smart girl love tips

Chapter 15
Flirting adds sweetness to life
The Chinese are no strangers to the word "flirting", but they don't like it. Some people even think it is a superficial and low-level way of expressing emotion.Psychologists at Webster University in the United States define "flirting" quite differently: "It is a signal of love transmitted between a man and a woman, and it is the words and actions that show one's sexual charm and encourage the other party to pursue oneself." It is human instinct, but also the need for people to express their emotions.

1. The Four Laws of Flirting

Psychologists at Webster University point out that there are four rules of flirting that both men and women must abide by in common:
First of all, the role of eyes is very important.Attracting the other party does not necessarily require beauty, as long as you use your eyes to show your focus on the other party, observe carefully, and be considerate of the other party's needs, it will be irresistible.

Second, appearance is the basis of flirting.To express goodwill to the other party, one's appearance should be elegant and tidy, otherwise it will be difficult to maintain self-confidence and demeanor.

Third, sometimes compliments are also a way of flirting.Accepting each other's flaws and affirming each other will create a good atmosphere.

Fourth, make good use of body movements, such as patting the back of the other party's hand at the right time to express agreement, whispering in the partner's ear, touching the knees of the two from time to time, etc., are all good medicines to increase the fun.

2. Women flirt with eyes

Past research has suggested that the flirting process is dominated by men, but new research shows that women are in charge of the process, sending out seduction and encouraging men to pursue them.

Women often use their eyes as a medium to convey their emotions.If in a one-on-one conversation, if a woman's eyes are cast on the other party's face for more than 30% to 60% of the conversation time, it means that she is interested in the other party; when a woman has a strong affection for the opposite sex, she will try to avoid it Make eye contact with the other person, but must stare at the other person from the corner of the eye.

Another way for girls to "flirt" is to show their sexual charm to each other through small actions: such as arranging clothes in front of men, always covering their mouths when talking, etc. These "pretentious" behaviors send out "I am rich". Attractive girl" signal.

3. Men flirt with multiple languages
Flirting manifests itself differently between men and women.Men are better at using language when flirting, hoping to be more clearly dominant in the relationship between the sexes.They most often use loud jokes to attract women's attention by showing off their physical strength, social status and economic strength to each other.

In addition, when a man expresses his affection for a woman, he often expresses it through body language.We often find that men who often open their palms for women to see during conversations often have feelings of admiration for each other; when walking side by side, if men always unconsciously go around to the right of women, it means that he has very strong protection and control Between husband and wife, men prefer to express their emotions with slight physical contact such as hugs and kisses.

4. Love is in the heart and the mouth must be open
Flirting is essential for both men and women in a relationship.Love at first sight and tenderness, including love songs and love poems, are all products of "flirting".Researchers believe that flirting is an implicit way of saying "I love you."

For married couples, flirting is also a necessity of life.A survey has found that once many couples get married, the language between them is surprisingly concise: "I'm hungry." "The child's clothes are dirty!" "Sleep!" Ignoring the other person's thoughts and behaviors becomes a stumbling block to the development of a relationship.Advocating "flirting" is actually advocating "love is in the heart and the mouth should be open".It can not only add flavor to life, but also improve the relationship between husband and wife.

On important days, express your heart with gifts

Even if you are very careless, don't forget to buy a small gift on your lover's birthday and wedding anniversary.You know, for lovers, a good gift can not only deepen the relationship between the two parties, but also make the other party unforgettable for life.

So, what factors must be considered when giving a gift to your lover?

1. A gift that brings back fond memories
Your gift can not only show how much you care about your lover, but also bring back good memories for both of you. For example, put the photos that both parties think are commemorative and put them in an exquisite photo album and give them to each other as gifts .If you can write a few emotional verses or words of encouragement on the back of each photo, then this gift will be even more precious.

2. Consider your lover's preferences

Review your lover’s special hobbies carefully. If your lover likes to paint watercolors, it’s best to give him some watercolor paints; if your lover likes calligraphy, then it’s a good choice to give him a pen, ink, paper and inkstone or some famous calligraphy and paintings.

