Chance encounter

Chapter 23 God Blesses Those Who Love Bravely (3)
There is no other way, you have to talk about these issues with your boyfriend.You just ask him straight to the point: Do you want to have a future with me?If you don't want to, bye bye.If you want, you can continue to ask, when you get married in the future, you can respect and accommodate him in other living habits, but can he promise and respect monogamy?

If possible, you can discuss the plan for the two of you to study and develop together after graduation.If he is ambiguous on the issue of monogamy, then dear little potato, bye bye now, really stop talking nonsense.

Many things don't count if they don't happen.But for some things, as long as there is one ten-thousandth uncertainty, I will take it as it has, definitely, and must have happened.

I am basically pessimistic about the direction of marriage, but the beginning of marriage must be mutual gratification and trust.Maybe in the future you will fall in love with someone else, but at least for now you love me with all your heart and that's enough.If I'd known from the beginning that I'd be sharing a person with several people in the future, this kind of thing, really, was beyond all my wildest imaginations.

Let me say it again, belief is not a problem, only the inherent thinking and way of life brought about by belief can become an emotional killer.So little potato, let's talk, how would you know if you don't talk?If the chat breaks down, it's better than when you go back to the days when you bound your feet.

There are no doors.

Can the other half who is in love with a friend poach the wall?

When you encounter darkness, your family may not be around, you may not have a lover, but your friends will always be there.

Letter from Lin Xuan

Simply put, she is my buddy's girlfriend, and my buddy and I are very, very good friends.

After graduation, the three of us worked in different cities.Dude's girlfriend got in touch with me last year.During that time, her work was not going well, so I said some words of concern. After that, I talked to her more often, but at that time I really didn't want to have anything else to do with her.But after coming and going, every time she took the initiative to send me a message and asked me to call her, the chat lasted for more than half an hour, so I had a good impression of her.

They quarreled once, and it was very loud and fierce, so they broke up.Then I took the initiative to accompany her and comfort her.Naturally, our relationship has grown closer.We often call, and every time it is her birthday, gifts will definitely be given.I work in Shanghai and she works in Wuxi. During this time, I went to Wuxi to meet her a few times, and she also came to Shanghai to play. We were very happy when we were together.

Year-end business is very busy, we have very few contacts, but I still have her in my heart.This week, my buddy suddenly sent me a WeChat message, saying: "What do you think of her?" I was shocked when I heard it.I said she was very nice, and I wondered why he would ask me suddenly, my heart pounding.He went on to say that this year he would bring her home for the New Year, meet her parents, and get engaged.

Although I know she must have concealed the fact that they are together again, but I still love her.But am I going to "poach my buddy's corner"?what should I do?
Lu Xiaopang's reply
I always say that when it comes to love, there is no right or wrong, only love or not love, I never do it myself, and I especially hate others to comment or question other people's love from a moral point of view.but!but!but!There is one thing you can’t do, even in the name of love, that is, the husband and boyfriend of your best friend, the wife and girlfriend of your buddies, you must never love, love here is a verb It's an action, you can love or like it in your heart, then you can hold it in your heart, and you must never put it into action, otherwise, I despise you.

Lin Xuan, you may think that what I just said is simple and rude, how can we control our hearts?Indeed, we can't control our hearts, but we can control our actions. I can tell you with absolute certainty that I won't like the other half of my best friend. Well, let's take a step back. I happen to like Yes, that's killing me, and I won't cross the threshold. It's not because of how noble I am, it's because I have a bottom line in my heart, and I will never cross this bottom line.

Please watch the British movie Love Actually ("True Love Actually") again.One of the episodes makes me cry every time I watch it.The best man fell in love with his buddy's bride. On Christmas Eve, he wrote down all his love words on paper and showed them to the girl one by one.Then, turn around and leave.The girl froze for a second, rushed out, caught up with him and kissed his lips.That kiss is their eternity.This is the most beautiful and sad ending when love and friendship collide, but it is extremely noble.

I will encounter many unsolvable problems in my life. I often confide and share with my girlfriends over and over again. Their company is very important to me.When you encounter darkness, your family may not be around, you may not have a lover, but your friends will always be there, so I will never do anything to betray or hurt friendship.

So, Lin Xuan, what I see now is a vague love and a very real friendship, no matter what has happened or not happened between you, let's stop here!
There are no unhappy marriages, only unhappy couples

Two people who once loved each other should try to activate their marriage with the sincerity and hard work when they were in love, because the deep love in the past is worthy of our wholehearted dedication and hard work again.

Letter from Elly

Hello Miss Luyu!I am a big fan of yours, and I agree with your view of love very much.Now I have a little problem with my life.My husband and I are postgraduate classmates. We have been in love for two years and got married as soon as we graduated. Now we have been married for three years and our child is over two years old.When we first got married, we had a very good relationship and basically didn't quarrel.We bought an off-plan house and lived with our parents on both sides after giving birth. During this period, we often quarreled because of different parenting ideas.Although we have a house and a car now, I feel that there is no love between us, and we have nothing to say when we are together.My husband is a very career-minded person. He is usually very busy at work and often has a bad temper when he comes home. He never cares about my feelings and is unwilling to communicate with me. Sometimes I really feel lost in our marriage. I am confident, but I have to continue for the sake of my child. What can I do to improve this situation?
Lu Xiaopang's reply
I'm writing back to Elly today.Let me tell you a celebrity gossip first, of course it is true, but who is the protagonist, I will not tell you even if I am killed.The story is very old-fashioned, and the plot is very simple. A female star marries into a wealthy family. The life after marriage looks beautiful to the outside world, but in fact, she knows her own ups and downs.The female star’s husband has various stories after marriage, so the female star has been depressed and painful. Her best friend advised her: did you marry him because you loved him, or because he was rich?In one sentence, calm, cruel, but to the point.

In marriage, we may not reap melons, but we often get what we want. Of course, good things and bad things are different.You want a sense of material security, you want the rest of your life without worrying about food and clothing, and you get it, so what else can you complain about?This is marriage.As for me, I don't know what I will become in the future, I don't know if I will compromise with life and accept my fate in the future, but at least now, I know that marriage, for me, started from love.So, one day my love is gone and my marriage has no reason to exist.

But Elly, from your words, what I feel is that when you decided to get married after two years of dating, love was only one of the small reasons, and there were other reasons, such as when you reached the age of marriage, you wanted to get married as soon as possible. You want a child, you want to have a stable life, you want to have your own life with a house and a car.But today, three years later, you say that love seems to be gone, so how should the marriage continue?Since three years ago, love was definitely not the only reason for you to get married, and I don't even think it was the most important reason, then you, three years later, can't hastily give up your marriage just because of love.

Love can be willful, because love is "I believe", but marriage is "I am willing", revealing forbearance, persistence, and of course hard work.Don't marry hastily, let alone divorce easily.People say that one day, love will die and become family.I actually still wholeheartedly resist that statement.However, if it is true, before love is obliterated by trivial life, we must always work hard and try to save it.I really hate to bind two people who don't love each other with responsibilities and obligations, etc., but I think that two people who once loved each other should try to activate their marriage with the sincerity and hard work when they were in love, because the affection once was worthy of us. Once again, I will devote myself wholeheartedly and hard. As for the ending, I can only resign myself to fate. I hope that God will favor those who are brave enough to love.

Girl, are you ready to get married?
I believe in love, and I also believe in marriage, but the premise is that marriage must be based on love. You have to love this person enough to be with him. If you don’t love, other conditions must not be the reason for you to join hands.

(End of this chapter)