Smart Women Should Read Men's Psychology: Secrets Men Don't Want You to Know

Chapter 21 Women, win the war with the world of men (7)
(1) Men who drink beer on a date usually want to express their most original and natural self.If you persuade a woman in the same company to drink beer, you hope that the other party has the same mood as yourself, or you are looking forward to a pleasant conversation.Neither pretentious nor vain, can be called a safe type.

(2) If you drink a specially designated brand of beer, this kind of men should be on guard. They usually have more eyes and always have ulterior motives.Some people will choose beer related to their company system, while some people will also express their personal characteristics on the beer brand.In fact, the taste of beer of each brand is almost the same, and the special designated brand is only a psychological effect.

(3) People who buy foreign beer are similar in character to the foreign wine group.Men who especially like German beer just want to show women that they are different from ordinary men.Men who like dark beer usually yearn for a strong body.

A polite toast makes a man speechless
In banquet occasions, both the host and the guest have the habit of toasting, especially the host, in order to express his enthusiasm, he must let the guests drink to their heart's content.As a woman, if you want to win the respect of men at the wine table, sometimes you need to take the initiative and toast them.At this time, you have to understand the unspoken rules of toasting between men.

A good start is half the battle, so the first glass of wine is very important.If it is on a formal occasion, the host usually toasts first; while at a family banquet, the younger generation toasts to the elders; while at a feast between friends, the older person toasts first, or the caller toasts first.

The first glass of wine must be full of blessings, so that the subsequent glasses will not stop.This glass is the foundation of emotional wine later on. Even if you don't want to fight for wine, you should work hard to lay the foundation for the happy scene later.Therefore, when raising the first glass of wine, you must distinguish between different situations, be polite, and be full of affection.

If it is a foreign event, the first glass of wine should not only be very polite, but also pay attention to the identity and customs of the guests. effect.Drink moderately, with moderate enthusiasm, grasp the scale, and show demeanor.

If it is a business banquet, the first glass of wine is related to the later development of the banquet style.The most important thing to grasp the degree of toasting is to distinguish different merchants and adopt an appropriate way of toasting.

1. If the relationship between the two parties is harmonious, and the main work has been discussed, the banquet is to deepen the relationship, so that the toast can be relaxed and casual.

2. If the business talks between the two parties are not harmonious before the banquet, they need to enhance their relationship at the banquet.Then, this glass of wine must be controlled by oneself so as not to get drunk, and the guests must have a good time. No matter how unpleasant the atmosphere of the meeting is, they must do their best to lay the foundation for the negotiations after the banquet.

3. If the two parties have not yet started the talks, they both want the other party to drink more and the other party to drink less during the banquet, so as to be more active in the talks.At the same time, this banquet is also a process of testing each other, and toasting is also a process of testing each other.Therefore, when toasting, it is necessary to grasp the enthusiasm and degree, but also not to compete with the guests, so as not to cause the guests' resentment and affect the feelings of the formal meeting.

In addition, if it is a family banquet, wedding banquet, or celebration banquet, although the first glass of wine does not need to consider business intelligence too much, it should also reflect the theme of the banquet, the hospitality of the host, and the welcome to the guests.

Under normal circumstances, after the host toasts, the guest of honor raises his glass as a ceremonial return.Then, the banquet will enter the mutual toast stage.For the toast at this time, since the first glass of wine has already expressed the theme of the banquet, the purpose of the banquet, and the good wishes of the guests, it is necessary to pay attention to toasting with emotion, and use warm and touching words into the cup to dedicate to the guests. guest.

After the host and guest toast each other, the banquet enters the stage of casual toasting, which is what we usually call the stage of persuading people to drink.

Persuading wine to be affectionate, so that the man's cup will not stop
Men have only one purpose at the wine table, and that is to make the other party drink more and drink less, and this requires the skill of persuading them to drink.

In fact, persuasion is another way of toasting, the purpose is to make the other party drink to the fullest at the banquet, but after the toast, if you want to toast again, you should have an appropriate name and come up with a certain method. Therefore, At this time, the meaning of "persuasion" is stronger.

From the point of view of the men at the wine table, the scenery of mountains and rivers and beautiful scenery can persuade them to drink. They often like to make use of the topic to express their feelings immediately, and achieve the purpose of getting the other party to drink through certain vivid words.As a woman, you might as well learn it and apply it on appropriate occasions.

Immediate persuasion to drink with emotion is generally applicable to the stage when the banquet is in progress and both the host and the guest have "spent three rounds of wine and five flavors of food".Whether this method is a business banquet or a drink among friends, it is necessary to grasp the degree of intoxication; otherwise, this method will hardly be effective.

If it is said that the banquet of foreign affairs activities should be "toasted but not persuaded to drink", then business activities or gatherings of relatives and friends should be controlled at the level of "persuaded to drink rather than fight for wine", and never force to persuade.Under this premise, persuading the other party to drink more must rely on instant and flexible toasts.

