and inefficiencies are always associated with smoking employees. We do not fire them all at once, but let them gradually fade out as jobs are reduced. When we need to add people, we recruit non-smoking employees. According to our knowledge You know, other offices do the same. Cigarettes eat away at the brain, the blood, and make the otherwise strong man a 'slave' of the habit. We don't want some 'slaves' working for us."

Retail stores and other parts of retail businesses typically employ thousands of workers, but smokers are often kept out.As for the original smokers in the enterprise, in many cases, once the enterprise changes, they are the first to lose their jobs.

Attraction is incompatible with enslavement, and if a habit makes a man a slave, it is destined to be a great obstacle to the cultivation of attraction.

People who indulge in certain bad habits like to smooth things over for themselves, saying that at least they can do as much as they want outside of work hours and places.Therefore, they are not suitable for working during the day, because all kinds of carnivals at night consume too much energy.For example, many young female workers in large office organizations often yawn at work, suggesting that nighttime activities drain a lot of their physical, mental and neurological energy.These women are gradually withdrawing from their jobs, even though many of them still have to support aging parents.The question arises, do we need to give up a great job opportunity in order to indulge in fun?
Employers now have a way to find out what those who work for them are doing outside of work.It's not that they want to spy on their employees, it's to promote those who have good habits.Because the most perfect mechanism in the world is to help those who are willing to help themselves.

Really good quality is not afraid of being observed by others.

The leader of a large domestic company told us that their principle is to promote those employees who have good habits and high efficiency.They were able to do this because they had done a prior investigation into the private lives of their employees and considered their loyalty as employees.People with attractive values ​​always win.

Lesson 54

Never stop the pace of self-improvement

As the more important content of the study emerges, we let go of the succinct exposition made in the previous text and immediately turn our attention to the climax of the use of attraction.When we speak of value, we do not mean money or possessions, but signs of quality and value.The value of money and property lies in the well-being they bring to people, not the ultimate goal that people pursue in real life.We have shown that the values ​​of various substances, even if exchanged equally, only simulate or substitute for the value of attraction.We divide attractive values ​​into two categories, one is basic value and the other is noble value.The basic value is more advanced and noble than the material value, and it cannot stay in people's life forever, but it can be picked up and discarded at will.Despite this limitation, they still exhibit a degree of appeal.

In order to understand the significance of high values, we need briefly review the case of basic values, which will not take too long.Some books on personal attractiveness tell readers that being nice and courteous, more than anything else, contributes to this strength.You don't have to put on a special or attractive tone at home, and you speak in a normal tone.Then suddenly someone comes to see you, and you want to impress him, and you immediately put on what you call your “Sunday tone,” which everyone is doing.When the visitor leaves, you drop the tone you just assumed and go back to your old way of speaking.To anyone who watches you closely, the difference in your behavior will be apparent, as will your demeanor, your attention, and your concentration.

All of these are fundamental values, and they can only embody a certain degree of attraction, but not high enough, because whatever can be disguised and unloaded at will is ephemeral, superficial, and cannot be inner. .

The same thing can also reflect noble value.True, they can also be disguised, but only if you make it permanent through hard work.Experience has shown that once they are integrated into someone's personality, they stay there for life.Career, marriage, and business, along with professions, cover almost all human activities.It is in these areas of life that Personal Attraction finds its many opportunities for success.We can't help but take this into consideration as we move forward with the content of this lesson.

The spirit of self-improvement is one of the noble values.

The spirit itself is attractive.It is not a state or situation, but an action.It can only move forward, not backward, let alone stand still.It is for these reasons that it is destined to exert an extraordinary influence on people's lives.It doesn't stop once it gains momentum.However, instinctive consciousness cannot operate it.It requires higher faculties to move forward, and that's all there is to it.Instinctive awareness cannot ensure that with every step we take in self-improvement, both mind and body, we add value to the corresponding phase of life, by forging a better self in general, a being in a particular field of activity. a more perfect person.There are countless examples of the usefulness of this law. Take Lawrence Barrett, whom we mentioned in an earlier lesson. He was poor and unschooled in his youth.When he became an actor, he did not stay put, but became a scholar well versed in multiple fields of psychological development, and his learning was reflected in his theater career.

A person with only one-sided thinking is not attractive.It is well known that the more knowledge a man has of history, literature, rhetoric, languages, and biographies of great men, among many other branches of science, the better a man will be as a lawyer, and every great lawyer has deep knowledge in other fields .To master all-round knowledge, applicants can pass the examination and be admitted as lawyers only if they meet this requirement.

We know a young lawyer who, instead of putting his feet up on the desk and waiting for clients to come to his door every day, uses this time to collect various forms and copy the written complaints of other cases accumulated in the clerk's office, learning to How to transfer a case to a higher court through an appeal, search for exemption clauses, motions in equity court proceedings, learn to organize and prepare special documents by studying past cases, copy related contracts, agreements, leases, wills and countless others clean file.He keeps all these documents in his office so that he can familiarize himself with them in his spare time.A client's choice of which lawyer to hire is based on his experience, and such written documentation forms part of that experience.As a result, the young lawyer quickly rose through the legal profession.Many lawyers who are older than him often consult him for technical knowledge when defending some important cases.He studied many books at night, and thus gradually became a learned man.

