Chance encounter

Chapter 6 Take the first step, life may suddenly become clear (2)
Sister Luyu, I am very confused. I know that there are differences in intelligence between people. I understand that everyone has their own career direction. I like my career. My dream is to become a great interface designer.But now, I'm not sure if I'm suitable. If I stick to it, if I can't achieve the growth that others get in one year, will I be wasting my time?To what extent can you declare your dreams to be shattered?
Sister Lu Yu, have you ever had self-doubt and loss of value in your career?What makes you confirm that you should give up or bite your teeth again?

Fatty's reply

In the past two days, I want to buy my hands, because I met a very reliable personal shopper (personal shopper) in Paris, not a purchasing agent, but more advanced than a purchasing agent.She can get any good-looking clothes and hard-to-find brands in stock, and she also has big-name discounts that only VVVVIP has.

It is difficult for me to buy clothes, but every time she can miraculously grab the one and only small size for me.So since I met her and added her WeChat, before going to bed and after waking up early, I just like placing an order to buy fruit on Daily Fresh, and I bought and bought it easily.It's so scary because it's so convenient.

Half a month ago, my aunt who had worked in my family for several years returned to her hometown due to physical reasons. I panicked for several days, more depressed than a broken relationship.Luckily, the new girl wasn't bad either, and my life finally got back on track.

Regarding these two examples, the most politically correct and positive interpretation should be, 360 lines, every line of work will be the number one, and ordinary work is also meaningful. As long as you do a good job, others cannot do without you, and you are irreplaceable.

But I just thought of a common saying: I saw thieves eat meat, but I didn't see thieves beaten.The words are not rude.For the Parisian girl, every buyer including me, she has to deal with, whether she likes it or not, she can't be too capricious.As for my aunt, no matter how important she is to me, my world will not collapse without her, and no one will die if I lose my love, so will I die if I lose an aunt?I will definitely be able to find an aunt who is better than her, at least as good as her, so there is no love for no reason in this world, there is no pie that does not require money, and there is no one who cannot be replaced.

I searched the Internet and found out what Mumu was talking about about UI, but I still didn’t understand it. It probably sounds like a high-end job, but it’s actually a tough job.I think it's only natural for everyone to endure hardship and be wronged in the initial stage. Don't tell me why others can be the second generation rich and become famous at a young age.Fairness is relative, and it has nothing to do with others.And dreams, like love, are what everyone yearns for but not everyone can have.Only a few people need love and dreams in this life, and most people slowly compromise with themselves and life.Being able to live peacefully and even happily without love or dreams is actually not sad, and even a little enviable.

Mumu asked me if I would be confused and self-doubt.I'm constantly confused and increasingly self-doubting, I don't think TV is indispensable to people, I can disappear at any time and no one will care.The reason why I have always been there, as if I have been persisting, is not because others cannot do without me, but because I don't know how to give up, I haven't given up, I won't.For me, giving up was more painful than holding on.

Just like when I love someone, even if he doesn’t love me, I will still love him silently for a long time. Of course, this is of no use at all, it is even self-harm, and I absolutely deserve it.But I will continue to love, because not loving is more painful than loving without hope.Not loving means forgetting, means you have to delete a large part of your life, I am reluctant.I know I'm screwed, so just ignore me.

Work, career, and dreams are the same for me. If I give up, I will always feel unwilling, so I just keep carrying it.Of course, my luck is not bad, and my aptitude is not bad.

I would like to tell Mumu that the vast majority of people do not know what their dreams are, we are just not reconciled.

A girlfriend of mine is debating whether or not to have kids.I told her, if you really want a child, you will know it yourself. If you are still hesitating whether to want it, then you don’t want it, you shouldn’t.

The same is true about dreams and perseverance, you will know it yourself.If you ask me if I want to give up, it means that I am still unwilling and can bear it, so I might as well persevere.

Looking at my circle of friends, I turned to a paragraph written on August 2014, 8:
The time is roughly like this: TV since 1993, 21 years.Phoenix started in 1996, 18 years. "A Date with Luyu" started in 2001, 13 years.Energy company started in 2004, ten years.Who said Gemini is fickle?The super long battery life is true, anyway, persistence is meaningful!Love, career, if you don’t believe me, stick to (hao) (zhe).

Now I have to add three years to these figures, I am so awesome. Pardon my French (forgive the swear words).

Life is your own, don't be spoiled by bad people
Even a pessimist like me would believe in a rebound after bottoming out, and whether it will come to an end. I believe that fate is inevitable, but luck can turn around.There is nothing wrong with one step, don't play bad cards, I get angry when I hear this, who has not struggled to survive one mistake after another in his life.

letter from flickering heart

Hello fat.Last Wednesday, I heard you say "There is nothing shameful in compromising with life", and I was hit in the heart - just like you, I am still dying.

