Chance encounter

Chapter 12 Love is a battle between two people (2)
Letter from Minjiang

It was my great fortune and misfortune to meet her.

I met her in online games, and then fell in love. At first I thought she was innocent and cute, but soon it became too much for me.She has no rules to follow at all, and she will suddenly make me grow a beard. I said it violated the company's regulations, but she ignored it, and shaved a heart shape on the back of my head.This exaggerated appearance made the leader intolerable, and I was eventually kicked out.I have worked in the real estate economy for three years but quit at the most profitable moment. Many colleagues feel sorry for me.

Lost my job and just changed jobs, naturally I have to put more effort into it, and I may have neglected her unintentionally. She set a series of rules for me: I must reply to the text message within 1 minute, I must answer the phone after ringing three times, and delete all women in the phone. She must show up at any time when she looks for me, and I can't take the initiative to look for her at any time except weekends...

My family is poor, she wants me to do well, but she looks down on my efforts and doesn't let me have contact with other people, even my buddies.Maybe what she likes is my kindness to her, but she doesn't want to work hard with me!Outrageous?I dare not disobey, disobedience will definitely go crazy.You may want to laugh at me for being a big man and afraid of a woman getting angry. You may have never seen it... What is it to do to death.

A while ago, my second uncle’s cousin got married, and I went home to attend the wedding. At night, my second uncle asked me to play mahjong.I go home once or twice a year. My second uncle loved me since I was a child, so I agreed.Just after nine o'clock, she checked the post and asked me what I was doing. I said to play mahjong with the old man, and she said let me have fun, don't come back tomorrow, and hung up the phone after speaking.I bit the bullet and rushed back the next day.She locked the door, and I rang the doorbell for a long time but she refused to open the door. I had to stand in the yard and call her name loudly. The neighbors helped to persuade her, and she finally let me in.

As soon as she entered the door, she grabbed the desk lamp and threw it at me, saying that what she hated most in her life was gambling, and that I deliberately confronted her, then she picked up a bench and threw it at me, throwing and yelling, to the effect that she would die You won't marry someone like me.At that time, the fire suddenly came up, and I replied that I would never marry a woman like her. After I replied, I got up angrily and walked into the bedroom, only to hear a muffled bang, and when I turned my head, the window was wide open...I know it's over, He rushed downstairs and saw her lying motionless on the ground with broken asbestos tiles lying on her body.

I was sent to the emergency department, and the doctor informed me of the diagnosis: broken spine and nerves, paraplegia, and surgery can only restore and fix the lumbar spine, and the possibility of recovery is very slim.Her parents, sisters, and my family all came. My honest parents were terrified. They heard that the initial surgery would cost 6 yuan. My parents decided to sell the house without saying anything.

In order to make up for the debt in my heart and fear that she would make trouble again, my parents suggested that I use the remaining money from the sale of the house to pay the down payment and buy a house as our future wedding house.But she insisted on paying the full amount, even if it was a loan, the house must be written in her name.I had no choice but to say that the name on the real estate certificate was the repayer, how could she have the ability to repay the loan?
In less than a month, I lost [-] pounds and didn't get a good night's sleep.I dare not imagine her future, but right now, without knowing it, she quarrels with me and vents her anger at me every day, completely unaware that she may spend forever in bed in the future.Fatty, how should I treat her?Cut the mess with a quick knife?Is it responsible to give her enough money?
Letter from the five-star ladybug

What is it like to have a good girlfriend?I'll tell you that every minute you want to fly.

Take "Chestnut", my daily life with her is:

She wanted to break up on Monday, because I liked the senior sister of the student union in the same department in the circle of friends, and posted a laughing and crying emoji in the comments. She ran downstairs to my dormitory and pestered her until twelve o'clock, in front of all the passing students. They twisted my arms and kicked my legs in front of my face, and the housekeeper aunt closed the door of the building in front of me, preventing me from entering.

We're going to break up on Tuesday because I didn't post the photo of going out to eat Malatang with her on Moments.We meet every day, whether she posts it or not depends on her mood, but if I don’t post it, it means I don’t love her.

We were going to break up on Wednesday, and she was going to participate in a business English competition and asked me to help write a speech.I was a little unhappy in my tone. She didn't have an attack at the time, and she sent a WeChat message to say we broke up after returning. The next second I replied, she was already in a deleted state.

We were going to break up on Thursday, and her aunt came and had a stomachache and called me without saying why.I forgot this date, and asked her what was wrong, she broke up and hung up the phone.

