Chance encounter

Chapter 9 A new life is to face our problems (2)
Let me tell you, every girl, every woman, including you and me, we have all fantasized about such plots and pictures, that is, we get a disease, get very sick, and then think about the happiness of the one we love, for the sake of fulfillment. Others, we leave bravely and live alone.

In fact, all of this is a kind of bitter plan of last resort, for what?It's just the fantasy that the other party will come back to us crying and shouting, and they will be devoted to us from then on.

It's a pity that this kind of thing really doesn't happen in life, because if you really love him, he won't leave, and if he leaves, he probably won't come back.

It can be seen that you really love him, but he really doesn't love you that much, do you hear clearly?It's not that I don't love it, it's that I don't love it that much.But the problem is, in my opinion, not that much love is really the same as not loving!
You read your stories in words, do you think there are many words that are very dazzling, what about ex-boyfriend, you got ovarian cancer, and then you broke up under the pressure of your family, you split up, and he has a new girlfriend, You have to accept, wait...

In fact, you understand all the problems, you just don't want to face them.In fact, the problem is really not that complicated.He is your ex-boyfriend, but the problem is, you are already his ex-girlfriend, he broke up with his current girlfriend, and they haven't come back to you, doesn't that explain the problem?In fact, you know in your heart that you just need me to tell you these words.

Love is complicated, but is love that complicated?
I once said that love cannot be found if you ask for it.We can go to heaven and earth, but we really can't make someone who doesn't love us, or doesn't love us that much, fall in love with us as deeply as we love them.This sounds convoluted, so think about it carefully.

Of course, you owe yourself a madness.It can be seen that you are a very reasonable, reasonable, powerful and restrained girl.Such a girl is actually at a disadvantage in front of love.

You got a serious illness, although you didn't explain what's going on now, but just hearing your name, I feel that I love you very much!Suffering from such a serious illness is definitely a life-and-death test. People who have experienced life and death, what are they afraid of?

Since you love him and can't let him go, then you just cry and beg once, even if you make trouble once, so what?Try to fight for your love.If you can win it back, you will be together for one or two years, and let love go through its process naturally, which is also an experience.Otherwise, in your heart, you will always be unwilling, always suffering, and always unable to let go, and there is no way to move forward in your life.

If he still hasn't come back to you after begging, crying, or even making a fuss, that's even more of a problem.All the pain, you have to bear it yourself, maybe that kind of pain is more unbearable than your illness, but I can't help you with all this.

Still the same sentence, you understand your problem, but you dare not face it.However, the first step in a new life is to face our problems directly!

Even if you want to break up tomorrow, don't give up today
Even if the world is doomsday tomorrow, you still have to live your life today; even if you want to break up tomorrow, don't give up today.

noisy letter

I have a boyfriend who has been with me for six years. I have been in college for four years and graduated for two years. We have gone through the most youthful and beautiful youth together.

I thought it would be a matter of course to talk about marriage along the way, but he has always refused to face the topic of marriage.The reason he gave was that the conditions were immature, in other words, I didn't even have a normal job.

We live in Beijing now. He is from Beijing and I am from a foreign country. Both of us are in poor conditions and cannot provide us with any material support, but we must settle down in Beijing, so the pressure will be great. .

His job is not bad, and his salary is about [-] per month, but I have not been able to work very well in the two years since I graduated. This year, I simply resigned and prepared for the postgraduate entrance examination at home, but unfortunately, I failed to pass the entrance examination.

He was putting pressure on me before the exam, telling me how he would laugh at me if I didn't pass the exam, and so on.

I'm very depressed now, I don't have a job, I'm not too young, and I can't pass the graduate school exam. He will definitely not consider being with me. Should I take the initiative to let go?

Lu Xiaopang's reply
Hello Nao Nao, if someone in my life wants to break up with me, I will be silent, accept it, and leave.I'm not very good at begging, because I believe this is the other party's decision, so it's useless if you beg.

If someone wants to leave at work, I will probably be silent, accept, bless, and not specifically stay, because I also believe that this is the decision of the other party, and my efforts to stay will only increase the guilt and embarrassment of the other party, so why bother!

I know it may make people think that I am very cold, whatever other people think, I am sad, I am suffering, I know it.

The reason I don't ask for it is that there are some bottom lines that cannot be touched, and there is really no turning back if you touch them; some words can never be said, once said, it is Game Over!

Just like the word "break up".

Breaking up can only be a decision, not a means.Nao Nao, are you sure you are asking me if I want to break up, or if I want to use breaking up as an excuse to force him to marry you?I always feel like the latter.

