smart girl love tips

Chapter 6 Be careful, a smart girl will hold on to love (1)
Lovers are within 70 meters
Many people often worry that their life circle is too small to find someone they really like. In fact, their lover is within 70 meters.Spatial distance is often directly proportional to psychological distance, and it is easier for human beings to develop feelings with people around them.

A fantasy love affair usually develops from a dramatic encounter to a vigorous love affair.In fact, most of my lovers were classmates in high school, seniors in clubs when I was in college, and colleagues in the company after work.Lovers are mostly people around them, living in a certain circle with themselves. A 2006 survey of married couples showed that 3% of them met at work, 3% met through friends or family members, and 1% of couples started dating when they were students. Plus has 7%.So, how many cases are there of encounters in film and television dramas when traveling, on the street, under the sunset, or in the garden?The answer is a tiny 5%.It can be seen from this data that more than half of the people will fall in love with the people around them.

A psychologist conducted a survey on lovers, and the results showed that most of the lovers met in the same company and other environments within about 70 meters of the other party.The world is vast and the Internet is well-developed, but the distance in reality has become an important factor in the development of love.

Why do people like people who are close?The primary reason is psychological economy, and it is easier for people around you to give psychological rewards.This is like a student who forgets to bring his textbook and usually borrows it from a neighbor.If the psychological cost of borrowing from people far away is relatively high, most people are unwilling to do so.Being in close quarters is a low-cost investment and a high rate of return for both parties.In this way, you can get to know the people around you more and more during the interaction, so as to find the right object, and have a good impression of each other in getting along with this person.

If you love him, don't wait until tomorrow

We often say that when you meet the wrong person, you should "cut the mess quickly"; when you meet the right person, you must cherish and cherish it.If you love him, don't hesitate, but believe in your own feelings. If you feel right, everything will be right.

In this fast-paced modern society, if anyone still opposes love at first sight, then he is conservative and outdated; if anyone still thinks that love needs to be slowly understood and slowly cultivated, he is confused.For today's boys and girls, love does not need a reason, what is needed is a feeling of electric shock.

A pair of men and women whose personalities, interests, hobbies, and habits are all closely integrated is like the joy of meeting another self. It is very natural to enter the "situation" and even enter the wedding hall.Because the length of time a couple has been dating is not directly proportional to the maturity of their relationship.

A relationship that needs to be worked on for a long time to bear fruit may be exactly the "wrong" relationship.Lovers need a long time to adjust to each other because of the huge disparity in personality and other aspects; it may be that they meet the wrong person, time, space, age, and psychological maturity; the more wrong Love, the longer it takes to manage.When two "wrong" people stay together for a long time, they will develop into a "habit". You get used to being with him, getting used to arguing with him, getting used to his voice, and getting used to his temper. ", turned into a self-deceiving "fake love".If the long-distance running of love makes the two people lose their passion, trust, and ability to get along with each other, then this kind of "long-distance running" is worthless.

Love is like buying a lottery ticket. It’s a feeling to fight. First, you need to be sure, second, you need to be quick, and third, you need to be brave.

Smart girl refuses to be a lamb

Girls who are too docile are often ignored by men. They think that such a docile and virtuous girl will never leave them, so they will ignore the feelings of their girlfriends.If you want a man to love you wholeheartedly, don't be a meek little lamb.You might as well learn to be a "bad girl" that makes men love and hate.Such a girl must first have a flexible personality, be good at displaying femininity, and have a bright personality. Of course, it is best to add the appearance of an angel and the figure of a devil...

In fact, being a "bad girl" is not bad, sometimes it is a kind treatment of one's own charm and beauty, it makes everything to the extreme, and also allows men to enjoy the greatest happiness and satisfaction in life while having it.

◆They imagine themselves as the Madonna on the stage, appearing in front of men with ever-changing images, such as lady, avant-garde, or sexy, even if they don't pretend to be the girl next door, they will get surprise eyes from men.

◆They are the most flirtatious, performing plots that want to be acted out, but everything is based on her supernatural sixth sense, knowing how to comply with instinct, and avoiding the jokes that are imitated.Sometimes she would put on an awe-inspiring and inviolable posture, let herself stand at a safe distance, and smiled.

◆Don't think that "bad girls" are always like sunny skies.She will also have sudden fragility, which makes men especially affectionate.Girls who are well versed in the aesthetics of crying can always show the beauty of pear blossoms with rain just right.

◆"Bad Girls" can freely display their amorous and aggressive "Bad Girl" charms. In any possible occasion, they can break free from the shackles of tradition, show their strengths to their heart's content, and wait for harvest.

◆"Bad Girl" is good at using language. When she should open her mouth, she knows the power of wit and humor, and when she should be silent, she also knows how to be silent, but her eyes never stop talking.

◆"Bad girls" are always calm and composed most of the time, not sad or nervous.If you are a little nervous, you are also a little willful, a little presumptuous, a little crazy, a little dangerous and exciting, like to play with the feeling of heartbeat, but definitely limit the rules to a safe range.

