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Chapter 6 The Four Great Desires of Man (4)
16. I am determined not to believe objections and excuses designed to induce me to change conservative attitudes, nor to paint false ideals and whitewashed promises myself to tempt girls or women to rush into life without thinking about it. marry.

17. I don't think my marriage will be an exception to the disappointment and shock that other marriages experience after disillusionment.As a rule, the rosy vision is followed by harsh reality, and the two must face new tests of temperament while trying to control the cooling of passion and subsequent disharmony in the relationship.The future needs to be judged based on past experience.

18. I would not marry anyone hastily for any reason or pressure. Many men and women, especially young people, often marry because of these choices and then declare the marriage failed.On the contrary, I insist on using my spiritual will to fully explore the various effects of marriage.

19. I am fully aware that nature, in her plan of continuation of the species, hastened mating by infusing both sexes with sexual desire.Looking at all marriages, absolutely half are born because of the tricks of nature.But I want to avoid being used by nature, absolutely control my tendencies and desires, and jump out of the trap of temptation.

20. In order to implement the previous decision, I have to develop an inner habit of examining all bait set by the opposite sex with [-]% suspicion.I want to understand that no matter how much temporary loss I suffer, I will fully make up for it in the future with happiness.

21. Assuming that 90% of all marriages are unsuitable and unhappy, even if they do not fall apart due to mutual estrangement, they will live a lifetime full of regrets.I'm going to learn the last few lessons of this book to avoid this fate.

Note: In this mechanism, we have singled out the second of the four desires because many people cannot restrain such urges, and hasty actions lead to mistakes, making life miserable, which leads to other problems. The idealization of success is in vain.Let's talk about the first desire now.

22. I will not put into my mouth any substance that may lead to drug addiction.Because drugs can stimulate the nervous system, make it excited and distorted, then it would be impossible for me to develop my own attractiveness.

23. I will not smoke either, because cigarettes often cause a certain degree of addiction.The goal of cigarette manufacturers is to bind smokers as loyal slaves to this addiction.Slavery of any kind is an adverse control that would make it impossible to develop attractiveness.

24. I will not allow anyone to seduce me with wine, influence my willpower or control my decision-making in any matter.I know it has become a substitute for attraction, used by crooks for all sorts of ulterior motives.

25. I will not allow anyone to take advantage of my desires in any way to induce me to take any action that puts me at a disadvantage in dealing with important issues.

26. My body cannot be "poisoned by spoiled excess food", because if it is really poisoned like this, it will not be able to develop natural attraction according to this learning system.

27. I want to be like Edison, eat to live, not live to eat.

28. I will refer to the content of the next few lessons in this book, and follow the natural law of health, taking in only the elements necessary for physical growth, and ignoring all substances that do not promote health and vitality.

29. Eating rightly, I will not let my vitality be weakened by studying and studying this system of development too much.

30. I would use the law that a person who eats only food that increases physical strength and vigor, leaves the table with less than a full stomach each time, leaving himself a little hungry, will develop A strong natural attraction.If the person overeats, they will appear lifeless and lack energy for a period after the meal.

31. On some issues, my greed may be taken advantage of by others.At this point, I will develop a state of mind that is [-] percent suspicious of everyone and all motives, and that anyone who causes me to suffer is [-] percent dishonest.

32. I do not allow myself to distort my value judgments in any transaction because others promise me more benefits than a fair deal.

33. I will not sell anything at an unfair price to anyone's loss, nor will I extract more profit from the person than a fair trade.

34. I will not take advantage of anyone's financial hardship or misfortune.

35. I will not indulge in promotional tricks used to induce customers to buy goods.

36. I will not sign my name on any blank paper, and will not allow a blank space above my signature in any handwritten or typed document.To be on the safe side, the blank space needs to be heavily ink-lined to prevent someone from writing something there.

37. I will not write my name in any sign-in book or other places casually, lest that page be torn off and fall into unreliable hands, otherwise some responsibility may be imposed on me.

38. In order to avoid traps, I will not listen to the excuses that others ask to identify me, and I will not write my name on blank envelopes, especially large ones, because such envelopes may be cut and used for Write or print contracts, powers of attorney, or commitments at my expense.

39. I will not buy or sell any securities or stocks through units or individuals other than members of banks and stock exchanges.

40. I will not endorse other people's bills, let alone endorse other people's bonds, nor will I be responsible for other people.My obligations to my family outweigh all these obligations, and even my obligations to my friends.