We were going to break up on Friday, and she went to the university town outside the third ring road to find a high school boyfriend. I was afraid that she would make trouble, so I let her go even though I felt uncomfortable.As a result, she missed the last bus at night and couldn’t come back. I couldn’t hold back the fire in my heart. I told her on WeChat that I had reminded you to come back early. Now, what are you doing with that stupid university town? live?She got angry and yelled on the phone that I didn't believe her.I was also angry, saying that either I didn't believe it or I was uncomfortable, and then she resorted to a thousand-year-old mace to break up, and I followed suit and said, "Okay, let's break up."

hang up the phone.Half an hour later, I took my best friend in the dormitory to the Internet cafe at the gate of the school to play games all night. When I came out of the Internet cafe the next day, on Saturday morning, I felt that I had regained the freedom of being a human being and told myself to be happy. I wish her happiness.Deleted WeChat and phone numbers, closed her circle of friends, and found a novel in the library with peace of mind.When it's time to eat, I feel so happy that I want to fly.Same goes for Sunday day, but by Sunday night, somehow, you start to feel lost.

Then on Monday, I shamelessly asked for reunion.Cheap?I feel the same way sometimes.Every time I was so angry with her, I felt that she was just jealous, dependent, insecure, and short-tempered afterwards.No one is perfect, she doesn't make trouble with you unreasonably, she doesn't play tricks on you, so does she still love you?
When my girlfriend makes me feel like jumping off a building, the only thing I can do is think about it: I chose it all by myself...and, in her life, she greets me with care, and sits in a hard seat for more than ten hours to see me during winter and summer vacations When I first saw her, she supported an old man on crutches and yelled at the car that was rushing towards him.

I love a part of her, so should the other part be put up with?In fact, I don't know if such a deformed love can go far.You ask me how it feels to fall in love with a woman?Tired, very tired, but can't do without, this is also sick...

Lu Xiaopang's reply
I think everyone does it, the only difference is, are you doing it yourself or someone else?The former deserves it, the latter is annoying.As for me, I am the kind of person who suffers in silence—you think I don’t even bother others, and I will instinctively dislike those people who are absurd and self-willed but ask others to pay for it.

Why?

So I especially sympathize with Minjiang, such a tragic thing happened to you, you are really pitiful.From now on, you will either go far away, but you will be stigmatized as a scumbag from now on, or you will endure and persevere, and act as if you will never leave by your girlfriend.

But no matter which road is extremely difficult, but you have no choice, it is very unfair, but the matter has come to an end, it is meaningless for you to ask God why, you can only bear it, because all logic, reason, favor and even law, in human life They all looked pale and powerless.

Your immediate priority is to help your girlfriend recover from her injuries and help her adjust to her new life as much as possible. This may take a year, two years or even longer, and after that, you have the right to live your own life.Of course, you will carry a heavy cross all your life, but you have to try your best to move forward.

To make a digression, compared to the danger and pain of being hurt by scumbags and scumbags, the danger of each of us being judged by the public in the moral court because of our private life is greater.

As for those people who break up, reconcile, and break up with their boyfriends and girlfriends every day, such as the five-star ladybug and his girlfriend, I have nothing special to say, because it is obvious that your drama will eventually come to an end. , It's just time, two months or half a year?

Anyway, there will always be a moment when everyone is exhausted or feels dull, and that time is the end.However, you cannot avoid these necessary processes, so I am not particularly worried.

In fact, I am very envious of those who can do it, because being a drama queen (female) may not be able to save anything after crying, making a fuss, begging, and expressing, but at least you vented, at least you let the other party Knowing your emotions, at least you have left traces of love.

It's better than a wonderful girlfriend of mine who fell in love with a man with a strong artistic temperament for a long time.She loves him and waits for him, endures and perseveres, but never expresses her despair, vulnerability, resentment, and fear, while the other party has always turned a blind eye to her pain.

When we were together, my girlfriend never cried or made trouble. After we broke up, except for one or two cryptic and reserved love poems written by the other party, their love seemed to never exist.But I know that they have loved, and they may still love.

I am a very fateful person.We may not be able to avoid disasters in our lives, but my bottom line is that I admit my own mistakes, and I don't blame others.Falling in love, breaking up, being cheated on, I am scum, I am scum... This is the normal state of love and marriage, but no matter what, we should not use one life to punish another.

When I wrote this passage, I was flying from Beijing to Shenzhen. For a while, the plane was very turbulent. For a moment, I was really scared—what if this is the last moment?What would my regret be?
I never did it, I never did it in front of him.Really, I can do it, because I can bear all the consequences after that, can you?
There is only one woman in this world who does not need "potential stocks"

Girls, potential stocks are not often found, and they are not so easy to find. If there is time, it is better to turn yourself into a potential stock first.

Letter from Lisa

Sister Luyu, I don't know what you think about the other half's career.I met a boy, he is pursuing me, I like him, but I can't accept his job.He is bartending in nightclubs, I wonder if I am too traditional, I always feel that boys working in nightclubs are unreliable.Surrounded by so many girls every day, and his appearance is also very attractive, I feel very insecure if we are together.

