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Chapter 11 Life Psychology--One's own happiness needs to be controlled by oneself (3)
Because rebellious psychology is a kind of psychological state that often appears in the process of teenagers' growth, and it is a prominent psychological characteristic of teenagers at this age.Because teenagers are in a psychological "transition period", their sense of independence and self-awareness is increasing day by day, and they are eager to get rid of the guardianship of adults.They object to adults treating themselves as "children" and treating themselves as adults.In order to show his "extraordinary", he tends to take a critical attitude towards everything.It is precisely because they feel or worry that the outside world ignores their independent existence that they have a rebellious mentality, and thus use various means and methods to establish the equal status of "self" and the outside world.Although rebellious psychology is not an unhealthy psychology, it is an abnormal psychology when it reacts strongly.Although it is different from abnormal psychology, it has some characteristics of abnormal psychology.If it is not corrected in time, it will be very detrimental to the growth of young people if it continues to develop.

For this reason, for the negative side of children's rebellious psychology, parents should follow their children's psychological characteristics, and educate them carefully and persuasively.Parents should see the positive side of rebellious psychology. For example, the curiosity caused by rebellious psychology is a desire to know things and a driving force for knowledge.Rebellious psychology often has the characteristics of seeking differences and speculative thinking. It is the spark of children's wisdom and the source of creation. Parents should pay attention to it and make the best use of the situation to promote their success.

1. Parents should see the growth of their children, respect their self-esteem, establish a close and equal friendship with them, and allow their children to participate in the management of the family.

2. Parents should believe that their children have the ability to handle things independently, and support them as much as possible. When children encounter difficulties or failures, they should encourage and comfort them, and immediately praise them when they succeed.

3. Parents should have the courage to ask their children for advice and have the courage to admit their mistakes.

As children, they need to understand their parents, and parents also need to be respected by their children. Most of them regard their children's happiness as their own lives.Their advice is often a summary of their own life experience, which has a certain reference value; as a child, you should always talk to your parents about your thoughts and activities.When your choice goes against your parents' wishes, you should discuss it and present facts to prove that your choice is correct.

Psychology class:
1. As a parent, you should be clear about your child's psychology and trends, understand the characteristics and mentality of the child during this period, and face puberty together with the child.

2. Believe in your child's ability to distinguish right from wrong, don't make a big deal, and listen to your child's wishes and ideals when appropriate.

3. As a child, you must know how to respect your parents. Everything the parents do is for the growth of the child without any selfishness.

Hypochondriasis--Physical disease doctors have the final say

Hypochondriasis, also known as hypochondria, is a kind of over-concern about one's physical health, worry or believe that one or more physical diseases, often complain of some discomfort, seek medical treatment repeatedly, and the disease cannot be confirmed by various examinations Existent psychopathological ideas.

In real life, there are some people who are very strange and spend all day trying to "pick up diseases" and stick them to themselves.They are not wishing to be ill, but they are really suffering from "picked up diseases", and even have indescribable pain from various diseases that doctors cannot find out.

In fact, such people suffer from what is called hypochondriac in psychology.To put it bluntly, they didn't have any diseases at first, but they were the diseases they imagined, and the diseases they insisted on sticking to themselves.They feel uncomfortable here and painful there, but when they go to the hospital for an examination, everything is normal.All tests were within the normal range, and even modern medical examination equipment such as "ultrasound", CT, and MRI could not find any abnormalities, but they themselves still suspected that they had some kind of disease.The characteristic of this kind of people is that they "can't listen to other people's illnesses". As long as they hear that other people are sick, they feel that they have the same disease. focus on.Every disease he saw matched his symptoms.The more illnesses he knows, the more "illnesses" he has.

People suffering from hypochondria are closely related to their neurotype and psychological quality.The common characteristics of this kind of people are that they like to think about nothing, and they like to dig into the horns when they are in trouble, their mental state is unstable, they are highly sensitive to the things around them, they are introverted, depressed, narrow-minded, and cautious; care.

In a middle school in a county in Henan, a classmate named Wang Jinshan happened to have a cold and a fever during his physical examination before the college entrance examination.When the doctor was listening to his heart, he whispered to himself: "There is a wind-like noise in the apex of the heart..." Wang Jinshan nervously asked the doctor if he had a heart attack, and whether it was serious or not.The doctor replied that it was a physiological murmur and it was nothing to worry about.But Wang Jinshan was worried.He thought of the teacher in the "Physical Hygiene" class who once said that there are noises in heart disease.Now the doctor's words are just to comfort myself.From then on, he only firmly believed that the teacher's words were correct, and the doctor's words were just words of comfort. He was convinced that he had a heart attack, and sought medical treatment everywhere.Although many doctors believed that his heart was normal, he always thought that the doctors were comforting him or that the medical skills of his hospital were not authoritative enough.Later, he even left his place of residence to seek medical treatment in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and other places.Doctors said he was just guessing on his own.He was very angry and said, "Do I really hope that I won't be sick? The disease happened to me, and I don't know it myself?" Finally, after a diagnosis by a psychologist, Wang Jinshan was suffering from hypochondria.