I chose to give birth to the child. Those unbearable days, one person was pregnant and the other had a child, and I fled to the big city alone for two full years.Got through it, but now is seriously ill.Unmarried mothers cannot be accepted by rural parents, and they have no one to help take care of their children when they go back to work.I want to live, and the child wants to live, so helpless, the child followed her father, fortunately, they love the child very much.

This year I also came to a big city to work, and tried to date a man who was divorced.I usually look at pictures of my children and buy things for them. I don’t want to hide everything about my past, so I tell my new boyfriend everything, but I’m desperate, as long as he’s in a bad mood, he’ll ridicule me about my past.I was separated from him this month, and my heart was very tired!

In the past few days, I have struggled countless times in my heart. Whether I want to return to my children and continue to be an unmarried mother, renting a house with a meager salary to raise the children, and continue to falsely say "I'm married" to the outside world, or not to disturb the children at all. Let her follow her father without knowing the existence of my mother?I traded my life for the child!Unable to let go, my heart is worried about that little life every minute and every second.

They don't let me see the children now, and attack me verbally.In order to have a child, I have lost my reputation and have nothing. Should I let go of the child, let go of the past, continue blind dates, hide everything in the past and start a new relationship and a new life?Regarding marriage, I believe that I can be happy without getting married, but I can’t escape the public opinion, I can’t hide from the years, and I promised my parents that I will definitely get married.After all, I am a layman, and the tradition in my bones makes me worry about gains and losses.I thought I was strong, but when faced with the reality, I felt confused and scared.

How to choose?Where do we go from here?Do I deserve everything today?

Fatty's reply

Barbara Walters switched from NBC to ABC in 1976 and got an unprecedented million-dollar annual salary contract, but that was the worst year of her life.Many people couldn't accept the sudden appearance of a woman in a men's club, and all kinds of doubts and criticisms almost overwhelmed her.

One day she received a telegram with a sentence written on it: Don't let the bastards get you down (don't let those bastards get you down).Signed John Wayne (John Wayne).

In the past two days, I have been thinking about this sentence.Last week in Shanghai to participate in the Miss Universe China Finals, Wang Sicong and I sat together as judges.The game is a dinner party style, and the food is served while the game is played.Xiao Wang finished his appetizer, looked at my untouched plate, and asked me, "I'm starving to death, don't you want to eat?"

I said I was full because I couldn't relax, I couldn't eat, and there were so many people staring at me on this occasion.He said I'm fine, you look at yours, I eat mine.

I especially envy John Wayne, especially Xiao Wang.It's a pity that most of us are looking forward and backward, because we have too much fear-fear, fear.

Shuo Xin, you have a lot of problems: making a living in a big city, giving birth to a child alone, trying to find a reliable partner, and trying to make yourself live with confidence.First of all, I can't help correcting a statement. The term "single mother" is more objective. Pregnant before marriage reveals hostility and discrimination.If I don't want to get married or can't find someone to marry, can I not have children?

But we will not talk about this today.Shuo Xin, you need to face your fears. You are afraid that you will not be able to survive in the big city, you are afraid of losing your child, you are afraid of the future, and you are afraid of being judged by people around you.

First of all, we don't know what will happen in the future. There is no solution to this matter, so there is no use worrying about it. Let's talk about it after surviving.No matter in a foreign land or in one’s hometown, it is natural to work to earn money to support one’s self. This truth goes without saying.

Regarding children's issues, I feel that I have no right to speak, but I heard that what children need most is security and routine, that is, a sense of security and a regular life.If you can't give him these for the time being, you can only let the child's father raise him.It's brutal, but I can't see a better way.

Children are innocent.It is bad enough not to have a warm and complete native family, at least it is your responsibility to give him a stable life.Of all your problems, there is only one you can overcome, and that is the pressure others put on you.I don't quite understand the sophistication of people in small cities with simple folk customs, but I do understand one thing, if you can't break free, won't it be over if you don't go back?As for the evil, stuffed people, I can only encourage you: Don't let the bastards get you down.

I watched a Qiong Yao drama many years ago, but I forgot which one. There was a line in it that made my heart skip a beat.The heroine's mother said to the heroine: Girl, you can't make mistakes in this life, every step is wrong.The media often ridicules someone for ruining a good hand, which is what it means.However, even a pessimistic person like me would believe in a bottoming out and a rebound from the extreme, and believe that fate is inevitable, but luck can turn around.There is nothing wrong with one step, don't play bad cards, I get angry when I hear this, who has not struggled to survive one mistake after another in his life.

(End of this chapter)