Smart Women Should Read Men's Psychology: Secrets Men Don't Want You to Know

Chapter 4 Opening the Man's Seven Apertures and Exquisite Heart (3)
B-type men are a group that is separated from society and individuals. Their love of showing themselves makes it easy for them to participate in social work. Once the stage for showing themselves disappears, they will curl up in their shells and become frogs at the bottom of the well.Studies have found that B-type men are most likely to be affected by the attitude of the other party. After they integrate into the group, they are easy to follow suit; on the other hand, they will also create opportunities to express themselves, and when these efforts fail, they will quickly switch to A state of extreme low self-esteem, thus returning to the state of judging or even criticizing the surrounding things from a personal point of view.

In some cases, Type B men can also show a dual personality, because they have become very valued by others at this time, and they will bury a lot of things in their hearts.Therefore, B-type men are most able to accept criticism and opinions from people who often praise them, unlike people of other blood types who will consider whether these praises and criticisms are realistic.

When B-type men decide to do something, it is difficult for anyone to stop them. They must meet a broken head before they are willing to give up. Criticism will only become their motivation, and painful lessons are the best way to weaken their enthusiasm. tool.Their ancestors' natural will to fight against harsh conditions on the grassland will make them disown their relatives when they advance, and at the same time have a strong sense of mission.

The "most" of B-type men

1. He is the best at bragging, even believing in himself.

2. The least sense of direction.

3. The least will reject others.

4. The most affectionate is also the most unfeeling.

5. Best at pretending to be a pig and eating a tiger.

6. I like drinking coffee the most.

7. I like shopping eastward and westward most.

8. The laziest, the best eater.

9. I like sleeping naked most.

Type B Hall of Fame
Jiang Wen
Ge You
Shinzo Abe

Kurosawa

Takakura Ken

Mitterand

Type AB Man VS Dual Personality
Type AB is the latest and rarest blood type, accounting for only about 5% of the total population. Type AB men have both the characteristics of Type A and Type B, so they are blood types with dual personalities.They are complex in nature, they are people with a strong desire for self-expression, they look elegant and bold in appearance, but if you want to fall in love with him, I am afraid it will be tiring, and it is not easy to talk about it; they are active in life, but it is not easy Get along well with others.

AB-type men have plans, but they are impatient and impulsive, but they are tactful in life, able to grasp the essentials of work, quick in thinking, and don't like to stick to the rules.Sometimes they show changeable personalities. When they meet for the first time, they are gentle and polite, but they often become a little cold and strange when they meet for the second time. This is due to the mutual influence of Type A and Type B. .

Although type AB men are capable and sensitive in doing things, they are indeed better than people of other blood types, but unfortunately, their success rate in doing things is very low. Whenever there is a deviation, you will compromise and your will will not be firm.This temperamental contradiction and lack of continuity are the root causes of its failure.

Type AB men don't talk about human feelings or love. The relationship between men and women is an extremely simple thing to them, and they don't look at it as complicated as people with other blood types. AB-type men have a very kind side in dealing with others, and at the same time like to say witty words to ridicule others, which is often easy to make people hate them. In addition, they are not very humane, and they are easy to fall into loneliness.

The characteristics of AB-type men are best grasped by dialectics, otherwise they will be biased.Due to the transformative nature of AB-type intelligence, the personality qualities of blood type cannot be divided by simple explicit and implicit logic, and strong and weak cannot be generalized.However, we can divide them into two categories of A-type qualities and B-type qualities.

1. The characteristics of AB-type men with A-type quality

The so-called AB type of quality means that A blood type quality occupies the main position in AB blood type.Men of this type generally have the integrity of Type A logic, with a relatively calm personality and a smart temperament.Treating people and dealing with the world is just right, and can be ingenious, and can be widely accepted by everyone.There are more people with good looks, subtle and serious feelings, and can combine gentlemanly demeanor and sense of humor, but they are not easy to be moved.

2. Characteristics of AB-type men with B-type qualities

The so-called AB type of B-type quality means that the B-type blood type quality occupies the main position in the AB blood type, which constitutes the B-type AB-type personality quality.Most of them are extroverted, lively, smart, and eloquent.Be enthusiastic and proactive in dealing with people, optimistic and cheerful, and have a good grasp of moderation.Under normal circumstances, they are well integrated with others and can highlight their own unique style, but they tend to be hot on the outside and cold on the inside.Look at things with a beautiful vision, have an emotional side, and are easily moved.More decisive and decisive.

In short, if you get to the bottom of it: what kind of character does an AB-type man have?There is only one answer: contradictions. AB-type men give others a messy impression, and it is difficult for them to control their emotions, so they often appear troubled.