If it's the latter, I really suggest you give up on it.The term forced marriage is particularly unpleasant, and this matter is even more unreliable.Marriage is not easy. If getting married requires a battle of wits and courage and persecution, are you sure you want to get married?
If it's the former, we can talk about it.I am against any form of revolution.I am in favor of letting things grow or die naturally, and so should emotions.If a relationship hasn't reached the end of its life, why do you want to destroy it early?
You and your boyfriend have been together for six years, but the real life is only two years, because no matter how long the days on campus are, there is no way to compare with the real time, so it cannot be counted.

In fact, at the stage of realization, I am really not optimistic about your future.A good relationship requires two people to grow together and trust each other, but you have just entered the society, and you already have the obvious feeling of drifting away.The most terrible thing is that your sense of insecurity is really fatal.

I read your letter carefully, but I didn't find anything too heinous about your boyfriend.Two freshmen in society, one has a job and the other is unemployed. It is normal not to get married at this time, and it is sick to get married at this time!
If I were you, I would try my best to put away my glassy heart.I really don't understand what kind of postgraduate entrance examination, haven't you read enough books?You should hurry to find a job and support yourself.People at work are truly beautiful, must work!It is very important that even a trivial job will allow you to have a life of your own.

Only when you live your life well can you change your boyfriend from a frog to a prince.However, what if you work and you are still not good?This is really impossible.Love, marriage, no one can guarantee you.

But at least one thing, if you work hard, you may not have good results; if you don't work hard, you will definitely not have good results.

Having said all that, it might seem like the future is bleak for you and your boyfriend, but the point I'm trying to make is that if the ending is already decided, let it happen naturally.Even if the world is doomsday tomorrow, you still have to live your life today; even if you want to break up tomorrow, don't give up today.

I don’t know if you understand what I said. May all lovers in the world get married in the end. This sentence sounds very correct, but what I want to say is that if one day we become resentful couples, we should break up tomorrow. But today, we All we have to do is wait for tomorrow to come.

When will you tell him about your life?

If you like him, keep calm, if you don't like him, then don't ask, how much money, how much salary, it's meaningless, it has nothing to do with you.

Letter from Timo

My name is Timo, female, unmarried, 27 years old, my income is kept secret, my savings are kept secret, how many relationships I have had, whether I want to get married or not...why keep so many secrets?
In fact, these things are not worth keeping secret, but the state of my boyfriend and I is like this now.

We have been dating for almost a year. The two of us are busy with work, we seldom see each other, and we have never lived together, but we are very comfortable and happy together, but we have never explained our lives to each other!

I think that if two people want to continue to develop long-term and fruitfully, and to better plan for the future, there are still many things that need to be understood by each other.

The problem is, I always find it a bit embarrassing to ask someone how much they earn and how much they have saved, especially when I think his financial conditions are superior to mine.

Sister Lu Yu, when is it more appropriate to explain your life to each other?How to speak to avoid embarrassment?

Lu Xiaopang's reply
I want to say something off topic today.The Spring Festival holiday is over, but I am a person who enters and exits very slowly, so I haven't recovered from the feeling of the Spring Festival.

Generally speaking, I am particularly resistant to the holidays, especially the Spring Festival, because it breaks the rhythm of work and life that I have worked so hard to build this year, and then when I have to slow down the rhythm, I can enjoy some festival fun later. Time, alas, the Spring Festival is over!

I am still in a place far away from Beijing, and I would like to share with you two interesting things that I encountered in the past two days.

Yesterday, I was in a small town in the United States, and I was going to take a small civil airliner from a very small airport in this small town to another big city.I had some time before boarding the plane, so a friend of mine drove me to a famous commercial street in the town, where there are several great galleries.

When I was shopping, my friend said: "Go ahead, I'll park the car." Then my mobile phone and bag were in the car, so I went shopping alone.For a moment, I suddenly thought, what if the two of us get separated?But I didn't take it seriously, and I still walked forward. After wandering around, my friend and I got separated.I don't have a mobile phone, I don't have any money, I don't have my passport, and the point is, I can't remember anyone's phone number!I was not too anxious, so I walked and walked against the sun.At that time, I thought the plane missed it, so what should I do if I don’t have any money?I thought it would be a big deal, this small town could always wait for one or two Chinese people, so I put down my face and asked them to borrow money, and promised to return it to them when I returned to Beijing.Then I walked and walked, I was really tired, I almost collapsed from the sun, and I was very thirsty.Suddenly I saw my friend looking for me in the car. I was not in a hurry at all, and I was very happy to get in the car. We went straight to the airport.

When I arrived at the airport, I went to check in. A very tall and fat staff member said to me: "I'm sorry, there is no place for you." I said, "Ah? I'm taking a plane and not a long-distance bus. How could there be no place for you?" ?” He said: “Because this flight is very tight, usually we will sell more tickets. There are too many people coming today, you need to wait until everyone boards the plane, and I will tell you if there is a seat. If today If it’s full, you’ll have to fly to another city for a connecting flight, which will take an extra five hours.”

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