smart girl love tips

Chapter 7 Be careful, a smart girl will hold on to love (2)
There is no need to compare knowledge with Mr. Jin, as long as a little knowledge of various fields is enough.For example, you need to know how BMW and Volkswagen compete for Rolls-Royce, you need to know the contents of the latest issue of "TIME" and "PEOPLE", and you need to know the most influential person in the world named by Fortune magazine, Stephen Hawking's "A Brief History of Time"... But, remember, don't talk about things you don't know.

2. Give him a warm home

An orange light, a song "Hotel California" by the Eagles, a cup of Longjing before the rain, and clear green tea soup, let him soothe his tense nerves after a day in the aroma of tea and the melodious sound of guitar.

3. Cook good dishes and capture the appetite of my husband

Food is the paramount necessity of the people.Mrs. Jin rushes to the front line in the shopping malls. He has to work hard every day. He cooks some delicious meals he likes to comfort Mrs. Jin's scarred stomach due to long-term busy work.Food is one of the great pleasures in life. A bowl of hearty soup, filled with the fragrance of love, let him eat it after a busy day and relieve his fatigue.

4. Take care of your husband's clothes

Mental outlook is the most important, clothes can show a person's taste.You need to know the latest information on Paris fashion shows, and which master’s design style is suitable for your golden husband. Although many masters tell us that suits and sneakers are cool, casual, comfortable and expensive clothes can reflect him. extraordinary charm.

Tears are more effective than cannons
A hero is sad for a beauty, and a man who always pretends to be a flower protector is the one who hates a girl to cry, so a smart girl will use tears as a powerful weapon to subdue a man.

When you see a sad film and television drama, cry like a tearful person, let him know that you have a fragile and sensitive heart; when you quarrel, he said something serious, or he has a second heart, it is a necessary time to cry.Especially when two people are arguing about their opinions, it is better to use the "tear bomb offensive" to resolve the deadlock instead of confronting each other head-on. In many cases, tears may be the best weapon to end the war.

Tears are used to express sadness or anger, not to highlight your willfulness and domineering.You cry when he forgets to send flowers; you cry when he is late for an appointment;

Crying loudly is suspected of bluffing; only weeping in silence will arouse a man's pity.With tears in his eyes but trying to squeeze out a smile, showing the poignant beauty of a forced smile, the most touching thing for a man; turning his face away, letting the tears fall, pretending to be strong and weak, especially makes a man feel distressed.

But don't cry at every turn. Too many tears will not arouse love and affection, but will make men have a strong "immunity" to your crying.

Five ways to teach you to hold him firmly in the palm of your hand
When you finally meet your ideal him in the painful search, you will cherish him very much, but cherishing is not enough. How can you make him willingly stay by your side and make other competitors daunted?May wish to try the following methods.

1. "Exposing" the relationship

Let everyone know that the two of you are lovers, let him ride the "tiger" hard, and he can't back down!For example, when meeting with his friends, call him by his nickname or your special nickname, or even call him "husband" intimately, or help him adjust the buttons like a good wife; Complain to him or your friends: "Hey, he is really like a child. He only knows about work and career every day. Without me, he doesn't know how to take care of himself." While talking, he looked at him with infinite love ; Occasionally call his company and tell his colleagues to remind him to take medicine and add more clothes.He has to work overtime, so he asked his colleague to convey it on his behalf: "I'll make a supper and wait for him."

In this way, if he dares to form a new love, he may be charged with the accusation of rebellion, abandonment, and ungratefulness, and become the target of public criticism. Can he bear it?In addition, another advantage is that you can use the openness of intimacy to exclude dissidents, prevent other people from coveting, and cut off his way to find another object.In this way, he has no choice but to obediently walk into the wedding hall with you.

2. Give gifts now and then

Buy him some small gifts from time to time, and at the same time, you can attach your confession.For example, you can buy him a scarf and say to him: "I am like this scarf, I will always surround you!" Or buy a fluffy dog ​​for him and say to him: "I am like a puppy I will always guard you loyally!" Or send a beautiful doll and whisper in his ear: "I hope our baby will be so cute in the future." His heart will definitely soften a little bit.When his bed table is covered with all kinds of small gifts from you, he can't even miss you.

3. Contact at least once a day

If he receives a text message from you every afternoon, won't he feel very happy?Maybe you will meet at night, but you will maintain this habit anyway, even if it is only a few words.This text message has become the emotional link between you, letting him know that you still miss him in your busy schedule, what could move him more than this?This practice is very common among lovers who are in a strong relationship, and they will not let each other lose contact, not even for a day.The pace of life in modern society is tense and the work pressure is heavy. It is very likely that two people will not be able to see each other for several days. Whether it is phone calls, text messages, or emails, it is nothing more than expressing: Although we cannot meet, our hearts will always be together.

4. Leverage to fuel the flames
The so-called "unity is powerful", you might as well use the strength of your relatives and friends to jointly promote the further development of your relationship.For example, you can please his parents, win over his relatives, and let them urge him: "I'm not young, and I'm not going to start a family soon, let's have grandchildren early." He: "I heard that your good news is coming soon, when will you have a wedding wine?" Or pretend to be infatuated with the sun and watch him, so that his friends can't see it and put pressure on him: "She is a good girl Let’s marry her early!” In the caring eyes and inquiries of everyone, he will definitely agree to your marriage proposal “at the request of the audience”.