It is normal to go to the hospital for an examination if you feel unwell, but if Wang Jinshan still seeks medical treatment everywhere after repeated examinations, it can be determined that he has a mental disorder-hypochondriasis.Hypochondria is manifested as a person who pays too much attention to his own physical condition. He will immediately have a preconceived notion about any changes and discomforts in his body, and suspect that a certain part or kinetic energy of the body is sick. This kind of person, despite detailed examination, He repeatedly stated that he was not sick, but still could not dispel his doubts. He always tried his best to seek medical examination everywhere, trying to prove that he was sick.In fact, hypochondriacs are not real diseases of the body organs, let alone incurable diseases, but it is difficult to be effective with general medical treatment.We must dig deep into the root of this "heart disease" and carry out targeted psychotherapy. For hypochondriacs, the key to relieving mental illness is to establish an optimistic way of thinking, pursue something, improve bad personality, and have real self-confidence.

It is difficult to persuade hypochondriacs with general simple explanations, and too many examinations and improper explanations will cause many iatrogenic hints, and it is easier for patients to read relevant medical books to cause self-suggestions. It is easy to make the patient's symptoms complicated and difficult to heal.Therefore, adolescent patients must do a good job of early prevention, even if they suffer from hypochondria, they must also do a good job of self-regulation.The main adjustment methods are as follows:

1. Remind yourself not to "check your seat" based on the symptoms in the medical book.If you find that you have the symptoms of hypochondriacs, you can't let yourself read some medical books and "check in" and think that some discomforts in your body are similar or similar to the symptoms described in the book. suffering from a certain disease.In fact, many symptoms may occur in many diseases, even in normal people.Therefore, you must not "check your seat" without seeing a doctor.

2. Trust the doctor, trust the doctor's various examinations, trust the doctor's explanation and advice.

3. Establish a correct outlook on life, actively participate in various activities, and concentrate your energy and spirit on other things that have nothing to do with "disease", so that your psychology can be completely adjusted.Don't "circle around yourself all day long", have a wider vision, be more tolerant, and think more about the people around you.

In modern society, people's sense of competition has increased, and people generally feel that there is pressure.If there is no good psychological quality, effective support system and proper way to vent, this kind of psychological pressure may appear as physical symptoms and trouble people.People who tend to suffer from hypochondria or have already suffered from hypochondria should seek professional help and guidance from a psychologist in time.At present, there are a variety of effective psychotherapy and drug treatment methods that can help you get rid of the predicament of not worrying about illness.

Psychology class:
1. The pressure of competition is too great, and if it cannot be adjusted effectively, psychological problems will occur.Therefore, we must establish a correct outlook on life and correctly face the psychological pressure brought by the outside world.

2. If you really feel unwell, you should seek medical treatment in time, but you must trust the doctor, and do not infer or exaggerate the doctor's diagnosis at will.

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder--A Soul Struggling in Pain

Psychological obsessive-compulsive disorder refers to a type of neurotic disorder characterized by recurring obsessive ideas and compulsive actions. Patients often regard some normal physiological and psychological phenomena as abnormal things and try their best to get rid of them and produce intense painful psychological conflicts. , and enter a vicious circle.

Case [-]: When Chen Ling was in college, she majored in financial accounting.In her final year at university, Chen Ling found herself spending more and more time completing her homework.Because she always has to check repeatedly after finishing her homework every time until she is satisfied.After graduating, she applied for a job in a bank. Her colleagues soon discovered that Chen Ling needed a day or two to complete the accounts that could be completed in two to three hours.Because she is always worried that the account is not correct, and checks repeatedly.Later, not only at work, but also in life. For example, when Chen Ling went out, she would repeatedly check whether the doors and windows were closed, and when sending letters, she would repeatedly check the contents of the letter to see if there were any typos, which took a lot of time.In the end, the bank's leaders had no choice but to let her go home to "rest".

Case 10: Ai Fang works as a nurse in a hospital.A few months ago, her aunt passed away due to illness, and she was very sad.Since then, Xiao Ai worried every day that she would be infected with some kind of disease while working in the hospital.Every time after get off work, I always wash my hands repeatedly more than [-] times.When I got home, I immediately changed all my clothes and shoes and socks, in her words, "to avoid bringing viral cells home".Although Corey's doctor told her that the hospital was being disinfected every day, and her aunt was not infected with an infectious disease, she was safe.But Xiao Ai is not at ease.Later, in the hospital, she would not sit on the chair that others had sat on. If someone accidentally touched her, she would wash her hands continuously until she thought she was clean.Such "cleaning" took Xiao Ai a lot of time every day, which made her exhausted and seriously affected her work. The director of the department also severely criticized her for this matter, and her husband complained even more. Xiao Ai felt wronged, but Just can't control myself.

