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Chapter 34 Psychology of Success and Failure--An Invisible Hand (1)
Life is like a mirror, when you cry to it, it also cries to you; when you smile to it, it also smiles to you.What kind of mentality you hold determines what kind of destiny you have and what kind of life you have.People's hearts are really mysterious, some ideas will lead people to success, and some bad shadows will make us farther and farther away from success.Let the psychological suggestion help you out of confusion and success in self-pity and negativity.

The Bell Effect - Thinking of success creates a vision of success in your heart

The Bell Effect was proposed by Bell, an American evangelist and scholar: Thinking of success will create a picture of success in your heart; with confidence in success, you will be half sure of success.

In many cases, it's not that you can't do it, but you dare not do it.In many cases, it's not that you can't think of it, but you dare not think about it.There is a huge potential hidden in the human body, and at a special moment, because of a special reason, it will be ignited and explode.

The Bell Effect is to tell us that success is not as difficult as imagined. Sometimes all it needs is your courage, which is what most people lack!
If you could choose from three different kinds of life—violent, mediocre, and miserable—which one would you choose?I think most people will choose Vigorous!But the fact is that in real life, most people are mediocre, even miserable!Why do different people have such a big gap?Is there really an unbridgeable gap between them?Of course not.The biggest difference between a winner and a loser is that the former firmly believes that he will succeed, while the latter does not.

As a child, former British Prime Minister William Pitt believed he could achieve great things.In the process of growing up, no matter where he was, no matter what he did, no matter whether it was in school, work or entertainment, he never gave up his confidence in himself and kept telling himself that he should be successful and stand out.This concept of self-confidence took root in every cell of his body and encouraged him to persevere and persevere towards his goal in life-to be a just and wise politician. At 22, he entered Parliament; the following year, he became Chancellor of the Exchequer; and by 25, he was Prime Minister of the United Kingdom.With a determination to succeed, William Pitt made his leap.

No matter what the environment is, in our life, there is the power to change the current environment.If you have confidence and think positively about success, the world will turn out the way you want it to be.You can reach the highest peak of success, or lament in mediocrity.And all the difference lies in whether you have the belief of success!

Some people may think that this is alarmist talk, and will say that success will not be so easy.But the truth is, as long as you believe, success is really not as difficult as you think.

In 1965, a Korean student went to Cambridge University to major in psychology.When drinking afternoon tea, he often went to the school cafe or teahouse to listen to some successful people chatting.These successful people include Nobel Prize winners, academic authorities in certain fields and some people who have created economic myths.These people are humorous, easy-going, and see their success as very natural and logical.After a long time, he found that when he was in China, he was deceived by some successful people.In order for those who are entrepreneurs who quit and start his own hardships generally exaggerated, that is to say, they use their own success stories to frighten those who are not successful people.

Thinking of this, he thought it would be a good topic to study the mentality of successful people in Korea.Before long, he "Did not look like Success You To imagine That Difficultly" takes the graduation thesis, the founder Professor Will who Braden the submission gave the modern economical psychology.Professor Braden was pleasantly surprised after reading it.Surprised, he wrote to his Cambridge alumnus - Park Chung-hee, who was sitting in the top position in South Korean politics at the time.He said in the letter: "I dare not say how much this book has helped you, but I'm sure it can shake more than any of your government orders."

As Will Braden expected, this book really took off along with South Korea's economic take-off.This book has inspired many people, because it tells people from a new perspective that there is no inevitable relationship between success and "work hard, starve your body", "three nights and five chickens", "head hanging from the beam, and awl stabbing the thigh". connect.As long as you are interested in a certain cause, you will succeed if you persevere for a long time, because the time and wisdom given to you by God are enough for you to complete one thing satisfactorily.Later, the young man also achieved success, and he became the president of Panye Automobile Company in South Korea.

What we want to say is this: People with a winning mindset can find the power of success everywhere.

The determination to discover yourself, the habit of relying on yourself, can make you stronger and stronger.Crutches are for the lame, not for the able-bodied. Whoever tries to walk through life with a spiritual crutch will never go very far, nor will he become a great success.

Believe in yourself forever, think of success, and the image of success will form in your heart.No matter what difficulties you encounter, you must firmly believe that you will succeed, and then you will succeed in the end.Know that you are here to succeed!

Dr. Napoleon Hill believes that self-suggestion is a good way to establish a correct concept of wealth in the book "Psychological Wealth Creation Law", and for the first time puts forward six "golden" steps of self-suggestion.

