Chance encounter

Chapter 22 God Blesses Those Who Love Bravely (2)
Of course Chu was confused and in pain. It has been five years, and this man has never expressed that we are together in this life.Five years later, the two broke up.After another year and a half, Chu learned from others that his ex-boyfriend got married and had a child.Chu collapsed and angry.

Chu’s experience made me firmly believe: 100. If you feel that love may turn bad, it will almost certainly end in tragedy; [-]. If you suspect that the other party does not love you enough, then he is [-]% not loving you enough.You can say that I am absolute, arbitrary, and cynical (pessimistic), but there are bloody facts in life one after another, without exception.

Lan Xin, you feel that the person you love is hot and cold, and seems to love his wife more, that's because—I don't know if he loves him or not—he really doesn't plan to divorce, and he doesn't want to leave you that much, you just Just one piece of the puzzle of his life.With you, the picture of the puzzle is complete and vivid, but without you, other details in the pattern can be as vivid.

You seem important, but in fact dispensable.The third party in almost all marriages and relationships is like this.

I don't discuss whether it is right or wrong to be a third party. This has reached the moral level. We only talk about whether it is possible, whether it is worthwhile, or whether it is difficult or not.

I don't think it's worth it because it's too difficult.If two people are unlucky enough to meet each other after marriage, then I'm sorry, please be reasonable, powerful, and restrained, deal with your own problems honestly, and then start the next page of your life together.Otherwise, three or four people get entangled, conceal and deceive each other, it's too boring and ugly.

If Prince Charles can divorce, if Brad Pitt (Brad Pitt) can leave Jennifer Aniston (Jennifer Aniston) for Angelina Jolie (Angelina Jolie), then you have to bear the humiliation and wait Someone who won't leave the family to love you less?

No matter what the reason, a person cannot get rid of the old life, at least it means that he is not so sure about the new life, and not being sure means not loving enough.So Lan Xin, you understand everything, so what is there to worry about?It's just not reconciled.

In addition, one more thing, people have double standards emotionally.Lan Xin, you said that your husband is having an affair, you can't forgive him, don't want to forgive him, but you also have an affair yourself?
Marriage is a contractual relationship, and you have both violated the contract, so you have to suffer and suffer some punishment, just admit it.

Love is so wronged, it doesn't matter if you don't love

In a good relationship, the person in love will bring us inexplicable confidence and courage, and let your happiness and smile bloom from the bottom of your heart to your face.And the so-called emotions that bring us endless tears and darkness are not worth mentioning.

letter from bag

Sister Lu Yu, I started talking about a relationship that I thought was a failure since college.In five years, at first I liked him, but he didn't like me; then I fell in love with him, but he still didn't like me; then my love for him started to decrease, but he started to like me, and he began to know how to cherish me; finally , When I completely gave up this relationship, he came back to me again.I declined, thinking I was fine, but still sad.This relationship has been consuming my self-confidence, making me feel that I have nothing to do with happiness, and my temper has become irritable, I don't want to get close to my friends, and I cry a lot from time to time.I don't know when I will be able to live like a normal person again.

Talking about a love that can never be synchronized is really tiring and tiring.But there are always friends around me who say that love is difficult to synchronize.Two people who love each other no matter how much they love each other, there will always be a difference between loving and loving more, and there will always be one party at a disadvantage.They told me to be more patient and persevering in my relationship, so that I would wait for the spring to bloom.But Sister Luyu, I really don’t understand, the love I want is that you love me when I love you, is it really difficult?They told me that now I don't know whether I should persevere or give up in the face of a love that can never be synchronized.

letter from scavengers

Hello, Fatty!I am a scavenger. In May, I met a little brother. When I first added his contact information, I didn't like him, but I just thought he was very powerful.Later, I found that I liked him more and more, and did some things that I didn't dare to think about before.But the more I learned, the more I found that the gap between myself and my little brother was getting bigger and bigger.I am an extremely ordinary girl with an average family background and boring people. Although I am young, I have no vitality.As for the little brother, he will do what he likes to do while he is young. He is energetic and passionate. I feel that I am not the same person as him in any aspect.I often feel inferior.

Fatty, I am not a person who is good at words, sometimes I would rather write, read, or listen to songs in a corner alone.But after meeting my little brother, I often thought, how great it would be if I were an interesting person!I don't know if an ordinary girl like me, who has been inconspicuous since she was a child, should fantasize unrealistically about someone who doesn't belong to her own world and is much better than herself?

Lu Xiaopang's reply
I love TA, TA doesn't love me, but I still love TA.Such self-abuse episodes happen every day.The question is how long can unrequited love last?In the name of love, how much grievance and pain can we suffer?And the end of grievance and pain must be the end of suffering? No, the end of the tear collapse is only exhaustion and numbness.

