smart girl love tips

Chapter 11 A Smart Girl Can Control Herself

The body is not the capital of love

Sexual contact is not necessarily impossible before marriage, but the "sex" between a good girl and a good man always has a certain degree of restraint and commitment.

But there are still many girls who like to fall in love with their ears, and like to listen to men talking nonsense, lying and bragging, but they just don't know how to open their eyes to see the other party's malicious smile.There is also a kind of girl who simply uses her body to dedicate herself, thinking that "sex" can improve love.

When such a girl breaks up in love, it is too late, so she cries, is unwilling, seeks life and death, takes revenge, and even yells: "There is no good man in this era." And those men may spread their hands innocently and shrug their shoulders. Say: "She is stupid, what can I do?" Once love meets sex, there is such a question: Is the man bad or the girl stupid?
This kind of girl is also worried about not being loved by others at first, and afraid of being abandoned after falling in love with someone.Because he cares too much about the other party, he looks more forced to smile, so the man's "love me and give me everything" mentality becomes a gentle charm, and becomes a tragic reason for innocent girls to "desire themselves". The result is that they really "give", but they don't get anything.

Girls in love especially like to play the role of sacrifice and dedication, but often she gives everything she can, but the other party still keeps failing her.

For all this, some people would say she was too stupid, and some people would say he was too bad.Maybe these girls also acquiesce in this way, and then hold a broken heart and a lot of problems to find the next man, to beware or fight or still compromise.

Regardless of whether you are seriously involved in an emotional game, the most important thing is to learn to be smart, the body is not the capital of love.

After tasting the "forbidden fruit" for the first time
The "forbidden fruit" is like a prickly prickly pear, picking it in a hurry may bring us thorns all over our hands.

Generally speaking, both men and women in love have very different psychological reactions after first sexual intercourse.In most cases, if the man has a good impression of the woman, it is easy to have the urge to have sex with the woman after a few dates.For women, the heart is much more complicated.Many people will have an inexplicable sexual fear, and face the man's sexual impulse, and fall into a whirlpool of contradictions.Some men think that this happens because women are shy. As long as they have the courage to possess and break the first psychological barrier, it will be natural in the future.In fact, this is a kind of ignorance and brutality of women's psychology. Behind this understanding, the seeds of future conflicts often lurk, which is the root cause of tragedies.

For women, the loss of chastity and self after the first sexual intercourse is a hidden psychological factor that causes women to fear premarital sexual intercourse.It takes 13 years for a girl to enter the sexual development period from the age of 14 to 20, to get married in her 10s after she becomes sexually conscious.During these 10 years, while maintaining her chastity, the woman has also formed a complete self-reliance and independent personality.This kind of chastity concept that has been entrenched in women's hearts for 10 years cannot be changed all at once.Even though some women may be motivated by breaking the shackles of traditional concepts at the time, the concept of chastity hidden deep in their hearts will suddenly become clear afterwards, which makes her feel fearful and uneasy, showing a strong dependence, lest the other party alienate herself.As long as the man is a little negligent, or his enthusiasm decreases, the woman will feel anxious and lost.This kind of psychological change, after the first love man tastes the "forbidden fruit", he often doesn't know anything about it, and he doesn't know how to mediate it.

For men, the urge to have sexual intercourse for the first time is often strong and difficult to control.In most cases, the man's orgasm has ended, and the woman's sexual desire has not yet been aroused. In addition, the rupture of the hymen will make the woman feel some pain, which aggravates the woman's nervousness.Especially the first sexual intercourse before marriage, due to the restriction and interference of objective conditions, it is more difficult for the woman to feel happy.Therefore, the first sexual intercourse may bring a kind of impulsive and possessive satisfaction to the man, but it is not happy to the woman.Some women are even afraid of sexual intercourse because of this, but they can't explain the reason, so both parties have suspicion and anxiety.As a result, premarital intercourse not only failed to promote the deepening of the relationship between the two, but also increased many psychological barriers, causing both parties to fall into confusion.

Before a man gets a girl, he will have a great yearning for a girl, or directly speaking, it is a human instinctive desire.What men think about before they get girls is happiness and responsibility.Where's the girl?It's about emotion, about vows that include the test of time.

