Smart Women Should Read Men's Psychology: Secrets Men Don't Want You to Know

Chapter 6 Opening the Man's Seven Apertures and Exquisite Heart (5)
There are many benefits to being a monkey head, not to mention being a "human head"!Therefore, men have a pathological desire for power. They generally not only want to control themselves, but also want to control others.They don't want anything to happen that they don't initiate or approve of.Likewise, they want to be right all the time, and become irritated when proven wrong, even in trivial details.They must know more than anyone else, an attitude that can be embarrassing at times.

Many men always like to pretend to understand when they encounter problems they don't understand, and even fabricate an answer out of thin air.In fact, no one knows everything. It is normal to be ignorant of some issues, and it will not damage your reputation. However, men are always driven by the desire for power to do some ridiculous things.

In general, the desire for power arises from the awareness of one's own superiority in strength, whether that strength refers to physical or mental power.In addition, the quest for power may be associated with specific causes, such as family, political or professional groups, hometown or motherland, certain religious or scientific ideas, and so on.But men's pathological pursuit of power stems from anxiety, hatred, and feelings of inferiority.

A man wants everything to be his way, and he can get annoyed if other people don't do exactly what he wants, or do it in exactly the way he wants, and when he wants it done.Any kind of delay, any kind of unavoidable waiting, even at a traffic light, can make a man very angry.

In addition, men's pathological pursuit of power is also manifested as an attitude of never giving in.Agreeing with another's opinion or accepting another's advice—even if it is considered correct—is seen by men as a form of weakness, and even the thought of doing so creates a rebellion in men psychology.The most common expression of this attitude is the silent insistence in men's minds that the world should adapt to him rather than him to the world.

Due to the pathological desire for power, most men have an urgent need to attract the attention of others, to be respected and admired by others.They will have fantasies of impressing others with their beauty, their intelligence, some kind of outstanding achievement; they will spend money like water without restraint; All dignitaries.

In real life, due to various conditions, some men's desire for power is not very obvious, but this does not mean that they do not have this desire deep in their hearts. Temperament will be exposed.Since they are such despots, anything that they are not completely dominated by makes them feel like they are in a slave-like position.If their anger is repressed, this repression can lead to feelings of depression, frustration, and fatigue.However, this feeling of inadequacy may simply be a roundabout way to ensure one's own dominance, or to show one's hostility over one's inability to command others.

In short, power alienates people, power alienates men into pathological power seekers, and power alienates men who pursue power into pathological power holders.

Four.There is also a "secret garden" among men

do you know?Men have a secret garden, which hides many interesting new things that we don’t know. A big iron gate is installed in the garden. Men guard it, just like guarding their own lives. It is said that no woman has ever walked in. Pass.How about it?Are you curious?Are you itchy?Hush!Don't worry, when the man is not paying attention, let's sneak in and have a look!
Beauty is a "sports car" in the eyes of men

In the eyes of men, a beautiful woman is a high-end sports car. Every man wants to drive it, but few really dare to drive it.There are two reasons why I dare not drive: one is that the car is too expensive and I cannot afford it; the other is that the sports car is too fast and I am afraid of hurting myself when I drive it.In short, most men have a secret psychology that they can't hold and can't let go of beautiful women, so they often "watch from a distance" and dare not "play with obscenities" easily.This kind of psychology also potentially stimulates the desire of men.

Magazines, newspapers, TVs all over the world, and light box advertisements all over the street have pictures of beautiful women. Everyone has become accustomed to seeing and seeing them on weekdays, thinking that there is nothing special at all.However, a research team from a certain foreign university recently discovered that just looking at a picture of an attractive woman is enough to inflate a man's vanity like a balloon, making him less confident about his income expectations, career success, status and ability. There is a leap in self-evaluation.

The research team asked young men to look at pictures of women on the covers of magazines. They were divided into two groups. One group looked at pictures of young women who were quite attractive in the photos, and the other group looked at pictures of women over 45 years old. .After watching for a while, the men were asked to complete a series of mood tests and personality and career questionnaires.

Men who looked at pictures of young women boasted that they were "more ambitious, wanting to be in a higher position, higher salary and better prestige in a company or government agency", with about 40 percent of the men rating themselves as pioneers. Type personality; while another group saw photos of women over 45 years old, only 16% of them rated themselves as such.

Interestingly, the men who were tested themselves thought the photos were useless, and they told the research team that looking at pictures of beautiful women had no effect on their responses to the questionnaire.The men thought their answers were realistic and not exaggerated.They don't realize that looking at pictures of beauties has brought about potential changes in their psychology and physiology, which is exactly the projection of beauties on men's psychology.