The "most" of type AB men

1. The most contradictory and nervous.

2. The most absolute and the most refined.

3. The strangest thing is to use an umbrella on sunny days and sunbathe on rainy days.

4. The most capricious, cloudy and occasional showers when sunny.

5. The easiest to go crazy.

6. The most irregular eating, the most partial eclipse.

7. I like to drink "casual" most.

8. I like running around the most.

Type AB Hall of Fame
Lin Yutang

Jet Li

Jackie Chan
Bai Yansong

Andy Lau

Liu Xiang
Bill Gates
three.A man's "Achilles heel"

Some people say that a man is a piece of steel, but no matter how hard the steel is thrown into a steelmaking furnace, it will melt; some people say that a man is a mountain, but no matter how high the mountain is, it will be smoothed by nature one day.What's more, men are neither steel nor mountains, but creatures with countless flaws.Maybe you don’t believe it, but under the gorgeous appearance of a man, there is actually a heart riddled with holes. Every hole in their heart is a weakness. If you are patient, you might as well count them with a magnifying glass...

Beneath the hard shell of a 'manly man' lies a fragile heart

In "Hamlet", Shakespeare has a famous saying: "Woman, your name is weak." For a long time, people always like to use nouns related to "soft" and "weak" to describe women, while men seem to be related to them. No connection.In fact, it is not the case. Although a man's appearance always gives people an impression of fortitude and strength, there is a fragile heart hidden behind it.

Men, even the weakest men, think they are strong, at least stronger than women.Many literary works also describe men as towering mountains, and describe women as flowing water that walks around the mountains; or compare men to tall and straight trees, while women are likened to thin vines growing around the trees.On the one hand, this shows that women are highly dependent; on the other hand, it also shows that men have always been regarded as the embodiment of strong human beings.

This is not the case, men are actually more vulnerable than women!Men's usual fearlessness and fearlessness are all for others to see, and they are forced out by the whole male culture.Most men don't want to be associated with vulnerability in order to prove that they are a real man, but men will inevitably have vulnerable moments in life.It is generally difficult for us to see the fragility of men, mainly because they endure it, and the fragility will only be shown when the pressure is really unbearable.

With the development of society, the fragility behind men's "strength" is getting worse day by day, and many of their advantages are gradually losing. It is no longer easy to "take advantage" of male characteristics.Now that men are gaining a foothold in the world, they no longer rely on brute force, so there is less and less "market" for their thick arms, and with the improvement of mechanization and modernization, the opportunities to use physical strength are decreasing, and their arms become less and less. Getting thinner and thinner, the broad chest became narrower and narrower, and the burly physique shrank more and more.

From the perspective of evolution, the degeneration of men's physical characteristics is exactly a kind of evolution, because the survival and development of human beings cannot rely solely on physical strength, but rely more on mind and heart.Men have weakened some unimportant physical strength, and can concentrate more so that their brains can be fully exercised.But at the same time, the advantages that men have over women are gradually disappearing. In the past, many fields that only men can touch, because they no longer only require physical strength, women have taken away a large part of the world, and men's fragility has thus been taken away. start.

Some people say that the primary sex in the 21st century is no longer male but female, and men are becoming more and more vulnerable and need care more and more.Today, the proposition that "men need more care" is put forward. Who can say that it is just the power of advertisements, not the hidden worries deep in men's hearts?We can often see in various media that men choose to commit suicide after bankruptcy, downfall, and careers come to an end, while women, like Ashin in Japan, choose to start all over again when they encounter failure.

In fact, men are not only weaker than women psychologically, but also physically. We have always ignored this problem in the past.Immunologists said: "Male is a defective creature. If twins are a boy and a girl, generally speaking, the boy among them is weaker than the girl in physical strength and intelligence."

In addition, a man's vulnerability lies in his unwillingness to publicly admit his pain, troubles and pressure, and he always likes to hold on when things happen.Men's mantra is "no problem", "no problem", in fact they just want to hide alone and cry, hide in the cave like primitive beasts, and silently lick their wounds.Feelings of sadness, depression, and disillusionment are common among men.At this time, your sincere concern will only make them feel that their weakness is exposed.For men, shedding blood is honorable and refusing to use a "Band-Aid" is sacred, so they sometimes put up a hard shield with the words "Don't talk" to hide themselves.

In addition, men's fragility is also manifested in narrow-mindedness.Because of the general belief that men should not care about small things, they may appear to be at ease on the outside, but not necessarily so on the inside.For example, if someone says bad things about him, he will feel restless and become listless.Especially when masculinity is denied, they care very much, once you say "you are still a man" to a man, he will be stimulated, and he may even be annoyed by it.

