Chance encounter

Chapter 15 Love is a battle between two people (5)
Letter from Cassie

Sister Luyu, hello!I'm Cassie and a big fan of yours.Let me talk about my difficulties first.

My boyfriend is ten years older than me, divorced, and has a son.I am 25 years old and a little over a year out of college.My family members knew that we were in love, opposed us being together, and used various methods to treat me: crying, making noise, and hurting me verbally.

Because of love, I really can't let go of my boyfriend, but I can't bear my family to be sad for me. Now I'm in a really painful life, and I don't know what to do.My boyfriend is ten years older than me, but he looks like he is 27 or [-] years old, everyone says so.The point is that we really love each other and don't want to give up on each other.Sister Luyu, how can I convince my family?
Letter from Ye Lin

Sister Luyu, hello.I've been holding back an emotional distress for a long time, and I'm really not sure.

I met my first love when I was a freshman. He was a senior in the same major. He was very reliable and cared for me meticulously.We are in different campuses. When we were in love, he told me to have breakfast every day, and he booked me a train ticket home every holiday. In winter, he came to fill my thermos bottle with hot water every night and send it downstairs to the dormitory. .Later, he graduated first and started working, and we started a two-year long-distance relationship.During that time, we went to each other's home and met our parents. The parents of both sides meant that I could consider getting married after I graduated.

I was really looking forward to the future!
But the long-distance relationship continues to be talked about, but there are fewer and fewer people to talk about.His work didn't interest me, and the things in my life didn't resonate with him.Gradually, I don't want to answer his phone, because I really have nothing to say!Last year, I graduated.When the two met, they were so strange, and it felt unnatural for him to hold my hand.Thinking of the employment pressure I will face, the long-distance relationship that is likely to continue in the future, and the marriage expectations of both parents, I am both annoyed and afraid!
Finally, I made it, pretending not to see his pain, and broke up with him.However, in the year since the breakup, I really, really miss him more and more.I can no longer love others.I know he is the kind of character who never turns back, but I really regret it, and I want to chase him back.I tried my best to contact him, until one day, a friend of mine told me that he had a girlfriend.

I forgot how I felt when I heard the news.Sister Lu Yu, in this case, should I still try to save him?
Lu Xiaopang's reply
Dou Sen and Taylor Swift broke up. Everyone seems to be looking forward to this day, with a look of joy.I just feel a pity for Dou Sen, who has a nice voice, charming appearance, and long legs.

I'm not his fan, and I also booed with a bunch of girlfriends that I'm obsessed with him.Such a tall person, because of the three-month high-profile relationship with Taylor Swift, suddenly became boring, mysterious, lacklustre, sexy, and advanced.Then there was the news that Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt had broken up, which I really didn't expect.

If show business is looking for a relatively stable, happy marriage, I've always thought it was the two of them -- and only the two of them.Because they were in love - well, were in love.

There is really chemistry between them, and they are a good match in appearance, evenly matched, and they have always made progress together.I can't imagine anyone better suited to each other than these two.To put it bluntly, I can't imagine anyone more worthy of each other than the two of them.

But they also broke up.Who knows why?But in the final analysis, all kinds of reasons are that the emotions that support everything and make everything logical are gone and not enough.

After Dou Sen leaves Taylor Swift, he has a great chance of finding a more reliable long-term happiness.As for Taylor Swift, she will always be in love, but it is hard to say whether she will be happy, because she is too young and too creative.As for Angelina and Brad Pitt, I'm not particularly optimistic about the possibility of them leaving each other and having a normal family life, because they are already almost standing on the top of the mountain.

There are not many people at the top of the mountain. Of course, looking down the mountain is also an option, but it is by no means the best choice.It's not snobbery, it's the reality.

Last night in one of my girlfriends group, some girlfriends booed and said that Pete is good, let me rush.Then the other quickly said that it was not good, and there were six children!

I was happy then.This is how people grow up. Even when they are joking, they cannot escape the calm and rational analysis, but I have accepted it.Such is life, take away our romance, innocence and recklessness little by little.So far last night, no one has mentioned Brad Pitt's ex-girlfriend Jennifer Aniston.She's also married, but I never thought she loved her husband Justin Theroux deeply.

I talked about these two recent entertainment news to convey the following information: First, there are absolutely secular conditions and standards in emotions, such as money, status, and so on.When love exists, these conditions are all hidden from sight.Once the love fades, they will come to determine the life and death of a relationship and marriage.

Another point - love, don't force it.If you love someone deeply, don't fight, grab, or beg with others, and let go when it's time to let go.This is definitely not high-spirited, but if you look around, more and more marriages and relationships inevitably have deadlines, so you might as well let it run its course and just wait patiently.

For example, Jennifer Aniston, who can say that her marriage must be stable?Who's to say her and Brad Pitt's lives won't cross paths in the future?
I say this to Ye Lin, who is worrying about whether to get back her first love, and to Cassie, who is worrying about whether to love a single father who is ten years older than herself.I hope you can understand: Ye Lin, you must not force it, because you can't ask for it.However, you might as well wait patiently for a while.As for Cassie, if you love now, you can continue to love, but don't rush to get married, and then see if your love can resist those worldly and real standards. The key is to see how long it can resist.

Just like Li Jian sang in a song: "If I can't accompany you to the end, do you regret that we held hands at the beginning. If I can accompany you to the end, do you forgive me for letting go of my hand?"

I want to say to Ye Lin, to Cassie, to everyone: Maybe love is really short and has a time limit, and it is because it is short and has a time limit that it is so precious when it exists.

Therefore, everyone still believes and looks forward to love.

Friendship and love that cannot stand the test, let it fend for itself
In life, each of us and good friends and close friends should take turns to be the protagonist and supporting role. When you are the protagonist, I will play the role, and when I am the master, you will play the role. This is friendship!
Letter from Niu Niu

Hello, sister Lu Yu, I am a Taurus girl, shy and introverted, and I have only been in love once.I have a good friend, she is a lion girl, lively and cheerful, both boys and girls like her very much.She can also be regarded as a little master in the field of love, and there are always boys around her.We have known each other for many years and have been best friends since our school days.

Some time ago, we met a boy at a party. He was clean, warm, and smiled like the sun. I was always shy and not good at chatting, but this boy had a lot of common interests with me. We chatted very happily. I think, I fell in love with him, it seems, is the legendary love at first sight.

After that meeting, the boy and I exchanged wechat messages, and during this time, we often chatted.Two days ago, I asked my best friend of the lion girl to have dinner. I wanted to muster up the courage to tell my best friend that I fell in love with that boy and ask her to help me, but when my best friend opened my mouth, I swallowed my words back.

It turned out that the girlfriend also liked that boy very much, and she was about to act, with an excited look on her face.

We never fell in love with a boy at the same time, I was very disappointed, there are so many men around her, why did she just grab me?

This time, I want to ask her to give it to me, but I feel that love is not a commodity, so I can just let it go, and I am also worried that this time she is serious, and our friendship for many years will be destroyed because of this man.

For so many years, we have liked clothes, bags or other things at the same time, and I will definitely let her, but this is love, I don't want to let it go, but I don't know how to say it.

Sister Lu Yu, what should I do?

Lu Xiaopang's reply
Hello Niuniu, I have to worry about your friendship before worrying about your love.I have watched "Sleepless in Seattle" about a hundred times, or it may also be translated into "The Sky of Fate".

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