smart girl love tips

Chapter 10 Smart Girls Can Date
Don't be pushy on a first date with a girl
If you meet a guy who says he's after you and wants to date you, and you have to split the cost of the first date evenly, there's no need for another date.

Under normal circumstances, the first date is to express his attitude towards the object of pursuit.Facing the person you like, of course, you must show your best side no matter what, so that you can occupy a place in the other person's heart.Therefore, you must dress carefully, and you must show an extraordinary conversation.And most importantly, be sure to show that you can take care of others.If the boy does not pay, we can only say that he may not know the rules of the game in this society, and he will be eliminated sooner or later; otherwise, he has no sincerity to take care of the person he likes; otherwise, he is stingy, Still waiting to see how much he can get from this girl before deciding to really give.

Girls, don't be too pushy on the first date, and don't insist on paying each other, unless you are not interested in this object at all, and there will be no second date between you, then just pay, showing that you and He is an equal friend who will never be the girl who needs his attention.

If you still have a little interest in this object, please give him a chance to show and let him prove his sincerity with actions.This action is not to covet the cheapness of the several hundred yuan dinner, but to train him to be responsible and take care of the object he wants to pursue.Remember, the first date can often make or break a relationship later in life.

Yes, asking a man to pay for the first date is to establish the feeling of "you need him". He is taking care of a girl and giving her happiness. His responsibility and status are important.

Therefore, girls must not be aggressive, and must not take the initiative to pay the bill, especially on the first date.

Use the phone to participate in each other's mood
Many lovers meet every day, but they may not really be a part of each other's hearts.Many couples marry for a lifetime, but they don't necessarily know what the other person is thinking.

Therefore, lovers who don’t have time to meet often don’t have to complain too much, because the amount of time they meet cannot determine the quality of two people’s relationship. The most important thing is to understand each other’s mood and life with heart.If you don't have this layer of hard work, I am afraid that no matter how much time you spend together, it will be in vain.

It doesn't matter if you really don't have time to date, then you must remember to use the phone to care about each other.The current communication network is so developed, if you say that you are so busy that you don't even have time for a phone call, you are obviously lying.If you want to manage this relationship seriously, you have to keep the other person in your heart every day, know what he encountered today, and what new views he has on life.

Everyone is in a state of change every day, perhaps because encountering an event, hearing a sentence, or seeing a piece of text is enough to trigger a change in a person's attitude. As a lover, you have to keep up with this pace.

It is impossible to communicate with him in the way of a caveman when the other person's thoughts have entered Mars. In this way, over time, neither you nor the other party can understand, and the relationship will gradually break down.

For love, we have to follow suit, follow the other person's changes, adjust our mood well, and understand the other person's needs better.To be able to do this, I believe that no matter how the world changes, you are the one closest to his heart.

Instead of meeting each other to pass the time every day and not knowing what to do, it is better to pay more attention to the other person's mood. When you fully grasp the changes in his mood, you will definitely become the most important person to him.

It is recommended to make a pot of refreshing herbal tea every night before going to bed, and call your lover while tasting it.At this time, my nerves are no longer tense, and it is most suitable for talking with my lover on the phone.

Remember, before calling your lover, you must be in the happiest mood.Please throw away all the unhappiness during the day at work, and don't bring the tense emotions of the day here.

do you know?If you have very little time for dating, you should cherish every meeting and every conversation, and let the other party look forward to talking with you every day, because that is the best you and the best him.At this moment, you are no longer ordinary beings who are exploited by your boss and bullied by your clients. You are the objects of mutual affection in each other's eyes.

Remember to focus more on the other person, because your purpose is to make him feel cared for, not just treat him as a trash can for receiving emotions.Please put away the words "me, me, me" in three or two sentences, and don't focus the whole topic on yourself, as if you are just looking for someone who will accompany you and care for you.To be a good lover, one shouldn't be so selfish.

Girls with big lines should pay attention

Girls with big lines don't have sensitive nerves.Girls with big lines are generally in a hurry and always face men with a positive side.However, girls with big lines should also grasp the proportions in communication.

1. Don’t treat men as servants
A lady often called the men around her to do this and that, and sometimes forced the men to treat her to dinner, and lost no time to show that this was her "gift" to the men.Therefore, wherever she goes, it is often only a month or two. If it is not for men who want to have other plans for her, most men will leave her and stop interacting with her, and whenever they talk about her scoffed.