The ancients said: "A man does not flick his tears lightly, because it is not yet the time to be sad." Among all cultural traditions, there is no culture that encourages men to express their emotions as they please. It is generally believed that those who flick tears are not self-respecting, Therefore, it is a matter of course for men to hide their fragility.However, from this, we can also know that men are not as strong as we imagined. Instead of entrusting our life-long happiness to such "unreliable" men, it is better for us to fight for it ourselves.

Fear: Men are also afraid of the darkness of night
Men often say to their children: "Don't be afraid, there is a father." When something happens to the family, the man will also say to his wife: "Don't be afraid, there is your husband." On the surface, men seem to be brave, Fearless is synonymous with fear, but in fact they also have many fears deep in their hearts, such as fear of the dark, fear of climbing heights, fear of snakes, fear of thieves, fear of unemployment, fear of being despised, fear of lack of male ability, etc.

In fact, the biggest fear of men is that they cannot admit that they are afraid. They must hide their fears behind the mask of bravery and fearlessness so that they can achieve success, wealth and happiness.

We live in a society where people tell themselves repeatedly: It’s not okay to have a low education; it’s dangerous not to know English or use computers; Old age is sad.In real life, many men are a failure, a patient, an outcast, a lonely person, a hopeless person in front of such an ideal model... In this way, fear will follow.

In social life, men's fear of competition is very common, and these fears stem from the various demands that society places on men.For example, a man should be a winner, a man should take on the responsibility of supporting the family, a man should be a protector, a man should be in an advantageous position in the competition, not be reduced to the bottom of society, etc. These requirements give men a lot Under this huge pressure, fear arises.Most men are seldom or at all unwilling to interact with men whose social status is much higher than theirs, because they fear that these people will give them psychological pressure.

Moreover, men also have an inexplicable fear of smart and intelligent women.They often give such women some contemptuous or indecent titles, such as "male woman", "strong woman" and the like.Some men explained: "I don't hide it. I do have a sense of fear for some women, especially those who are smart. They always show their superiority and make people think they are strong. I don't want to get close to them." Therefore, although Wang Xifeng in "Dream of Red Mansions" is smart and capable, she is also known as Feng Lazi because of her pungentness, and her husband Jia Lian keeps her away from her, preferring to be close to his concubine Ping'er and the low-ranking girls.

Men's fears have their own characteristics. From the perspective of status, men can be divided into officials, businessmen, and ordinary people.On the surface, a man who is an official seems to be high in the temple, majestic, and full of ambition, but in his heart he worries all day whether he will be replaced by his colleagues, and whether his bribery will be discovered by the procuratorate and prosecuted; On the surface, men in business seem to be all-powerful, spend money like water, and look like soldiers are coming to block them, but in private they are worried all day long about business losses, stock trading limit, funds being swept away, debts that are difficult to repay, etc.; A man like a clerk seems to have no worries about food and clothing on the surface, and looks contented and happy, but he doesn't know that he is afraid of his wife's nagging and calculating daily necessities.

In short, no matter how excellent a man is, no matter how heroic a "man", in fact, under their majestic and awe-inspiring eyes, on their broad and solid chest, under their strong and powerful arms, there are several "weak spots" .

What ordinary men are most afraid of is the fear of failure in their careers and mediocrity.Confucius said: Stand at thirty, don't be confused at forty, and know the destiny at fifty.Einstein proposed the theory of relativity at the age of 26, Zhuge Liang took command of the armed forces at the age of 27, and Yang Zhiyuan made a fortune at the age of 29. Ordinary men just flipped through the calendar and climbed to the top of the mountain at the age of 30 in fear. A sense of success.Looking at the young managers and bosses in their twenties who are full of energy and pride, they are even more like crops under the scorching sun, unable to lift their heads.Apart from being ashamed, I am very grateful that the great Mr. Lu Xun created Ah Q, and that Ah Q is also a man.In any case, they still have regular jobs, a few loyal friends, a beautiful wife and a clever son, and they are still a hundred times better than Ah Q.

Then there is the fear of having too little money, having no money to squander.Modern civilization has created a dazzling array of material commodities. In addition to garden houses and villas, it has also produced transportation tools such as Mercedes-Benz and BMW; Supermarket mall.A common feature of them is that they need to be exchanged for currencies that are issued in limited quantities by the state and cannot be owned by themselves.What a family man fears the most is going shopping with his wife and children. Facing the toy his son is staring at, the diamond ring his wife wants to wear, he can’t stretch out his hand in frustration with the countless banknotes in his hand. Can only be owned in dreams.He was also afraid of hearing people he knew buy a car, a house, or start his own company. All these became heavy stones on their shoulders, making them feel difficult to breathe.

(End of this chapter)