3. Surprise your loved one with a gift
If you can give your lover something that you really want to buy but haven't bought, it's easiest to surprise him.Some people especially miss the lost or broken "treasures". If you can buy the same or similar gifts for the other party, the effect is self-evident.

4. Gifts that benefit both parties

There is such a couple who like to ride bicycles. The wife always complains that the speed of cycling cannot keep up with her husband.Later, she simply bought a tandem bicycle as a gift to her husband, so that two people can ride together, and the speed problem is easily solved.

Of course, there are many other gift-giving skills in the life of husband and wife getting along day and night. As long as you can be a caring person and pay attention to observation everywhere, you will be able to send a gift that makes your lover happy and regarded as a treasure.In that way, your lover will repay you with richer love, and your emotional life will also be surrounded by deep love and surprises.

open arms to lover

Hugging is like a seed, it makes love take root and sprout in the hearts of lovers.If you want long-lasting love, you must remember to give your lover a hug.Whether it's first love, hot love, or after marriage.

1. When your partner is under heavy pressure at work, please hold him in your arms affectionately, cheer him up, and let him increase his confidence and strength

Working non-stop and constantly pressurizing, people tend to live very tired and annoying.The same is true for getting along with husband and wife. If you are not in a good mood, everything will become redundant or a burden. After returning home, sometimes even the time for conversation is saved. Once you lie down, you don’t bother to use your mouth.At this time, if there are affectionate hugs and whispers from the loved ones, it will arouse his confidence in his career, coupled with appropriate comfort and encouragement, it will give him the strength to continue to struggle.

2. When your friend comes back from a business trip, give him a big warm hug with surprise on his face, so that his fatigue will be swept away in your greeting
It doesn't matter if you usually live together, but when he returns from a business trip, you must hug him enthusiastically and proactively, so that you can express your longing and joy of reunion.After receiving your warm hug, your lover will definitely feel the warmth of returning home. At this moment, the intimacy you convey will arouse his more passion for life and infinite beautiful imagination.Even if he has some fatigue, he will be swept away by your warm embrace.

3. When your partner has "ambition" outside, then hug him in the same posture as when you were in love, and let him know your existence

The most direct function of hugging is to express love and deepen feelings.If your lover has "ambition" outside, your hug can serve as a warning reminder: I love you seriously, please love me the same.If he has already cheated, your hug behavior will make him deeply disturbed and force him to change his ways and change his mind.

4. When your man is alone and unhappy, please go forward and hug him gently, and let him pour out his inner grievance and unhappiness
To be able to stop and care about your lover, hugging is the simplest and most effective way.When you find that he is unhappy, ask directly why he is unhappy, why his face is so ugly, and maybe ask for a long time, and there may not be any answer.But once you change the method, the situation will be different.For example, you approach your lover first, open your arms or both hands to hold him in your arms, then keep silent for a certain period of time, and then ask him what's wrong, if there is any grievance, speak out quickly, maybe I can help you... Who can not be moved by such care and love, no matter how much grievance and unhappiness I feel in my heart, I have to tell you clearly anyway.

How to maintain attraction between lovers

The so-called sense of mystery refers to the fresh, strange, unfathomable and other experiences arising from the gender differences (including physical and psychological) between men and women.It plays a special promotion and vital psychological role in the whole love process, and even in the life of husband and wife after marriage.The mystery between male and female inspires curiosity between the sexes, driven by this curiosity, the two demand contact and explore each other.In the process of contact and exploration, if you appreciate each other and are attractive, you will have a good impression.On the basis of goodwill, the attraction is generated by the mystery of the other party. Through further understanding, if many shining things are found in each other, then love will arise.If there is no exploration of this mystery between the opposite sex, then there will be no attraction between the two, and there will be no love at all.

