Smart Women Should Read Men's Psychology: Secrets Men Don't Want You to Know

Chapter 3 Opening the Man's Seven Apertures and Exquisite Heart (2)
It can be said that a man's inhibition of emotion is powerful, deep, and inextricably linked with his expectations of his image as a man.In order to survive, he must isolate himself from the irrepressible reactions to stimuli.Because he is not allowed to freely express his feelings, men live a life that is constantly against themselves.Thus, his outer face is constantly resisting his inner real face, and he dominates himself by denying himself.

In addition, men often look left and right in terms of emotions, vacillating, always changing their minds, and thinking differently. This also inherits the genes of most wild animals. The latter often only seek temporary pleasure when choosing a partner, regardless of any consequences.No wonder some people say that man is an animal that has not yet evolved.We sometimes refer to men who are promiscuous as "beasts in clothes", or even simply denounce them as "beasts", because the bestiality in men is obviously closer to wild animals that have not been domesticated in nature.This is the case with men. Although the external characteristics have evolved to be "human like a dog", their inner nature is still untamed and untamed.

As a smart woman, after understanding the "wild animal" nature of a man, she must be able to use it to dominate a man without being hurt by him.

'Aliens' love to hide in caves to decompress
When a man is in a bad mood, he will keep his thoughts in his heart and seldom talk to others.He always takes care of everything, solves problems independently, and only turns to others for help when there is really no other way.Usually, he would quickly retreat into his own world, that is, John?Gray's "cave" in Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.This is the "hidden place" of a man's spiritual world, a spiritual temple for him to retreat and rest.Here, nothing disturbs him, and he can repeatedly consider and weigh the problem in order to get it resolved as soon as possible. "Kung fu pays off", a man often sees the light in the "cave" and finds a way out. At this time, he will feel relieved and return to life.

However, there are also many times when a man is stuck in thinking and cannot escape, so he will find some other things to do by himself to divert his attention.For example, he will watch TV, read newspapers, and play online games for a while in order to be released.If the pressure is too high, his approach may be more challenging, such as taking a solo trip, or taking a few friends out for a game of basketball.At this time, we'd better not bother him and let him be fully relieved, otherwise it will lead to war.

Some women don't understand this special psychology of men. They always feel that a man sometimes looks taciturn, unresponsive, and absent-minded. When you talk to him, he doesn't respond, so she plays a small drum in her heart: Is he What's the matter?In fact, you don’t have to worry. A man has a “cave”. When he is under pressure, he will quickly get into it and concentrate all his attention in order to solve his problems as soon as possible.As for other problems or responsibilities, they gradually become irrelevant.Therefore, you don't expect him to communicate with you wholeheartedly.

There is no need to refute, men "retreat" to practice, it is easy to cause coldness and neglect to us.However, the underlying instinct reminds men: before paying attention to others, take care of your own affairs first, and don't be overwhelmed and in a hurry-as a man, this seems understandable, so we must also be considerate and tolerant from his perspective.If you can't bear it, use harsh words, remind him to pay attention to you, let him "change his mind" and come out of the "cave" as soon as possible, then, usually the more you do this, the more reality will be farther away from your original intention.

If you complain to him at this time, he may feel uncomfortable or annoying, so he will instinctively reject it, or just walk away.He wishfully believes that you are "insinuating" and have ulterior motives when you talk about such and such problems in front of him.It is easy for him to connect your troubles with himself. He thinks that you complain that he lacks ability and cannot bring you more happiness, so he is full of complaints.The more questions you have, the more the man will feel condemned, which will cause him to react negatively and make you even more angry.

Therefore, when a man is firmly controlled by his problems and forced to enter the "cave", you must not make a fuss and think that the other party deliberately makes things difficult for yourself.You have to see clearly that the Martian is under a lot of pressure, politely stop communicating, and stand where you are, waiting for the man to come out of the "cave".In this way, you give the man breathing room, love, validation and acceptance.He will not turn a blind eye to this. When he sorts out everything and walks out of the "cave", he will pay more attention to you.

two.The "heart" of a man flows in the blood

What is your blood type?
A, B, AB, O...

Different blood types of men determine different personalities.

"Boring, I already knew it! Type A men are rigid and strict; Type B men are idle; Type O men are ambitious; Type AB men have split personalities..."

Out of date!A man with a real blood type is actually not the single image left in your heart at all; a man with a real blood type has another side that you can't imagine; cutie...

Super invincible "O type man"

A person's blood type is innate and will not be changed by the influence of the external environment. It is a trait that determines a person's basic personality.