If a young and aspiring artist is dominated by instinctive consciousness, he will read novels in his spare time, thereby weakening his artistic temperament.In his view, after graduating from art school, the only thing he can do is to go to the field to paint when the weather is good, and then take the work to an exhibition or sell it to a merchant, and then think about why the check has not been mailed.If, at this moment, he puts his novels aside, and reads books on history and humanities, studies them in the company of his friends, masters the rhetoric and grammar of all periods well, and knows allusions to forgotten early schooling, Read the biographies of great men again, and learn about the lives and personalities of other men in the world. . . and he can increase his value even further on the basis of the endowments that nature has given him.We must know that artists are not trained in art schools.There is no true artist who does not have the temperament of a poet; he may never write a line of poetry, but he fashions his genius by absorbing the spirit of previous geniuses.If he kindles his natural fire by reading and the stimulation of his genius imagination, he will one day become a true artist.Poetry is very necessary in the life of an artist, and its charm attracts the artist to go to the wild to enjoy the works of art in nature.Ordinary men and women may go out for miles, wanting to paint something and not being able to find anything worth painting, until a particularly alluring one catches their eye.The true artist finds valuable subject matter everywhere, and he finds inexhaustible treasures in landscapes, skies, rivers, fields, forests, low-hanging leaves, and roadside wildflowers.For him, stones can also speak, rushing streams also contain philosophy, and everything has a beautiful side.He looks, feels, pays attention, always pays attention.The spirit of self-improvement played a role in him, and it accompanied him through the course of his life. Such an artist is destined to succeed.

Every once in a while we walk into a retail store and find clerks doing nothing while they wait for customers to arrive.They gossip all day long and waste a lot of precious time every day.Only one young man in this group of clerks possessed the spirit of self-improvement.One day, he brought a pocket dictionary, and when there were few customers who did not need his service, he would take it out and read it.At this time, a customer walked into the store, and other clerks were still talking about the news of the day with relish, and one by one slowly came out from behind the counter, but the young man with the dictionary quickly put the dictionary in his pocket, and the first one Go up to greet the customer.This happens frequently and is eventually noticed by the manager.One day, the person in charge of the company said to the manager: "Did you find that the clerk read a book when he had nothing to do?" Of course he found out that it was a dictionary.A day later, the clerk was holding a book that looked a little different. It was a book on grammar.Another day later, he brought in a third book, and it was about rhetoric.Later, the person in charge of the company knew the whole truth.He asked the manager to raise the salary of the clerk, but said nothing to the other clerks.No one but the manager knew about the increase in pay for the clerk.

After a period of time, the person in charge of the company called the clerk to his office and said to him:

"Young man, you've been with me for three years. Haven't you?"

The serious inquiry worried the young man.He replied timidly, "Yes, sir."

"Well, during this time, do you know how much work time you spent looking at that book you kept in your pocket?"

"I'm not reading idle books, but learning. I think I can improve myself in this way. Also, I don't take up working time, because I am always ready to meet customers."

"Evening hours are yours. Why do you do what you should be doing at home at night when the store is open?"

"When I was at home, I always had to help my mother with the housework. She was not in good health. Also, in my free time at night, I also read books on history and literature, etc., and those books were too big to carry. to the store."

"Okay, now that you've admitted that you've done other things during the past three years I've paid you, what adjustments are you going to make going forward?"

"I'm at your disposal, sir."

"Oh, I don't want to make things difficult for you. I'm going to open a big branch in another area of ​​the city, which is very close to your mother's house. I'm going to let you work as a manager in that store. Your salary will be double what it is now. Fan. In addition, I also allow you to become a limited partner of this company, so that your income will be guaranteed. As the profit of that store increases, your income will increase significantly. You know that it is impossible to do business without making profits of."

The clerk was surprised, but he kept silent.His employer watched his expression closely, and then asked him what he was thinking, and he replied:

"Why are you so kind to me, sir?"

"It's for my own good, actually," said the employer. "I've heard about your personal life. You're an exemplary person, your habits are good, and my other clerks are wasting a lot of time. You never Nor will they be poor, they will never be better off than they are now. Mark my words, you will never be poor."

As you are probably reading these pages right now, do you know that there are thousands of other people who have the exact same promotion opportunities as you.Are you just working for a paycheck?If you work hard to a certain extent, you will awaken your own sense of attraction.It will tell you the truth that there is a magnet ahead in your career path that pulls you onward, onward, and onward!

The process is as simple as letting the spirit of self-improvement into your life and letting it do its work.

That invisible magnet hangs over everyone's head, over the head of everyone who has the spirit of self-improvement.It affects every stage of your life, no matter where you are.It's not just in every business, every profession, but in the specific work of those who do great things in this world, and whatever they do, they can't do without it.

We are pleased to find that the hard work we have achieved in this area on behalf of employees and employers has paid off handsomely.We are told that wherever there are people who try to cultivate the spirit of self-improvement through practice, brilliant success is inseparable from it.We have inspired thousands of young people to increase their worth in this way.We have also learned that those who benefit from this method, without exception, have a rapid increase in their self-worth, and have reached a considerable height, compared with before self-improvement through this method.

An imaginative person must be attractive, and such a person can find ways and means of self-improvement.It can be carried out in this direction, or unfolded in another direction.But there is an important fact that you cannot ignore: On the one hand, people have a tendency to waste time, tend to put in the least effort every day, tend to complete the duties that have to be done by the agreed time or until the last minute, and even if they do It seems perfunctory; on the other hand, people have countless ways to improve their own value and promote the development of life in a better and higher direction.We just quoted a few examples briefly. If we write it seriously, I am afraid that we will not be able to write the rest of the content in another book.

We are proud that many large corporate organizations, as well as other employers, are using these courses to encourage self-improvement in their employees.

Lesson 55

let change happen

Whatever makes one person more valuable also makes another person more valuable, and vice versa.There is also a situation that can be reversed: the reason why self-improvement can improve an individual's level is because of the enhancement of his personal influence; The result of the joint action of people.If you look for companions among people whose level is lower than yours, then your overall quality will be lowered; If you look for companions among people with high levels, your overall quality will be improved.

(End of this chapter)