smart girl love tips

Chapter 4 Only by seeing through him can you grasp love, don't forget to wear a magnifying glass when you are in love (1)
What kind of man is not bad to marry

Girls probably talk about their men the most together, and they often come to a rather realistic conclusion: the men in my family are not as good as the men in your family.It is a pity that there are all kinds of medicines in this world, but there is no regret medicine.

There are many types of men in life, but you can only choose one of them to play the symphony of pots and pans with you.In fact, if your prospective husband is one of the following types of people, you should seriously consider whether you should marry him.

1. Realistic man

Such men are commonplace in real life.Most of them don't have much enterprising spirit. They can do official work or not in the office, but the housework is definitely shared with their wives. I will cook when you cook, and I will serve the bowl when you use chopsticks.If you marry such a man, the girl will not have much to say, living at home, who doesn't want harmony and relaxation?However, once her husband has been a clerk for more than ten years, and there is a tendency to continue to be unknown, the girl's psychology is a little unbalanced.

2. Career man

Such men are often respected, they treat their work seriously and conscientiously, and they engage in scientific research and development day and night.Marrying this type of man, girls will feel that their life is very stable.But as the days go by, the girls will find that their lives are getting poorer and poorer, and the housework is getting more and more onerous.Other people's husbands can come home from get off work on time every day, help pick up the children, help take care of the elderly, and accompany their daughter-in-law to the hospital when their daughter-in-law is sick, while their own man is struggling in the laboratory for a piece of data. Use your brains.Even if such a man likes you again, you have to be cautious.

3. Money-making man

After a lot of hard work and starting a business, this kind of man lets money flow into his password box like a magic trick.If she marries this kind of man, the girl will definitely have a piece of jewels and treasures, and also have a rich life with clothes and food to open her mouth.However, being a businessman's wife has to suffer a lot, including: being alone for a long time in an empty room; will feel unhappy.You will find that you are like a bird in a golden cage, unable to fly and sing freely, you will not help crying for your fate, and you will think that you have lost your blood by marrying such a man.

4. Romantic man

This type of man is the easiest to fascinate people. They dance well, sing well, and their words can make people's hearts beat.In the face of a boring life, although romance is a good MSG, it cannot be eaten too much after all.While girls accept men's words of praise, don't forget to think, will these words be copied in front of other girls?Married girls pay more attention to whether men spend less time talking a bunch of nice words, and move the gas tank from downstairs to home.If a man is always gentle and considerate to his wife, then the girl will only feel that the man is too creamy, and regret why she didn't find a real man in the first place.

Meet him and scan 360 degrees

If you don't know whether the other party is suitable for you and whether you can marry him for a lifetime, you can investigate him from the following aspects.If you can meet more than 5 of them, you can marry him with confidence.

1. What is the lover's attitude towards their parents?
People who have a bad attitude towards their parents, you'd better not get close to them.Just think, if a person is not even good to his own biological parents, how can he be good to others?However, it should be noted that if the lover is too attached to his parents and obeys what he says, it may be a manifestation of lack of independence.

2. The lover's attitude towards work
In a sense, a person's attitude towards work is his attitude towards life.Anyone who quits after a little bit of trouble at work can almost predict that one day, if there is a little setback in the relationship between husband and wife, he will let go of it and walk away.

3. Lover's circle of friends

There is an old saying: "Things of a feather flock together, and people form groups." That is to say, people with common or similar characteristics are more likely to gather together.Therefore, you may wish to see who your lover is friends with, and you can get relevant information about your lover's character.If the lover's friends are all gentlemen and pure ladies, then he will not be wrong.However, if your lover's friends are all masters of showmanship, you should be wary of him.

Another point to note is that it is not a bad thing for a lover to make friends of the opposite sex, which helps him understand the characteristics of the opposite sex and also shows that he has the ability to communicate with the opposite sex.But if your lover only has friends of the opposite sex but no friends of the same sex, you have to be careful.

4. Behavior of lovers

Observe whether the lover's speech is morally cultivated and polite, or is he uttering rude and foul language;And then through their own comprehensive analysis, grasp its essential characteristics.At the same time, we should pay attention to observe from both horizontal and vertical aspects.The former means to observe the lover's speech and behavior when interacting with various people and encountering various things; the latter means to observe for a period of time, such as 1 month, 2 months, half a year, 1 year, etc.Because it is difficult to fully understand a person through only one or two observations, and it takes a period of time to grasp the object from a dynamic aspect before forming a complete impression.

5. The relationship between lovers and children
A lover will never be a good father if he thinks the child is troublesome and refuses to be close to the child.If the lover not only does not hate children, but is also willing to talk with children, even leaning over to listen to children talking, lying on the floor and playing games with children, then he is undoubtedly a caring person, and he will also become a good father in the future, of course It is worth your while to develop a relationship with him.

