Chance encounter

Chapter 16 Love is a battle between two people (6)
This is one of my favorite movies, even though I have watched it countless times, I still cried last night watching it.Meg Ryan plays the heroine Annie. She has a close friend who was played by a former American hostess Rosie O'Donnell. She was older than Ellen DeGeneres (Ellen DeGeneres) is still on fire.

The combination of the two of them is a standard configuration in movies, that is, the heroine is responsible for being beautiful and cute, talking about love, and promoting the plot.Then there will be a good friend next to the heroine. This person looks ordinary, but has a sense of joy, especially popular with the audience, responsible for humor and fun, and then supports and loves the heroine wholeheartedly, never stealing the limelight.

I especially like this kind of "chick flick" - women's movies.And I believe that all female audiences, including me, always imagine themselves as the heroine when watching this kind of movie, and never imagine that I want to be that girlfriend. This is the psychology of every woman.

The problem is that it's a movie.In life, each of us and good friends and close friends should take turns to be the protagonist and supporting role. When you are the protagonist, I will play the role, and when I am the master, you will play the role. This is friendship!
So, instead of worrying about your love, I am actually more worried about your friendship now.

You are already doubting the friendship between you and the lion girl, because you are not willing to be just good friends forever instead of heroines.Of course, it is one thing to make clothes and bags, but it is another thing to make people.Moreover, for a woman, clothes and bags are also very important!My best friend and I always buy the same thing.Since everyone likes to use it, what does it matter, why let it go?Of course I understand that things can be shared, but people cannot.

The friendship between you and the Leo woman is very one-way, at least through what you described to me, you have always been giving and you are tolerating her, which has already made you complain.This time, if the warm boy incident is not dealt with, boys and best friends, you two may end up fighting!So, you guys need to talk as soon as possible.

I have said before about the standard principles of love, and I would like to emphasize again that there is no reason or standard for love, and even because human emotions are too complex and subtle, sometimes it is impossible to judge right from wrong.

However, there is one thing that cannot be touched no matter what, that is: the other half of a good friend must never be robbed!Please add four exclamation points after this sentence.

However, you and the Lioness just fall in love with a boy at the same time. It is not certain who the boy likes, so this is not to say that you are robbing someone's boyfriend.Then first you talk to the Leo girl, you have to tell her that you like this boy too.

First, I don’t think the lion girl likes this warm guy as much as you do; second, the lion girl may be wronged, she doesn’t know what you think at all, just like before when you gave up the bag and the clothes, you felt very wronged, especially Great and noble, but they may not know that they are stealing your love; third, the most important point, who is the boy's favorite is the key point, you two should be humble or fight for the first time, it depends on the other person in the end, so you have to be as soon as possible Have an open and honest chat.

I suggest that whoever likes that boy more, the other person will automatically quit, anyway, my girlfriend and I will definitely do the same.Because, of course, a good man is worth cherishing, but a good friendship is equally precious.

Another point, which is more important, is that the two of you have to keep your sense of proportion.Humility must also be reasonable and courteous, because good boys are indeed a scarce resource, and they cannot be used to make cheap for outsiders in vain.

Regardless of love or friendship, both parties need to pay equally.I believe in natural selection, survival of the fittest, and so is emotion.True love lasts forever, and all other friendships and loves that cannot stand the test, let them fend for themselves.

The moment I love you is the eternity between me and you
Everyone, from the moment they grow up, is an island.It is blood, friendship, love, common interests, careers, and even interests that connect the isolated islands so that lonely life has some meaning.

letters from tanks

Hi, Lu Xiaopang, I have a girlfriend who often disappears.We have been together for five years and live in Beijing.She is free—free in her career, free in her personality, doing whatever she wants.In the five years we have lived together, she has traveled on average almost every two months, sometimes for a week, sometimes for half a month, or for a day or two, such as going to Qinhuangdao to see the sea when she has nothing to do. , or go to Dalian to watch a game with her friends.For trips of more than a week, she would tell me in advance and ask if I would like to go with me, but I am not a freelancer, I have to work from [-] to [-], so she went to play by herself.

