smart girl love tips

Chapter 5 Only by seeing through him can you grasp love, don't forget to wear a magnifying glass when you are in love (2)
Some men are accustomed to leaning forward when they walk, and even look like a cat.Most of these people are gentle and introverted, and they blush when they see beautiful women, but they are modest and generally have good self-cultivation.They never rhetoric, cherish their friendship and affection very much, but they are usually unsmiling.Compared with other types of people, they always suffer the most, and they are reluctant to confide in others, and they are sullen all by themselves.

4. Men of Military Pace

Walking is like doing military exercises, with neat steps and regular swinging of hands.Such men have strong willpower and are very focused on their own beliefs. The goals they choose are generally not affected by changes in the external environment and things.This kind of man is often the most pleasing to girls and the most sad to girls, because once they set their sights on a certain goal, they will never give up until they achieve it.If this type of people can give full play to their strengths, they will definitely achieve a lot, because their dedication to career is incomparable to other types of people.But if your boss is this kind of person, life will be difficult. In many cases, you will "be unable to eat and walk around", because they are generally more "dictatorial".

5. Pace the man
Men with this kind of gait are very stable. They think that the most important thing in the face of any difficult thing is to keep a clear head, and they don't want to be influenced by any emotional things to influence their judgment and analysis. .This kind of men sometimes feel tired. In order to maintain their dignity, it is difficult for them to smile in front of others. This is their principle of life.They exercise tight control over their physical form, and while others fear them, they feel oppressed when left alone.Because this kind of person is deeply involved in the world and the city is very deep.

Know a man from the color of his hair
Hair quality and color can also reflect a man's temperament.Know a man from hair quality and color, the method is simple and intuitive.

Hair like steel wire: This kind of person's hair is thick and thick like a hedgehog.This kind of man must do everything by himself, with courage and leadership skills.But this kind of man is only self-centered and doesn't care about others, and of course he doesn't care about girls.

Thick and light hair: This means that the person's hair is hard and thin. This person is self-willed, likes to control others in everything, and has a narrow mind.His biggest advantage is that he is a little clever.

Black as ink, soft as silk: This kind of man likes to enjoy himself, has a generous mind, but is impatient of hard work, and likes to depend on others for big and small things.

Soft and sparse hair: This kind of man likes to be in the limelight, loves to argue with others, his eyes are on the top of his head, he is so arrogant, he has no judgment on big and small things, he lives very casually, and he never pays attention to clothes. Do not talk about fashion with this person , otherwise it is just playing the piano to the cow.

Soft and thick hair: Even with a lot of oil, it is not easy to comb it. This person has a weak personality and is hesitant to do anything. He is a neurotic man. Girls should keep him at a respectful distance.

Thick, rough, and naturally drooping hair: Most of these people are fat, don't like sports very much, and are single-minded in love.

Hair and beard connected together, like a hedgehog: reckless personality, heroic and unruly, chivalrous, likes to meddle in other people's affairs, and doesn't stick to trivial matters.

Hair color is light and thin, thick and hard: sharp thinking ability, natural speech genius, flexible and stretchable.But if you want to take advantage of it, you will inevitably suffer a big loss.

Thick and soft hair, naturally drooping: introverted, contemplative, patient, artists and scientists often come out of this hairstyle.

Fat natural contortion: This person has a fierce temperament, worries about gains and losses, is suspicious of everything, small-minded, self-righteous, defiant, likes to act arbitrarily, has no accommodating heart, and is a tyrant in the family.Beware of domestic violence with this kind of man.

Black with red hair color: He spends too much, likes to make friends with the opposite sex, and is not dedicated to love. He is the most dangerous person that women should pay attention to.

Mixed black and white hair at the back of the head: This person is sentimental, happy and sad, likes to be sentimental, often talks in sleep, it must be noted that it is a symbol of a weak brain.

Between you, who always pays the bill?

If you want to see a girl's true face, you have to take off her makeup.And if you want to see the true face of a man, you have to break up with him.If you want to know the emotional psychology of men and girls, you have to look at their attitude when they pay the bill.

This is by no means a golden rule, but it has practical effects in real life.Today, with the increasing awareness of women, girls can dominate the workplace just like men, buy houses and cars like men, and even earn more than men.However, in contrast to this, there is almost no girl who is unwilling to enjoy the happiness that a man pays for her.

The attitude of the men when paying the bill will also change in time with the emotional trajectory of the two.For example, if a guy pays the bill without looking at it at all and tips generously, it means he is courting the girl.

When he starts to pay attention to the items on the bill, it means that he has chased the girl.

When he started looking through the bills and complaining about the high charges, it showed that he had a very stable relationship with this girl.

When he just glanced at the bill and let the girl pay for it, then this girl has become his wife and holds the financial power...

Instead, the girl doesn't look at the bill at all, and only pays attention to how much the man pays in tips, indicating that she has just started dating the man who went with her.When she began to pay attention to the items on the bill and told him not to tip too much, she had fallen in love with this man.

When she blames the man for checking the bill and criticizes him for being too stingy in tipping, it shows that she doesn't love this man.

