Chance encounter

Chapter 13 Love is a battle between two people (3)
Well, I was just talking in my sleep.In real life, there are not so many Ang Lee, but more Lisa's boyfriend who works in a nightclub, and Xiaomeng's boyfriend who is basically a "little princess who can't stand being wronged". What should Lisa do, what should Xiaomeng do?Let me talk about Lisa first.Working in a nightclub is indeed a clean job, but the problem is, working in a nightclub is not a career, is it?Do it, nothing; don't do it, nothing.So what if you don't do it?However, the vigorous struggle on this issue can only show one thing, that is, the relationship between the two of you does not seem to be that deep.As for Xiaomeng, I don’t need to persuade you. It will be a matter of time before you two break up. Different personalities are not a problem, but different views are a big taboo.

Girls, potential stocks are not often found, and they are not so easy to find. If there is time, it is better to turn yourself into a potential stock first.We can only encourage ourselves in this way.

What will happen tomorrow, who knows?
Today, if you like "Ang Lee", you can be his "Lin Huijia".Back then, Lin Huijia made money alone to support her family, not because she thought Ang Lee was a potential stock, but because she loved Ang Lee and her family.

What is it like to have a handsome boyfriend who makes you flustered?
People are selfish, this is human nature, not terrible, what is terrible is the double standard for yourself and others.

Fat but not greasy letters
Fatty, my question is a bit silly, don't joke.My boyfriend is so handsome, not tall, but he has a strong aura, and he is usually watched by people on the road without packing up.

I was quite confident at first, but after being with him, I responded to that sentence: I feel that I am not good enough anywhere.Totally insecure.I admit that I have a bit of an "appearance association", who doesn't like the opposite sex with good looks, right?
Back to business.People can be tall, short, fat, or thin, so a person's appearance must also be of different grades.I also asked him why he didn't find a better-looking girl, and he always replied that he couldn't find a suitable one. (I can't tell if this is a joke or serious, dude.)
Recently, a close friend suddenly said, you see other couples are the cutest in height difference, but he and I are the cutest in appearance.I knew she was joking, but there was still a thump in my heart, as if the seeds of inferiority that had been buried all along had sprouted.Now I am getting more and more flustered, the weather is getting warmer, and it is time to expose my flesh again. My chubby body stands next to his tall and straight figure. When I look in the mirror, I feel disharmonious (manually sad).

I lost weight, and the more I lost, the more fat I got. He saw me starved with starvation and advised me to give up.Makeup and so on, how to put it, the foundation is there.Buying clothes from Taobao, he is a walking hanger, and I am a typical buyer show, and I cried too much.

The reason why I wrote this letter to Xiaopang is because his parents may come to play during the May Day holiday, and if they come, they will meet each other. I am so nervous that I am dying.There has never been a shortage of active suitors around him, from elementary school to university.And I may be the most ordinary one among them, just think about it, I don't even want to see his parents.

Fatty, is there a problem with my mentality, or the reality is to find a good-looking match.Looking back, it seems that there are more good women with ugly men, and there are not many good men with ugly women... Am I hopeless...

Letter from Grady

Hello Xiaopang, I have encountered a hurdle in my love, and I have been struggling for a long time without knowing how to advance or retreat. I hope to hear your opinion.

My girlfriend and I are college classmates. We have been in love for three years since our sophomore year. Our relationship is very stable, our personalities are relatively gentle, and we rarely make noise like other couples.I used to be a bit wild and a little unconstrained, but she taught me the attitude a boy should have.She is a very caring girl and very accommodating.

However, she concealed some of her family situation from me.

We graduated together last year, and I went back to Urumqi to work, and my family has a property for me to manage.I am an only child, and my father is eager to develop my independence.My girlfriend's family is in Sichuan. She originally said that there are two older brothers in the family, both of whom have graduated and worked. I didn't doubt it.It was agreed that both parents would meet first after graduation, and she would move to Urumqi to live with me after the engagement.But at the last moment before the parents met, she told me frankly that there are actually four older brothers in the family, only the eldest brother went to a technical school, the other two started working early, and the youngest brother was paralyzed all year round due to a serious illness. Heaviest overhead.

It's hard to describe how I felt when I heard this information.There is resentment, the anger of being cheated, and more doubts about the honesty and relationship between two people.It is impossible to say that I am not at all repulsed by her family's financial burden.In the past, she passed on a well-off family background, but the actual situation is poor, which made me angry and anxious.Love does not involve two families, I love her and I can take her away or share her burden, but marriage is the union of two families.My parents heard the real situation and were very repulsed to meet her parents, and even blamed my girlfriend, thinking that she had ulterior motives and that I was cheated in this relationship.

