Chance encounter

Chapter 24 God Blesses Those Who Love Bravely (4)
letter from so and so

At this age that is neither awkward nor embarrassing, I live in a muddle every day, and I don't know if there is love in my life.We are married for the sake of marriage.At that time, I was 25 and he was 29. Both parents were a little anxious.We met each other on a blind date, and registered after we had known each other for more than three months.Thinking about it now, I was also irresponsible to myself at that time. I felt that this man was honest and reliable, so I married in a daze.Although he is still honest and reliable now, family life has made me think of him differently.He married me for the sake of marriage, and he has no love for me, he just thinks that I am suitable to be his wife.He is the eldest son and grandson of the family, and has two younger sisters.Her mother loves the third son the most, and she has to make decisions about everything in the family, and has developed his son's bad habit of being hesitant and lacking in opinions.However, living with his mother made me feel bad all over.She regards her little daughter as a treasure, and me as grass, and wants me to treat her daughter as her daughter is a treasure.To be honest, I can't do it!This marriage, I don't know whether to continue or end.Is there really nothing to miss in a marriage without love?When problems arise, rely on love?
Lu Xiaopang's reply
Today's recording is a bit early, maybe my throat hasn't woken up yet.My friend, you didn't leave your name. I don't know what to call you. Anyway, I blame you now. I think you will make me a villain.Because we Chinese are not used to persuading others to separate, so I will talk about how I will do it now.

I really don't understand that a person doesn't get married because of love.Don't tell me that because this person is very honest and his family's financial conditions are very good, I will marry him.Enough love is the only criterion.Maybe one day love will change and love will become family affection, but at least you won't regret it because you love it enough.If this person has 20 today, you think he is very rich, but tomorrow you meet someone with 30 or [-]?If today you feel that this person has not lost his temper with me, he listens to me in everything, he has a good temper and is very honest, then tomorrow you will meet someone who is more easy-going than him?So your pain is not that his mother prefers that the third child is not so good to you, but that you don't love him, and this is the root of all pain.Because people’s tolerance is really strong. If you love this person enough, there are many ways to deal with it. You can try to move to another place, but the premise is whether you want to live with this person or not.Your problem now is that you are looking for all the reasons and excuses to convince yourself to leave this person and this family.

I haven't met you, so I don't know if your mother-in-law is so "evil" or if your husband is really as face-to-face as you said.But I believe in your judgment, you didn't marry him because of love, and now you are paying the price for your original decision.As for what you should do now, it's really difficult. You made a hasty decision at the beginning, and now you can't make another hasty decision.If you have children, please think about it for at least another year, because the impact of the dissolution of the marriage on the children is too great, too great.If you don't have kids, marriage is about the two of you, but you still have to give him and yourself some time.According to my opinion, there is no cheating, no domestic violence, or even too bad external performance in your marriage, it is just because you are unhappy in your heart and have no sense of happiness.If you can't face him, the two of you should separate for a while and think about what we want.Many times when you discuss the problem on the table, you will find that the person opposite you may not be as bad as you think.

So, dear friends, please forgive my daydreams, unrealistic, young mentality, princess disease, whatever you say, but I have to reiterate my point of view, I believe in love, and I believe in marriage, But this premise, marriage must be based on love, you have to love this person enough to be with him, if you don't love, other conditions must not be the reason for you to join hands.

Sanmao wrote in the book that Jose asked her once, what kind of person will you marry?Then Sanmao said, if you don't like it, millionaires will not marry, and if you don't like it, multi-millionaires will marry too.Then Jose said, after all, you want to marry a rich man.Then Sanmao said, if she marries you, it's enough to have enough food.

Of course, this is a literary creation, but it shows that you must have such a viewpoint and attitude in life.There can be only one standard in front of marriage, which is love.

Finally, I would like to say a few words to you. One sentence is a little bit of standing up and talking, and even a little gloating, that is, people can be self-willed in love, but not self-willed in marriage.Let me say another chicken soup style, never use one mistake to solve another mistake.I still hope you can be happy and happy.Believe me, your life is really not at a time when you can't go on.

How many unhappy marriages have started like this
Marriage itself is difficult enough, and it is enough to make people pessimistic. It is almost normal to start high and go low. Do you want to start so low?

Letter from Anxin

Hello Xiaopang, I'm Anxin.I'm in Changsha now, alone, just escaped from a two-year marriage.He should be looking for me.