After a girl gets a man, she will miss him even more, because, for a girl, it is the sublimation of love and the boiling of passion.I want to marry him, a man who is willing to let the girl shave him, a man who fills the girl's eyes in the morning, a man who gives everything for him, a man who is willing to cry for the girl and be good to the girl, a man who pulls in the dark The man with the girl's hand!

Men always expect girls to be virgins, because they need a kind of possession, a strong possession from beginning to end!Men always want the more the better.

After a girl gets a man, she will miss him even more, because at that time, that man truly belongs to her. Everyone has possessive desires, but behind the girl's desire is waiting!
After a girl gets a man, it is the kind of breath blowing in the ears, the taste left in the corners of the lips, beautiful images in the eyes, continuous fragments in the brain, and the beating feeling of the heart!This is what girls care about, and they don't want to lose these, because that is her man, a man of flesh and blood who gives her pain and happiness!
A man needs the warmth of a girl, and a girl needs a man's arm. What they all need is mutual possession. If the achievement is a kind of victory, then the man is the king, because after the girl gets it, she thinks about what I should give in the future!
Men are looking for a suitable lover, girls are looking for a lifelong lover.

Therefore, young men and women who are in love need to think twice before tasting the "forbidden fruit" hastily in order to protect their love and future marriage happiness!
It is a misunderstanding of love to regard "sex" as an expression of love

Nowadays, there are very few men and women who do not live together in love. With the increasing rate of cohabitation, many people begin to fall into the misunderstanding of "seeking love with sex", that is, they regard unconditionally satisfying each other's sexual demands as a kind of The expression of love regards whether the sexual life of both parties is harmonious as the standard of whether the two emotions are happy.According to statistics, nearly 70% of divorced couples are due to discordant sexual life, which also shows that people are paying more and more attention to sexual requirements.

Although sex is important in marriage and love life, it cannot be equated with love.Some asexual couples live happily ever after.Teenage couples stay together for a long time, and as they grow older, more lovers will become partners in each other's lives.

A marriage expert once offered such advice: "If a man refuses to share the risk of contraception for his lover, then you can leave such a man, because he is selfish and does not love you; if a girl treats sex as a A kind of love exchange, then you can leave such a girl, because she has no dignity and is not worthy of your love." Therefore, people in love should clean up their bodies and love themselves, and never regard "sex" as the meaning of love. Otherwise, you will not only lose your precious virginity prematurely, bid farewell to innocent youth, but also make the other party mistakenly think that you are a "too casual" person.Once this relationship fails, it is more likely to cast a terrible shadow on future life.

Questions to consider carefully when surrendering yourself

While cohabitation is normalized between people in a relationship, it creates more and more problems at the same time.This not only brings great harm to women's bodies, but also brings shadows to girls' lives.If we cherish ourselves and our whole life, we must start by cherishing our body.Premarital sex can do a lot of harm to girls.If you don't care about these, then you can't be too casual.When girls give themselves, it is best to carefully consider the following questions.

1. Make the relationship develop against the trend of the woman
When there is no premarital sex, the two parties in love are in a relationship of mutual equality and free choice, but after the occurrence, the situation is different: First, the attraction of both parties is gradually weakened compared with the past.I used to think that the relationship between the sexes was mysterious, but now it has become "just like that", and the glory and charm of the past are no longer dazzling.The second is that the woman's chances of re-choice are reduced.It turned out that the man was very accommodating to the woman, but after having sex, he thought "she can't leave me anymore" and "it's me", and began to treat the woman casually and arbitrarily.On the contrary, because the woman has entrusted her chastity to him and "is already his own", she is worried that the man will change his original intention and is afraid of being abandoned, so she has repeatedly accommodated and tolerated the man. The matter has come to this point, so we have to get married as soon as possible.According to the survey, 10.7% of the women want to take revenge on the man after having sex, and 21.3% of them regret but cannot get rid of the man.The third is to make the man's suspicion of the woman begin to sprout.Engels once said: "Sexual love is exclusive", this is true for women, and men are no exception.Men always hope that their girlfriends only trust themselves and open up to themselves. Once they have sex with them, they start to suspect the woman again, "Is she like this to others?" If the woman has been in love in the past, this suspicion will increase or lead to termination Disharmony in a romantic relationship, or married life.