6. Lovers' "love history"

It is extremely rare to have a blank sheet of paper. You can use various channels, such as talking with your lover's friends, family, colleagues, superiors and subordinates, and take the opportunity to investigate your lover's "love history".

At the same time, you should also pay attention to your lover's attitude towards the former "she". If your lover always says good things about the "ex" in front of you, it means that he still has an unforgettable relationship.If a lover likes to speak ill of his ex and put all the responsibility on the other party, it means that he is neither generous nor responsible.

7. Lover's "money" scene
Money is not everything, but the attitude towards money can reflect a person's quality.People who are penny-pinching and stingy are also doomed to care about their emotions; while those who are profligate, often overdrawn or even heavily in debt, not only have no "money" prospect, but are also prone to commit the crime of obtaining ill-gotten gains by improper means. mistake.As for those who often ask you to borrow money, you should not associate with them, and you should not be fooled by the sentimental reasons.

8. What lovers do when they travel

In familiar surroundings and circles of life, you can only see one side of a person, and this may have been carefully crafted and whitewashed, which is not the real face.Traveling together, temporarily breaking away from the usual life track and changing the pace of life, you will have the opportunity to fully examine his independence, adaptability and ability to take care of others. If his performance disappoints you, then start anew!If he is more comfortable and considerate of you during the trip than usual, it will undoubtedly improve your relationship when you return.

Several ways to judge a man's flirtatiousness

A man who is fiddly is the biggest harm to a girl.In order not to hurt your vitality, you must know whether he is bothered in advance.As soon as there are signs, they must be stopped immediately.

1. Pay attention to a man's love letter

Today, when telephones are more popular, people who rely on writing love letters to convey their feelings are probably because the person concerned regards it as very important.No matter what he wrote in the letter, he wanted to send the message of "I am serious about you".Generally speaking, a man who likes to write love letters is not so much enthusiastic as he is a man with delicate feelings and more prudent work, so he writes the meaning that is difficult to express in language into words to convey.

However, if love letters are too frequent, girls should pay attention to precautions.Because writing a letter to the other party itself tends to become an act of directly asking for a price from the other party, and then indulge in letters to solve the distress in your heart.Taken to extremes, they become disinterested in their real counterparts and become obsessed with self-created fantasies.Therefore, if you regard a man who frequently writes love letters as an ideal man full of enthusiasm, when you talk about marriage, you will often find that the other party's words and deeds are inconsistent, resulting in no interest and a breakdown in both parties.

2. Do men become bad when they have money?

Girls always hope that their other half should be handsome, smart and healthy, kind-hearted, rich and infatuated.In fact, there are very few such perfect men in the world.As a result, women had to lower their standards, hoping to marry rich men.However, they overlooked that being rich does not equal happiness.Rich men are usually flirtatious and like to cause some trouble.And women can't tolerate their husbands having an affair the most.They take care of their husbands and children and maintain their families in order to have a safe and warm nest.If in the end, people and money are empty, this is a tragedy.

3. The prodigal man is emotional like the wind
The prodigal man is personable, witty in conversation, knows how to deal with the etiquette of the scene, has extensive knowledge, dresses in fashion, and is good at figuring out the psychology of girls.When you don't like the excitement, he will take you for a walk on the beach, when you hate watching popular movies, he will take you to a concert, and such performances make you unconsciously like him from the bottom of your heart.However, this kind of man has a fatal weakness in love, that is, he likes the new and dislikes the old.He likes to constantly pursue stimulation, otherwise he will be suffocated.Therefore, this kind of man can easily hurt girls and is not worth pursuing deliberately.

4. Face up to a man's heart and have a sideways desire

When two people are happily dating, does your boyfriend turn his eyes to her every time he passes by other women?Many women will think that this kind of men should be more careful, thinking that they must belong to people who are not emotional.Not necessarily so.Judging from the roles and positions played by men in society, men must rely on their own strength to survive in society. They must see all sides and listen to all directions to avoid danger. Therefore, they naturally develop attention to the surrounding environment.On the contrary, those men who have never dared to look away are more likely to have affairs in the future.Because this approach is likely the result of overkill by him being too prone to notice other women.

5. Don’t be fooled by raunchy men

Usually, even the most lazy man will comb his hair and wear clean clothes on a date, hoping to make a good impression on the other party.But there are still some men who are not groomed when dating, but some girls will arouse a female instinct, feel that the other party is "so pitiful", and thus give birth to a secret heart to marry him.

After marriage, under the "teaching" of his wife, this kind of man has a slightly better appearance. However, because he is not good at grooming himself and lacks the appearance that attracts women, he will not easily have affairs.Therefore, it is easy for ordinary women not to guard against this type of man.However, this kind of man does not have an affair. Once he moves on, he will be extremely serious and deeply involved, which will make the woman shocked and panicked.