2. Don’t try to take advantage of men
Women and men are often very "happy" together, because men not only act as women's "protectors", but also willingly spend money and work hard for women.Because of this, some women will form a kind of inertia. Whenever they are with men, they will not consider his wallet, which will eventually make men daunting.

3. Don’t take men for fools
Even when a man is serving a woman he likes, he is already calculating how to get something in return.Therefore, what women should pay attention to is that the more attentive a man is, the greater the threat to you.

4. Don't touch men

Some women like to push, punch, or kick a man, and men often hate women who like to touch their hands very much, and he will think it is "frivolous".

5. Don't be a "gossip"

There was a woman who often talked about some so-called secrets between other men and women in front of men, and eventually said "it's disgusting".Not long after, the men all stayed away from her one after another, because everyone was afraid that they would become the object of her "disgusting" because of their "carelessness".

6. Don't be self-proclaimed

Self-proclaimed women sometimes only end up being ridiculed.

7. Don't bare your chest

In order to show their modernism, some women often bare their chests and arms, and deliberately put on a casual look, thinking that they can win the admiration of men.In fact, no man wants to be judged as "disorderly" by the women he associates with.

8. Don’t force men

Sometimes, for some things, a man may do it once out of sympathy, but next time, he will definitely avoid you.

9. Stop accusing men

A man who has been blamed and whose pride has been hurt may not be able to get angry at the time, but he will never want to be with you later.

10. Don’t mistake friendship for love

The friendship between a man and a woman is sometimes very subtle. As a woman, it is especially necessary to distinguish between the two.Mistaking friendship as love can be embarrassing at times and can't be explained.So as a woman, don't make a conclusion based on your own feelings, because not only will it be impossible to get love, but even friendship will eventually be ruined.

When dating, girls must be passive
When most girls are dating, they should be reserved, and don't put boys one step ahead of everything, as if the older sister leads the younger brother, this feeling will turn off the boys' appetite.Girls still need to be more passive, so as to retain their sense of mystery, and don't show the other party all of a sudden.

Don't make the two of you look like buddies all at once. He comes carelessly, and you go back bluntly. It turned out that it was the beginning of a relationship, but in the end it turned into a good friend who ate and drank together. The excitement of fresh all screwed up.

Many relationships are like this.Especially modern women, because they can already occupy a place in this society, the ability to implement all plans is extremely good, so good that sometimes we think boys' ideas are stupid, and we don't trust him in the dating process I just want to do everything myself.

For example, you have to come by yourself to order a restaurant, order food by yourself, arrange transportation by yourself, and book tickets for a movie theater by yourself.Don't think that this is a fantasy. In fact, some female friends do these things when they are in a relationship with their boyfriends.

What happened in the end was: Once, on Valentine's Day, two people entered a restaurant together.As soon as the girl sat down, she received a very important call and talked for 10 minutes.As a result, the waiter came three times and was dismissed by her boyfriend. The waiter was still waiting until the phone call was over. "Why don't you order first!?" the girl asked her boyfriend angrily.He said that he didn't know how to order, and he was afraid that the dishes he ordered were too stupid and she would be angry.

Fortunately, they broke up later, otherwise this girl would have to serve a "man who can't even order food" all her life, how terrible is this?

The man wasn't that incompetent in the first place, it was just because the girl took the initiative to do all the dating things from the very beginning, and she did it better than him, which completely broke his self-confidence since then, and he didn't dare to touch these things again.

Modern women must pay special attention when dating. No matter how strong you are and how good your brain is, please forget about it when dating, so that your partner has the opportunity to serve you.Although he is really stupid and not as capable as you, you can appreciate his simple and honest cuteness and let him play around to show his intentions, or just use the reason of "unqualified conditions" to exclude him from the This is better than the object.

Don't accept his pursuit while despising his contribution at the same time, the love you reluctantly accept is too sad.

Some people always think that a girl who is too capable must not find someone worthy of her, but this is not the case. It seems that a girl who is too capable is also a mistake.It’s not a mistake for a girl to be too capable, but sometimes our heads are too fast, we keep drilling to the edge of interests, and we don’t stop to appreciate the sincerity of boys’ dedication.

Those small dating chores are not the meeting process, so there is really no need to be so perfect, you can try to turn a blind eye and forget it, the most important thing is the sincerity of that boy.You don't have to like a certain restaurant, but you don't need to be picky about the other person's choice, and don't take everything down and do it yourself.

Men and women may think differently when dating

During the dating process, men and girls have different psychological experiences, and their behaviors are also very different from the beginning of dating to the process of gradually confirming the relationship.