Although some people are affected by the external environment, their personality traits will be changed to varying degrees, but their most basic personality is determined by blood type, just like fingerprints on hands, which accompany everyone throughout their lives.Therefore, if you want to understand a man's personality, you might as well ask him what blood type he is.

Scientists have found through research that the earliest human blood type was O type, then A appeared, then B, and finally AB.So, let's start with men with type O blood.

Generally speaking, O-type men have a heroic temperament, manifested as being full of pioneering spirit and daring to take risks; have ideals, ambitions, and firm beliefs; strive for strength and fight, refuse to admit defeat; go their own way, headstrong; have tenacious perseverance, strong will.If we look at history, we will find that among those great men, thinkers, famous generals, explorers and great industrialists who have played an important role in the development of world history, O-shaped men account for a considerable proportion.

Among the O-type men, some are idealists with some kind of firm belief.They are taciturn and indifferent on the surface, but they secretly pursue their ideals in their hearts and struggle silently for their beliefs.Some, on the contrary, are eloquent and eloquent, and when they talk about something, they are extremely excited and enthusiastic, as if they find all the joy of life from this kind of eloquence.In discussions and speeches, they always insist on their own independent standpoints, and they will neither be influenced by others nor revise their views, let alone completely change their views to vassalize others.

O-type men are sensitive to power, hope to gain power for themselves, and oppose improper monopoly and exercise of power by others.They pay great attention to their strength in the group or society. When their strength is small, they are docile and cautious, and try to be favored by the strong in order to seek protection; , they are naturally exposed and actively express themselves, appearing very tough.

When it comes to work issues, O-shaped men are even more strict, and they are not sloppy even if they have a dollar of economic gain or loss.They always demand that the contract be signed seriously, and once the contract takes effect, even if they have lost something, they also demand that it be implemented according to the regulations.If anyone does not abide by the contract, no matter how close friends are, they must be strictly held accountable.

O-type men are very sensitive to other people's attitude towards themselves, whether it is good intentions or malicious, they can keenly distinguish.They are very eager to win the attention of others. For O-type men, the most unbearable thing is being ignored by others. If this state continues, they will feel very unhappy and want to lose their temper.Because of this, they like to do something unique and eye-catching to make themselves stand out.Excessive self-display is an inherent temperament characteristic of O-type men.

In addition, O-type men also have a characteristic that they like to teach others. This situation is often manifested at work, but sometimes in daily conversations, there are often some lectures.Although this approach is offensive, they teach people not out of malice or ulterior motives, but because of their character.Listening carefully to the reprimands and teachings of O-type men may be beneficial to ourselves. Of course, this requires us to have enough self-cultivation to bear this kind of teaching.

If you have a thorough understanding of these characteristics of O-type men, you will be able to establish a good relationship with them and get along well with them.

The "most" of O-shaped men

1. The coolest and most domineering.

2. The most ruthless, that is to say the most "bandit".

3. The most capable of killing people without blood, making you mad.

4. The most daring to love and hate, the shape is on the outside.

5. It is the easiest to fall asleep, but the sleeping appearance is ugly.

6. It is best to raise and dare to eat anything.

7. I like to drink most.

8. I like mountaineering and traveling the most.

Type O Hall of Fame
Mao Zedong

Chen Duxiu
Chen Yi
Bruce Lee

Eisenhower

MacArthur
Reagan
Toyotomi Hideyoshi

Silly and cute "A-type man"

The feeling of a type A man varies from person to person, and the gap is huge.Therefore, it is very difficult to judge a type A man based on appearance alone.However, after establishing an intimate relationship with a type A man, you will find that they actually have a lot in common.

Most Type A men are relatively introverted. Even though some people seem to be extroverted, they still retain a cautious and careful side in their hearts.Generally speaking, the thoughts of type A men tend to be pessimistic, which is due to their distrust of themselves, which may eventually manifest as distrust of everyone in the world.Because of this, most Type A men are cautious about making friends with friends, thinking that it is better to have close contacts with only a few close friends than to become casual friends with many people.

In addition, type A men have strong self-esteem, are easily hurt by other people's words, and are good at comparing their hearts, lest their words will hurt others.From a positive point of view, it can be regarded as thoughtful, but from a negative point of view, it means being too rigid in details, timid in doing things, and lacking in self-confidence and decisiveness.

Once a type A man makes a certain decision, he will resolutely defend his position, and he is the most conservative of several blood types.Sometimes this kind of personality will cause a lot of trouble under the influence of certain factors, but because A-type men are good at looking at problems from multiple angles, they can always solve them comprehensively, and because they can consider things from the perspective of others, so Relationships are pretty good.