By the time she starts digging through the bills and complaining about the man tipping too much, she's his wife.

If a man and a woman are vying to pay the bill, then it can be judged that these two are definitely not lovers.

Men can't be too stingy.And how much this man cares about you can be seen from how much he is willing to "invest" for you.There is no love without a material foundation, and things like paying the bills, although trivial, can reflect a person's character and conduct from the subtleties, and highlight the psychological state inadvertently.

Although modern people always pay attention to the equality of men and women, there are not a few people who implement the AA system for dating.but
Most people still think that the AA system is too cold and impersonal.Then, those smart girls who are unwilling to always be attached to men will choose the right time and express it in a timely manner.

So when a girl says, "Let's make dinner AA," she's really saying, "I really mean it to you, but it's the 21st century and I've got a really good job and just made some money .There's no reason to keep paying for my meals, is there?"

However, the signal your boyfriend receives may be: "I don't want to feel like I owe you anything because of the money." So, if your boyfriend is always the first to pay the bill, then she won't fight with him.Instead, choose other ways to balance, such as sending some practical small gifts and the like.

There is also a kind of couple who never make it clear who pays, but its essence is still the same as the AA system.The secret lies in a simple rule - whoever invites pays.

Find out if he likes you
A smart girl can tell from some details whether the other party has a good impression of her or not.

1. I am extremely concerned about your work, study, and living conditions, and even particularly interested in your hobbies.

2. Take the initiative to introduce all aspects of your situation to your family, relatives and friends, colleagues, fellow villagers, etc., and make comments based on "preconceived ideas".

3. Discuss with you in case of problems, ask for your opinions, and take the initiative to ask you to make up your mind and find a way for important matters.

4. Do everything possible to find out about your past and your family.Especially interested in your privacy.

5. When introducing you to others, you tend to exaggerate your advantages and strengths, narrow down or conceal your shortcomings and mistakes, and even take your shortcomings as advantages to make public.

6. When you go out on business or attend a meeting to study, you will never forget to bring you some small gifts, souvenirs and the like.

7. Remember your birthday most clearly, and often create some festive atmosphere or surprises for you on this day.

8. On Valentine's Day, he will definitely give you roses and ask you out for a carnival.He will be upset if you refuse.

9. I love to watch your albums, care about the photos of young people of the opposite sex in the albums, and often ask you some weird questions for you to answer.

10. Start paying attention to your friends and colleagues of the opposite sex, and try to contact and understand them. If you fail, you will have a lot of suspicion, jealousy and even resentment.

11. Hope to receive your letter and call every day, if not, he will be disappointed and restless.

12. Everything is always on your side. When you argue with others, even if you are wrong, he will stand by your side.

13. When he has achieved results, even if it is a small progress, he will happily report to you first, and ask you to share the happiness.

14. When encountering failures or setbacks in work, study, or life, he will take the initiative to ask you for help.For some unspeakable privacy issues, you are his first choice to confide in, and he will especially respect your opinions and suggestions.

15. If the other party is introverted, not good at words, polite, calm and decent in dealing with others, and pays attention to propriety, but when he is with you, he is unrestrained and careless, and seems to have endless talk and endless words all day long , then, this clearly shows that the other party has fallen in love with you deeply.

16. Always try to create opportunities to meet you, increase the number of times you meet, even if it is only a few minutes, otherwise you will not be able to bear it, and you will feel like "not seeing you in a day is like three autumns away".

17. I often borrow books from you, and sometimes I return the borrowed books to you without even reading them, and say how good the book is.

18. During the holidays or when there is a big happy event at his house, he invites you to his house to play. When buying gifts, most of them don’t ask you to pay, but borrow your name.

19. Frequently ask questions about yourself and your family, and consciously or unconsciously "participate in politics": give opinions, suggestions, think of ways, and those who can help, always generously help and do our best.

20. On some irrelevant issues, you talk about things and others talk about things, and often sing against you for fun.

21. Start to pay attention to your clothing, if you are unkempt, he will remind you from time to time.

22. Do not refuse or immediately agree to your reasonable requests, but satisfy them in practice.

23. When you are down, he will cheer you up; if you are too fanatical, he will come and pour cold water on you.

24. The letters I write to you are always getting longer and more.Subtle changes have also taken place in your title and inscription in the letter.

25. For your appointments, you can usually attend on time. If you cannot arrive due to special circumstances, you will be notified in advance, or you will be asked to change the time and place to avoid you waiting too long.

26.在寄给你信的信封上，如果出现“5A1”的字样，表明对方已爱上你了。“5A1”的暗语即为“我爱你”。

As long as you send out 5 or more signals, it means that he already has a good impression of you.

What kind of lover we all hope to find

Due to various physiological and psychological differences between men and women, coupled with various social influences, the psychological state of choosing a mate is very different. There will also be differences.

Therefore, the psychology of mate selection is not a simple psychological type, it is often complex, intertwined by a variety of psychological states.

Generally speaking, this complex psychology of mate selection depends on a person's outlook on life, love, and values.They can only be discussed artificially here.