I told him that if you really want to be together, quit your job, change another job, and get together.He was a little surprised, and told me that he loves his job very much, has never had a messy relationship with a man and a woman, and doesn't think there is any problem with bartending in a nightclub, hoping that I can understand and trust him.

I'm so conflicted, because I really like him, but I just have a professional cleanliness freak, and I just can't accept people who sell houses, insurance, or work in nightclubs.Want to know what I should do, seek answers, seek chance encounters, online, etc., very urgent.

Xiaomeng's letter

Sister Luyu, hello.I want to talk to you about my story and hope you can give me some pointers.My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We met on a graduation trip and we hit it off.In the first two months of our meeting, we have been playing around. He is very considerate and takes special care of me along the way. He is quite humorous, likes movies, and can play the piano and sing.At that time, there were several other friends in the same company, and everyone liked him very much.After the trip, we went back to Beijing together and lived together.I quickly found a job and commuted from [-] to [-] every day.He also found a job, but resigned within two days because he thought the boss was stupid.Then for about a month or two, he didn't go to interviews much, and stayed at home every day to play games and watch movies.

I could see that he was very anxious, but I quarreled with him because of this issue, saying that I really couldn't stand a man who was doing nothing all day long, and felt very worthless.This sentence hurt him a bit, and he didn't say anything more, so he desperately submitted his resume and looked for a job.But each time, it didn't take long before he resigned for various reasons.In fact, he is quite talented, but he is particularly idealistic and a little arrogant. Once there is something that disdains him at work, or his colleagues and leaders have some behaviors that he cannot accept, he will resign and quit.Until now, he is still in the state of looking for a job.

In fact, I can understand his behavior, but I still feel very uncomfortable, thinking that he is so unreliable.Especially this year, almost all the living expenses are borne by me alone, and I feel so tired.It would be fine if he was Li An, but he is not.Many times I really want to give up this relationship, but I feel that it is not easy for two people who like each other and can chat together, to get together, and besides work, he is very good in other aspects.So I am very contradictory, feeling that I am trapped in a fog, and I don't know how to take the road ahead.

Lu Xiaopang's reply
A colleague said that many people in the background wrote to ask how to find a boyfriend or husband who may be a "potential stock".However, "potential stocks" are simply an afterthought.Look at Ang Lee, it was only after he filmed Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon and won the Oscar that he was told how strong and calm he needed to be in dormancy for six years, and how far-sighted his wife was and how willing he was to accomplish this. "Potential stocks".

It can be seen that Ang Lee's stories were praised only after he became Ang Lee.Therefore, the so-called "potential" and "potential" will only be recognized after "potential stocks" become "strength stocks", otherwise, they are at best weird traits.The world is so snobbish, and we are so snobbish.

Of course, if you buy stocks, buy a house, or invest in jewelry, you must look for those that have development and appreciation.However, even if you have learned all kinds of knowledge and consulted many experts, the probability of winning and losing is still hard to say.How about looking for a boyfriend or a husband?The legendary "potential stocks" are simply a fantasy.However, every woman still hopes to find her "potential stock".In this world, there is only one woman who does not need and does not allow her husband to be a "potential stock", and that is Queen Elizabeth II of England.

I watched the ten episodes of the first season of The Crown during a business trip in the past two days.I just discovered that the Queen of England is really awesome. Behind her forbearance and obedience in her life, she really lived quietly, according to her own wishes, and very willfully.Of course, she was willful only once, but it was enough to last her whole life.

At the beginning, the British royal family and the government opposed her marrying Philip, because he had nothing but tall, handsome, and empty titles.The royal family of his homeland had been overthrown long ago, and he himself escaped in an orange container ship.However, Elizabeth is obsessed with him and wants to marry him.As a result, she got married.The queen loves Philip, that's for sure, absolutely love.Of course, Philip loves the Queen too, but probably not in love, at least not quite in love.

However, this is not the focus of today.The point is, as the queen's husband, you will always be one step behind her, you will kneel to her at the enthronement ceremony, you will give up your surname to follow her surname, and you will give up yourself.Therefore, to be the queen's husband, even if you are a potential stock, you have to suppress your potential.Therefore, the Queen's marriage, over the past 60 years, must have had a time of undercurrents, but the two of them can enjoy each other to this day.

The queen's example is too extreme and individual, and I can't even draw conclusions from it, but I seem to have concluded something from it: When you don't ask for potential, but only for companionship, you will get what you want.At this stage, I still feel that if I meet a talented person, I will love him because of his talent, not because his talent makes him possible to become a "potential stock".In other words, you are really talented, but underappreciated, and I don't mind being that bread winner (the breadwinner).

(End of this chapter)