In order to enhance the sense of mystery and maintain the attraction between lovers, the following specific methods can be adopted:

1. Add interest to life and change a single, day-to-day, unchanged life
For example, suddenly bringing a surprise to the other party, or changing one's attire, changing the hairstyle, or changing the layout of one's room, etc., will make the lover feel fresh and happy.

2. Be polite and respect each other

Although the two have been passionately in love and have no distinction between you and me, they still have to maintain the etiquette like they did when they first fell in love, and don't lose the original tenderness and consideration, because any disrespect for each other's words and deeds will greatly damage their own attractiveness.

3. Occasional brief separations

Love does not lie in day and night, as the saying goes, a small farewell is better than a newly married.Especially after some conflicts have arisen, the brief separation will not only give both parties time to calmly think and reflect, but also multiply the sense of mystery when they meet after separation.

4. Try to avoid and reduce physical contact

Sexual behaviors such as kissing, hugging, touching, etc. in love are beyond reproach, they can beautify and promote the love between two people, but the frequency should not be too frequent.This is the same as our diet, eat less and more flavor, eat more and less flavor.

It is a very difficult art for men and women to maintain mutual attraction, and its specific methods are far more than the above points. I hope everyone can draw inferences about other cases from one instance.However, maintaining a sense of mystery is by no means mystifying, concealing and deceiving each other.Otherwise, it will be self-defeating.

Sweet love sometimes needs some "vinegar"

有人得出结论：100%爱情＝10%执著＋l0%想念＋l0%疑心＋10%甜蜜＋10%撒娇＋50%吃醋。可见，爱情少不了醋，没醋的爱情等于没有灵魂的生命。

Especially after living in the besieged city for a long time, the relationship will inevitably gradually fade. You are smart and should brew some vinegar for your love in time, just like adding some lemon to a glass of boiled water, so that the wonderful taste of love can always stay in your home.

Pao Pao is an introverted, simple-minded, and emotional girl. Ever since she got married, she has put all her heart on her husband, and lives a life of two points and one line between the company and the family every day.

Pao Pao's husband is the marketing manager of a foreign-funded enterprise, he is handsome, and there are always a group of young, beautiful and fashionable female staff around him, so Pao Pao's heart can't help but tense.Often, when her husband comes back late, Pao Pao can't help thinking: Where did he go?Are you really working overtime?Still with other women... Such associations always torment Bubble like crazy at night, making her unable to sleep, staring at the "tick-tick-tick" wall clock on the wall, always thinking like The scenes of those men having sex with girls outside appeared like a movie.Therefore, she couldn't help but call her husband one after another, to prove his innocence, and also because she was too lonely at home alone.

The number of times increased, and my husband became dissatisfied, because sometimes he was working overtime, and sometimes he was with friends. Such "chatting" by Pao Pao made him very embarrassing in front of his friends.So he said to Bubbles: "You should have your own life, your own social circle, and don't focus all your attention on me..."

After listening to Bubbles, he became more and more depressed.

That night, when her husband came back late enough, it happened that Bubble accidentally saw a message from a female colleague in his mobile phone text message. Although it was only a brief greeting, Bubble still couldn't help being jealous. There was a big fight: "You never send me short messages, but you keep in touch with your female colleagues..." During the quarrel, Bubble vented all the dissatisfaction in her heart, and the pear blossom Her husband couldn't help being stunned by the tearful look.

After the quarrel, Bubble calmed down, looking at her resentful and haggard face in the mirror, she suddenly got tired of it, yes, why should she turn herself into a resentful woman in a deep boudoir, and follow her for some invisible things? Husband getting jealous, fighting, making life a mess?She felt that she should have her own life. Instead of blindly eating some unknown dry vinegar, it is better to brew some vinegar and let her husband taste it. Isn't there that saying?Properly adding some vinegar in marriage is conducive to promoting the relationship between husband and wife.

Bubble's change started from the second day.