The psychology and behavior of Chen Ling and Ai Fang are obsessive-compulsive disorder, also known as obsessive-compulsive neurosis.They are doing the same thing repeatedly, such as repeated inspections, repeated inquiries, repeated washing of hands, repeated changes of clothes and shoes and socks are compulsive behaviors.

The difference between psychological obsessive-compulsive disorder and general troubles is that troubles are pure troubles, while obsessive-compulsive disorder is an attempt to eliminate troubles that cannot be eliminated at all, resulting in greater troubles, that is to say, obsessive-compulsive disorder is a double trouble.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder is a special type of neurosis with various manifestations, not only thinking repeatedly, but also doing repeatedly.For example, repeatedly washing hands, washing quilts, counting, turning off the gas, locking the door, sorting things, etc., some also repeatedly entangled in some meaningless or unsolvable problems, such as "Why does the sun rise in the east", "Why does 1+1 equal to 2", "Why don't people grow horns", some have the idea of ​​doing obscene and immoral behavior, or fear that they will do harm to others, but these behaviors have not happened, for example, they always want to commit suicide or kill others , When seeing scissors, the idea of ​​stabbing someone's throat appears, and they are afraid that such a thing will really be done. Some people always have the opposite language in their minds. Think of "bad" in your mind, and when you see red, you want to think of black.Obsessive-compulsive disorder lasts for a long time, occurs frequently, knows that it is unreasonable but cannot get rid of it, brings severe pain to oneself, and interferes and destroys daily life behavior.

Zhihong gave birth to a lovely daughter. She spends a lot of time taking care of the child every day, feeding her daughter, taking a bath, buying toys, sleeping with her daughter, and taking the child to the garden to bask in the sun. Growing up healthily, Zhihong soon became a good mother recognized by everyone.Zhihong enjoys this kind of happy life with children, but one day, a terrible idea suddenly appeared in her mind-she would stab her daughter.Although she knew it was impossible, and she tried her best not to think about it, but this kind of thought couldn't get rid of it, and it could pop up anytime and anywhere.Later, Zhihong didn't even dare to touch scissors, kitchen knives, or even slightly sharp objects. She was afraid that she would suddenly pick them up and stab her daughter.

Why did Zhihong have such painful thoughts?In fact, Zhihong's symptoms are the same as those of the previous two cases, they are both psychological obsessive-compulsive disorder.Regarding their psychological obsessive-compulsive disorder, psychologists and neurologists say that obsessive-compulsive disorder mostly occurs in adolescence, and there are often strong mental trauma or long-term psychological pressure before the symptoms appear.Most patients with obsessive-compulsive disorder have very typical obsessive-compulsive personality characteristics, that is, excessively strict demands on themselves and a strong tendency of perfectionism.Main manifestations: Paying too much attention to whether one's own behavior is appropriate, thus appearing rigid, rigid, lack of flexibility and variability, and many rules and regulations; do things to perfection, repeatedly check whether they are completed, think repeatedly, and always worry about what mistakes they will make; Preoccupied with self-image, caring too much about what others think and suppressing emotions; lacks a sense of humor.Most of them have a strong sense of insecurity in their hearts, and their tone of voice is rapid and accompanied by certain tension and anxiety when communicating with others.

In real life, obsessive-compulsive disorder is not limited to teenagers. In fact, each of us has had strong or weak obsessive-compulsive disorder. As long as you pay attention, you will find that many adults will also show specific obsessive-compulsive symptoms, and I am deeply pained by this.At present, it is believed that patients with obsessive-compulsive disorder with mild illness can use psychotherapy and carry out psychological crisis intervention. Robert G. Meyer, a famous American applied psychologist, suggested that we can start from the following aspects:
1. Eliminate mental stress factors and improve the current mental state.

2. To divert attention from obsessive-compulsive tendencies, cultivate various interests, and relieve the mental pressure that leads to obsessive-compulsive tendencies with a variety of activities.

3. Carry out the exercise of self-psychological adjustment ability.

4. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, if you keep making mistakes, it means you are making progress
However, for those patients with severe obsessive-compulsive disorder who want to improve their symptoms, psychotherapy alone is not enough. It is best to use a combination of psychotherapy and drug treatment, so that the effect will be more significant.In addition, patients can also consider using Morita therapy, which has a better effect on neurosis.Neurosurgery can be considered for a small number of patients who have not had any effect from psychotherapy and drug treatment and cannot be cured for a long time. Whether to use neurosurgery for treatment should be strictly controlled.In addition, the use of neurosurgery may cause some unknown damage to the brain, so we must be cautious.

Psychology class:
1. The removal of psychological problems requires the cooperation of other events in life.Only when other events in life are smoother can mental illness have a better recovery environment.So encourage yourself to live actively and adapt to survival.

2. You must have the ability to be good at, but you have not tapped it out. Discover your potential and improve your quality of life.

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