She said she didn't do it on purpose, but she was too inferior when they first got together.I can understand her, but, how to put it, it's hard to accept it as nothing.

I feel that the emotional rift between me and her already exists, and I don't know if it can be repaired, let alone how to repair it.The relationship of three years is not something that can be given up just by giving up.I can feel her love for me, and I don't want to part with her, but there are too many factors that I can't control at present.My parents refused to continue the engagement.In all fairness, this is directly related to the flow of family property after all, I can't completely leave my family, can she leave?Fatty, what should I do with her?
Lu Xiaopang's reply
Today I have two questions: [-]. How handsome is a boyfriend who is fat but not greasy; [-]. How rich is Grady's family?

Really, fat but not greasy, how handsome is your boyfriend?No photos either.

I don’t believe in other people’s judgments anymore. For example, I am almost disappointed once I eat a restaurant that everyone says is delicious; Confused, don't know if I have a problem or if I saw a fake comment?So, I can only be cautiously skeptical about your boyfriend being so handsome that you worry about losing him.

Besides, is it that important whether you are handsome or not?It doesn't matter to me anyway, really.Believe it or not.Ever since I was a child, I have never had a crush, unrequited love, or overt love for any handsome guy.Just now I carefully reviewed my lackluster history and confirmed that I have indeed never dated or been infatuated with handsome guys in the traditional sense.

Handsome, does not constitute attractive to me, it is only added value is an elective course, can not affect the main theme.Talent, sense of humor, responsibility, vision, etc., have a huge lethality to me.Wait a minute, those words just now came from the bottom of my heart, but I'm afraid you will think it's fake when I say it like this.I just think, no matter how handsome or beautiful, I will get used to it after watching too much.Of course, there is also a possibility, that is, no handsome guy has ever chased me.In fact, a man who has no other advantages besides being handsome is not scary at all.It is more difficult to deal with an attractive man who is handsome and has one or two qualities I mentioned above.Of course, no matter which type your boyfriend belongs to, he may be missed by girls outside who don't know how deep he is. If you are not afraid of thieves, you are afraid of thieves, so I understand your sense of crisis.

But what can I do?Love, you can only open the door, come and go freely.Otherwise what can you do?Always Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. (Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.) That's all.As for whether to lose weight or not, this should be something you do for yourself, not for anyone else.

Take ten thousand steps back, your boyfriend really let you down because he is too handsome, you can only comfort yourself like this - sooner or later in life, you will be sad, and it is better to be hurt by a handsome one than by an ugly one Bar.

Then talk about Grady's letter. Grady, when I read the first 90.00% of your letter, I stood firmly on your side.I think lying is a very stupid thing. One lie needs countless lies to be fulfilled. People with insufficient IQ should never try it.

I don't like your girlfriend who is not smart enough but cautious.But your last sentence annoyed me again, you said: "After all, this is directly related to the flow of family property." As for what, how big is your family business? If I were your girlfriend, I would hear this , I hated you before you hated me.But then again, you two are quite a match. Two people who love each other—that’s what you said—are still scheming against each other.People are selfish, this is human nature, not terrible, what is terrible is the double standard for yourself and others.

Grady, I am not optimistic about you. How can a person who is not independent, has no right to speak, and cannot control his own life control his own love?Or, love is not important to you, and it is your dream to hand over the family property smoothly to your hands, so you have to ask yourself, what do you want?
Those men who show their affection in front of others
If I have to face such lies during my relationship, I can't imagine living with such a person in the future.There are people and things that you just can't win no matter how hard you try.

long letter

Hello, sister Luyu, my name is Manman, I am a kindergarten teacher, and my boyfriend and I have been in love for more than a year.My boyfriend and I traveled in Japan during the November holiday this year and had a great time. We took a lot of beautiful selfies at the scenic spots.In fact, I think posting selfies of couples in Moments to show their love is a bit of a "dog abuse" suspicion, but my boyfriend took the initiative to post all kinds of selfies of us to his Moments, and said: "I went to Japan with my wife! Happiness and consummation National Day holiday!" Seeing my boyfriend love me so much, my heart is also sweet.

This is our first trip abroad, and my boyfriend is very careful.When Longyin was eating, he took the initiative to help me mix the food, and my mouth was burned, and he angrily scolded the fried pork chops "why is it so hot" to make me happy.In the duty-free shop, I also helped my parents buy a smart toilet seat that is popular in China.

In fact, the boyfriend is a man with a very sweet mouth.During the more than a year we were together, he kept calling me "baby" in public, and everyone envied us for our talent and beauty.But the taste, only I know.