A few mornings ago, when I woke up, I saw that she wasn't there, and no one answered my phone calls or my WeChat messages. It wasn't until after six o'clock in the afternoon that she replied that she had just woken up.When asked where she was, she said she was in Beidaihe.Ask her why she went to Beidaihe?She said that because the neighbor's renovation was too noisy, she temporarily bought a train ticket and went to sleep in a small hotel by the sea.After waking up, she bought another train ticket and came back.I feel very insecure when she is like this, and I always feel that my girlfriend may disappear at any time.But she said that I thought too much, that she actually cared about me, but love was not ranked first in her world.But love is always the first in my world.I often feel that we are people from two worlds, and I feel that life has no hope.But I love her very much and want to have a future with her.Lu Xiaopang, do you think it is possible for two people like us to spend a lifetime together?
Lu Xiaopang's reply
Recently, I have been seriously introspecting myself.One of my many problems is taking things lightly.For work, it is a good thing, because it is serious.But in terms of life, that is a nightmare.I used to be confident about this: Of course I’m tired of living like this, but I only torture myself, I don’t torture others.

how can that be possible.

When an AB twin who is delicate, sensitive, poorly expressed, and lacks self-confidence—such as me—falls in love with someone, how can she not magnify every small expression, dialogue, plot, and more in her imagination in the emotional world? What about the many, unspoken subtexts, the tragedies and comedies of life that have not happened but are undercurrents, and will happen sooner or later?I think, I just keep abusing myself and abusing others without knowing it.

No wonder a friend of mine scolded me for almost an hour that day, and summed it up in one sentence: "You, there are too many inner dramas, and all your imagination and reality are completely different." I listened very carefully and looked at her. , I felt aggrieved, but I also felt enlightened, and my heart was a little at ease, because it was not too late.

In love, we all come from different countries and different worlds.Even if you are childhood sweethearts, childhood sweethearts, well-matched families, three outlooks, career, age, appearance, talent, character, wealth...all internal and external, secular and spiritual conditions are very compatible, you are still two independent individuals.And everyone, from the moment they grow up, is an island.It is blood, friendship, love, common interests, careers, and even interests that connect the isolated islands so that lonely life has some meaning.

Tank, your confusion and worry, as long as you are deeply in love, you will have it, and I have it too.What should I do if I fall in love with a fine horse, but I don't have a grassland that stretches as far as the eye can see?what can I do?I know that love does not change the other person, but my friend said that love must tolerate the other person.

We will always present the truest, but not necessarily the cutest, side of ourselves in front of your closest and favorite people.Only distance can create beauty. The question is, in love, do you want distance or beauty?In the face of love, I want to be warm, to depend on each other, to cherish, and to love each other's feelings.So, I don't want distance.So, I'm going to accept that a steed is constantly running and coming back where I might not be able to touch it.Worry, tension, uncertainty, and even pain during this process are the price of love.And I, willing to give, must accept.

I am willing to slowly turn my closed, narrow, and insecure glass heart into a fertile and broad grassland for love, and let the horse I love gallop in my heart. This will be the most beautiful picture.Falling in love will bring people happiness, fear, self-confidence, low self-esteem, etc., full of contradictions and extreme feelings, but this is the feeling of being alive.All the heartaches, heartbreaks, arguments, tears, reconciliations, hugs, are so precious.As Faye Wong sang:
我 愿意 为 你

I would like to forget my name for you
Even if I stay in your arms for one more second

It's not a pity to lose the world
Tank, I feel that you are in love, otherwise two people with such a big difference would not stay together for five years.In fact, nothing can guarantee eternity, maybe eternity does not exist.So what does it matter?In this moment of my love, this person in front of me is my forever.

Also, maybe you, like me, are also a dramatist with a lot of inner drama.I don't know what is forever, I only know that there is no turning back when I love.I fell in love with a fine horse, so I want to cultivate a grassland for him.

(End of this chapter)