Although the "sports car" mentality is a common mentality of men towards beautiful women, men's reactions to beautiful women are not the same. The most common types are as follows:

1. Eye contact type

The women around this type of man are either average in appearance or lack of femininity, so seeing a beautiful woman is like seeing a visitor from outside, getting an electric shock on the spot, like being immobilized by a martial arts master, and even the eyes are not very good at turning up.If you follow them, you will bump into a telephone pole and step on watermelon rinds before you wake up; if you meet them in the opposite direction, you may walk directly into a ditch, you may break your neck when you ride a bicycle, and you may almost not know where to go when you drive. where to turn.If the beauty sees this and smiles, this gentleman will surely faint with happiness, forgetting whether he is in China or the United States, so cute but not pretentious.

2. Pretending to be Liu Xiahui
When a beautiful woman appears, she deliberately glances left and right, or glances at random, dismissing her companion's comments, but always peeping out of the corner of her eye.Pretending to be serious, hoping to leave a gentleman like Liu Xiahui to others, but in his heart he regrets that he didn't see clearly just now.After the beauty walked away, she said to her companion that he had seen too many beautiful girls before, and the one just now could only be regarded as correct.Deceive one's ears and steal one's bell with the spirit of Ah Q, the nth power of hypocrisy.

3. Active attack type

Seeing the beautiful woman, he immediately stepped forward to strike up a conversation, looked at his watch and asked the lady what time it was, and then said it was the same as his own.If the miss scolded him for being crazy, he left quickly; if the miss also joked with him, he had a good start, but half of the success was achieved.Or ask a beautiful woman for directions, or even directly report your own phone number, have character, be open-minded, and not afraid of failure.

4. Street ruffian

They tend to dress colorfully and like to pretend to be cool.A few people rushed forward, and the leader said: "Miss, what is your surname, are you free tonight, play with my brothers. Don't leave, let's make friends, I am very nice..." Then they looked for another target.This kind of man feels a bit like a hooligan, which makes girls feel insecure and should be beaten by everyone.

5. Involuntary type

If you have a wife or girlfriend by your side, you can only sneak a few glances to enjoy yourself, for fear of going back and kneeling on the washboard.Appreciate beautiful women with one eye, but have to see the reaction of the wife or girlfriend with the other eye, what a pain!
6. Turn a blind eye
Seeing a beautiful woman is like seeing a man, there is no reaction at all.This gentleman is either too demanding, or is used to seeing beautiful women, or is a monk who is ascetic. Looking at beautiful women is like looking at wood, which is a bit different anyway.

In short, no matter what men say about choosing a wife and making girlfriends, they need to pay attention to their hearts and intelligence, but deep down in their hearts, they have never given up the idea of ​​loving beautiful women.It doesn't matter whether a woman has a brain or not, or at least it is second. In fact, her appearance must come first, which is hard for them to refuse.So, why do men say that they don't mind women's beauty and ugliness?There are two reasons: one is to express a correct attitude and a correct stand; the other is a superficial word to please women.

Ten men and nine flowers, from the nature of men, their views on money, power, and sex are basically the same, and the only difference is a matter of opportunity and courage.But having a heart does not necessarily mean putting it into action. After all, there are not many people who put their thoughts into practice, so it’s okay to feast their eyes sometimes, and you don’t want to eat that kind of "dry vinegar".

Every man has a "fox spirit" in his heart

Recently, such a joke has been circulating on the Internet: In the kindergarten, the teacher asked the children to name their favorite animals one by one: kittens, dogs, elephants, rabbits... Suddenly, a little boy stood up and said loudly : "Vox!" The teacher was dumbfounded after hearing this, and hurriedly asked why, the little boy said proudly: "My mother said that men like vixen!"

What a childish speech, the casual words of the little boy revealed the secret hidden in the hearts of Chinese men for thousands of years - "fox spirit complex".In fact, men dream of vixen, just like women dream of meeting Prince Charming. They all hope to get the other half that belongs only to them, but the civilized society has been ruled by men for thousands of years, and finally the vixen is patented.

In the huge and complex animal world, the beauty and intelligence of foxes are obvious to all.However, this cute animal hooked up with women has become a derogatory term.In traditional Chinese culture, "fox spirit" is the most vivid description of a bad woman. The subjugated Daji and Baosi, Zhao Feiyan and Feng Xiaolian in the messy harem, and Pan Jinlian who has a romantic relationship...all deserve it Into the history of the most famous "vixen" ranks.Whenever a woman behaves frivolously and dissolutely, the three words "vixen" will be thrown at her mercilessly from all directions, making her lose face and dignity.