No matter how much he promises, he rarely delivers.Sometimes I even feel as if he has no intention of marrying me.His family is engaged in real estate development in a third-tier city, and he is the only son in the family.It is said that getting married did not cause him much financial pressure, but every time I asked him when he could "explain" to me, he would just say that he wanted to make money first, and then give me a great dream wedding. .In short, the promise is very good, saying the best must be patient and so on.I'm at a loss for words, and I can't help but become suspicious after more times.

It was something else that sparked my anger.A few days ago, I inadvertently (well, I admit that I flipped through his mobile phone on purpose) clicked on his Moments list, and found that he was chatting with a girl younger than me, and wanted to ask her out to play, It's really boring to talk to the same person every day.I looked at the time, it was the holidays for these few days.I didn't give up and clicked on his group again, only to find that he had divided into a group called "Reassurance", which basically consisted of my parents, my friends and me.Meaning, all the shows of affection are just for me and my circle to "show" on purpose?

It's so desperate, why does he show that he loves me so much, but wants to hook up with others, what kind of psychology is this? We are going back to China on the 17th, how should I face the rest of the journey and a hypocritical lover!

Lu Xiaopang's reply
Hello Manman, I am waiting at the airport to fly back to Beijing. The long vacation is over.I'm sorry, because at the airport, there may be an announcement in a while, and the background will be chaotic.

After reading the letter you sent me, my first reaction was that I hate the most people in my life, those who eat what is in the bowl and look at the pot, and are merciful everywhere inside and outside the house. I hate such wretchedness. male.Actually, I don't know your boyfriend that well, but why do I feel that I have seen the potential of a wretched man?
Let me ask you a question first. You love him very much. If you are not with him, without him, and unable to marry him, will you not be able to live and feel miserable?If it is, then you bear it and pretend that nothing happened, you have to rub the sand in your eyes.If not, please confront him.If I were you, with my temper, I would ask him directly, we have been in a relationship for more than a year, now we are living a sweet two world, we are on vacation, you have this kind of disagreement with someone else Unclear WeChat, what does it mean?I can face the bleak life directly. I always remember Mr. Lu Xun’s words very clearly: "A true warrior dares to face the bleak life." No matter how cruel the real thing is, if you tell me, I can accept it.But I hate people lying to me, I am stupid if I lie to me once, I can't lie to me twice.So I am you, I will ask him and listen to his explanation.

But one thing you must understand is that everyone has his own way and habit of dealing with others.This habit is hard to break.Forgive me for being a little dark inside.But if a person makes a mistake, he is very likely to make the same mistake in the future.So in the future, maybe you get married as you wish, and maybe after a year or two, you will find that he still has such an ambiguous relationship with others. Are you willing to take this risk?It's possible, I'm not scaring you.

The holidays are over, and it's time for the two of you to face real life together.If I have to face such lies during my relationship, I can't imagine living with such a person in the future.Anyway, don't even think about getting married, even if he wants to, you can't marry him. You haven't figured out what kind of person he is.Maybe in the future you will understand that there are some people and some things that you cannot win no matter how hard you try.After finally passing the long holiday, everyone is in a good mood, but your long holiday will be a bit disturbing, right?It's okay, it doesn't matter if it is blocked for a few days, as long as it is not blocked for a lifetime.

The love of three people is too crowded
Love is a battle between two people, you have to find an evenly matched opponent, someone who, like you, respects and abides by the same rules of the game.Otherwise, if you win, you won't be able to win; if you lose, you will only suffer from being dumb.

letters from readers
Hello Luyu, calling you Miss Luyu I feel a bit blunt and kind.I like your program very much, I like your conversation, kind and natural, simple and generous, it is one of my favorite hosts.

I am sending you this email because I have some emotional distress. I want to talk to you, and I hope you can give me some different opinions.

Here's the thing, I'm 25 and in love with a guy who's 24 years older than me.It didn't take long for us to have a relationship, and then we started dating.

He is from Hong Kong and grew up in England.When we met, he said that he also had a 37-year-old girlfriend.Maybe some people don't understand why I want to be with someone with such a big age gap?Why does he have a girlfriend, and I am still willing to do this?But about feelings, I don't think anyone can tell clearly.

My problem now is that I'm not sure if he's serious about me.

We usually meet at a fixed hotel, and we don’t have many phone calls. Every time he calls, he can hardly receive or reply to me immediately.After talking about him, he would take the initiative to call me, but he also simply greeted me. He said that he is not a person who likes to express.

It seems that most of the calls to me were when we were driving with him outside. He said he was busy, and my friends all said that he might have been cheating on me from the beginning.We have only been together for four or five months. When we are together, he almost never disconnects from the phone, and he often answers emails with his laptop.

(End of this chapter)