Love is the same as talent, it seems to be born effortlessly for those who have it, but if you don't have it, you don't have it.Love, like talent, only fades away, not deepens.

Baobao, you think he came back to you because he likes you and cherishes you, of course he likes you a little bit, just a little bit.In his perfect little world, you are his familiar and reassuring piece of the puzzle, but he doesn't care, is unimportant, but is missing and incomplete.He needs you to be there all the time, not to make noise, to be patient and persistent, to love him stubbornly.

This kind of character plot design will be scolded as stupid in TV dramas, but it will be interpreted as a deep love when it comes back to life.No one lied to us, we were fooled by our own wishful love.In fact, in the end, we are not reluctant to part with each other, but our own love and time.So don't look back.Five years is too long, a bad unrequited love can destroy a person's desire for life, life without love is just plain, and life without appetite is hell.

Baobao, he doesn't love you, and he won't fall in love with you as you hoped, so forget it, turn the page, move on, and continue to find someone who loves you.Believe me, there is a time gap between turning the page in reality and turning the page psychologically, so be patient and stick to it for another half a year.

The letter of picking up waste also made me feel a little bit emotional. I told you that I am a person who is not confident enough (sometimes extremely not confident), but when I am in love, I will be jealous and worry, but I never feel that I am not good enough.When I am in love, my steps are brisk and my spirit is high. My inferiority complex and insecurity will completely disappear. I feel that I am beautiful and cute enough, so I should be deeply loved.

In a good relationship, the person in love will bring us inexplicable confidence and courage, and let your happiness and smile bloom from the bottom of your heart to your face.And the so-called emotions that bring us endless tears and darkness are not worth mentioning.

Don't frown, I'll just go

Some people are lucky, life is a wonderful drama.Some people are miserable, and they act in tragedies, farces, and small, low-level productions that no one pays attention to.But whatever it is, all life is not a one-man show, not a one-act play.

Laughing letter

Hello sister Luyu, I am smiling.

One day when I was in college, I went to the library to read and came across your "Heart Meet" by chance. I think you have a kind of magical power.The big cup of hot black coffee you described is delicious, and the morning you described for ten years is so good that people can't help but try it.I bought yogurt, milk, and raisins on purpose, and more importantly, the news reports you described were exciting, so I also made news.

Also one day in college, I fell in love with a boy, and this love lasted for seven years.For a long time, the boy didn't like me, and I did a lot of things to keep him in my favor.The boy's family background is average. In order not to burden him, I handle our relationship carefully.Gradually, I felt his heart warmed up.Some time ago, I met him for a trip.While shopping, he stole a pair of earrings and a hat from the store without my knowledge, and was caught on the spot when he left the store.After he paid the fine, I used what I had learned all my life to make the atmosphere not awkward.

When he was parting, he told me about my parents divorced when I was a child... Sister Lu Yu, I can't get over the hurdles in my heart.Aries has a clear distinction between likes and hates, and can't handle things smoothly.I'm so sad that the person I've liked for seven years has a problem with his character, and I even started to doubt myself.Later, I saw another account of his Weibo, and a certain feeling told me that he was gay.

Sister, I'm so sad, but I can't forget it, and I don't know how to let go.What should I do?I'd love to hear your thoughts.

Lu Xiaopang's reply
Last weekend, I was very literary and artistic. I had a severe cold, and I went to watch the drama Coriolanus, which was broadcast live from London and starred in Dou Sen.

Rather than saying that I am Wenqing, it is better to say that I am a bit of a nymphomaniac. If it weren't for Shusen, I don't think I would have struggled to get up from the bed with my nose and tears.

Well, last week I just said that handsome is not lethal to me, and now I slap myself in the face.But what I mean is, I really don't like a guy who has nothing but handsomeness.However, if the person is handsome, has long legs, has a nice voice and can play Shakespeare, I think I will be tempted.

What kind of experience would it be to fall in love with someone like Dou Sen?

On stage, Dou Sen has deep eyes and slender legs.The female director is very aware of everyone's needs, and arranged for Dou Sen to take off her shirt and put on a nearly transparent robe. Anyway, for a moment, I almost lost my respect for British drama.

They are not only responsible for elegance, they also sell rot.

But Dou Sen is really beautiful, charming, and talented.Falling in love with such a person is happiness, but also a curse.The best friend next to me has been making all kinds of strange noises and jokingly protesting against the heroine who keeps kissing Dou Sen on the screen.

If your boyfriend is Dou Sen, this will be your normal life, you have to learn to share him with the world, you will always feel your own smallness and inadequacy, you will be vigilant, anxious, jealous, and worry about gains and losses.