He is the big brother I have known since I was a child. He had a girlfriend who we had been together for seven years. He has a very good relationship and the girl is also very nice. The two seem to be very suitable.But for some reason, the eldest brother's family has always disliked girls.They couldn't beat the family, and they broke up in June the year before last.

He and I had our wedding in October of the previous year—four months after he broke up, it was arranged by our families.He is very kind to me, he takes care of me when I am sick, takes good care of me when I am sick, does not quarrel with me when I am angry, and gives gifts on my birthday.Almost a perfect husband.

But, fat, as a woman, I can feel that he doesn't love me.He is just fulfilling the obligations of a husband like a relative, letting himself feel relieved, so that he won't make me feel unlucky.I've known him for so many years.

I love him, but he has never only regarded me as his sister.Leaving him is for his own good, I hope he is happy, I hope he can be with the woman he really loves.

I miss him so much, my mother said he was looking for me.I can't go back, we're not registered, he's not bound, he's free.But my mother said that he is very bad now.Fatty, I'm so sad, what can we do to make us all happy?
Lu Xiaopang's reply
I attended an international forum this morning and met Leung Kam-sung, the former Financial Secretary of Hong Kong.If you don't know who he is, let me introduce another way - he is the husband of Fu Mingxia, the senior sister of Olympic diving champion Guo Jingjing.Is there any benefit in saying that?
I saw their couple at Sammi Cheng's concert at Hong Kong Coliseum on the 25th of last month, and they were sitting in the row in front of me.Everyone was very excited at that concert. Most of the time they stood and listened, waving light sticks while listening, and Liang Jinsong did the same.

When listening to the song, he would occasionally put his arms around Fu Mingxia, and from the beginning to the end, the two of them leaned slightly towards each other.

I think language, words, and facial expressions can all lie, but I believe in the instinctive body language of people in a relaxed and natural state.I don't know what kind of love is between the two of them, I don't know how happy they are, those are too private, no one knows except the parties involved.But what I see and believe is that their marriage works.

Although there is a 26-year age difference, there are huge differences in experience, education, background, and growth environment. You can also question why they were together in the first place.However, after 14 years of marriage and three children, a couple can still have that kind of intimate, natural interaction in private, and I can only lament: some marriages just work.

This is my emotion today, and then, I read An Xin's letter.The first reaction is, have you watched too many Korean dramas?Followed by - sorry I say this - really full of serious dislikes for your husband.

He and his ex-girlfriend have been in love for seven years, and they broke up due to external pressure. After breaking up, he can marry you in just four months.He's either big-hearted, or cold-hearted—either way, if it were me, I wouldn't marry him anyway.

Why, marriage itself is difficult enough, enough to make people pessimistic, it is almost normal to start high and go low, should we just start so low?

Where are you?Want to be someone else's stand-in?

Your husband, he must not act like a good husband who does his best.The heart is not here, the soul is not here, just a person with a body, why do you want him?
Well, you say you love him, then I have nothing to say.Then please pretend to be deaf and dumb in your marriage, don't pick on others at home and outside your heart, and don't play missing.If you want to be together, you have to turn a blind eye.If you don't rub the sand in your eyes, you can only separate them cleanly and clearly.

It's useless in real life to endure hardships and endure humiliation.You leave, hide, and help others, which sounds high-spirited and upright, but in your heart you hope that he will come back to you crying and crying, saying that he loves you.

These routines, which exist in Korean dramas, are already excessive enough, and they really don't happen in life.

Even if he came to you, it was because of the reality of life, because even if you didn't get a certificate, you were a couple who had a wedding banquet and announced it to the world, and lived together for two years.So An Xin, using bitter tricks, is useless.

The beginning of your marriage seems strange to me.Since he doesn't love you and you know his motives, I don't understand why everyone is jumping into the fire pit together.I don't believe in getting married first and then falling in love.

An Xin, the cruelty of love lies in the fact that a person who loves you may stop loving you one day; while a person who does not love you is basically impossible to fall in love with you one day.And marriage, its terrible and precious thing is that, whether there is love or not, as long as you are willing, it is possible.

Love will set you on fire, but marriage is likely to bring warmth.When you can't have both, what do you want?After thinking about it, please go home and face everything.

(End of this chapter)