For example, there was a business reception banquet, and everyone drank very moderately. Although the banquet had been going on for a while, it seemed that the wine had not been fully enjoyed.How can we get everyone out of the atmosphere?The host looked at the green trees and vines on the mountain outside the window, had an idea, raised his glass and said, "Guests and friends, today, the mountains are full of autumn colors to welcome distinguished guests, and half of the mountains are full of trees and vines. The flowing water is unrestrained and the flowers are blooming. It belongs to trees and vines. You can see that the trees and vines all over the mountains and plains are so harmonious. The trees support the vines straight up and divide the space equally. The vines climb high and look far because of the entanglement of the trees. Trees and vines are not only noble and bright, but also can add color and glory. Our cooperation partners should help each other like trees and vines, and calmly face the wind. Let our cooperation be like the green trees and vines all over the mountain, lush and prosperous. Cheers !” Such a lively toast, accompanied by the pleasant autumn scenery all over the mountain, made people feel moved, so everyone couldn’t help raising their glasses to drink.

In fact, instant love is not just what kind of toasts you see when you see the scenery, but adapt to the situation, extend naturally, and find appropriate topics on different occasions to achieve the purpose of persuading people to drink.For example, at another banquet for businessmen, everyone happened to talk about the ever-changing stock market, so the host used this topic to toast the guests: "Everyone, although I don't know much about the stock market that changes at any time, I think the market of this stock is very important." The name can also express our blessings. We hope that everyone will come here often to 'look at the spring flowers', watch the 'Dadonghai Sea', appreciate the 'Ha Swan', and make the friendship grow in the 'Yu White Pigeon'. May this glass of wine use us up' Adhesive tape shares are connected together. May our feelings be like that of 'Beiman Special Steel' and 'Shanghai Forever'. Please let us hold up the 'Hubei Golden Cup' and fill up the 'Luzhou Laojiao' to serve the guests as 'Golden Fruit Industry' 'Shenzhen Development', 'Jieli Shares' and 'Xiahaifa', cheers!" Such congratulatory speeches on stock names naturally aroused the interest of the guests, so everyone raised their glasses and drank them all in one gulp.

A witty remark about wine is better than not drinking

In the wine field, it doesn't mean that the more you drink, the more respect you get from men. On the contrary, the less you drink, the more respect you can win in their hearts. If you lose, it will also make people feel that you don't respect him, which will reduce your favorability.Therefore, if you want to quit drinking, you'd better find an appropriate reason, which should overshadow the other party's persuasion.

At a certain county's investment promotion reception, the head of the county's investment promotion bureau toasted.He picked up a small wine glass, and there was a large wine glass on the table, and said: "Dear guests, we very much welcome you to come to our county to discuss cooperation. In order to express our sincerity, I would like to toast to you. We have a In order to express our respect to our most distinguished guests, I would like to present ten glasses of wine to you on behalf of the 110 million people in the county."

At this time, all the guests were shocked. The bureau chief looked at it and was very satisfied with the effect. He continued: "This first glass of wine is like old friends at first sight, everything goes well, and everything goes smoothly; , the two sides join hands, the spring breeze in February; the third glass of wine is Sanyang Kaitai, Samsung is in the household, and Sanjiang is affectionate; Entering the imperial examination, five blessings come to the door, five grains are plentiful; six glasses of wine are, Liuliu Dashun, six secrets and three strategies, Liuhe Fenggong; seven glasses of wine are, seven birds rise to the sun, seven glasses bottom out, colorful rainbow; eight glasses of wine are, eight The sound is repeated, the wind and rain come from all directions, and the wind comes from all directions; nine cups of wine are, ninety-nine return to one, nine days embrace the moon, and nine colors of wind blow; ten cups of wine are perfect, very lovable, very welcome." Of course, he was saying At the same time as each glass, they poured a glass of wine from the small glass into the big glass very seriously.

Faced with such a toast, a simple refusal was irresistible, and the toaster drank it in one gulp amidst the applause of everyone, and then showed the bottom of the big glass to the guests, waiting to see how the guests drank the wine.

The bureau chief really has a way of persuading you to drink. He neither forcefully persuades you nor insists you drink, but if you drink less than one glass, it seems to be sorry for his affection for the ten glasses of wine representing the 110 million people in the county.After drinking these ten glasses of wine, how can I bear it?And who can immediately say such a standardized toast that is similar to and corresponding to the person toasting and begins with a number?Faced with such a toast, the best way is to return the courtesy with courtesy. You toast with courtesy, and I will politely not drink.You limit me with so many numbers and make me drink so many glasses of wine. I will cleverly avoid this number problem to repay you, otherwise, I will fall into the trap designed by the other party.

The guest toasted and replied: "Our group is very grateful for the kindness of the leaders, especially the one to ten cups of toasts given by the Director of Investment Promotion just now, which not only let us feel the kindness of the 110 million people in the county, but also let us appreciate the kindness of the leaders. I can't drink ten glasses of wine, but I have a passion that ten glasses of wine can't contain. I can't express the deep meaning expressed by one to ten, but I can express our same love for the host sea with one glass of wine Affectionate. I don't drink ten glasses of wine, but only one wine, in order to make the difference in the number of wines, so that the host can impress us more. Only in this way, can we feel the 110 million you represent The people are as strong as a mountain, but they will not block our view; they are as wide as the sea, but they will not change and disturb people like the sea; they are as passionate as fire, but they will not spread the heat like fire; they are like water Gentle, but it will not change the image arbitrarily like water. For this reason, I invite everyone to raise a glass together. This wishes the people of the county to be like mountains, like seas, like fire, like water, and let the solemnity of the mountains, the passion of the sea, and the fire The warmth of the water and the tenderness of the water will always be with you, let you have the health like the mountain, the wealth like the sea, the life like the fire, and the demeanor like the water, cheers!"