The first step is to determine the number of wealth you want to have in your heart.There is no positive effect in saying "I need a lot, a lot of money" in general terms, you must determine the specific amount of wealth you are asking for;
The second step is to really decide what effort and price you will pay in exchange for the money you need-there is no such thing as getting something for nothing in the world;
The third step is to set a fixed date, and you must earn the money you ask for before this date-without a timetable, your ship will never "berth";
The fourth step is to draw up a feasible plan to realize your ideal, and carry it out immediately - you must get used to "action", and you can no longer indulge in "fantasy"

The fifth step is to clearly write down the above four points - you can't just rely on memory, you must write it down in black and white;

The sixth step is to read aloud the content of the plan you wrote down twice a day.Once at night before going to bed, and once in the morning after getting up - when you recite, you must see, feel and believe that you already have the money!
Dr. Napoleon Hill's self-suggestion steps make us realize the importance and motivation of self-suggestion.Because people's consciousness will form a "psychological guidance effect", that is, people will have a strong desire to accept external hints and establish an image through the medium of language and sound.

Therefore, the image we paint for ourselves in our hearts determines our future, and hints are often unchangeable, because it affects our growth in a subtle way.

Everyone has great potential, but some people's potential has been awakened, and some people's potential is still sleeping.Any successful person will not be born. The root cause of success is to develop people's endless potential.As long as you develop your potential with a positive attitude, you will have inexhaustible energy, your ability will become stronger the more you use it, and you will be closer to success.On the contrary, if you hold a negative attitude, do not develop your potential and let it sleep, then you can only sigh the "injustice" of fate.

Psychology class:
1. If you can imagine it, you can do it; if you can dream it, you can make it happen.

2. Think about success, and your heart will form an endless motivation to strive for success.

3. The reason why people can, is to believe that they can.

Concentration - the most necessary quality for success
The so-called "concentration" means to concentrate, concentrate, and concentrate.A dedicated person is often able to concentrate his time, energy and wisdom on what he wants to do, so as to maximize his enthusiasm, initiative and creativity, and strive to achieve his goals.

There is such a fable in Africa, it is said that when an African lion is chasing an antelope, it will only stare at one antelope and chase desperately. Change the target and only go after the target prey.

This little story tells us a truth: Only by focusing can we stand alone and "capture" our most important goals.

A businessman looking for a chap posted a distinctive ad in his store window: "Hiring: A Man of Self-Restraint. $40 a week, $60 for the right fit."

Every job applicant has to pass a special exam.Carter also came to apply for the job, and he waited anxiously. Finally, it was time for him to appear.

"Can you read?"

"Yes, sir."

"Can you read this passage?" The shopkeeper put a newspaper in front of Carter.

"Yes, sir."

"Can you read aloud without stopping?"

"Yes, sir."

"Fine, come with me." The businessman took Carter to his private office and closed the door.He handed the newspaper to Carter, with a passage Carter was to read printed on it.

As soon as the reading started, the businessman released six cute puppies, and the puppies ran to Carter's feet, playing and making noise with each other.Many applicants were rejected because they could not resist the temptation to look at the beautiful puppy and took their eyes off the reading material.However, Carter never forgot his role. He knew that he was a job seeker at the moment, and he was not tempted to read the materials in one go.

The businessman was delighted, and he asked Carter, "Didn't you notice the little dog at your feet while you were reading?"

Carter replied, "Yes, I noticed, sir."

"I guess you should know they exist, right?"

"Yes, sir."

"Then why don't you take a look at them?"

"Because you told me to read this paragraph without pausing."

"Do you always keep your promises?"

"Indeed, I always try to do it, sir."

The businessman was walking up and down the office and suddenly said happily, "You're the one I'm looking for."

Carter is exactly the kind of guy business people want to hire because once he knows his job responsibilities, he takes a strong sense of responsibility to do it.

Generally, those who can truly become the leaders in the industry are those "paranoid" who focus on a certain field.

Soichiro Honda, the founder of Honda, came from a poor background.When he was only 16 years old, he left his hometown and went to Tokyo to start a 6-year apprenticeship in a small auto repair shop.

Six years later, the apprenticeship ended, and Soichiro Honda learned superb car repair skills.His boss gave him a sum of money and asked him to return to his hometown to open a branch.Honda loves this job very much, and he always works tirelessly every day, so the business of the branch is booming.

Outside of work, Honda takes some engines and hammers around whenever they can.Soon, he was fascinated by sports cars, so he began to design sports cars by himself, preparing to participate in sports car competitions.Later, he used a Ford car he modified to participate in the All Japan Racing Competition and broke the record.

In 1937, he gave up his repair job to start his own business.He didn't change his career, because he knew that changing his career would be a big taboo for starting a business.He wanted to start a business producing piston rings for cars.

In order to make his career successful, Honda went to school again while continuing to run his business.Once he learned the proper way to make piston rings, the business boomed and two years later he was awarded a supply contract by Japan's largest carmaker. In 1946, he founded the Honda Motor Company.He and his staff spent two years exclusively developing the engine.

Two years later, Honda reorganized the company and named it Honda Motor Company.This automobile company founded after World War II has made itself among the first-class ranks of the world's automobile industry with its "spirit of winning" for decades.

The American "Car and People" magazine rated the Honda Accord as one of the top ten best-selling cars in the United States.And commented as "Honda Accord is almost perfect, impeccable!"

Honda's entrepreneurial success history tells us that only by focusing on our own goals can we achieve great achievements.

