Chance encounter

Chapter 29 Topics (5)
What should you do in the future?I think it's just a temporary separation and wait and see what happens.You have to give yourself some time, half a year, a year, or longer, to see if you can live alone in the future, and if you can go back to the days you and he used to be like.Because you don't know if you can trust him again, if he will make the same mistake again, so give yourself some time.But you have to be mentally prepared, no matter what kind of decision you make, there will be no less pain, and in fact no one can help you.Just like me now, I can listen to your nagging, but in fact it is still irrelevant, only you grit your teeth and walk this road step by step.

Stefanie Sun has a song called "Certificate of Love". I have always believed and encouraged myself. As long as I can persevere, be brave enough, and always dare to give my sincerity, maybe one day I will get a certificate of love.

It's not a war of men and women, it's a war of you and fear

Never make the so-called correct decision in the encouragement and instigation of others.The right decision is the decision that allows your pain to fade away and allows you to regain the courage and confidence to live.

letter from snow white

My husband cheated on me.We have been together for seven years and have known each other for more than ten years. We have known each other since middle school.He is very talented and good-looking, and there are many girls around him, but he basically ignores them, and everyone says he is cool.He loves to chat with me very much. We both have many common interests and hobbies, and we always have endless things to talk about.I only got together with him after high school.For a long time after that, he only had eyes for me, was tired of me every day, and loved me very much.He can't cook, but he learned how to cook porridge for me when I was sick and hospitalized.Over the years, couples around me have separated, only we are still together and love each other unswervingly.Friends say they will always believe in love as long as the two of us stay together.

After college, we got married.Others say that a man will change as soon as he gets married, but I think his attitude towards me is the same as before, nothing has changed.It wasn't until the last two months that I felt a little weird.He got off work very late every day, and sometimes he didn’t come home until three or four in the morning. I asked him why he was so late, and he said that he was working overtime and that he was very tired, and then fell asleep.This state lasted for many days.I recalled it and found that the two of us hadn't talked for a long time.A few days ago, he drank too much and fell asleep as soon as he entered the door.In the middle of the night, his cell phone rang suddenly.Out of a strange hunch, I picked up his phone for the first time.Before that, because of trust, I never looked at his cell phone.I didn't know the password, so I tried to enter a few numbers and it was right in no time (it was an anniversary for both of us).After clicking on the message, I saw a message sent to him by a girl, the content was probably thanking him for appearing, being happy with him, loving him and so on.At that moment, to be honest, I was more shocked than sad.Even for a few minutes, I thought the girl sent the wrong person.

How could he cheat?I stayed up all night with my phone on.When he woke up the next day, I showed him the message, thinking he would argue, but he admitted right away, saying that he couldn’t resist the temptation, begging me to forgive him, saying that he loves me very much and cannot lose I.I got rid of him and temporarily moved to live with my best friend.I also love him very much, and I used to trust him very much, and I used to regard our love as a belief, but his derailment dealt a fatal blow to this belief, which made me have great doubts about his humanity.How could he cheat?Or do men cheat?I was very confused, thinking of the past time with him, I don't know if I should forgive him or not.

Lu Xiaopang's reply
Today I was pissed off by a man and moved by a woman.This man is a middle school classmate of my best friend, who later immigrated to the United States and has been working as a real estate agent in California.I met him once or twice in LA two years ago. His appearance was lacklustre. He was just a middle-aged Beijing brother who was fat but not completely out of shape. If he was my friend, I thought he was pleasing to the eye. If not, I don't think he's the kind who doesn't like it at all.Today, he posted photos of Wendi Deng and her boyfriend, Vera Wang and her boyfriend, and Li Bingbing and her boyfriend in his circle of friends, and said with emotion: "What's wrong with these boys now? There are groups of flower girls who can't find a partner and ignore them , everyone wants to be Li Chunping."

He swept a lot of people indiscriminately with one shot, and I became angry at once, and then I "teared" him.His classmate, my best friend, "teared" him even more violently, and then I blocked him.I like straight men, but I hate such self-righteous and inexplicably confident straight men with cancer. Who is used to such problems?Many people will say that men's problems are common to women. I am most afraid of becoming a woman who complains about men. I have been trying my best to avoid becoming such a cliche.

Besides, the woman who touched me is a friend who is not far or near.She is very beautiful, and married a handsome and successful husband, but her husband is playful, and there are many women outside (please note, even extramarital affairs are not considered, just simple and rude nonsense).In the past, my beautiful friends also put up with the nonsense. Recently, my husband has grown up and made a lot of money. I don’t bother to repeat the details. In short, it’s boring and ugly.The key is to push my beautiful friend into a dilemma, but she has to face it.Because friends, family and colleagues all knew about it, but no one dared to comfort her, so everyone kept an awkward and subtle silence in the group.Today, a beautiful friend finally broke the silence and spoke in the group. She said that she is very good, has a big heart, can eat and sleep, and can handle things at home well. She understands that everyone wants to care but dare not care about her.In a few words, I saw a small man and a big woman.

In the past two days, everyone has been discussing gossip about cheating, and Bai Xue also asked me in the letter.Luckily, I don't feel like I've been cheated on.Heh, the reason why I just say "I don't think so" is because I found that there may be many secrets in this world that we cannot understand, and there are many truths that we cannot bear.Sometimes, "don't know" may be the best solution, but there is no right to speak without experience, because assumptions are meaningless.What will I do if my husband or boyfriend is doing mischief outside?With my character, I think I will break up and divorce decisively, and let him go as far as he can.But I'm not sure if I can really be so decisive when things come to an end.

Maybe I still have feelings for scumbags, after all, no matter how scumbag people are, there are merits; maybe I am used to life with a family, and I am afraid of returning to a state of being alone; maybe I have children, and I dare not and cannot be alone. Upbringing; maybe a lot of big and small things in real life decide that I can't be arrogant; maybe I still choose to compromise in marriage; maybe you will also "sorrow my misfortune and anger but not fight" to me... But, so what?Make your own decisions instead of making "politically correct" decisions based on the voice of the masses.You know, the crowd watching includes me at this moment. We may be full of justice and goodwill, but we cannot replace the person involved and pay for his future days.

There is no cost for a group of people to encourage a person to live out his self; but a person may need to pay a painful price to live out his self in a cruel life.Therefore, never make the so-called correct decision in the encouragement and instigation of others.The right decision is the decision that allows your pain to fade away and allows you to regain the courage and confidence to live.

Bai Xue, in all fairness, your husband is not a scumbag, but the husband of my beautiful friend is quite a scumbag.However, this marriage, whether you leave or not, is not ashamed.I especially admire Faye Wong, Ma Yili, and Tong Liya. I admire them for being able to maintain an elegant and dignified posture during the "carnival" and have made or are making their own decisions.This decision is not to be a role model, but to protect one's own life.Because, in the end, the world is not a war between men and women, but a war between you and fear.

May we all overcome our fear.

It's good to love seriously, it's not so important whether it's straight or curved
The same goes for love, I want enough love, deep love, but no drama.I love you, and you happen to love me, so let's love.I love you, if you don't love me, then... forget it.I don't beg, chase, cry, or make trouble, not only because I'm a little proud, but also because I'm afraid of messy.

Letter from Zixin

Hello Miss Luyu!I am a big fan of yours!Recently something happened that bothered me very much.I am a girl, talking about a boyfriend, and the relationship is very stable.But once I went to a bar to play, and met a girl, the kind of girl who was fair and cool.I was attracted to her at first sight and wanted to be friends with her.

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