The "vixen" was first labeled as evil, which originated from an unprecedented woman and a literary man.The woman is called Wu Zetian, and the man is called King Luo Bin.Xu Jingye rebelled, and Luo Binwang wrote an article "A Call to Arms" for him, saying that Empress Wu was "fucking".Perhaps King Luo Bin was not the first to use this title, but his outstanding talent, majestic articles, sharp irony, and his target was a generation of empresses, so this "fox charm" became famous all over the world and passed down through the ages.

So what is "humei"?Open "Strange Tales from a Liaozhai Studio" and you will understand it at a glance.In this legendary book, the fox can transform into a beautiful and vivid young woman, not only bright-eyed and white-toothed, glamorous, but also extremely intelligent and understanding.They dare to love and hate, they are pure and enthusiastic, and the charming style that they can't forget after just a glance is enough to make men deeply intoxicated and infatuated.Perhaps, vixenism is an irresistible weapon used by young and beautiful women to confuse men.Just like in the book, when a man meets a fox girl who throws her arms or looks at him, the man can't find the north, he falls in unconsciously, and falls in love with her by accident.

In fact, men like "fox spirits" because they like women themselves.For thousands of years, women in China have been suppressed and restrained, so women are no longer true women, but closed, wronged, and reserved. Such women cannot have sexy appeal.So, when "vixes" appear around them, how can they not be crazy, amazed, and passionate?
Therefore, when decent women scolded the seductive "fox spirits" to bring disaster to the country and the people, the vast majority of men were looking forward to an affair with the "fox spirits" in their hearts, even if they died under their pomegranate skirts, they would be willing.Here, I would like to advise the jealous women in the world that the best weapon to defeat a vixen is not to pick your nose and eyes, let alone shouting at the sky, cursing or washing your face with tears, but trying to make men focus on you.This is what the so-called "stupid women deal with women, and smart women deal with men".

The following are the seven rules of the new "vixen": you may wish to try

1. Charming, but not gaudy.Vulgar fans are just "foxes" and have not yet become "fine".

2. Gentle, but not obsequious.For some men with poor taste, if you don't love them, even if you are a multi-millionaire, you won't marry.

3. Active, but not random discharge.The new style of "vixen" does not steal husbands, and does not act as a woman who stirs up water.

4. Be wild, but not too egotistical. "Fox Spirit"|He is unrestrained and has a true temperament, but he will also fall into the mortal world because of love.

5. Smart, but also clumsy. "Fox spirit" understands the way of the world and people's hearts, especially men, so she knows how to respect and love men better.

6. Love money, but not greedy. It's not that "vixes" don't eat fireworks, but they must be clearly distinguished, money is money, and love is love.

7. Bad, but only a little bit bad.It's limited to being coquettish and teasing people, not playing tricks and tricks, and not making deals with lust.

Of course, in addition to turning herself into a "spiritual vixen", a smart woman must also strengthen precautions and put an invisible rein on the wild horse of her man's heart, so that his "spiritual vixen" complex can only surge in his heart, and he must not let it It releases the rush.Only by carefully training a man and controlling the unreasonable wild horse in his heart with reason and calmness can we ensure "peace in the world".

Men's "Red Rose" and "White Rose" Complex

Zhang Ailing said in the novel "Red Rose and White Rose": Men often have two kinds of women in their minds, one is red roses and the other is white roses.For those who get red roses, the white roses will become "moonlight in front of the bed", which is beyond reach, and the red roses will become "mosquito blood" on the wall; for those who get white roses, the red roses will become "cinnabar" forever in their hearts. Moles", white roses become "rice grains on clothes".

It can be seen that a man can never be satisfied with the woman he gets, whether she is a red rose or a white rose.They are always looking forward to Sichuan like this, greedy for new and old, wanting to grab with both hands, but they can't be hard with both hands. In the end, they often lose their wives and lose their lovers.

There was a pair of newlyweds, the wife introduced her female classmate to her husband, unexpectedly the husband fell in love with this female classmate at first sight.After the extramarital affair was discovered by the wife, the husband said to his wife: "I really love you, but she has another attraction." If the husband can tell that his love has been transferred, he might as well divorce as soon as possible, and then go their separate ways. But he loves both, and loves equally deeply. When his wife gave him an ultimatum to choose one of them, the man actually cried bitterly.

The famous Japanese writer Junichi Watanabe wrote in his "Man This Thing": "A man's love is often relative. Right now, I love this woman the most, but soon the second and third will appear one after another. No matter how old she is Excellent, men are always distracted from time to time, and hope to have newcomers." From this point of view, both Chinese and foreign men have a love heart.

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