What kind of girl do guys want

Sometimes a man can't tell what kind of girl he likes, and he doesn't know what kind of girl is most suitable for him. At this time, he needs to analyze his psychology of choosing a mate.Men's mate selection psychology is different, and each has its own characteristics. These psychological characteristics are not reflected in a single man, but intertwined and compounded.

1. Desire for perfection
Some men often set a series of standards before choosing a partner, and then choose according to the standard. As long as they don't meet one of the conditions, even if they are satisfied in other aspects, they are still out of consideration.People with this kind of mate-choosing psychology, although most of them are young first-time lovers, often turn them into older single youths.

2. Seek spiritual fulfillment
Along with the continuous progress of social civilization, people's cultural quality is constantly improving. There are more and more men with this kind of mate selection psychology. They often value each other's thoughts, feelings, personality hobbies, etc., and pursue the spiritual communication and affection between the two parties. harmony.Once you can achieve spiritual happiness and satisfaction, even if the other party's financial conditions, physical conditions, etc. are lacking, you can accommodate them.This kind of spiritual love is the noblest kind of love, and many well-known love stories often belong to the pursuit of this kind of love psychology.

3. Like to look beautiful

The beauty of appearance can only please temporarily, but the beauty of heart can last forever.Some men will be tempted when they see a beautiful girl, but if they regard beautiful appearance as the first consideration in courtship, it will bury many hidden dangers for future relationships.Such a relationship is prone to betrayal.

4. play games

There are only a few men with this mentality.In the name of love, they play with each other's feelings and ask for flowers and willows. Their view of love is decadent, and they often don't enjoy love for a lifetime.

5. Focus on career

There is a lot of pressure in modern society, so most men hope that their significant other can help them in their careers in the future, or that the partner has his own career and he can be proud of her.

This kind of men often regard career progress as the greatest joy in life, regard the other party's professionalism and enterprising spirit as a major weight in the balance of mate selection, and pin their hopes for the happiness of love in the struggle of career.This kind of love obtains eternity because of the eternity of career.

6. Look for political backers
Some men approach some girls with good family backgrounds in order to achieve their own goals, and then exchange their actions for the girl's favor. Such a relationship itself is an action with a utilitarian purpose, and the foundation of such a relationship is generally very weak.A smart girl must recognize whether his love has such a purpose.If so, take precautions as soon as possible.

7. Money comes first
At present, this kind of mate selection psychology is gradually showing signs of growth among men, especially in economically backward areas.They often put each other's financial situation first, and their marriage is often to obtain a comfortable nest that can satisfy them with food, clothing, housing, and entertainment.This kind of marriage based on money is fragile. In fact, the economic conditions can be changed. It often loses the cohesion of the soul because the other party loses the favorable material conditions, and has to break up as a result.

It is worth noting that human nature is complex, and the above seven characteristics will not appear alone. They may be intertwined and reflected in a man. Because of this, it is difficult to judge whether a man's mate selection psychology is correct or not.

love him, just ask him a favor

Countless romances have been established with the help of you coming and going.

Make a small request to attract the attention of your crush and win favor, and a slightly burdensome request can increase the favorability.However, the size must be strictly grasped.

A psychologist once did such an experiment. He told the participants in advance that "this is an experiment about the effect of knowledge rewards", and they can get bonuses for answering questions correctly, ranging from 60 cents to 3 dollars.In the experiment, some experiment participants were really given bonuses.When the experiment was about to end, the experiment executor sincerely made a request to some winners: "I used my own money for this experiment, and now the experimental funds have been used up, and we still need to carry out the following experiment, so can you Would you please return the prize money?" The majority accepted and returned the prize money.

Those who participated in the experiment went to the office to fill out the survey report after the end, and one of the questions asked in the form was "favorability to the experiment executor".Here we can compare the difference in favorability towards the executor between those who have been asked and those who have not been asked to return the bonus (this is the real purpose of the experiment).In the experiment, in addition to the experiment executor's request for the return of the bonus, the staff also asked the experiment participants to ask "whether the research funds are insufficient, can the bonus be returned".

The experimental results prove that: the executor himself makes a request, and some people who accept and return the bonus have the highest favorability towards the executor.And the person who returned the $3 liked the executor more than the person who returned the 60 cents.

It can be seen that making a small request can attract the other party's attention and win goodwill, and a slightly burdensome request can increase the goodwill, because people who help others are happier themselves and have goodwill towards the person they help .Of course, excessive requests will definitely be rejected, so we must grasp the degree of request.

If you love him, ask him for a favor. This will not only give yourself a chance to fall in love, but also bring you one step closer to him.

Unique Secrets to Finding a Golden Husband

Compared with female white-collar workers, golden husbands are obviously short of resources. If they want to have the perfect love of platinum combination and stand out among many female white-collar workers, female white-collar workers must have a unique set of secrets to capture golden husbands.

1. Expand your knowledge
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