In the past, Pao Pao's life centered on her family and her husband.Now, she will find time to invite close colleagues and friends to go shopping and watch movies.When a male colleague meets for dinner, Pao Pao will not just blush in a daze like before, she will accept it with a smile, then call her husband, and say in a gentle and ambiguous tone: "Husband, I have an appointment today, no I’m back for dinner.” Then they went to the restaurant in small groups.Occasionally, a male colleague sent a greeting text message. Pao Pao knew what they were thinking, but pretended to be puzzled, and only replied politely, and then saved their message in case her husband "inadvertently" looked it up.

At the same time, Bubble also changed her past habit of not attending her husband’s and friends’ gatherings, and applied to go. Before going out, she put on the waist-cut backless long dress, let her long curly hair linger gently on her shoulders, and sprinkled some light perfume.At the party, when my husband's friends gave him approving glances, Bubbles also greeted him with a smile and thanked him.The husband looked sour from the side, and Pao Pao secretly laughed in his heart.

Gradually, things developed in the direction that Pao Pao originally envisioned. Her husband no longer ignored Pao Pao's existence as before, and he came back earlier and earlier.Sometimes Pao Pao asks him to go out on leave, and he can't help asking sideways where she went?With whom?When Bubble came back late, he would take the initiative to ask Ying to pick it up. At the same time, he said with a smile that he would be a responsible "flower protector" and not let his flowers be picked by others.

Hearing what her husband said, Bubble couldn't help laughing secretly, and she realized that a smart girl doesn't eat her husband's vinegar, doesn't stare at him and guard him, but brews some vinegar herself, so that the smell of vinegar Take the initiative to attract him.

Yes, moderate vinegar is like a condiment, which can make life more sour and prevent life numbness.

Don't you want to try it, friend?However, we must pay attention to the degree, too much, it is bitter;

A master of love teaches you how to play ambiguity

Warm ambiguity is the spring wave at the moment when the spring heart sprouts, and it is the bud of beautiful love.You must know the ambiguous secrets of love masters.

1. Several ambiguities that are most harmful to men

Monica, a psychologist at Webster University in the United States, pointed out that teasing is an innate human nature.Teasing can help both men and women try their best to highlight their strengths to attract each other. One can test the feelings of both parties, and the other can increase their attractiveness, so as to catch the other's heart.

◆Welcome if you want to refuse

According to the survey of love experts, 90% of boys think that the most lethal "discharge" is when a girl looks up at herself, then lowers her head, and peeks again after a while.All in all, the eyes that want to refuse and greet are the most breathtaking.

◆Very casual small movements
Small movements such as girls touching their ears and teasing their hair are actually body language when they have a crush on a boy.For boys, it is very casual and very emotional.

◆ caress stockings

If it is a mature girl, the action of caressing stockings intentionally or unintentionally is more sensational.

◆Learn to use lips
Lips are always sensual.A girl who licks or even bites her lips like a baby will get "very" attention from guys, and no guy will refuse such a cute way of showing affection.

2. The master of "discharge" tells everything without saying anything

◆hair

If girls are always fiddling with their hair, it means how much they want each other to caress their hair.So, when you are interested in the other party, you might as well let your hair help.

◆ eyes

It's possible to get attention if you stare at the object of your crush, but that's not sexy at all.You might as well do this: you look at him, then look away, and after a few seconds, see if he is still looking at you.Be careful not to stare at one part of him.A woman's pupils dilate when she's excited, so let him look into your eyes under a light.

◆lips

For lovers, lips are very important.So a dab of red lipstick, or a kissy mouth, is sensual.

◆Shared Shoulders

Girls' shoulders always make people daydream.And for girls, broad shoulders are sexy.

◆Arm

The arms illustrate the difference between the sexes: girls' arms are round and soft, while men's are strong and powerful.To attract men's attention to your round arms, you can wear some metal jewelry on your smooth skin, so that the metal texture and your smooth skin complement each other.

◆beautiful legs

Both guys and girls will tiptoe to the person they are looking at.The trick for girls to attract attention is to shake their high heels with both feet, which will immediately attract the attention of the other party.

(End of this chapter)