2. Seriously affect the woman's health
The remedy for conceiving under the premise of not wanting to have a child is induced abortion.For girls, there are three adverse consequences of abortion: one is that they cannot recover their physical health normally.In order not to let others know, some girls go to work or study immediately after the operation without rest, which seriously affects the recovery of their health. Second, it is easy to damage the reproductive organs and cause accidents.Some girls did not dare to go to the hospital for abortion, and they went to quack doctors to operate under extremely unhygienic conditions, which caused great damage to their reproductive organs, and some even died. Third, many complications were caused.Medical research and clinical data show that artificial abortion can cause less menstruation, amenorrhea, frigidity, and infertility in women, and subsequent pregnancy can easily lead to miscarriage, endometriosis, reproductive organ inflammation, placenta previa, placental adhesion implantation, Uterine perforation, postpartum hemorrhage, and even cervical cancer.

3. Bring great psychological pressure to the woman

The occurrence of pre-marital sex is more often caused by the man asking the woman to cater to her. The psychological state of the woman is very different before and after the event. It causes psychological pressure on the woman, such as fear, inferiority, and conflicts.The survey found that 27.3% of people were afraid of pregnancy after intercourse, 21.3% were very remorseful, and 21% were afraid of losing their reputation.When undergoing abortion, 48.4% were afraid of the pain of the operation, 17.3% were afraid to tell their parents, and 13% did not care.62.3% were afraid of sequelae after the operation, 20.7% were afraid that it would be difficult to find another partner after a broken relationship, and 17% were indifferent.

4. Overshadow the wedding

New marriage is one of the happiest events in life, but if there is sex before marriage or the bride is pregnant, such a newly married will lose the joy it deserves and cast a shadow on the marriage.From the point of view of the newlyweds, there is no novelty for both parties, they are just going through the formality; people around will also discuss and look down on it, thinking it is "immoral".

5. Cause a lot of unhappiness in married life

Premarital sex is often carried out under the psychological state of "sense of guilt" for fear of being discovered by others. Without a good sex life environment, it is not only difficult for both parties to experience sexual pleasure, but also leaves painful sexual experience, which is easy to cause Sexual dysfunction of one partner of the couple, such as frigidity, impotence, etc., makes it difficult for the couple to have a harmonious sex life.There is no legal guarantee for premarital sex, and the woman suffers from being dumb and eating coptis because of being abandoned, and she will hold a grudge against the man.After marriage, if the husband complains about the suffering, the husband will find the "unscrupulous man" to seek justice, causing disputes, illegal incidents, and family misfortune.Premarital sex is presenting a trend of increasing numbers and younger ages, and it has become one of the social issues of worldwide concern.

Women must cherish themselves and stay away from pre-divorce sex.

When war with a rival is inevitable
When you suspect that your partner seems to be being snatched away by someone else, that's when a triangle relationship begins.The more you like your lover, the more suspicious you will be, and your sense of insecurity will increase, and jealousy will be your own feeling.One experiment investigated jealousy when a partner felt attracted to someone else.In the survey, more than half of the people believed that their lovers had sex with their rivals.We don't know the true level of sexual encounters between their lovers and rivals, but it's clearly impossible to have such a high number.This is due to the extreme thoughts caused by jealousy. It can be seen that the existence of a rival in love can cause a huge sense of threat to the other party.

So what can you do to keep your partner when this actually happens?The most commonly used is the rival slander tactic.In layman's terms, it is to destroy the good impression your partner has on your rival.Can a slanderous statement like this alone convince a partner?Without a doubt, the answer is yes.Especially men, he is very concerned about rumors about his female partner, and a bad word can shake his position.

Men were most swayed when they heard negative comments about their partners' appearance.Men think that the appearance of their partner is a symbol of their social status. Having a partner with outstanding appearance can enjoy the envious eyes of the same sex, which can greatly satisfy their vanity.At the same time, they are afraid that others will think that "he can only find a girlfriend of this level", so he is particularly concerned about other people's criticism of his female partner's appearance, and men would rather believe that others' evaluations are better than their own aesthetic vision.Therefore, the tactic of slandering a third party can work very well.

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