When everyone saw each other, they politely fought for wine and received polite answers. The decent and poetic language won the heartfelt appreciation of both the host and the guest.The host's toast is a set of toasts prepared in advance, and the impromptu answers of the guests are more exciting. Amidst the applause, everyone raised their glasses and drank a glass of wine. In this way, a well-planned toast with courtesy was resolved.

In the face of drinking fines, we must learn to "Li Daitao stiff"

At a banquet, in order to make the other party drink more, there is a way to "aphasia and fine wine", that is, to cleverly borrow the other party's language, find loopholes, and skillfully drink to the other party in the way of "fine wine".Fine wine, of course, is different from a toast, and can only be drunk by the punished.Moreover, the "Master of Persuading Wine" on the battlefield of "wine" will catch all your small mistakes, and let you admire his resilience and the level of performing "talk shows" from the bottom of your heart, making you hard to guard against.At this time, the best way is "Li Daitao stiff", that is, a guest takes the risk of getting drunk to keep the speaker sober.

For example, during a Harbin Ice and Snow Festival Economic and Trade Fair, a business delegation from a certain city entertained guests with Peking Dacang wine in order to communicate with investors.The mellow wine and the warm sentiment brought the host and guest into a stage of toasting each other very quickly.However, every time a guest uttered a word, the other party would seize the loophole and forfeit the wine. The host's witty remarks made the guests admire and feel helpless.

After several toasts, one of the organizers raised his glass again and said: "The host and guest drank 'Bei Dacang' together, and the wine was full of love. Cooperation and concerted efforts will make money flow like a spring and profit like a river. Let's celebrate this cup of 'Bei Dacang' Wine' blessing can bring prosperity, cheers!"

The guests were all moved by his enthusiasm and eloquence. The general manager Zhao on the guest side thanked him sincerely and said: "Thank you! Thank you for your good wishes and your hospitality. I can't drink enough, so I only drink half a glass. "

The host said: "We are already a family. We have made an appointment. A family cannot say thank you. Whoever says "thank you" will be fined to drink. You said a few more words "thank you". How do you think we should be punished?" liquor?"

General Manager Guo is overwhelmed with alcohol, and looks at the wine and becomes dizzy.I had no choice but to say: "I really can't drink, so let's just drink a small half to show my affection."

"You'd better drink the whole thing, but if you can't, please drink half of it," said the master.

Just when General Manager Guo only drank half of a glass of wine, the director of the host's office said half-jokingly: "I'm sorry, half of what we Mr. Gao said is to ask you to drink the bottom half, and the upper half of the glass can be left over." Next, but you drank the upper half, so please tell me what to do, drink the remaining second half of the glass, and drink all the good wishes."

When the guests heard this, they were all moved by the host's quick response and the sincerity of the toast, and they all knew that even if they drank the bottom half with a straw, the other party would say that due to the heat convection of the liquid, not all of the bottom was drunk. Half of it, and a lot of the above wine was also drunk.They just make you drink around the corner, making you hard to guard against.

Prior to this, the guests had already been fined a lot of alcohol for such things as wrongly guessing each other's age and remembering the time of the last meeting, and it was unbearable to drink again.The guests all know that according to the past practice, the host who does not drink will not let it go easily.

At this time, one of the vice presidents among the guests stood up and said: "The fairy Zuo Zi in "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms" toasted Cao Cao. In order to dispel Cao Cao's suspicion, he divided a glass of wine into two halves and drank it separately. Now In order to express his hospitality to us, Mr. Li divided a glass of wine that could not be separated into two halves, and he also came up with a wonderful idea of ​​letting us drink the bottom half first. It is really admirable. Since the wine can be divided into half and If the bottom half can flow out of common sense, then we also separate emotion and wine. Our general manager only drinks emotion, and I only drink alcohol. I drink the wine, and our emotions are enjoyed by Mr. Zhao and all the guests. Youdao is "alcoholic wine" It's hard to tell the difference between the upper and lower glasses, and the wine contains affection. Since the glass of wine is divided into the lower and the upper, the love wine is divided into the meeting of love'. I will drink half of this glass, and I will make another glass."

After all, he first filled Mr. Guo's remaining half glass of wine, drank it, and then drank another glass.Both the host and the guests were moved by his boldness and adaptability, and even more admired his courage to drink for friendship.

Naturally, the host knew that if he drank any more, he would be responsible for the toast. If he tried to drink more, it would not only fulfill his fame, but also make people see that it was a lot of people fighting for one person, which seemed unfair.A contest at a banquet where the main method of toasting was aphasia and fine wine was broken in this way.

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