5. Raise your worth

If your lover thinks that you will be his person, or thinks that you are a "unpopular product" that no one is chasing, maybe he will not know how to cherish you.Then, give him a little "crisis awareness"!Tell him through a friend: "Someone is chasing your girlfriend hard." Or, intentionally or unintentionally, act like you are annoyed by being chased, fabricate some "love encounters", hire a "rival in love", and show that you are chasing after you. The plot of fighting and entanglement created the illusion of "bidding" and stimulated him to "grab the bid".After he tries his best to defeat the fake love rival, he will cherish you even more and regard you as a treasure in his palm.Just like the warriors in ancient Europe, in order to win the hearts of beauties, they would not hesitate to meet in a duel to have a showdown.Only love that has been tested can last forever; only through turbulent struggles can the fruit of marriage appear sweeter and more precious.

In order to hold him firmly in your hand, you must master these little tricks.Properly raise your social status and keep surprising him, are you afraid you won't be able to catch him?

Smart girls play tricks
Falling in love is like running a business, and you need to use your wisdom.If you love blindly and treat him blindly, he may not appreciate it.When you are in love, you might as well be more "careful", don't get too involved, just love a little bit, and always leave room for yourself.

1. Never say how much I love you

There is a famous saying: "A girl should never let a man know that she loves him, it will make him arrogant."

2. Make only one phone call a day

Hang up when the other party has more to say, and maintain a moderate sense of mystery. No man likes a girl who chatters endlessly.

3. Keep a calm mind
Few people only love once in a lifetime. Nine out of ten loves end in breaking up. We should treat reunion and parting with normality.Without anyone, life has to go on.It's better to get together and get better, don't cry, make trouble and hang yourself, it will only make yourself very pitiful.

4. Don't accommodate him too much

No one owes anyone, loving him is his blessing.In love, two people are the protagonists, they must have their own opinions and know how to refuse appropriately.

5. Try not to get involved financially

Money is a sensitive topic, and there are many examples of men and women in love who immediately turn against each other when real interests are involved.Feelings belong to feelings, and money belongs to money. We should still make a clear distinction, so as not to lose my wife and lose my army.

6. Don't force marriage
If you love someone too much, you will want to last forever. At this time, you long for a secular marriage.Constantly proposing a wedding dress or buying a house in front of her boyfriend, and showing her desire to get married clearly on her face, this will only scare him away.If the other party wants to get married, you don't need to imply that he will also buy a ring.

7. Don't have children for love

Once a man is determined to leave you, it is very difficult to make him turn back. It is too unwise to use children to fetter a man. You can’t let the other party be responsible for you, but you have to be responsible for a small life. Isn’t this asking for trouble? ?
8. Don't stay together every day
The lifespan of love is limited. To make love last longer, we must maintain an appropriate distance.If you have a physical relationship, don't act like you have to marry.Sex is a feeling shared by both parties, a sublimation of feelings, not a burden on each other.

9. The other person is always just a part of life
Sanmao once said: "My heart has a lot of room, and Jose just comes in and sits." You must have your own social circle, don't disappear in place as soon as you fall in love, and cut off all contacts with all your friends. It will make your life more and more narrow.

10. Drink less vinegar and shed less tears

Ask modern men, which one would they choose, Xue Baochai or Lin Daiyu?Real life is already too tiring, who has the energy to coax a Lin Daiyu-style girlfriend who cries a little for three days and makes a fuss every five days?

Girls must know how to protect themselves, and must let men sacrifice for themselves.If you play tricks appropriately, you will get more.

carry the flag of independence

A girl's independence is not in her words, but in her actions.Only by allowing yourself to be independent can you have true freedom of your own.Smart girls know how to keep themselves from being attached to anyone.

1. Diversified social groups and social methods
When girls enter a wide social network, they can gain more warm friendship from opposite-sex or same-sex friends, which makes them more powerful to face unstable marital relationships.

2. Improve skills in personal life

Girls should have the ability to face various life situations and be able to take on all the challenges in life alone.Many labors that are usually defined as men's work, girls should learn to take care of themselves.Because there is no natural reason for the gender division of labor, it is completely a gender convention.Girls are actually no worse than men in any respect.At the same time, we should also take full advantage of the socialized housework system, which makes celibacy easy.

3. Create an independent, independent and self-improving life
Only when girls are truly economically independent and have the same status as men in social and personal life, can they calmly face the precarious marriage, and even have the ability to refuse marriage.

4. Abandon the idea of ​​relying on men
Girls have long been indoctrinated to depend on men, including spiritual dependence and life dependence.Marriage is considered by old-fashioned girls to find a "dependence".Girls nowadays should firmly believe that others are unreliable, and the only reliable one is themselves.

5. Stop viewing marriage as an indicator of success or failure in life

Marriage used to be the most important indicator of a girl's life.But today, marriage can only be used to measure a girl's marriage, and it is no longer even the purpose and destination of a girl's love relationship.We still have a persistent longing for marriage, but marriage is no longer our only sustenance for happiness.

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