41. I will not give up high-grade investments because of the pursuit of high returns.

42. I don't believe what some people say so often: We haven't suffered losses in many years.Chances are you'll find that it doesn't make any sense after you analyze the words.

43. I will take good care of my savings and keep at least a portion of it each year.

44. I would not heed the advice that if nothing is risked, nothing will be gained.But would take another, better piece of advice: If you don't take any risks, your savings will probably be bigger.

45. When I have enough material wealth, I will no longer risk losing my health, self-esteem, and good reputation for unnecessary extra wealth.At no time would I sacrifice these for an income that would allow me to live a comfortable life.

46. ​​I will not accumulate large fortunes, I will leave it to those who need it.

47. When it comes to philanthropy, I don't give money to organizations whose day-to-day expenses account for 50% to 80% of charitable giving.

48. If possible, I will try to reach out to those who are deserving, and help them to support themselves and get rid of the fate of relying on charity.

49. If my children don't need much money, I will not save my daily living money and pass it on to them as an inheritance.

50. Whether or not I attend church regularly, I will respect its presence in the world.

51. I will not try to get other people to abandon my beliefs.

52. Belief in superstition is actually a kind of fear, and fear shows that people are under serious adverse control, which prevents the development of attraction to a large extent.From this moment on—as long as I live—I will abandon all superstitious ideas, and will no longer mind the labels that the public attaches to things as good and evil.

53. When I have a sense of fear of ghosts, spirits and mysterious phenomena, I will definitely not show weakness mentally.I would remember that when the world was in its darkest phase, all humanity was oppressed by a sense of fear, which slowed down the progress of knowledge and wisdom.

54. I will not be challenged by supernatural events, tribulations, or mystical phenomena in my life.I have to remember that anyone who has these thoughts has processed various activities in life to cater to his own psychology.Their ability to deal with various affairs is regressing, and they are losing their influence in this world.

55. I would not take advice from anyone whose mind is in a comatose state.

56. I will not invest money in, nor share the proceeds with, any person or security recommended by a fortune teller or anyone who seems insane.

57. Since spiritual desire is a natural instinct, born with it, and has a dominant position in the world, I want to study it and develop it as a kind of auxiliary force for myself, to assist the kind that sustains human beings. The power of existence is auxiliary to that which directs and controls the life of man.From this latter force all men and women can find guidance and lasting help.

58. I combine good judgment with a prudent approach to problems, respecting the opinions of others even if they disagree with me.

59. I want to understand that the spiritual desire in the best state is born with it and is an inherent feature of human nature, and every normal person cannot escape the influence of instinct.A person's personality and well-being benefit greatly from cultivating this desire to the highest level as a personal ability, and I would not neglect this part of myself.

60. I believe that all normal human beings exist on three levels—physical, neurological, and spiritual—and that the development of abilities at each level will result in a significantly increased individual impact in life, earning the respect and trust of all who know me , I will focus on each of these layers of myself.

61. At night before falling asleep I am preoccupied with my spiritual nature.When I woke up the next morning, this was the first thing that came to my mind.

As we shall see, one of the many aims of this system of training is to reveal the essential features of life in all its dimensions, subject to the following principles:

People who develop only physical abilities are not attractive.

People who develop only neurological abilities are not attractive.

People who develop only mental abilities are not attractive.

Only well-rounded people are extremely attractive.

People who ignore their own spirituality and talk big will quickly lose their normal influence among the people around them, drown in the chaos of the world, and be marginalized.

Of course, conformity is only a matter of strategy.There are those who, for reasons of pride and courage, stubbornly cling to their course, thinking that their alienation from prevailing beliefs is evidence of a superior mind.There might be some merit in this claim if it were not based on conceit and refused to be tested in light of what is shown in clauses 60 and 61 above.Because countless facts show that with the development of the above-mentioned practical activities, a person's personality and influence will be significantly enhanced.

This system of learning called "How to Develop Spiritual Strength" will make men into real men and women into real women.If you combine the last part of this book - "The Ultimate Application of Attraction", supplemented by the previous content of this part, you will build your personality into the most powerful force in the world.No one can climb to a very high level based on expectations and planning alone.He must rely on somewhere and have a solid material foundation.These come from the values ​​we are about to learn, or units of real value.Man must have a rich personality, spiritual development, and practical achievement.

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