When it comes to choosing a mate, A-type men generally don't pay much attention to appearance, and they don't pay as much attention to each other's intelligence as O-type men.Because they are most afraid of being cheated, the first thing they consider is "sense of security", hoping to find a life partner they can trust.They generally like honest, simple and straightforward characters, and they like people who don't bother themselves and can get spiritual comfort.

Type A men seem to like to choose silly girls as lovers, not because they have a preference and specifically look for silly girls, but because their prerequisite for choosing a mate is that they would rather have a balanced life in the future than be flexible and sensitive lover.Paradoxically, once they meet someone who understands them, they fall in love immediately.This is because A-type men want to be perfect and are perfectionists. They often worry about other people's prejudice and incorrect evaluation of themselves.

Generally speaking, the love of A-type men develops in a steady and gradual manner. In the process of love, there is no such passionate expression of love as O-type men.They pay attention to the natural expression of feelings, and like to show their care and love for each other in the daily life. Type A men pay attention to the atmosphere and emotions of love, and like to have trysts in hidden places, but they will not be easily impulsive because of this.In a quiet and pleasant environment, exchange feelings, deepen understanding, and gradually consolidate mutual love; when excited, they will occasionally show intimacy, but they will not deliberately intimacy.

In addition, type A men have a heart of admiration for people who have something they don't have. Such people are very attractive to them, which may be caused by the fact that the desire for perfection cannot be fulfilled.They often correct their behavior with strong self-esteem, but they fall into another state of mind when they don't want to.At this time, they are dizzy, confused, sometimes elope, and may even have a love tragedy of dying for love.

The "most" of A-type men

1. The most stuffy.

2. Most likely to commit suicide.

3. The least eyes.

4. The cutest, poor, unloved.

5. The most stalker.

6. The most nagging and nagging.

7. Love is the most persistent, loving you for 1 years will scare you to death.

8. I like to hug the quilt the most.

9. The smallest appetite, most like to drink lemon juice.

10. Least know how to play.

Type A Hall of Fame
Chow Yun Fat

Pan Weibo

Luo Zhixiang

Guo Fucheng

Zhang Yimou

Yao Ming
Jordan
Huang Jiaju

Iron man tenderness "B type man"

Type B people appeared after Type O and Type A, and their ancestors were nomads, so some characteristics of nomads are extremely obvious in Type B men.It is generally good to describe Type B men as "violent and mighty", but if you approach Type B men, what is unforgettable is their tenderness.

The so-called "tenderness" refers to type B men who are soft-hearted, even though they also have the characteristics of fortitude and irascibility.There is always a trace of pity hidden in the eyes of type B man.When they look at horses, sheep, children and women, this kind of pity will be revealed, as if facing a fragile treasure.Therefore, they often praise horses, women and land.

When a Type B man finds a woman he likes, he will stare at them with impunity, their eyes are like torches, and they seem to be able to burn their clothes and shy hearts until she obeys his will.The West regards the word "romantic" as a man's almost great quality. Of course, it does not play tricks with girls in KTV private rooms. It regards love as a major event in life, going through fire and water, lingering and tragic, which is very similar to the love psychology of B-type men. fit.Such a man would think that only a fool would sacrifice romance for wealth.They also thought it foolish for a man to conceal his attitude towards women.Therefore, type B men do not quite understand what hypocrisy is all about.

In addition, B-type men will also show all kinds of tenderness when they sing.There are as many as thousands of Altai folk songs, but there are only three themes: mother, land, and love.When these rough and solemn men sang, they seemed to carefully blow fire with their lips, wash their faces with spring water, and carefully carve a Buddha statue with a knife.

The potential of a type B man can be said to be the greatest among all blood types. If he can have someone who often encourages, guides and protects him throughout his life, he will surely flourish like a broken bamboo, but it is a pity that if people living in a comfortable environment Type B men work hard on their own, and they're likely to choose to dawdle. Type B men can be said to be people who die in comfort and live in adversity.If B-type men are forced into difficult and dangerous situations, their potential and perseverance beyond ordinary people will be stimulated.At the same time, their fragile self-esteem needs the care of others very much, sometimes they are very childish, and they are prone to rely on others and stop moving forward.When facing problems, type B men will pull out the people around them as shields to avoid responsibilities that will hurt their self-esteem, which is very similar to type A men using the interests of others to protect themselves.

(End of this chapter)