Only focus can stand alone.The world-renowned entrepreneur Bill Gates is famous in the world because of his focus on software development; China's Lenovo Group has also become extremely well-known in China because of its focus on computer development.A well-known example can also be cited, such as communications giant Ericsson, which decisively decided many years ago to "outsource" the production of mobile phones in order to focus on "being the strongest part of the value chain".

In fact, no matter whether you are a person or a business, you should go forward bravely without distraction. Only in this way can you make some achievements in your own industry, and even become a giant in the industry.Otherwise, if you do everything, you will end up doing nothing well.

Psychology class:
1. In life, we often hear people say: "Let's live every day as long as you don't lose your job!" This kind of person has actually lost his strong sense of responsibility and admitted his failure in life.

2. The great Chairman Mao once said, "The most feared thing in the world is the word seriousness." I think that understanding this famous saying from the perspective of "concentration" will make you more convinced that concentration is the quality we should have, because it is what guides us. Great power to success.

Optimistic psychology - navigating the unsinkable ship of life
Optimism is one of the most positive personality factors.Optimism is to maintain a good attitude no matter what the situation is, and to believe that bad things will always pass, and that the sun will always come again.

There is no distinction between pleasure and pain in anything itself. Pleasure and pain are our feelings about it and the characteristics we ascribe to it.The same thing, viewed from different angles, will have different feelings.Whether a person is happy or not does not depend on his situation, but on whether he has an optimistic heart.

The pessimists say: "When people are alive, there are problems and they have to suffer; if there are problems, they may fall into misfortune." Even a little bit of setbacks, they will be frowning and suffering, thinking that they are the most unfortunate in the world people.As the British philosopher Russell described, "Unfortunate people always pride themselves on being unfortunate."A pessimist has a room made of misfortune, pain, and sorrow, and then invites himself into it, and shouts to the outside world: "I am the most unfortunate person." Because they feel unfortunate, they lose their inner peace, As a result, pessimistic and negative emotions such as injustice, envy, jealousy, vanity, and low self-esteem arise as the times require.They have abandoned their own happiness and happiness, turning their eyes to happiness and happiness.

Optimists say: "When people live, there is hope; with hope, happiness can be obtained." They can taste the sweetness in the ordinary life, so they are happy like a clear spring, nourishing their hearts all the time.

There is no distinction between pleasure and pain in anything itself. Pleasure and pain are our feelings about it and the characteristics we ascribe to it.The same thing, viewed from different angles, will have different feelings.Whether a person is happy or not does not depend on his situation, but on whether he has an optimistic heart.

American "National Treasure" Jester Huston is an out-and-out black man, but he is a popular "National Treasure". All choirs in the United States will inevitably sing one or two songs created by him. Songs, and in the creation of black soul music, he is also a world-class top master, no one can match him.

He was once asked, "Jester, have you ever been racist?"

"Oh, I've been discriminated against all my life. However, I don't think I should overreact, so I try to turn a deaf ear to others' discrimination. Although, I can't completely let it go, I never hold a grudge."

Once, at a [-]-person concert in Las Vegas, Jeste Huston sang "My Dream Is With You" with his true feelings.

After he finished singing, he said emotionally: "I, like most Americans, love our country, but my skin color makes me different from some people. It doesn't matter. You are all very appreciative listeners. Affirm that my singing voice is not false, but sings a dream for your pleasure."

After finishing speaking, there were thunderous shouts one after another, and since then, Jester Huston became famous and became a national treasure-level singer.

In fact, life is like this, a hodgepodge, a five-flavored bottle.If you are more optimistic, you will think that life is colorful and interesting.If you are more pessimistic, the situation is different.Gloomy sky, gloomy state of mind, gloomy life...

Shakespeare said: "Life is like a stage." This sentence is simple and true.Life is a big stage, and you are the dancer.When there are good times, there are also failures.There is a front desk and a background.Whether life is wonderful or not, your performance is the most important.

At the front desk, for the sake of being exciting, for being more exciting, and for the applause from the audience, we jumped on the stage, worked hard, put on our makeup, put on our clothes, prepared our lines, adjusted our posture, and adjusted our breathing. He walked out step by step and tried his best.What should be sung, the five notes should be sung without confusion; what should be said, should be spoken correctly;So he won applause from the whole house, full of joy and satisfaction.

However, there is always a time when you go backstage, take off your costume and make-up, and show your tired eyes. Maybe you don’t have a friend waiting to tell you the truth, thank you for your hard work, or Silently exchanged a wink.

In the process of heat and cold, our life is still going on.

In fact, sometimes, since you have won a lot of applause, you have gained a lot of recognition, you have succeeded or at least partially succeeded, you should have the courage to face the next failure behind the success.A life that is always successful is an ideal dreamed by many people, but in fact it has never been the case.

Therefore, when you enjoy success, you also have to face the reality: failure and frustration are also constantly approaching you.Life has given you a lot of happiness, and at the same time, it has constantly made you accept all kinds of tempering.

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