6. Energetic people are prone to "playing around"

Usually, men are more curious about unknown or new things, and they are not as disturbed as women when faced with these things.Instead, they tend to actively explore, wanting to understand what it really is.To put it to the extreme, men go to dance halls and restaurants to have fun in pursuit of excitement.Among men, those who have a strong interest in various novelty things have a wider range of hobbies than ordinary people.Seeing this kind of man, women are particularly easy to be moved, so this kind of man is more likely to be promiscuous in the future.

7. Good men are "bad" when they are bad

Some people say that it is a man's nature to eat, drink, whore and gamble.However, some men never get involved in these.They all have one thing in common, that is, there is a strong hobby, or: interest in work, or other hobbies, which can make him devote himself wholeheartedly.However, these men who work hard and don't know the taste of games, after middle age, once they taste the taste of games, they are easy to go crazy and can't extricate themselves.Because they never learned how to control their desire to play when they were young, they tend to have mysterious and excessive expectations about the game world, especially gambling and girls, which will make them obsessed.

8. Serious men are prone to cheating

Some phlegmatic men usually feel dull, strictly abide by traditions and moral principles, do not overstep the threshold, and treat people kindly, courteously and courteously.However, once the psychological balance is lost for some reason, there will be surprising emotional outbursts, leading to a depraved world of pleasure.This kind of man who is very likely to go from one extreme to another is usually not easy to detect.Therefore, when looking for a husband, although a man's seriousness and meticulousness are a virtue, it is better not to overdo it.A man who is usually too stubborn and lacks the spirit of the game sometimes hides a crisis of falling into an extreme and destructive world of pleasure.

what kind of man can't marry
Even if you are a marriage fanatic, you can't just marry yourself out, you must find a suitable partner to get married.If you don't know what kind of man can marry and is worth marrying?Just figure out what kind of man you can't marry.

Men who are too rich and too poor cannot marry.In the real world, being rich is almost equal to having ability and luck. If a man has excellent ability and luck, he must pamper himself in many ways. Marrying such a man will be in fear all the time in his life, and he will be laid off every minute. Crisis, exhausted!Those who have been poor for a long time and become rich cannot marry. They struggle in poverty for a long time, and they pay hundreds of times more than ordinary people. They are strict with themselves and others. Marrying such a person will also be exhausted!Nowadays, there are fewer people with unrecognized talents, and more people with high eyes and low hands. At a certain age, they still have empty sleeves. It is not just because of bad luck.

Character has always been the primary condition for choosing a mate.Counting the men whose ex-girlfriends are not can not marry.Tolerance is always a necessary character for a man.Talking about running the train, a man who tells different versions of one thing to different people cannot marry, unless you have the special function of foretelling and distinguishing the truth from the false.Men who keep changing jobs and changing industries cannot marry.He is so bothered about his career, let alone others.A man who can't move his feet and swallows his saliva when he sees a beautiful girl can't marry, and he has to talk about his lust.A man who is incoherent once he succeeds cannot marry.So frivolous, how can you keep your luck?A man with wandering eyes and flickering words cannot marry.Calmness is also an indispensable character of a man.It is rare to have big right and wrong in life, but there are small right and wrong all the time.Little things often make up the whole of life, so the details must not be ignored, for example: men in pink shirts cannot marry, they are either narcissistic, or they have a handsome complex; men in dark suits and white socks cannot marry , They either feel that their youth is infinite, or they have a problem with their taste.

Also, those who invite you to eat hot pot on the first date cannot marry, the heat is steaming, the flames are rolling, the voices are noisy, and there is no emotion.Please eat, and as soon as you sit down, ask today's special dish if you can't marry, it's too petty to care about dates.Can't marry if you date AA or ask a girl to pay the bills, that's not a man at all.Hua girl Qian is confident that she can't marry unless she is keen on being a bad boy.You can't marry in front of girls who spit all over the place.Men who cover their mouths while laughing, eat snacks, always touch their hair, are willing to talk about right and wrong, love to read entertainment pages of newspapers, watch TV series, openly consider themselves beautiful men, and men who like to join in the fun are all not allowed to marry. Girls get used to it.

There are too many men who cannot marry, and too few men who can marry.Some things cannot be settled for second best. After going around for so many years, the principle of queuing rather than abuse must be adhered to.The pain of being single is nothing more than loneliness, but if you find a carrot and eggplant and marry casually, I believe that the troubles will be doubled and refurbished.

Looking at a man's temperament from his walking posture
To recognize a man, you need to observe all aspects of him.Observe how a man walks, and see his mentality and character from his walking posture. As a girl, you must be interested in participating in this kind of game.

1. A man with a quick pace

This type of man is a typical activist. Most of them are energetic, shrewd and capable, and dare to face various challenges in real life.

2. A man with a slow pace

This kind of man always walks slowly, as if he doesn't care no matter how urgent others say. This is a typical realist school.They pay attention to prudence in everything, "think twice before acting", and never go too far.If they are promoted and valued in their careers, it may not be that they have any "background", but the conditions created by their pragmatic spirit.

3. The Man Leaning Forward
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