My girlfriend, Lili, is in love with a very talented and attractive successful man.Lili's love is the most painful, tangled, and unimaginable that I have ever seen. Every time I see her, I understand what Zhang Ailing means by "low to the dust", but Lili still persists, because Love is unstoppable.

The husband of my other girlfriend, Phoebe, is not a bad person, but his history is not clean. As for Phoebe, she needs to be capable and good-looking. Her husband, at least, doesn't look so pleasing to the eye, but after crying and making troubles, Phoebe still chooses to stick to it, because the marriage is even more irresistible.

A so-called successful marriage mostly begins with an unstoppable love, and in the end, two people are firmly bound by an unstoppable life.

These are my emotions today.

Xiaoxiao wrote in a letter saying that she had been unrequitedly in love with a boy for seven years, and she never responded but never wavered. However, the long-term wishful thinking just had some beginnings, and the reality made her love a little bit broken.

The boy is petty theft, he may be gay, each of which is enough to become a deal breaker (the termination condition of this relationship).

This is neither strange nor a pity. These problems have always existed, but they were far away and could not be seen.

Smile, from the beginning to the end, your love is just your one-man show, what you can’t stop is your feelings, whether the boy is good or bad, gay or not, it’s not in your plot, he’s never yours, So there's no talk of giving up.

Some people are lucky, life is a wonderful drama.Some people are miserable, and they act in tragedies, farces, and small, low-level productions that no one pays attention to.But whatever it is, all life is not a one-man show, not a one-act play.

With such a curious and stubborn mood, I am waiting to see what will happen in the next scene and the next scene.

Smile, you should do the same, while turning the page, waiting for your next scene.

What is it that makes your love come to an end?
I am basically pessimistic about the direction of marriage, but the beginning of marriage must be mutual gratification and trust.Maybe in the future you will fall in love with someone else, but at least for now you love me with all your heart and that's enough.

letter from little potato
Lu Xiaopang, I am 22 years old, and I am a senior at the beginning of school.The boyfriend is an international student in our school, from Africa.We have been together for ten months, and we can't communicate in each other's native language. We usually communicate in English.Although because of cultural differences and different lifestyles, sometimes we can't understand each other, we will quarrel and get angry, but we will get back together within two days.He's the one who makes me smile when I think about my future life.

He is a Muslim, polygamy is allowed, they have a lot of regulations about marriage.He has to return to China after graduation and has already applied to the school.The thought of him leaving me in September makes me want to cry.My friends all say that Chinese men are not dead, why do you have to find an African.But I know I love him.I want to be like others, even if I am in a long-distance relationship, I still have to wait.But I knew in my heart that our chances of being together were slim, he would only go further after graduation, and there were too many things blocking us.Don't know what to do, do you want to try harder?Fatty, do you think it is possible for us to be together?

Lu Xiaopang's reply
Every time the background editor sends me a letter, he will add a title to each letter. The title of Xiaotuo's letter is "Is there a chance to be together if we have different beliefs?" I think Xiaotuo's question is particularly advanced.

The word faith is not in my everyday vocabulary at all.I have no religious beliefs, no political beliefs, and I don't know what is the driving force for a person like me who has no beliefs to keep me going.And a person with a clear belief (this belief is not against humanity), I sincerely envy.

However, belief and lifestyle are two different things.

I respect religion, but I don't necessarily agree with a certain way of life under the religion. "Disapproval" means: You live your life, I don't point fingers, but you don't affect me, sorry I can't obey.

Little Tudou, your relationship is really cool.African boyfriend, the first thing I think of is not the difference in religious language, but a simpler and more brutal fact: skin color.Fortunately, we are Chinese who communicate in Chinese, and we can discuss the topic of skin color calmly and rationally. If you were in Europe and the United States, you would think of skin color just because of Africa, which is already outrageous.Fortunately, we are not extreme, let alone racist, we are just ordinary people with all kinds of worries and fears.

Little Tudou, because you didn't mention the issue of skin color in your letter, so I'm not sure about your boyfriend's ethnicity and your attitude.Maybe you are more free, open, and unbiased, and don't care about these details at all; maybe your environment is particularly equal, fraternal, and universal, and you only respect every unique individual.

Even so, I still want to remind you that people are biased and society is not kind and equal.Now and in the future, as long as you are together, you, you, and your children are bound to bear more than us.However, the problem now is that you may not be able to reach the day when you have a future, and the impassable mountain lying between you is that way of life.

Marriage itself is an eternal problem. Few of them can handle one-to-one relationships well. If you make me a one-to-many relationship, I can't handle it at all technically.

(End of this chapter)