How important is the first date?For men, the first date is very important, and the hope is that the dust will settle on the first date.If you make him lose confidence on the first date, he's more likely to try his luck with another girl.Because men think that if the first date goes well, the relationship is likely to grow. Conversely, if the first date fails to impress a girl, then she disappears and is never seen again.Men tend to be courteous on a first date by habitually assuming there are no second chances.When the date is over, without a definitive answer, the man has no clue as to whether he is satisfied with the girl leaving or whether he has a chance.The next date is often an opportunity to keep chasing her, guys always default to next time as an excuse, and once the girl leaves, it's over.Men always pin their hopes on the fact that after the first short contact, everything will be settled.Men see girls as a window into a whole new world, and from then on, they can enjoy the joy and novelty brought by the brave new world.

Men seldom think about what foundations are needed for a healthy relationship between the two of them.Men believe that once a girl expresses her desire to be with him, the relationship between the two is basically finalized and they can sit back and relax.Therefore, men are always eager to win the favor of a girl, and after success, they treat the girl in a very "homely" way, and the girl often feels cheated.It's like a joke: the wife asks: "Why do you always send me flowers when you chase me, but now you don't have any?" The husband replies: "Have you ever seen a fisherman feed a fish with bait after he catches it?"

Girls also value the first date, but she does not see this date as a moment to establish a relationship between the two, but during the dating process, she speculates on what she needs to give if she has a relationship with this man, so that the two can get along harmoniously .Through her own intuition, the girl guessed what it would be like to get along with this man day and night through the appearance of two people getting along happily for a while.Her intuition helps her predict the prospect of two people's relationship, which is more important to a girl than a man's current attention.

If the first date is good, the man will presume that she will happily live with him in the days to come.Girls will suspect that after the relationship between the two is established, how much of the man's current passion will be retained until later.

All in all, when it comes to guys dating girls, guys assume more and girls judge more.Men see the current relationship as a prelude to the future.The girl collects some tiny information through intuition to predict the future with him.The girl's way makes her calmer on a date and can spot a lot of problems.When men take pride in seeing what dating says about the future, girls gather more clues about the future.

Girls' emotional world is very rich, because emotions are part of girls' nature, while men's emotions are in a dormant state.When a girl attracts a man, falls in love with him, and shows him her emotionally rich inner world, her love can awaken a sensual part of a man's life, and only a girl can do this.No one knows how far a girl's inner feelings can go for a man she loves.When a man is attracted to a girl's emotional world and continues to get to know her deeply, he can learn to be as emotionally invested as a girl.Emotional communication makes the relationship between the sexes more perfect. Not only can girls get more fun from it, but men will also mature and learn to express love in a way that girls agree with.

In fact, what is in the soul of all girls also exists in the hearts of men, but the proportions are different.Knowing a little more about each other's psychology and expressions will bring you one step closer to happiness.

Don't get overwhelmed by first date mistakes

Experiments by psychologists have proved that you don't need to be too perfect and afraid of failure when you go on a first date.Small failures in dating can increase the other party's favor.

There is no need to pursue perfection, but small failures can give the other person a sense of security, make him feel close and relaxed, and help to enhance the relationship.

This is an experiment in forming impressions based on the contents of the tape.The tape was recorded by students participating in the American College Quiz Contest, and the content is a live recording of answering 50 questions.One of the participants answered all the questions with few mistakes.In the interview after the competition, I learned that he was a top student with excellent grades in high school, and also served as the editorial director of the school magazine, and was also a competitor in the field competition. It can be seen that he is an expert in sports and studies.At the end of the interview, there was a sudden sound of clinking cups, and then I heard the student say, "Oh, sorry, I spilled the coffee. I just bought this suit..." After the tape was played, Those who participated in the experiment were asked about their liking for the student.Most found this student to be knowledgeable and attractive.In addition, a group of experiments were conducted without playing the clip of spilling coffee, only the recording of the student fluently and perfectly answering the questions and promoting his achievements in various aspects through interviews after the competition.Compare the impressions of the two tapes on the participants and the evaluation of the student's attractiveness.It turned out that more people liked students who spilled coffee.

As in life, contact with someone who is too perfect can make people nervous, and someone who is slightly sloppy can alleviate the inferiority of others and make them more approachable.Especially the intimate relationship between men and women, the appearance of being out of touch with others makes people stay away from them; a little flaw makes people feel very close and relaxed.A survey shows that most people want their lover to be someone who can feel relaxed when they are together, and this tendency will become stronger and stronger.

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