1. Business type

In fact, not only men, girls are also willing to pay attention to this.Everyone hopes that their partner is a pillar now, or one day in the future, he will become a great talent, excel in work and career, and become an elite figure.But not everyone can become God's darling and climb to the peak of success, so men and women with this kind of mentality tend to have greater hopes and greater disappointments.

At present, there are not many people who have this kind of mate selection psychology. They are generally intellectuals. An important weight, pinning the happiness of love on the struggle of career.This kind of love is eternal because of the eternity of career, but it is not acceptable to ordinary people.

2. Platonic type
Typical mate selection psychology in pursuit of spiritual satisfaction.The society has progressed, people's cultural quality has improved, and more and more people have this kind of mate selection psychology.The difference with career-oriented men is that this type of men focus on the other party's thoughts and feelings, moral qualities, personality hobbies, etc.; what they pursue is mutual spiritual communication and emotional harmony.As long as you can be happy and satisfied spiritually, it doesn't matter even if the other party's economic conditions and physical conditions are not good.This kind of spiritual love is noble, and many beautiful love stories are derived from this psychological pursuit of love.

3. The money-obsessed type

Although society has now developed to a certain economic level, this type of mate selection psychology is still relatively common, especially in economically backward areas.They put each other's financial situation first, and their marriage is to get a comfortable home that can satisfy them to eat, wear, live, and play, or to rely on for survival.This kind of marriage based on material and money is not reliable, because economic conditions can be changed. It often loses the attraction of cohesive hearts because the other party loses the generous material conditions, so they have to part ways. .

4. Political marriage type

This kind of mate selection psychology is quite common in feudal society. They use marriage to open up their official careers or consolidate nepotism in officialdom, which is the so-called political marriage.Although this kind of mate selection psychology is not common now, there are still many people who use this to have other plans. They don't pay attention to the emotional and psychological compatibility between the two, let alone a bosom friend, and hide the love hidden in marriage. The ulterior motive behind it puts love first.This kind of love is equally unreliable.

5. Appearance

A large part of those who have this kind of mentality are young people. Of course, everyone wants their partner to be more beautiful and handsome. This is human nature.But if you blindly pursue this kind of appearance beauty, you will often go astray.The love generated by the other party's beautiful appearance is short-lived.As the years go by, love will also disappear with the aging of the appearance.As Goethe said: "Beauty on the outside can only be pleasing for a while, but beauty on the inside can last forever."

6. Perfect type

When some people choose a partner, they formulate a series of criteria in advance, and there are many rules and regulations. Anyone who does not meet one or two points, even if they are satisfied in other aspects, is not considered.People with this kind of mate selection psychology are mostly young first lovers, but this kind of mental state often makes them become older youths.

7. Game type

There are only a small number of people with this mentality.In the name of love, they use the name of "don't care about eternity, only care about what they once had", playing with other people's feelings, going around, looking for flowers and willows, their outlook on life and love is corrupt, and as a result, they can't enjoy true love for a lifetime.

Teach you to judge whether he is a friend or a lover
Is it strange for a girl sometimes: He calls me every night, and he often sends me affectionate eyes on weekdays... He obviously likes me, but he has been slow to confess to me because he is afraid of being rejected by me, Or do you have other plans in mind?Is he a playboy, showing mercy everywhere?

It's really hard to figure out what is he thinking?Then, let the little test help you find out what happened, and let the boys themselves tell you their true intentions!

1. There is a difference between "good intentions" and "love"

According to a large survey of many boys, more than half of the boys said that they would send her home or invite her to the movies even if they did not want to pursue girls.10% answered that it was impossible to do this!Another 29% of boys answered that it depends on the specific situation!

About 82% of the boys answered that this kind of kindness comes from the basic demeanor of boys.And only 10% of the cases were trying to make girls feel good about themselves or have other intentions.It seems that this kind behavior of most boys is a polite expression.So if you have a similar situation with him, don't misunderstand, he may just be kind to you, don't think about it!

2. When will he contact you
In the early stages of your acquaintance, you may sometimes think: "I have given him my number, but why hasn't he contacted me? Does he really want to meet me, but is still hesitant? Maybe he is waiting Where's my phone, why don't I call him first..." You may stare at the phone all day, your eyeballs are about to fall out, but why doesn't he call you?Haha, want to know the answer?
Check out the survey results below.

If they really have a crush on a girl, 32% of boys will call the girl on the day they ask for their phone number.If it is a girl who wants to have a deep friendship, the number of people who will call on the same day is the first in the survey results.This proves that even the shyest guy doesn't hesitate when it comes to girls he likes.More than half of the boys will call within 2 to 3 days, and 80% of the boys will call each other within a week at the longest, while only 19% of the boys answered that it will be a month or longer.If he hasn't contacted you after a month, then don't have any illusions.

Generally speaking, according to the survey on how long it takes to realize the confession, those who answered that it takes a month to realize the confession occupy the first place.Among the other answers, 3% of the answers were confessed within 82 days to two or three months, and 16% of boys took longer.From this point of view, you can calm down and wait for him to confess for 2 or 3 months, or maybe you only need to wait for three or four days to hear his confession!

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